- Sandwich Anarchist
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What is a computer science nerd exactly? Is he really into geeking out over algorithms, or is it a pretentious way to call yourself a gamer?
Probably somebody getting a computer science degree
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Sep 20, 2019 12:44
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May 15, 2024 07:14
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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I would keep a tighter leash on my kid in someone else's home, but who leaves fragile, multi-thousand dollar art pieces sitting on the dining room table during an open house where strangers are going to be poking around their house?
Someone trying to increase the perceived value of the house they are attempting to sell
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Sep 20, 2019 19:04
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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Look, you left your TV right out in the living room, it isn't my fault my kid threw a brick into it.
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Sep 20, 2019 19:23
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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My wife and I have people that used to be really close to us that never show up to anything and cancel plans nonstop, so we don't invite them anymore, or really consider them "friends". It isn't weird or bad, it happens, but you also don't have to be a huge dick about it.
Sandwich Anarchist fucked around with this message at 21:24 on Sep 20, 2019
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Sep 20, 2019 21:16
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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Is morning sex an unfamiliar concept around here?
Not unless you awaken your partner first, get them coffee, ensure they are fully concious and able to consent in clear English. Preferably they should sign something as well.
The guy is probly a creep because it's reddit, but coming home and trying to solicit sex from your sleeping partner is a thing people in relationships sometimes do. He says he didn't know the sister was coming over (might be lying but whatever), so why would he think this woman sleeping on the couch would be someone other than his wife, especially if they have similar body types?
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Sep 22, 2019 05:38
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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apparently; my husband gropes me in my sleep all the time and because I love him and am attracted to him I have no issue with it since it often leads to super satisfying morning sex
Sounds to me like your husband rapes you basically non stop and should be killed
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Sep 22, 2019 05:40
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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I'm honestly surprised more people haven't brought up the high likelihood that he knew it wasn't his wife, but wanted to see how much he could get away with using that as an excuse.
If you read stories of "the time that guy I thought was trustworthy started groping me in my sleep", them claiming they thought it was their partner is like the #1 go-to when they're caught. Sometimes it's convincing enough that it might actually be true, but often it's a really blatant lie.
Yeah this is likely the case to be honest. The whole scenario seems really plausible, but this is reddit were talking about so
Also judo kid is hosed either way so he may as well beat some rear end
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Sep 22, 2019 14:17
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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Especially given "So my wife’s sister is staying with us because she’s getting out of a relationship and her husband kicked her out." She's single and emotionally vulnerable and easily accessible, so she's a target.
I might buy that someone might squeeze a buttcheek from behind out of mistaken identity. But you don't get to removing someone's clothing without noticing its a completely different person. If it started that way, he made the decision to keep going even after realizing it.
The way I read it, he didn't realize she was staying with them until after this thing happened, but that's 50/50 a lie. The guy seems scummy for sure
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Sep 22, 2019 14:33
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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The 17-year-old boy is also a swimmer, which I think is the perfect conjunction of "black hole for any and all food in the vicinity." Three servings of a wedding buffet seems positively moderate.
Yeah, it seems people think this is some fat slob of a kid, when in all likelihood he is a fuckin ripped swimmer that needs 4000 calories a day to function (he had TWO swim practices that day ffs)
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Sep 22, 2019 14:41
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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Bought herself a one way ticket to "get murdered by a vengeful cursed ventriloquist dummy town"
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Sep 22, 2019 17:45
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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What a monster holy gently caress
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Sep 22, 2019 19:11
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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Don't sign your posts
P.s. you loving suck holy poo poo lol
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Sep 23, 2019 19:55
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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I [45M] Walked in on son [16M] having gay sex and he's become quite awkward and distant.
I'm also going to buy him a lock for his door and tell him that I want him to feel comfortable "doing it" in the house with his boyfriend (I'd rather here than some dark alley with heroin needles and serial killers or anything like that) - but I'm not sure how to word it well, and also make the conversation as least awkward as possible.
You don't say that at all. You just install the door lock for him and say nothing, he will understand and be thankful for you not making it more uncomfortable for him.
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Dec 26, 2019 21:30
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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If you're using your pickle at Christmas you're a Yule Boner
If you try to use a pickle as a dildo Yule Be Sorry
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Dec 30, 2019 16:03
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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Plus he's been cheating on you for a while and was concerned that he picked something up from someone a while back
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Jan 9, 2020 06:28
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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is the boyfriend her therapist
He's definitely a something-ist
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Jan 9, 2020 12:55
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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We go to the same grocery store every week and the people that work there know who we are, so we don't have any problem with giving our little dude an Orange or something and then just telling them about it later to pay for it
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Jan 9, 2020 18:26
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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being aware of the general time of the month that your wife gets her period is not a "fixation," it's something you put together automatically after a while if you have the barest capacity for observation and empathy.
unless you are one of those bizarre couples where the wife has to pretend she doesn't ever use the bathroom or whatever
Yeah I don't think they were suggesting it was a fixation, more saying that having one would be weird and gross
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Jan 10, 2020 22:00
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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I (27F) might break up with my boyfriend (25M) for beating up a guy who was sexually harassing me. The ordeal resulted in a gun pulled on us. Am I right in doing this?
