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When my wife became pregnant I started to think about how reproduction, among all other biological functions, is unique. Your heart continually beats, your lungs continually take in air, your stomach regularly asks for and receives food. You get tired at the same time every day, and sleep for eight hours every day. Every aspect of your biology up to the moment you become pregnant has been with you your entire life, until suddenly your body somehow knows how to do this thing it's never done before. This unfamiliarity of reproduction causes some people to see it as something other than a fundamental part of your biology. That's why I find the question 'why have kids' rather odd. The question, as I'm sure has already been stated in this thread, should be 'why not have kids'? What are you going to do with the decades upon decades of your life that you've been given? You might find it hard to believe when you're 20, but drinking, loving, and traveling do start to get boring. That's simplistic, but what I'm trying to say is there's a tendency for younger people to assume the things that make them happy now will always make them happy, that they can choose that for the rest of their lives without going insane, and that any deviation from that is failure. It's not. Getting older, settling down, and no longer having to feel constantly like you've got something to prove is actually pretty awesome. Having kids is awesome. When they get to 2 or 3, when their personalities and memories start to develop, you'll find yourself feeling like you're in the bossom of a family again, like when you were a child, wrapped up in this bubble of love, comfort, and security. Except this family is your own creation. It's fascinating watching what traits they develop, and knowing which ones are nature, and which ones a nurture. I never taught my daughter to dance or sing. She just did it. I remember going to a gig shortly after she'd started dancing to music, and realising that dancing is in fact something in our nature, behind the social convention or the art form. It was the first time she inspired me, and she was 2 years old. Vvvvv, Lol, I'm sure all parents suddenly wish they never had kids when they hit puberty and get a bit lippy. EvilGenius fucked around with this message at 22:53 on Jun 23, 2015 |
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OwlFancier posted:However in the case of a child, what you want should not signify. Jesus Christ, see my previous post. To want a child is a fundamental biological function, and no different from the desire to preserve your own life. Either way, you are preserving human life, and to argue that's a negative is to argue that life has no meaning or value.
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# ¿ Jun 23, 2015 23:27 |
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McDowell posted:It doesn't. Life on planet earth is plentiful and cheap - there is nothing special about pissing, making GBS threads, or having progeny - every animal does it. Then kill yourself. I am of course being facetious to try and make a point. Why do you continue to preserve your life if it has no value? Deep down, very few people actually believe that. EvilGenius fucked around with this message at 23:55 on Jun 23, 2015 |
# ¿ Jun 23, 2015 23:47 |
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Solkanar512 posted:Back this statement with something more useful than just your gut. Do you really need me to back up that reproduction is a part of life? Or the reason I think people reject it? The former doesn't need backing later. The latter is my opinion. I suppose what I'm driving at is that I find the fors and the againsts argued this thread pretty absurd, given that every animal on the planet reproduces. Chimps don't sit there and wonder if their children will look after them when they grow old, or if they will bring money into the family. Dogs don't decide they'd rather live their own life and not get tied down. A human doesn't owe you an explanation as to why they had kids any more than a koala bear does. It's just what we do.
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# ¿ Jun 24, 2015 07:21 |
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OwlFancier posted:Well, it doesn't? Other than what you assign to it anyway. Making more humans isn't inherently, objectively Good. I don't believe anyone is under an ethical obligation to reproduce, but only in that ethics are a social construct, as opposed to a part of nature. This is why in western civilisation, there are no laws on how many children you're allowed to have. Being violent is a part of our nature that we suppress, because it's detrimental to society, whereas children are the reason society exists in the first place. It's contradictory to say that children are a detriment to society. You could argue that they are detriment to the environment, but what is that environment for if there are no people in it?
