- Gadzuko
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But how does that explain the fact that many religious young people get married very young specifically so they can get down to loving?
Those children were raised hearing "no sex until you're married" as opposed to "sex is bad and wrong" like that poor girl apparently got.
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May 20, 2024 05:41
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- Gadzuko
- Feb 14, 2005
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Isn't epilepsy a genetic condition? My father was epileptic and I have always been under the impression that trauma related seizures were a different thing entirely. Unless he already had some underlying condition there shouldn't be lifelong consequences. Not that this excuses what the boyfriend did, of course.
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Nov 25, 2016 00:40
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- Gadzuko
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I doubt the coffee is a euphemism. I don't know any coffee geeks, but it's definitely a real thing. Like beer or wine geeks. It's not a stretch to think that if she's that into it she would be bothered by her boyfriend totally blowing it off and refusing to even try it.
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Dec 9, 2016 22:15
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- Gadzuko
- Feb 14, 2005
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From legaladvice:
(North Carolina) Got fired from work for having arthritis... even though I don't have it.
quote:I've worked for the same firm for 8 years now but got fired on Tuesday by my boss, he invited me to come into his office and told me in person "You're fired, you've got arthritis. I don't want arthritis here. Leave the premises now you won't be paid."
I haven't got arthritis at all, I've had to have a medical check for a certain part of my job anyway. It says I'm medically fit and proves I don't have arthritis.
I'm an IT admin for the company.... I've noticed my boss had been sending people a circular email with links to arthritis-related sites and using arthritis-sites in company time (I'm an IT admin and part of my job is blocking sites).
I know about firing at-will etc. but I want to keep my job and I'd had no conflict with the boss before now and really I want my job back, the company was a great place to work for.
How can I prove to my boss that I don't have arthritis, and do I need legal action to be taken?
I was considering hiring an attorney but don't know what to do next; please guide me on this.
Ninja edit: I'm actually a woman.... should have said 33/F if that's relevant.
Everything about this is so bizarre. Firing someone for having arthritis, and you actually tell them that? But then the Shyamalan twist: they don't even have arthritis?  And then in the comments she confirms she has it in writing in an email! Basically a slam dunk free money case for her.
I really wonder if the manager thought he could fire someone for having arthritis and that it was an acceptable excuse to get rid of her, or what. "I don't want arthritis here", does he think arthritis is contagious? I have so many questions.
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Dec 15, 2016 06:14
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- Gadzuko
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they're just, whooph, way off the spectrum. the loving radio waves of autism
That or just straight-up sociopaths.
quote:quote:Giving the baby up would ultimately be in her best interest but the way you talk about her like a piece of furniture that isn't your style is... unsettling.
"Hmm, my child is gone. How inconvenient."
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Dec 15, 2016 07:07
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- Gadzuko
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I [18 F] left my laptop open and my sister [15 F] replaced everything in my "Hobbies & Passions" section on my resumé with just "garlic bread" as a joke. I unknowingly sent it out to about 20-30 businesses and now I have no idea what to do about it.
This is hilarious and garlic bread girl needs to get together with one of the tombstone brothers to create the ultimate prank family. This is another one of those things that gets the whole room rolling at a party 10 years down the road.
Seems like she'll be fine anyway, in the comments she even acknowledges she's going to laugh at it. And she applied to some Italian restaurants! Little sis did her a favor.
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Dec 20, 2016 00:28
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- Gadzuko
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If nothing else it will weed out any hiring manager with a stick up their rear end, which is a plus.
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Dec 20, 2016 01:30
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- Gadzuko
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I hope this op updates. This is strange.
Weird, I thought this was a repost at first. Wasn't there another woman who was having the exact same problem earlier in the thread? Different situations though.
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Dec 21, 2016 10:30
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- Gadzuko
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Long term friends getting together does happen. I just got into a relationship with a woman I've known for almost 20 years. Not as close as those two, but it's not a totally unbelievable story.
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Dec 28, 2016 01:01
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- Gadzuko
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It turns out Adolf Hitler never got around to marrying or impregnating Eva Braun because he was too worn out from all the historical sex tourists sapping his precious bodily fluids. Thus was our timeline spared Adolf Hitler II: The Revenge.
Has anyone made a porno parody of the Red Alert games yet? This is the plot right here.
Also, I know this is from like 20 pages ago but I am disappointed that the thread title is not "/r/relationships: Everything was so perfect until the ketamine"
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Jan 31, 2017 10:14
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- Gadzuko
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Apparently yes, worms are haraam. "Halal" is also a pretty clutch search term.
Here's an uplifting story of cultural exchange involving no domestic violence:
quote:My [25M] new friend [22M] just gave me a watch worth more money than I have ever owned.
I apologize for leaving some of the details vague but I am not sure if my friend reads this subreddit and I would rather he did not find it before I have a chance to talk to him.
About a month ago, I met a foreign student at a local coffee shop. He is studying English at the local university. He is still a fairly low level English student but we managed to have a great conversation with the help of gestures, drawings, and smart phone translators for the bigger words. We ended up talking for a few hours while listening to a band. At the end of the night we exchanged numbers and planned on meeting up again soon.
Things got busy for Christmas and New Years and he spent the break in his home country. When he got back to the states, we texted back and forth every few days and tonight he took my wife and I out for dinner.