So me and charlie (boyfriend) and a few other friends went to this bar, and me and my girl-friend were out smoking in front when some guy went by and this guy came up and did these like smooches at us when walking by, and my friend said "eww gently caress off" and then he went up to us and was like "what did you say girl?" and put his arm around her. She pushed him away and he was laughing with his friend who was behind him, then he tried putting his hand on my shoulder and said "what about you?" in a flirting manner and i grabbed his hand from my shoulder, and then he put it back there. It was creepy, to say the least.
Then, out comes my boyfriend with this TERRIFYINGLY loud, booming deep voice, going "WHAT THE gently caress ARE YOU DOING GUY" and the guy who was harassing us got up in his face briefly, and then my boyfriend literally grabbed him upwards by the collar and WWE style smashed him on the ground like he was a ragdoll. Then he punched him, fast, 4 times in the face. The other friend pulled out a pistol and aimed it at my boyfriend and said "dont loving move, dont loving move" and he just walked backwards slowly until he was out of sight, while my BF had his foot on the other guys chest on the ground. When the other guy was out of sight, my BF quickly gave another punch to the guy on the ground.
Anyways, I was yelling and screaming the whole time in fear. We all just got up and left the area, the guy on the ground bleeding out of his face.
I'll be honest, I was loving furious with my BF, and I still am. I am from europe where poo poo like that DOES NOT HAPPEN. You call the police if somebody is doing what that guy was doing, you don't beat them up. Not to mention I got a gun aimed at me, something which I never thought could ever happen in my life, even if I am in america.
I told my boyfriend he was a loving moron, and that we should have called the cops, and he just laughed and hugged me and said "if we called the cops, they would arrest me for assaulting that guy, you dont know how cops work here" and I just couldnt believe that was his excuse. Maybe dont assault the guy in the first place??
anyways, we have been dating for only 4 months so like, its mostly a new relationship. I think he thinks I should be greatful he protected me but I am kind of bitter at him, who is that bravado macho man that they just beat someone up like that? poo poo like that just doesn't happen, at all, where I am from.
Idk, I am really rethinking a relationship with a man who gets into fights with people like that. I really like him but I feel like he is just loving stupid if he is fighting people over anything. Police exist for a reason. Taking 'things into your own hands' is just not what you do where I am from, it is something brutish idiots do.
Should I break up? Can someone idk, explain why he would do that? Is this an American thing? It all seemed so loving wild.
tl;dr: Boyfriend beat up a guy who was sexually harassing me, I am thinking of breaking up with him.
The best comment:
I promise you, most rational people everywhere in the world would just call the cops in this situation, not escalate it by getting physical. Your boyfriend showed a horrible lack of maturity with his actions and if you two have only been together for 4 months, this definitely seems like more than enough drama to end the relationship.
"just call the police" says woman who comes from a country where police are not an armed and murderous racist gang with no oversight
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Jan 11, 2020 18:42
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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I'm willing to bet if Charlie hadn't shown up or had gotten beaten up, she would be wanting to break up with him too. I say let her do it so he can move on.
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Jan 11, 2020 20:48
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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by the same op
My boyfriend (21m) of 6 years just lost a bet to me (21f) and won’t pay me the money. I’m really angry. What do I do?
Choke him out again and keep doing until he pays you, then break up with this fragile little shortstack
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Jan 12, 2020 16:24
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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Lol this dude is the side piece
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Jan 12, 2020 19:10
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- Sandwich Anarchist
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Dad [57M] doesn't want me [24M] to date a Vietnamese girl because he thinks they are not loyal/faithful to family
/r/relationships: Disclaimer: my dad is not racist or anything
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Jan 12, 2020 20:03
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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I for one am still glad there are people toeing the line of shaming unacceptable public behavior such as swallowing a pill
a SEX pill
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Jan 12, 2020 21:37
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- Sandwich Anarchist
- Sep 12, 2008
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I [43F] declined to be my friend's [41F] MoH or bridesmaid and it's causing issues.
I'm someone who is planning to be single for life. I've realized I am not really cut out for long term relationships as I like to do much own thing a little too much. I'm fine with that but my core friend group at the moment are generally other single men and women my age so it's not as if I'm lonely or feeling left out.
