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Porn jealousy strikes again, A TALE AS OLD AS TIME.
I [22F] saw my boyfriend [25M] watching porn - now things are awkward and I'm heartbroken. What do?
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This is a tale as old as time on this subreddit, but I searched and I feel like no one has been in my exact situation, and I feel like I'm really in a pickle, so I thought I would make a throwaway account and ask.
Alright. I've been dating this guy for the past 11 months and started regularly living in his apartment around 3 months ago (he gave me a key and formally asked me to move in). I still have an apartment of my own that the lease hasn't run out on yet that is slightly closer to my university so sometimes I'll just crash at my place instead of making the trek to his place.
With that said.... two nights ago after working way longer than I thought, I get back to his place around 11, open the door and right on his large screen monitor is pornhub and a paused video. I just stood there in shock in the doorway.... he was in the kitchen and I guess didn't know he left the screen up so I yelled "UHH [boyfriend name]!" His only response was closing the window quickly and saying "oh this is awkward." I was immediately hurt ... though we never talked about it, I thought that our sex life was pretty freaking great, we do it at least every other day...
But that's even besides the point. I've never had to think about it before because I have never had this issue with previous boyfriends and I wouldn't care if I didn't know about it, but now that I do its tearing me apart. I haven't been able to sleep at all these past few days. Just thinking about him looking at porn makes my heart sink and my stomach churn. However, I've been trying to keep up an act that I don't care about it so it doesn't make him feel bad. In other words, I don't want to talk about it with him because I don't want to make him feel bad for doing something that every male has done.
So, in conclusion, the dilemma is that I know he is watching porn (and he knows that I know he watches porn), I am uncomfortable with it, but I don't want to bring it up to him because I don't want to be a controlling bitch girlfriend that makes him feel bad. How do I get over this or bring this up to him gently?
tl;dr: I saw porn on BF computer, now we're both awkward and I'm uncomfortable/depressed; how do I talk to him about it?
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I don't see a problem with poly relationships if they are all happy & involved in one relationship
Where it's comical is when you have these monogamous people who embrace an "open relationship" where both parties are free to make individual pursuits without the other involved which seems like a recipe for relationship disaster
36/m married suspect wife 36/f - open marriage advice
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Wife and i have been married for over 10 years with 2 children under 10. We recently opened our marriage to spice things up .
It had been going well and our rules were 1)be safe (protection) and 2) be honest about everything. I recently broke rule 2 and saw a person without telling her about it and thus broke her trust. She found out by looking at my phone and seeing texts back and forth with the person. She does not feel she can trust me and I am trying to rebuild that desperately. This occurred a week ago.
In the midst of this I accidentally uncovered a journal of hers that had names written in it. My name was at the top of the list and there were 45 additional names. I should point out that I was her first lover.
At the bottom of the list are 4 people that she has told me of from our open status. That leaves 40 people that i have no idea about. My question is 1)doesn't this appear to be a "conquest" list? and 2)where to go from here? I want things to work for the children, but i don't understand why she would intentionally hide this when we are both working to rebuild trust that I have broken. Maybe she prefers I am the martyr?
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Oct 13, 2016 01:23
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Back to funny stuff
My [27M] girlfriend [25F] has a habit of pulling pranks on me. Today I got fed up and ended the relationship, now she won't leave me alone, what can I do?
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My girlfriend hnd I have been dating for almost 1 year and have been friends for little over 2. She has a habit of pulling pranks but soemtimes these pranks of her can annoying (or dangerous) like pretending to give me a bj but straight away throws up food on my boxers, blow dryer filled with flour, putting icy hot on toilet seat early in the morning (not fun when on testicles), Vaseline in bath tub (I shower without my glasses so I can't see clearly and have lost my balance in the past).
The pranks get very annoying and she has the internet to resort for ideas. I have clearly told her that I don't appreciate these pranks, especially the ones that are hurtful. Well today, she decided it would be funny to block my car's exhaust. Only to find out that my car won't start and I may have lost my engine. I don't know whats wrong with the car and it won't start at all. My girlfriend things this is funny but I don't appreciate this.
So today I broke up with her right on the spot as she was laughing, then suddenly got tearful and apologetic. I clearly communicated with her that I don't want to put up with your pranks anymore, you won't listen and I told you to stop. This is not funny to me anymore so its best if I leave you.
I left our apartment and am now living with a friend until I find my own place. My girlfriend will not stop calling me and apologizing. She'e even got all our friends involved, mine and her parents (heck all our family members). She won't leave me alone even though I broke up with her and I don't want to continue, what do I do?