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# ¿ Jun 24, 2015 08:59 |
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Solkanar512 posted:First off, I never asked you or anyone else to explain having children, so this perceived slight on your behalf is completely unjustified. Why do you see folks like me as such a threat? I don't, I just object to the idea that having children requires justification, which is what this thread is about. Solkanar512 posted:What I object to is your insistence without any evidence what so ever that people who don't want kids are somehow ignorant of their own basic biology, and if they were more comfortable they would be popping out kids left and right. No, what i was saying was that the default position is the urge to reproduce. After a process of intelligent, human thought this position can change. Solkanar512 posted:First off, that's batshit crazy. We aren't simple animals driven only by our most basic needs without that ability to plan for the long term. We are exactly that. We do some odd things that no other animal does, but I believe these can all be reduced to fulfilment of basic animal needs. This is why couples without kids get pets - something that is uniquely human, yet fulfils an animal desire. Solkanar512 posted:It's nothing more than a romanticized version of the naturalistic fallacy. We've had various forms of birth control for thousands of years yet you completely ignore that as well. Do I need to sit here and list everything else human do that animals do not? As I was thinking on this subject today, it did occur to me that the desire to reproduce would not necessarily become a naturally selected trait, if the desire to have sex and the desire to protect any offspring is great enough. With that in mind, desire to have children may well be an entirely social construct. Solkanar512 posted:Furthermore, your naturalistic argument has some incredibly insulting and sexist implications. People choose to have or not have children based on their current lives and their access to appropriate medical care. Those who chose not to have children (right now/later/ever) are not denying some intrinsic or "natural" part of themselves, and they aren't defective or less of a human being for doing so. Not to mention your naturalistic argument harkens back to that old saw about "a woman's highest calling is to be a mother". I implied no such thing. Reproduction is the pinnacle of biological achievement (for either sex), in the sense that you are a biological machine designed to preserve your own genes. This is entirely separate from human achievement, which encompasses everything else that we do. EvilGenius fucked around with this message at 19:36 on Jun 24, 2015 |
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OwlFancier posted:Of course it requires justification, you're creating a new human life, there is very little in the world that requires more justification than that except possibly for ending a human life. Again, why should a fundamental part of life require justification? Apply your logic to other people and perhaps you'll see what I mean - how would you feel about enforcing your moral and environmental considerations on others, as China does with it's one child policy. Ask yourself why you'd be uncomfortable with that. EvilGenius fucked around with this message at 20:29 on Jun 24, 2015 |
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Solkanar512 posted:When you say that reproduction is the "pinnacle of biological achievement" (lets set aside for a moment that all life does this, and how arbitrary your measurement is*), you are implicitly harkening back to that dangerous standard that "the highest calling of a woman is to be a mother" and "a woman isn't complete until she has children". Your appeal to naturalism implies that there is something biologically wrong with a woman who does not wish to become a mother or otherwise care for children. After all, it's her highest calling, her duty, the reason she was placed on this earth, so why else would she pass on that? What's wrong with her? Stop putting words in my mouth. Reproduction is part of the definition of life. There were two things that needed to happen for life to exist - the spontaneous emergence of life, and its ability to reproduce. Let me rephrase my original point without using a loaded words - the body of every living thing is designed to facilitate the survival of your genes through self-perpetuation and reproduction. Humans are unique in that they can chose not to do either. They can chose to do anything that's counter to what their biological function has evolved to do (the 'human' choices). I attach no positive or negative connotations to that choice. 'Achievement' was a piss-poor choice of words and I'm sorry for that. I do realise what you're saying - that biological reductionism can be used to argue a lot of bull poo poo around a 'woman's true calling', but that's not what I'm doing. EvilGenius fucked around with this message at 07:35 on Jun 25, 2015 |
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OwlFancier posted:I feel absolutely no discomfort with the idea of forcing people to comprehend the implications of their decision to have or not have children. I would be much, much happier in fact if everyone in the world were to do that, rather than having children "because I want them" or "because it's part of life". I would argue, given that civilisation requires reproduction to exist, that having to make any consideration regarding having children beyond 'I want children' is indicative of faults with that society. I'm not denying that those considerations exist. What's the end goal of your position? No one has kids, the human race disappears, and we leave it nature? Fair enough. But surely the best position would be to allow people to have kids' freely, without fear of them wrecking the environment, or suffering horrifically. We are capable of achieving that, and have made huge progress when you consider the suffering that our species has been through. EvilGenius fucked around with this message at 07:24 on Jun 25, 2015 |
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OwlFancier posted:What you want is absolutely, completely, and utterly irrelevant. That a child born into western civilisation inflicts suffering by consuming resources is the fault of the founders of that civilisation and those in charge of keeping it that way. It's not the fault of people that decide to have children, and it's not fair that they should even have to consider that when they decided to fulfil the most basic biological function. Again, by your own logic YOU are causing the same suffering, have the choice to end your own life, yet you don't. People who decide to have children don't need to justify their decision, any more than your decision to keep yourself alive. It is of course entirely possible that a child will develop a condition that would cause it to suffer. But that is less likely now than it has ever been in history. Are you proposing we wait until we cure all disease, and bring about world peace before we can ethically reproduce?
