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My [13M] sister [16F] is 6 months pregnant. I'm getting very tired of having to do things for her.

Hello, so I don't know that much about pregnant woman. All I know is that they give birth and that's it. I'm having trouble understanding why I need to do things for her. Why does this baby prevent her from doing stuff herself. It's just annoying because my sister [14F] has a broken leg and I need to help her with things around the house. She broke it in track, she tried to jump over this hurdle and did not make it. My other sister is pregnant and the father says he wants nothing to do with the child.

What do I do, because it's early in the morning. I have to go to school with my sister [14F] and my other sister is home schooled.

tl;dr: Sister is pregnant and I have to do everything for her and sister with broken leg

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My [21 F] boyfriend [23 M] cheated on me, and is now blaming me for it

I was only with my boyfriend for 6 months, my first relationship, but we fell in love fast. I've never met anyone like him in my life and he said we were soul mates after a few dates. Within a month, he was already talking about getting married and having children together.

A few months later, things started to get more complicated. He started texting constantly with his ex who he had previously told me was crazy. I tried to be cool about this at first, but then they were flirting on Instagram too, and it really started to upset me. He told me I was being jealous and clingy.

Then he started calling me chubby, when he used to say I was the most beautiful person he's ever seen. If I tried to stand up for myself he would laugh and say I was being too sensitive. He said he was obviously joking, but it hurt my feelings. He went from texting me every minute to ignoring me for entire days, and getting annoyed if I tried to initiate communication.

He was always telling me about the other girls who love him so much, but that he only wanted me. It made me feel really special. But a few weeks ago he dumped me and the next day shared pictures on IG with a new girl, commenting that she is his "soul mate". He uses all the same words with her that he did with me.

I felt so sick but I didn't want to lash out. I stopped looking at his IG and am trying to focus on my studies. I can't sleep, I feel depressed and anxious all the time.

Last night, he messaged me and said I have to give him his sweatshirt back. He sent the message through Facebook, where his new picture is with that girl. I don't have any sweatshirt from him, so I didn't reply. He wrote back again a few hours later and said "You don't have to be bitter about this. Grow up."

This made me so angry, I wrote back and told him to leave me alone. He said it was my fault our relationship didn't work and said I was crazy. He said I should talk to a shrink and figure out my issues.

I've never felt so low in my life. I lost my virginity to him and I still feel so sexually attracted to him. I keep hoping he'll dump her and want to come back to me. Even as I write this out, I know that sounds stupid. I don't know why I love him still. I feel worthless. I was always so full of energy and joy, it's gone now.

tl;dr: Boyfriend cheated on me, said it was because I'm crazy. Feeling really low and wanting to know how to move forward.

kaschei posted:

She believes he found his new "soulmate" before officially dumping her

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Extemely long post warning. I have been with my SO for a year. When we are happy together, we are perfect together. However the majority of the time she is very controlling, hypocritical, immature and stubborn minded. I make her sound horrible already since this is the internet but I really do love this young lady for some reason even though together, with our personality types, we are no longer healthy for one another.

This previous weekend was my 22nd birthday. On Saturday at my house during the party for my birthday, she mostly out right ignored me and was texting someone the whole time. She did not drink that much and left my house fairly sober around 1130pm. I finally saw who she was texting, a guy ("Leo") from back home who has texted her in the past during our relationship over stepping the boundaries I was comfortable with. Never told her that because I was scared she would be mad.

So around 1130pm-midnight I, being not sober, send this kid a selfie of me and my two friends when she handed me her phone. He replied "I'm assuming that's your boyfriend" and she responded no those are just my friends they sent that to everyone (didn't see this till I found out she had sex with Leo).

So we leave for the bars and she goes to a bar with her friends telling me she will meet me at the bar I went to in a bit. 45 minutes later my semi guy friend texted me asking where I was to hang out and that he saw my SO and she left alone. I text her and she says she is still with her girlfriends but she'll come to the bar I'm at in 15 minutes. Well more than 15 minutes goes by and she's not answering. While she is ignoring me she is texting Leo asking where he is and to meet her and what not. She also texts her housemate saying "im hanging out with this guy (I) wouldn't like so if he asks, im walking you home".

I leave the bar I'm at after silence from her for an hour. I run into a friend of hers and I's who says she has also not seen her. Then she comes walking up the street with what looks like the guy and another similar looking guy (never have seen him in person so couldn't tell). Seemingly not too intoxicated (think I would know after a year) she tells us that she's following her drunk housemate home who is with a guy she doesn't know. They leave and me wanting to respect her and not act like I can't trust her let her go telling her to text me and that I'll meet them at her house later.

I go back to their house and the housemate that was apparently too drunk is the one to answer the door. 3am now I text her where she is and she says she's still following the housemate and that they'll be back in 15 minutes. To wrap this up, she doesnt come home till 6:07am, semi waking me up by taking my phone out from under me, unplugging it, plugging hers into charge and undressing then climbing in to bed.

I found out she had sex with him because Sunday afternoon she was talking to him after he asked her to hang out again before he goes home. She's asks for him to not say anything but she trusts that he wouldn't. She makes sure that the sex was good and that he doesn't think she's a bad person. She says she loves the rush feeling. He says he loves when she talks dirty and she says oh really explain. She says she will hit him up when she is home. She also talks to another guy she met that night while she is texting Leo, not on the same level as Leo, but in a way I'm still not comfortable with. I have these screenshotted.

The first way she reacted was blaming me for not giving her enough attention or caring enough and anger that I snooped to find this out and that it happened so gently caress it, its over. Then it turned into her crying and saying it was out of spite and that it just made her feel worse and she didn't know what she was thinking. Then she said that she was too drunk to being doing that but wouldn't call it rape, that she was friends with him so thought he wouldn't be like that and how she's never done anything like this before.