TL;DR: My girlfriend has a habit of pulling pranks on me. Today I got fed up and ended the relationship, now she won't leave me alone, what can I do?
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Oct 13, 2016 14:08
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Me [21 F] writing her future husband [?? M] till I find him
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I've been single now for 5 months out of a 4 year relationship. Sure, it still hurts some days, but i've found solace in being alone. I've began to write to my future husband. I'm going to put all these letters in a box and give it to him either the day of our wedding or the day before. I'm telling him about my days and how hopeful I am for the day that we will meet.
I hope one day to write all about my ex's and how they helped mold me into the person I am now. I mean, I'm not going to tell him all the details, but just the highlights. I have no idea who this man will be, but I'm hopeful he'll come along. I was wondering if anyone else is doing this. If so, what exactly do you write? I'm running out of things to say and don't want to seem like a total nut.
tl;dr: I'm writing to my future husband, and am running out of things to say. Anyone else doing this, and if so what do you say?
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Oct 13, 2016 16:20
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He's 19 and it's his first girlfriend, I can kind of understand the desperation.
People really need to start linking these again, oftentimes great gold can be found in the OP's comments.
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Oct 13, 2016 16:51
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I had forgotten about the moridin derail, such unpleasant shitposting memories
Let us refresh with the idiocy of youth
[18] is it bad to enter a relationship with someone you don't have romantic feelings for?
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hey! I'm 18 and a freshman in college. There is a guy [22m] that I think I might be kinda getting into a relationship with, he's really nice and we have a few interests in common and I like spending time with him and we are also into each other physically, but I don't know if I feel much different than I would with like, a good friend. I still think he's great, but is it a bad idea to enter a relationship without that kind of attraction? Im not really experienced when it comes to relationships, ive never been in an actual relationship (except for sexual ones)
tl;dr I think I might be getting into a relationship with a guy that I like, but don't know if I feel romantically attracted to
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Oct 13, 2016 19:41
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She says they aren't gay so, case closed.
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Oct 13, 2016 20:38
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I was just annoyed that he kept referring to her as "girlfriend/fiance" over and over, but yeah, dumb.
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Oct 13, 2016 22:28
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i want to slap the poo poo out of this wishy-washy gently caress
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Oct 14, 2016 10:32
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Visited a goon friend in the UK for 2 weeks, can confirm American accent is not a turn on.
Unless you got the southern thing going for you, but that's a fine line between "plantation gentleman" and "hick"
Me (20f) with (36m). He has a daughter around my age and it turns me off?
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Oct 14, 2016 16:17
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I dare you to try to read this start to finish
I [F24] with my bf[29M] for a year,how do I make it alright???
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I've lied to my bf a couple of times, and the one thing he hates is LIARS.. Anyway what happened is, in the beginning of our relationship.. I started talking to a guy who liked me but I did not like him at all. I just talked to him because he kept running after me for like a month. Later he insisted and gave me birthday presents that I threw away because I felt guilt and bad for even taking them, so I decided I'll pay him money as soon as I got a chance but he left that work place and I did too so I couldn't get a chance.
I told that guy that I'm not interested at all and it's leading on to somewhere I don't want it to EVER. He said it's not leading on when I like you even if you talk to me or not. I stopped talking to that guy. Only talked to him for a month or so.
I told my bf about him but didn't mention gifts or talking that much... let me just mention we never really met. Not even along with friends, alone NEVER! I never said to him that I liked him and I NEVER said anything inappropriate to him or he ever said any such thing to me ever. We'd just talk about work related stuff and his family issues etc.
Okay so 2,3 months later another guy from work texted me who just saw me once, he only came for some advertising poo poo idk... and got my number from a card. Okay so he texted but after some introduction I told him that I have someone so it's better he stop texting me. And he did. I told my bf about it.
After a month that guy texted again saying he'd like to hangout along with my friends as he doesn't have any. I said he can find plenty other people but I don't want to hangout or talk to him because it's cheating to me and my bf doesn't approve it so.. he should stop bothering me. This time I didn't tell my bf...
After 3 weeks that guy texted again and as I went out of chat my bf asked who am I texting. I tried to hide and lied but he found out.... and we had a fight over it. He was really upset about it and told me to tell him EVER that ever happens.
Now almost 6 months later, I got a chance to call that first guy and ask for his account number so I could send him money... no bad intentions only for my own peace of mind and to get rid of that guilt. BUT my bf found out. He asked me and I lied at first but then I had to tell him. Now he's really really upset and says I shouldn't have led him on back in that time.