I happen to be a jeweler and wanted to make him something for Christmas, despite my lack of faith and him being a Muslim. I explained to him that here in the states, many people treat Christmas as a time to celebrate friends and family, and not just as a religious holiday. I did some research and found the requirements for making a Halal ring for a man (silver, under 4 grams weight, not gaudy, worn on the pinky finger). I used a fairly high quality Carnelian stone that I had been saving for a special occasion. It was mined in Saudi Arabia, somewhere near Mecca (or so I was told), and cut in Afghanistan. When I presented it, I told him what I had learned and checked to see if I had missed anything. I wanted him to have a souvenir of a traditional Islamic men's ring, made in a very american style.
He was very touched that I had thought of him and thanked me many times through out the night. My friend, my wife, and I had a great conversation over dinner and things started to flow much easier as I got a handle on his fluency level and as he asked and learned a few key words. At the end of the night, he came back to my house so I could adjust the ring size a bit and make it really fit him well.
I drove him home (my wife stayed at our house) and when we got there, he asked me to wait a minute. He ran inside and returned with a fancy box containing a brand new Ulysse Nardin watch. I had no idea this was such an expensive gift at the time, but I recognized that it was very nice. I told him it was too much and that he did not need to give me anything in return for the ring, especially after buying us a nice dinner. He insisted so I accepted the watch and thanked him. We shhok hands and made plans to grab breakfast tomorrow morning (he has the day off of school due to Martin Luther King day).
When I got home, I took a closer look at the watch and looked up the manufacturer out of curiosity. I was not able to find an exact match on their website but similar watches were selling for between $7000 and $35,000. I was absolutely blown away. That is worth the equivalent of between a years rent and a small house. I am still swamped with college debt and this watch surpasses my entire net worth a few times over. I have never even had enough money in my bank account to buy one of these.
I am not sure exactly how to move ahead with this. Right now, I would like to talk to him at breakfast and would appreciate some advice. I have no idea how well off his family is, but I have gotten the impression that they are quite wealthy. I do not know however and I am worried that he has given me a gift that was meant for him. I do not want to get him in trouble with his family or friends back home. Also, I am worried that he felt obligated to give me something in return for the ring I made him. Even though I tried to explain that it was not necessary, I am not sure the meaning made it all the way through the language and culture barriers.
If I were to keep the watch, I would never consider selling it. If I were to return the watch, I am afraid I would greatly offend him. My plan right now is to discuss this with him over breakfast. I want to make sure that he is very clear that I did not expect him to compensate me for the ring. Even though it took me a while to make, my cost of materials was embarrassingly low. I also would like to ask him if giving me the watch would put him or his family in any sort of financial hardship, or would get him in trouble, but I am not sure how to breach the topic. I enjoy his company regardless of his personal income and since he has never mentioned one way or another, I am afraid that he is uncomfortable talking about it.
However, I could be over thinking this entirely. Assuming he was fully clear on what he was giving me and that he did so fully knowing that it was not required or even expected, this is a gift that I would highly treasure for the rest of my life. My new friend is a great and interesting person and I am very touched that he would even consider giving me a gift like this.
Anyway, I would really appreciate some feedback before I talk to him tomorrow. Any insight would help, especially about Muslim culture. I am not as well versed in the customs of Islam as I should be. Thank you.
Edit: Thank you for all of the responses. After hearing your advice and sleeping on it for far too few hours, I have decided that I will still talk to my friend, but I will not bring up the price. As a jeweler, it would not have been a stretch for me to at least recognize the brand name on the watch. It was presented to me in low-light conditions and I honestly did not get a good look at it until we got home. I would like to make sure that he understands the gift giving customs of this country as well as my own personal beliefs on the matter. I would also like to learn more about his. I will not offer to return the watch in any way unless I really get the impression that he is regretting giving the gift.
I will post some pictures to r/watches later tonight. I do not plan on asking him if it is real or not. Either way, it is a very meaningful gift to me. However, I am fairly sure that I need to know one way or another for piece of mind. Again, not something ill bring up with him ever again. I have a feeling that if it is an imitation piece, he assumed that I would have known. If it is real I assume it would be beyond offensive to even ask.
Also, I did my apprenticeship in the rural south. When your teacher repeatedly insists that you call it a "lop" instead of a loupe, you tend to forget how to spell at 3 in the morning. Also, yes it was auto-correct.
Anyway, thank you for all of the support, advice, and compliments. I grew up very poor so I sometimes forget that it is not common to make gifts like this on a casual basis.
EDIT 2: I did not end up meeting with my friend this morning as we both ended up being busy. You have convinced me not to bring it up as it seems to be a much more disrespectful gesture in Middle Eastern culture than it is in the environment in which I grew up. I am glad that this has gotten such a positive response and I thank you all for the advice and help. I still plan on getting it appraised for insurance purposes but I would be lying if I pretended not to want to know anyway. Again, I don't plan on mentioning anything about this and I feel like although I eventually want to discuss gift giving customs with him, I will let it wait and come up naturally.
I will xpost to r/watches tonight but I do not have time at the moment.
tl;dr: I made my new, foreign friend a ring as a Christmas present and souvenir. He was very touched and at the end of the night gave me a watch worth somewhere between a years rent and a 2 bedroom house. I am not entirely sure that he understood my gift given the language barrier and I was neither requiring nor expecting anything in return.
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- Gadzuko
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What the gently caress? She keeps casually referencing some intense fear of death like it's the same thing as a broken dick. Or does it have some other meaning I'm not aware of? I'm beyond fascinated with whatever is going on here. Jeez, you think one of these things could be it, lady? Are you sure?
Death grip? Pretty common expression in the US at least. Like you're holding on to something for dear life, you've got a death grip on it. In this case, his penis.
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- Gadzuko
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This one sucks because it's clearly just a total accident.
While this does sound like an overreaction, I'm guessing that someone knew about the living arrangements and/or was already weirded out by the family.
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