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# ¿ Jun 25, 2015 11:24 |
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OwlFancier posted:Oh well as long as you can blame it on dead people that of course absolves you of all responsibility. You can choose not to perpetuate that problem, but it's not your fault, so you don't have to, because it might get in the way of your desire to have a kid. I'm not evoking divinity. I actually couldn't give a poo poo if someone decides to have a child or not. But not having one because society will suffer is a contradiction, because society is made up of humans who reproduce. Indulge me in a thought experiment - there are 6 billion humans in the world, and they are all incapable of reproduction, but live forever. After 70 years, you are allowed to leave Earth, or stay. What's the moral choice? Stay and try to fix what's wrong with it, or leave and stop consuming resources? Either choice will prevent suffering, however the latter at best reduces resource that could potentially fix problems, at worst leaves no one left on Earth.
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# ¿ Jun 25, 2015 18:34 |
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Feather posted:Did she also talk about the involuntary urination and defecation during the final pushes of labor and the litre of amniotic fluid and the chunky, bloody placenta that women give birth to after baby comes out? Cuz those were interesting things to witness. Don't forget not making GBS threads for two weeks after giving birth.
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# ¿ Jun 25, 2015 22:58 |
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Cicero posted:I'm not saying every place has to be occupied by kids at all times, I just think an entire society that is childfree is pretty depressing. It's called central London. Lived there for a year and saw no children and no dogs. Pretty good when you're 26.
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# ¿ Jun 26, 2015 09:42 |
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I agree, this is a semantic argument. Usually when people talk about 'goals' and 'design' in the context of evolution, it's for no other reason than it's easier than saying something like - The current biological function of an organism that emerged through the product of mutations that survived through generations. It's just as an easier way of saying 'what a species can currently do', although I will admit that it leads to all sorts of misconceptions.
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# ¿ Jun 30, 2015 09:27 |
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You don't eat your own poo poo because no innate urge to eat poo poo has been selected for. What I meant in that last sentence was 'things a species can do as a direct result of natural selection'.
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# ¿ Jun 30, 2015 09:59 |
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Solkanar512 posted:Sure, maybe if you've never taken a biology class. Evolution doesn't design anything, and dismissing this as a nothing more than meaningless semantics is really loving stupid. It's stupid of you're incapable of separating literal terms and analogy.
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# ¿ Jun 30, 2015 18:25 |
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OwlFancier posted:You've posted an awful lot of nothing about how humans can reproduce if you aren't trying to suggest that we have some sort of obligation to do so because it's natural or whatever. I never said or implied anything of the sort. The only point I've been trying to make is that having children shouldn't require justification. Justify not having kids, by all means, which is what you've already done. But don't ask me or anyone to justify why they had a child. It's none of anyone's business, and is a basic natural right. EvilGenius fucked around with this message at 19:03 on Jun 30, 2015 |
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OwlFancier posted:"I'm not saying you have to, but it's natural and the pinnace of biological achievement and you wouldn't want to argue that life isn't inherently meaningful would you?" First of all, I was trying to highlight that your position seemed to be that life was meaningless. I never stated that I thought life had any meaning, and certainly not that that meaning was reproduction. Aside from that, if you think any of your highlighted quotes are arguing that reproduction is the meaning of life, you've not understood what I'm arguing. I stand by everything I said, and attach no value or meaning to reproduction. In fact that's the exact opposite of what I'm saying, hence reproduction requires no justification. Only when you apply meaning, positive or negative, does justification come in. I'm saying that it's nothing but simple biology. McAlister posted:No it did not. Design implies intent. Actually, I hear you on this now, although I think the prevalence of the term is more out of slopiness, and lack of thought as to what it implies - that the design is complete, and that a woman's suffering should be accepted as part of that. I'll definitely avoid it in the future. EvilGenius fucked around with this message at 19:55 on Jun 30, 2015 |
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OwlFancier posted:You are appealing to nature to justify reproduction, you are arguing that reproduction needs no justification because it comes pre-justified by nature. Which is completely inconsistent with many other things that humans may do without being specifically taught, or 'naturally' for want of a better word. No, nature doesn't come pre-justified. Does a tree justify itself when it drops its acorns? No, it just does. All our ancestors were the same, except at some point we became intelligent enough to treat it as a choice. Are you saying that we are obligated to justify our reproduction simply because we're capable? I'm not saying that's the wrong position to take, I'm just curious. You still haven't provided an example of what a justification for having a child is, only several justifications for not having one. Are we in fact kind of arguing the same thing - that there is no legitimate reasoning behind having children, and that moral and practical barriers are all that's there to stop people having them? The only difference in our positions being your belief that everyone is obligated to consider the negative consequences. Or do you have any examples of justification for having a child?
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