He's not believing anything and not ready to accept anything, tho he's my FIRST TRUE LOVE... but idk he's having so many thoughts about so many things now since I lied to him. I really feel bad for hurting him. I have apologised and I'm ready to give up anything for him. What should I do? How do I make him understand? To me it wasn't cheating but to him it is... idk what to do!!
tl;dr lied to my bf a couple of times, he's really hurt want to make things right...
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Oct 14, 2016 20:00
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equal parts funny, sad, and pathetic. Happy saturday ya'll!
I'm a [29 M] who's wife of 7 years [26 F] just had an emotional afair and cyber experiences with a [23 M]
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I'm a ball of emotions right now. So I'm going to go back a bit to how it all started. It was October 31st 2008 and I had met this girl on World of Warcraft and we decided to date two weeks after talking to each other on that night atop a building in Tarren Mill in other words the ultimate nerdy start to what would become my longest relationship.
We got married, had a child, and we fought a lot but every time we did we walked away a little bit better. I wanted to paise having more kids but she wanted to help families and became a surrogate for two couples and then she almost died. I remember thinking to how cold I had been for the past few years while my wife laid there with a tube helping her breath and dreading the news I'd have to tell her when she woke up. From that day forward just over a year ago I began to work on myself to become a better husband. Our fights became less, our time together increased, and a few months ago I became much more affectionate to show her what she meant to me. It was a long process of fixing myself to also fix our marriage.
While going through all of this her parents became homeless and so we did the right thing and took them in. It added a lot of stress, she was already working full time and I was working part time while looking for a second job because between her step dad's smoking habit, her mothers medical expenses, and they're tendancy to not plan ahead we had to shoulder most of the costs of having two more adults live with us.
We had some spare money and to not go insane from stress we started playing World of Warcraft again. This was the biggest mistake in my life. I aded people to a guild we started and one of them eventually had ulterior motives. In August they began flirting secretely and around the time where we had one more explosive fight they had already been talking dirty to each other and he had been jacking off with her help. She says she never masturbated but that's for later. After the fight I realized that while I was working on me I hadn't given her the attention she needed. That moment I immediately did a 180, this time it was easier than changing myself because the affection was already there for her I was just bad at acting on it.
She continued talking to him, I still didn't know at this point what was going on,. We celebrated my birthday, we celebrated my son's, our sex life was improving day after day, we had date nights, our family was actually looking like a family and our marriage was functioning better than ever. I had finally found a second job we didn't have to stress money as much we could just focus on work, school, and us.
Then she left a screen up. At first it looked innocent so I thought it was playful flirting back and forth and I wanted to make sure it stopped. When I finally found out it hurt but I was sure we could work through it. There was no naked pictures from her that she sent just cleavage shots and they hadn't actually had sex so I figured I could rebuild it all up.
But everything felt tainted. When I came onto her was it because he got her going? When she got me a present for my birthday was it out of guilt? When we were setting up stuff for my sons birthday was she texting him? We're working throught things now sort of. Im stuck living with her mom who blames the entire thing on me (she's 60 with a heart problem so I just pray she goes sooner as horrible as that sounds) and a son caught in a middle who thinks mom and dad hates him because he wants to fix us which only kills me more.
I started writing this post and since then I asked for four things : 1) she needed to figure out why so I can fix that part and move on. 2) she needed to find a seed of trust we could rebuild on. 3) I had to have some control back in our relationship. 4) we can't adopt, I can't have the guilt of bringing another child into something they didn't ask for.
I know some of that is harder to accept I don't know if I'm asking too much. If she had never said 'I love you' to him maybe I wouldn't be so demanding but I don't know what to do or even who to talk to. I wish I had a support group or something because every person I talk to she cuts out of her life and if I want to make this work I can't have two loves, one where she cuts off anyone who knows what's happened and one where she is around friends and family like nothing happened.
I feel like there's more hidden from me and I'm terrified that it will come out when she's felt she's built up enough trust to tell me the rest.
TL;DR My wife had an emotional afair that turned into her helping a guy get off with cleavage shots and dirty messages and while I'm trying to fix things I feel like I'm alone and having to fight an uphill battle with noone beside me and would love any advice. Should I press for more information, or should I put it behind me and work on moving forward?
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Oct 15, 2016 12:29
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I (29M) am a bad husband to my wife (26F). Can I save my marriage?
Short answer: no, you are a piece of poo poo
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I want to preface this by claiming all blame that way I can be honest. If your reading this you already except that I'm a bad guy.