I am also an organizer and I have a bit of a reputation in my group as an excellent Maid of Honor- I have done it 7 times now over the last decade and my spreadsheets and Trello boards are something equally laughed and and revered (yes I know I'm ridiculous and a bit extra but they really do help keep track of things) but in the end, the people I spend effort on have always shown me how much they appreciate it even if they think I'm a bit extra.
I have had a high school friend who I've known for awhile now. She's never been happy single but it's taken her awhile to fine the one (she's been seeing this guy for about 2.5 years).
Anyway immediately after she met this guy, she predictable cut back the time she was spending with me quite dramatically. I don't blame her, it's the normal thing to do but I went from seeing her once a week to maybe once a month at best or once every 3-4 months over the last few years and it's always with me initiating a meetup.
A year into her relationship, I stopped initiating meetups at all so our interactions have been occasional texts like once a month or her liking my social media posts. In the meantime, I turned to other friends and networks and life moves on, at 43, it's not the first or last time this has happened, this sort of thing really hit it's peak when I was in my late 20s to mid 30's so to avoid being lonely, I have a wide network of people and social hobbies.
However I got a phone call from her saying that she was engaged so I congratulated her and did all the usual "how did he propose?" and the ooohing and ahhing over the picture of the ring etc.
She then asked me to be a MoH. I was honestly not expecting this because we haven't talked in person or on the phone in over a year and half and she hadn't bothered to reach out to meet up at all. I don't feel close to her anymore and honestly I was only expecting to be invited as a guest (if at all, normally the older you get, the smaller your wedding gets).
I guess my problem is that I was diplomatic, I told her I didn't have the time to take on MoH duties as I was very busy (which is true but I would have made time for a closer friend). She then asked me to be in the bridal party and I again mentioned that I didn't really have time.
She's gotten upset with me because I've been a mutual friend's MoH last year for a friend and helped a lot with the wedding planning and stuff in general because my friend and her fiance faced a family emergency + illness at the time, to the point where even the groom was singing my praises at the thank you speech.
But my friend, even though she was in relationship, still met up with me twice a week and we'd have nice phone calls at least once a week. She was present and showed she valued the relationship so I stepped up for her when she needed help. And helping her did take a lot out of me for the 6 months when things were critical but I don't regret it. I feel like with this particular friend, there wouldn't be any payback really for any effort that I would put in.
But I didn't want to get into all of that with this individual because I knew it was just giving her ammunition and opening up a can over worms that wasn't going to be easily resolved. I know from enough experience when I've brought issues of not spending lots of time together up, "friends" have thrown my single status in my face as a derogatory thing so now I let people who want to be in my life make the effort and I understand if people put their partner's first but when I have a set of friends who will spend time with me frequently and regularly irrespective of relationship status, I will focus my energy and affection there.
I offered to give her my spreadsheets and Trello board to help her out with the wedding planning because I was started to get a sense that she just wanted a free wedding planner in the guise of a MoH rather than me in particular. The conversation kept revolving around how good I was at planning things etc not "I really want to share this experience with you".
It's now causing issues in my friend group because other mutual friends have agreed to be bridesmaids but no MoH and people assumed that I would be it.
A lot of my friends are completely understanding of the time commitment and the distance and support me but now if I get tagged in a FB post doing an escape room or something - on someone else's wall, I get a passive aggressive comment like "OMG Decent_Moose you look like you had a great time!" from her when she's never bothered before
Recently, I got a wall of text from her saying she thought we were better friends that than and that she thought I'd be there for her. I haven't responded so I got another wall of text about how she missed our friendship and she wonders why I never kept in touch. I commented back with a neutral "Life happens doesn't it?"
She's then gone and told other mutual friends that I have tendency to cut friends off once they get into a relationship because I'm bitter or jealous and I'm single. At this point, it was kind of predictable that my single status would come up but it still hurts every time.
Luckily, my friends have completely had my back on this and one even threatened to drop out of the bridal party but I'm at a complete loss here on how to proceed. I've never had someone do this do me, usually if we drift apart, we drift apart, I've never had someone come back and try to make me part of their bridal party.
What do I do here?
TLDR: Friend who didn't put effort into our friendship after she got into a relationship wants me to be MoH. I declined and now she's bad mouthing me.
Woman knows you have a reputation for doing great planning work, gets mad when you won't do it for her. Her friends have her back, so who loving cares? 
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May 15, 2024 07:14
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- Sandwich Anarchist
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You know, they never once say if the kid is theirs or not.
Wonder if that's on purpose?
The language he uses pretty clearly implies that it isn't his
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