I tell her I don't know what to think but I want leave yet. She knew I wasn't happy and I said it wouldn't be the same but still decided to try because I didnt want to throw away our time rashly. Early evening yesterday after she had been critiquing me all day and giving me a hard time for leaving the bed early to walk my dog among other things throughout the day, I knew I couldn't be with her anymore despite my feelings.

Last night when I came to her with this, at first she tried saying I'm treating her like my ex, that I won't know a good thing till its gone, basically deflecting it on me. Then long story short she says she thinks she was drugged at the frat house Leo was staying in and raped by Leo and that she sent those texts the next day in shock and took pills so she could show up to work and told me everything she did as a way to act like it was out of spite so she didn't believe she was actually raped.

I told her that this changes things 100% and that she needs to get help and that if she is being sincere then obviously I want be there for her and be the catalyst for action that will her, 'myself and our relationship through it. But in the back of my head everything doesn't add up. She was already claiming to not recognize me as her boyfriend before even drinking that much early in the night. She was casually texting other people Sunday afternoon.

But who am I to say what she claims happened isn't true? What does that say about my character? I love this girl despite it being unhealthy and have helped her grow from her previous abusive relationship at the start but it turned into her controlling me and running me down. Despite this I still want to see her through this, whether we are together or not. Am I in the wrong? Did I handle this correctly? I think for both our sakes we may have to end things but this really happened she needs someone now more than ever and I can't help but to be that person even if it's only till everything is figured out. But then if she is using this claim as a way to keep me around and mentally down, I can't bear to think about that.

She texted at 2am this morning saying how she's been through worse and can figure it out in her own and that I won't know what I had till she's gone and that she will be livid if I tell people she cheated on me and that I'll probably just go gently caress some other girl and that I don't really care or that I would just stay if I truly loved her, that I'm treating her like my ex and still hung up on when my ex cheated, that she thought she was going to marry me, that I'm not bothered by this in the slightest, that I don't care about the relationship and that she doesn't want my help.

None of that is true. All I want to do is help her. I may think that while yes our relationship may need to be over, I still love her and do not want to see her as a person suffer because I care too much. I emailed the title 9 coordinator at our school because I am obligated legally to take action when I hear about sexual assaulta who I am meeting with at 6pm tonight. I did not want to file a police report in case what claims to have happened didn't really happen.

Am a bad person? Did I handle this the wrong way? Nothing adds up to me but I can't ignore a rape claim and obviously need to at least take action to help her behind the scenes if it's true. If this did actually happen, should I try to stay in her life? Is it worth salvaging if we can work through the small issues that built in more destructive ones through counseling in addition to the help she received for this?

TL:DR SO had sex with another guy on Sat. night and has told me different reasons as to why and different stories on what happened, lied about things and nothing adds up. Once I realized I couldn't handle it and confronted her about leaving, she claimed she was drugged and raped and that how can I possibly leave her now and I don't love her if I don't believe her. I took action since I am legally responsible to report sexual assaults because I do love her and want to see her through this regardless if I'm with her or not if it did truly happen and can't reasonably deny the possibility. Am I a bad person? Did I handle this poorly? Should I try to be a part of this situation as a outsider or as a boyfriend? Is the relationship worth salvaging with counseling after Little issues have turned into dangerous ones?

ikanreed posted:

Nope, her leaving for a few days is exactly the medicine his brain needs. It's a fetish born from broken jealousy instincts that don't recognize what's on the line.

Panfilo posted:

Whenever I hear these people accommodating their partners ridiculous fetishes I always wonder how much reciprocation they're getting in exchange, because it never seems to be considered. It's one thing if the guy had this extreme humiliation fetish and his girlfriend went along with it because he would give her really amazing back rubs on request. But these redditors always grossly overstate what their partner is doing for them and make it sound like it is much more of a dilemma than it is.

Naerasa posted:

saying 'im gonna pick up respectable women' would have made it better

ruddiger posted:

Sorry I beat the poo poo out of you baby, wait, what do you mean your body is in physical pain from my drunken assault and you don't want to gently caress?

Bud K ninja sword posted:

Chomp8645 posted:

His brother might be the real piece of poo poo though.

LethalGeek posted:

https://archive.is/uULD2 The op purged her post but this thankfully captured it.


Even reddit eviscerated her https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/4qfmgs/me_25_f_with_my_boyfriend_30_m_of_6_months_we/

Gumbel2Gumbel posted:

I'm assuming it didn't go well because the Lesbian OP replied "going out for drinks in a bit! Going to let her know then!" And now it's locked.

DOMDOM posted:

I[17M] found loads of videos of my mother[43F] on various Porn sites with lots of different men


Well i hope he at least finished.

DOMDOM posted:

Let's play guess the religion that led to this hilarity

Moon Atari posted:

I consider dressing up as grandma and making GBS threads himself to be less shameful and annoying than the baby talk.

subway masturbator posted:

Both are terrible people

Dial-a-Dog posted:

Why not just feed the kid straight from her breast for a couple days and poison all the bottles? Seems like a pretty easy problem to solve

Nondescript Van posted:

The next day in r/legaladvice

CodfishCartographer posted:

Something seems slightly off about that email. Like humble brag about being smart mixed with fishing for compliments almost.

Zulily Zoetrope posted:

Normally someone in the social circle would smell the crazy, right? It kinda sounds like she's just cooler than OP or her boyfriend.

Dial-a-Dog posted:

Maybe the girl being SWFed should take it as a bigger red flag that every social connection her boyfriend has is willing to drop him completely and ostracize his girlfriend based on someone they barely know

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Bonzo posted:

They go camping/hiking and she yells at him if he looks away while she shits in the woods.