History: My wife and I have been together about 10 or so years. She was kind of a comfort from my former relationship that tore down due to a long distance move. I wasn't very good to her and never gave her a committed relationship initially. She was a virgin but I took that along with her joy for life. I never slept with anyone besides my girlfriend and my wife during this time period ~3-6months and it was only my girlfriend once before we broke up due to both of us in other relationships. Eventually I started dating my wife but didn't give her commitment for a couple months so I could weigh my options. I determined that she was by far the best one and proceeded to ask her to date me exclusively under the condition that she hadn't slept with anyone else. I went to boot camp about 4-5 months later.
We found out she was 8 months pregnant not long after I got back from boot and mos school. (~5 months) I bought a house young and she moved in with me so we could start a family. We had our 1st child and it was a nightmare, I worked night and she would wake me up at noon almost everyday, she was expected to be a full time student and to work for our future. The sleep deprivation caused massive fights, sex died for a while. I also found out that she had slept with someone while we weren't exclusive which wasn't a deal breaker but she lied about it for two years. I no longer had any freedom and was supporting a household on my income which wasn't much. I quit my job to go back to school after a couple years of this. We eventually both graduated and have been very successful in our careers.
Our fights continue to this day, always the same situations. She needs me to do more housework and be more family oriented and I need her to put out.
Recent: A few nights ago we had the same argument again, this time I did everything I could to take the kids so she could do homework. It was 11pm(up for work @5am) and I was getting frustrated because I wanted sex that she has promised for two days. She said I could go to bed and she would wake me with a BJ. She layer the kids down and fell asleep on my sons floor. I woke up around 1 am and called her cell. She came to bed and I held her and started kissing on her, rubbing her back and rear end. She started touching me and then fell asleep. I woke her and she did it three more times. I got frustrated and told her just take her pants off so I could get done and go to bed. She was offended and we argued the rest of the night. Once again talking divorce.
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1) I don't really trust her, I have never found anything concrete to not trust her and I have dug pretty deep. But they're have been tons of oddities that make me confused. Excess dirty underwear, contacts saved under periods. An aunt who I never speak too texting her about a secret message app that has never been installed. It may just be self consciousness or paranoia but odd. When I found out she lied about who she was with I felt betrayed deeply. Since we weren't together and I had a girlfriend I can't be upset that she explored but she lied for two years! I want to trust her but It's very difficult. Note also that my mother is a piece of poo poo and have always had trust issues with woman, first girlfriend of two years. Serial cheater. Abusive first step mom. Abusive second step mom. No luck with woman.
2) Sex. I need sex, I have a crazy sex drive. I crave it daily, she get upset when I masturbait or look at porn because " it makes her feel like she isn't good enough." She has put forth effort a few times to really blow my mind and give me something special. But it's very rare and often it takes a lot of patience on my part. If I get frustrated for any reason during the day it's pretty much off the table.
3)Lifestyle. I play too many games, it's my hobby and I do it too often. My wife will often pull cables out on me if she wants something done and I don't jump to it. I get extremely frustrated and lash out when she does this. She will also threaten me with police if she doesn't like what I'm doing. Like kick me out of the house not for hitting her or anything. Sometimes I throw things too so maybe it's justified, we have broken a lot between the two of us but it has died out quite a bit in the past few years. One example was that I wanted to have people over for New Years instead of going to her parents, bam police threat.
4)Anger. I get so angry that I'm being ignored and it caused a downward spiral. I have a tendency to self destruct. She also has developed anger issues, hers are probably as bad as mine but less drastic.
Conclusion: So, that's the gist of it. Any questions I will answer honestly. I want my marriage but I want a good relationship too. And I want my needs to be considered as important as hers. Her needs benefit the family, mine benefit me, and her I think. She does orgasm everytime we have sex. It a big deal for me so I try to pay her back, I would assume she enjoys it.
TLDR; Marriage is a mess, different views on everything and difficult to change. Not talking currently and considering divorce. I am very frustrated, and need some advice.
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Oct 16, 2016 14:54
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I am a terrible person who did a very lovely thing and now I feel bad, how do I stop feeling bad?
Me [30s F] with my husband [45 F] of 7 years, husband sacrificing my morals to get ahead
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Quick history: my husband and I have generally had a very good relationship. We are both very ambitious people, and until a few weeks ago, I thought I was the more workaholic one. We both work in high-intensity jobs, as a result we have very little time together. We don't mind, our careers are very important to both of us. We work in the same office but have slightly different jobs. He earns more money than me even though I work longer hours.
About a year ago, my husband heard that he and one of his friends are both being considered for the same position. This promotion would mean a lot to both of us and of course, I encouraged him to try and get it.
A few weeks ago I was able to engineer a situation where my husband essentially stabbed his friend in the back to get ahead. Luckily this worked, he got the promotion! However I can't stop thinking about the impact our actions had on his family (I'm friends with is wife) and their life. I'm wracked with guilt, I can't stop worrying that everyone knows what we did!
What's done is done, I'm not interested in having my husband demoted. However, I haven't been sleeping or doing my job properly. I can't look anyone in the eye at work, this is seriously hurting my career and my relationship with my husband. How can I alleviate this horrific guilt? It's the first time I've ever done anything like this.
TL;DR encouraged my husband to stab his friend in the back in order to get promotion, now wracked with guilt.
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The friend (who I'll call Duncan) had a fantastic relationship with the CEO of the company. The CEO had been grooming Duncan as his replacement for some time. The CEO also trusts my husband but not to the same extent as he trusted Duncan. I helped my husband record Duncan saying unpleasant things about the CEO, specifically making fun of a physical deformity. Then I made sure that the recording ended up on the CEO's desk.
Just a note, this particular office is not a nurturing place. People "tell tales" quite often to get ahead, but this doesn't usually have lasting effects.
I realise how awful this sounds, I feel completely terrible about this. I'm honestly disgusted at my own behaviour but also angry with my husband for not stopping me. He's usually the reasonable one who stops me when I go overboard with my ambition
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Oct 16, 2016 16:04
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That girl sounds insufferable. Opportunities to justifiably shatter delusional people's realities don't come around often. He should capitalize on this, it is clearly a gift from the heavens.
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Oct 16, 2016 18:33
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A guy [30's M] in my [30's F] office doesn't wear underwear.
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So this is a weird one. There's a guy in my office and we'll call him Greg because that's his name. If it wasn't for this one thing, nobody would have a single negative thing to say about him. He's the 100% typical office guy who doesn't ruffle feathers, does a decent enough job, has a "normal" sense of humor, is never rude or mean, blah blah blah. But it seems like he never wears underwear and most days you can pretty clearly see the outline of his dick in his pants. They're not see-through pants so it's not like it's actually on full display. The only time you can't see it is when he wears jeans one or two days a week. It's not like he's walking around with erections or anything, but with the kinds of pants he wears you can just see it there.
The thing is...some of the women in the office get kind of a kick out of it and don't want it to stop, but some of us are kind of weirded out by it. It's not like he walks around flapping his thing around advertising the fact that he's going commando or anything either, he just goes about his business. It's just so weird.
We're thinking about a way to maybe bring it up with him, and the general consensus always seems to be to do something like that anonymously, but is this even something that is worthy of addressing or do we just need to deal with it? All I can imagine is leaving him a note that says "Hey Greg, how about wearing underwear, okay?" And then him totally ignoring it...and then what do we do? Just drop it?
Is he actually even doing anything wrong? I can't imagine this is serious enough of a thing that it's a legal/harassment kind of thing, since he's never actually blatantly said or done anything to bring attention to his crotch, but it is distracting and bothersome to some people. I can't imagine going to HR about this either, and it certainly doesn't bother me enough to be the one to go to them. So how would you handle this?
TL;DR - Office Greg doesn't wear underwear and we can see his dick in his pants. We're torn in the office whether or not to address it, and we have no idea how to do it if we choose to go that route.
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Oct 20, 2016 14:35
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I point blank asked if he wore a condom, he said yes. The next day, he texted me saying he didn't pull out or use a condom and I should get plan B. I didn't get mad, just said ok thanks for telling me.
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Oct 20, 2016 15:48
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The sex was great!
He's never even made me cum.
Girl, you dumb.
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Oct 20, 2016 15:53
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Can you guess the ages?
How often should I( (35M) expect to hear from my gf ( 31F) of 1 year when she's on vacation?
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My girlfriend has been on one business trip and one vacation to visit a friend this month, both without me. I miss her and feel like I don't hear from her enough when she's gone. For the most part, I won't hear back from a text for hours, once it even took over 6 hours for her to get back to me. She's called a few times, but not regularly and I even had one instance where she didn't text good night (as we've done every day for the year or so since we've been seriously dating) until well after she knew I'd be asleep.
I feel, strongly, that I'm being insecure. Counterpoint, she's been gone for most of the month of October and I miss her and this is the only way I have to keep in touch. So, I need some reassurance from folks. How often do you hear from your girlfriend or boyfriend when they're away on a trip?
tl;dr: What's a normal level of communication when your SO is away?
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Me [25F] with my boyfriendad [27M] 3 years, trying to decide if we should stay together. What important questions do we need to ask?
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Oct 21, 2016 04:19
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Boyfriendad!
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Oct 21, 2016 04:30
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i call this masterpiece "Hello, has anyone seen my self esteem?"
My [35 M] wife [35F] of 7 years lied, had an affair, admitted feelings for the other guy, and now wants to keep me on the line while she figures things out. Pokemon Go is involved. Thoughts?
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My wife of 7 years got interested with a guy in her Pokemon Go group on Facebook, they met up with a group to catch Pokemon. My wife aggressively flirted with him over a few weeks and ended up having a 2-3 week affair with the guy. He ended it because he "felt guilty" cheating on HIS fiance of a few years. I found this out by snooping her chats with friends and the guy.
My wife has basically admitted she would have LEFT me for this guy(keep in mind she's known him for 5 weeks(I confirmed this by snooping) meeting up mostly to play Pokemon Go). LEFT.
She said she didn't realize that she had a problem with our marriage(which seemed great until she started in with new guy) until she met this guy and crushed hard. It's weird.
She also made manipulated me by telling me I was a too concerned with her meeting up with dudes for Pokemon Go, and that I should trust her, etc etc. I did. drat.
Of course after she started her affair, her behavior changed, I asked what was wrong over and over. Practically begged for her not to shut me out, but I pretty much knew what was going on.
Now - my wife wants to see a therapist and work on things. She's actually been great and accommodating to my requests to start to rebuild trust, but says she still doesn't know if she wants to remain in the marriage. She wants to find out all that's going on and make a decision. I'm just trying to rebuild things and work on myself like I'm single. But goddamn if it doesn't make me crazy to think after 7 good years of marriage my wife would have bailed on me. My "good relationship" statement isn't delusional btw, we bought a house 3 months ago, even. I found chats from her from 3 months ago telling her friends how great it was. Again, weird.
Anyway, gently caress.
tl;dr: My wife met a guy playing Pokemon Go. Had an affair. He bailed. Now she wants to work on things with me and try to figure it all out.
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Oct 21, 2016 13:36
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How insecure do you have to be to be jealous of masturbation.
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Oct 21, 2016 22:39
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My[24F] husband [24 M] of one year grosses me out.
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Together a little over 4 years. When we first started dating my husband was a total neat freak and I was totally NOT. Admittedly, he has trained me well. I clean up after myself and I put things back where they go, but now he is the messy one. Not only messy, but just plain dirty. He doesn't wash his hands after going 1 OR 2. It's disgusting. I have tried just about every tactic there is to get him to wash his hands. I've tried asking politely to straight up "you should be ashamed of yourself because you don't care that you could make me sick with your poo hands". Other times he'll ask for a kiss with super chapped lips or his breath just stinks so it makes me not want to kiss him.
Tonight was my breaking point. We are ENTs so we prefer jazz cabbage over alcohol to unwind. To preface, my husband HATES vegetables. I didn't realize just how much he hated them until tonight when he threw up pizza because it had a small piece of basil on it. Later after that I go to use the restroom and his barf is still in the toilet. Granted, we smoked earlier so being forgetful is slightly forgivable, but barf... So I asked him to please clean it up. He comes back to the couch and I go to wash my face and the toilet is still gross. I ask if he's cleaned it:
Him: Yes
Me: With what?
Him: I peed on it.
Me: ....
I'm so grossed out reddit. Am I being over sensitive??
tl;dr: My husband's hygiene levels are at an all time low. I feel like I'm living with my "bro in college"
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Oct 22, 2016 05:38
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when i read ent i think jrr tolkien tree monster... what am i missing here?
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Oct 22, 2016 05:44
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But it's super hard to get turned on when i can smell his smelly junk the moment his jeans are off...not to mention everything just stinks for his junk afterwards (both virgins when we met , std tested). He is uncircumsized btw. He also doesnt shower for days and if he often just washes his hair so it looks like he cleaned
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Oct 22, 2016 12:10
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As a lifelong pothead, no, I have never called weed jazz anything. Trees was the popular term back in high school, but haven't really heard that recently. I think I'm just too old.
The confusing part about ENTS is why is it capitalized, but really who gives a poo poo. That dude is nasty and that girl is an idiot for putting up with it. hurr durr basil makes me vomit. ugggghhh
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Oct 22, 2016 14:37
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My [27M] Fiancé [27F] (newly engaged) gave me a "list" of requirements I need to follow in our relationship.
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I am new to reddit, so I hope I am following the guidelines here? My best friend set this up for me so I can get some outside perspectives on my situation. Thanks in advance for "you" the reader to take sometime to read through my post. I am hoping that I can get some sound advice! Like I mentioned before, my best friend recommended to do this.
So, I guess I should give some background information on my situation. My fiancé, Haley, and I have been together for a little over 3 years now. Both of us met post university graduation, and the rest is history really. Haley and I have always had a sound relationship. Haley is very smart, intelligent women, who has her poo poo together. Being together with her has always gotten better with time. I have felt, anyway, that every aspect of our relationship has continually gotten better.
After being together for close to two years, we decided that our relationship was stable/good enough for us to move in together. Finically, both of us were stable, and we figured that we could split everything and save more money by living together. Once we moved in together, I felt our relationship (like I mentioned before) got a lot better. Our routines, personality, and personal attributes were very similar. Living together with Haley was a lot more seamless then I predicted.
Around May or June, I really thought long and hard about proposing to the girl that I loved so much. Haley and I planned a little road trip near the end of August/beginning of September, when we were both able to get time off from work at the same time. On that trip during the final night, I proposed to Haley. She said yes, and it was a beautiful moment for the two of us to share.
Everything was the same/normal up until a few weeks ago. A few weeks back, Haley came up to me one evening with a typed out piece of paper. She told me to specifically read through all of the points she typed out. Specifically, she wanted me to "obey" or agree to everything that she typed out.
I guess this is the main reason I am making this post here on reddit.. Haley typed out a list of "requirements" that I need to follow from this point onwards (specifically when she gave me this a few weeks back).
Here were the list of points she typed up in this message she handed to me:
-No more porn - AT ALL!
-Masturbation must be kept at an all time low! I don't want your habits affecting our sex life.
-I expect you to do things around our place that I want done.
-In terms of family events, my family has priority over yours. (she went on to explain that her family is much larger; therefore, they deserve more time)
-Since you have done a lot more traveling compared to me, I get first choice on our yearly trips.
-When it comes down to major decisions in our relationship, I would like to be the one that has the final say and choice in the matter.
Yes, these were all of the points that I took out of her typed up message. Other then the point with the brackets, which states more of an explanation for you. These are her typed up words to a tee.
I am going to be honest, I feel that our relationship has completely took a 180 entirely. My feelings on her and the relationship are not as comfortable as they have been the last 3 years. I tried talking to her about this many times over the last few weeks. But, she has insisted that they are not "big asks on her end". I would love to get some outside advice on my situation. What should I do from this point onwards?
Thanks again for reading through my post.
tl;dr: My [27M] Fiancé [27F] (newly engaged) gave me a "list" of requirements I need to follow in our relationship. I am not sure how to feel about this moving forward because my feelings towards her have completely changed. Any advice on what I should do?
Redpill plant/troll or real?
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Oct 23, 2016 04:19
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[28m] My mother has a prejudice against China Chinese. My gf is China Chinese. Any advice on how to officially tell her?
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Oct 23, 2016 04:24
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I (36f) want things to work with my fiance (38m) but his freakouts stress me out. He says I'm making it into a big deal.
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I've been with Jeff for 3 years, live together for 6 months.
I keep trying to resolve to NOT FIGHT with him (it stresses us both out and ends up putting a damper on many days). But we seem caught in a negative communication spiral that I don't know how to break out of.
Typical interaction:
Jeff: Gets angry about something that seems minor, escalating and won't let it go.
Me: I try to tell him it can be looked after or otherwise try to placate him (the majority of these issues aren't even my fault...they are often simply everyday life events that he gets upset over).
Jeff: Escalates more, usually with raised voice, usually directly or indirectly blaming me ("why do we not organize the cupboards properly?!")
Me: Become defensive and angry because I do NOT feel these issues are my fault, and I'm angry because I offered to look after it but he insisted on escalating and ruining the mood usually over something very minor.
We go on to either shout at each other with me ending up in tears or leaving for a drive etc.
This can't be healthy and it's not normal. I'm laid back and he's so uptight about things. I TRY to head off any issue but believe me.....it is impossible to foresee every single thing that is going to upset him.
Just yesterday, we had a wonderful day together and were relaxing and having fun. Then the table lamp went out so he went to grab a new bulb and discovered there wasn't any. He then starts going through every drawer/cupboard/closet looking for one, getting increasingly upset. I moved in 6 months ago and we've never needed to change a bulb so I wasn't aware there were no spares lying around.
Not having a table lamp is NOT a big deal. Who cares really? We have the main light. Plus I told him I'd go the next day and get bulbs or we could borrow a bulb from another lamp, but he just keeps ranting. We aren't organized. This is indicative of bigger issues. If we can't even keep supplies on hand, how do we expect to be successful overall? Why are the batteries kept in the cutlery drawer? etc.etc.etc. This is a very common occurrence:
*why does the cleaning lady not clean the oven? (I can ask her to) She should just do it automatically! (no, she never has) Stop making excuses for her! (SERIOUSLY, if you don't like her then hire a new one perhaps??) Why should I have to hire a new one? I work 60 hours a week and you work 35. Hire someone competent!
I know he sounds like a jerk, and he kind of is, but I want this to work and when he isn't freaking out he's great. Is there something I'm missing? A better way for me to communicate with him to calm him down rather than having stupid things escalate so much?
tldr: bf flips out over what I think are minor issues on a weekly basis and blames me (directly or indirectly) and I become defensive and it ends up in WW3. Weekly.
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Nov 28, 2016 07:19
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Stinky butt girls.
everywhere
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Lately when me and my girlfriend have been having sex her rear end has smelled extremely bad (like poop) especially when we are in positions where her rear end is facing me (doggy, spooning, etc) its an extremely big turn off and very gross (i'm a bit of a neat freak). I haven't wanted to have sex as of lately just because i've been so turned off by all of this. I know that taking a shower beforehand would solve the problem and be some fun foreplay but she still lives with her parents and they are normally home when we do it so showering would not be an option. What can I do to bring this up to her without hurting her feelings / embarrassing her?
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I am married and ONLY when I have sex doggie style with my hubby .. I have never been told this by anyone else before in my life.. I shower and clean myself so it has nothing to do with my hygiene. sometimes we have sex after I have stepped out of the shower and apparently he tells me it has always been there (the smell) because of this I haven't even been able to bring myseylf to have sex that way with him anymore.. is there something wrong with me?
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My husband just told me that he has always smelt "poop" while we do it doggy style too. I am also VERY hygienic and wash really well down there and it still happens. I feel really self conscious about it too and now have difficulty enjoying myself in that position.. Maybe some men have a really good sense of smell? I am not sure, but just know you are not alone.
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Just had this happen and I can see why you all would be self conscious in that position afterward. Like you, I'm really hygienic and wipe/wash really well. I'm not seeing me and my boyfriend being in that position for a really long time. Honestly, slightly pissed off at him right now but it's good to know I'm not the only one in a way.
possibly a scientist posted:
Hello ladies, being a man I noticed that smell from my woman too and it does put me off and I wondered if it was clean. The smell does annoy me. However I observed why it happens. Most of us are used to toilet papers and they dont always clean up so well and hence we do need some additional cleaning effort over there. What helps is while having a shower squat down so that your butt spread well and then wash the area with soap and rinse it off. Keep doing that each time you have a shower. It works best if you go to the toilet before u shower. Or in some countries they have water spray techniques which cleans the butt hole better and keeps the smell away. Hope it helps else trying using products but that could combine to a weird new smell.
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Nov 29, 2016 02:09
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At least it wasn't a secret stash of frozen poo poo
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tl;dr: She is no longer planning on looking at my poop, but I have to be able to go at her place and text her when I poop at mine.
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My [22 M) Girlfriend [22 MF] is angry because I play games like GTA and the Witcher
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My girlfriend and I are together for almost 4 years. She has a tendency to be jealous at times; we talked about it a lot and it was getting better recently.
However, yesterday she blew my mind. She was RAGING on me because I play games like GTA and the Witcher on Playstation, since there are prostitutes in GTA and also naked women / sex scenes in the Witcher. She accused me of masturbating to these women (because she read on internet that some men do that) and having a second life in these games. However, I don't care at all for the sex scenes, I play because of the story and the open world. Furthermore, I only play (at most) a few hours a week. A lot of times I even don't play for weeks / months.
I think it is ridiculous that she is now even jealous on video game characters. She accused me of having a second life in these games, because of the fact you can choose a girlfriend in the Witcher an go to the ho's in GTA
How can I/We solve this issue?
tl;dr: GF rages accuses me of masturbating / being in love with videogame characters. Thinks it is not right to have a "girlfriend" in a game when playing the character.
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