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Cory Parsnipson
Nov 15, 2015
Ok maybe I should have said medical terms or something. I think toxic is a really strong term and sometimes it's used to describe an unpleasant relationship.

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kalel
Jun 19, 2012

if you're referring to racism/sexism/homophobia in general, like on a societal level, and how people talk about those things, well, they are toxic

Cubone
May 26, 2011

Because it never leaves its bedroom, no one has ever seen this poster's real face.

Cory Parsnipson posted:

Ok maybe I should have said medical terms or something. I think toxic is a really strong term and sometimes it's used to describe an unpleasant relationship.

I think I get what you're saying
I think something similar's going on withthe word "abuse" :can:

chalk it up to one part "we didn't talk about this is society for so long that we're still learning to recognize and talk about it, and an aspect of that is that we haven't developed a colloquial consensus on where a proverbial gradient crosses from light grey to dark grey" and one part "powerful expressions with specific connotations are diluted over time as people seek new ways to convey strongly held feelings through hyperbole"

sugar free jazz
Mar 5, 2008

Leavemywife posted:

Anonymous Confessions: Just Cut Your loving Dick Off

this would be a great thread title tbh

Cory Parsnipson
Nov 15, 2015
Ok wow that's a very eloquent way of saying it. I wish I thought of putting it that way.

As for racism sexism and homophobia, I think an example would be say you grow up in a household and community that normalizes racism and you don't even realize that it's hurting people until maybe you move away or something. There's a lot of calling stuff like that toxic and I get that it makes total sense.

And then you have other scenarios where you met someone off the street and they go nuts on you and youre like "ok this person is toxic", but you don't even know them. But I guess what's happening is that you're pointing out that there's systematic whatever going on and people should be aware of it.

All of this is just me being out of touch I guess. Cubone said it really well.

Cory Parsnipson fucked around with this message at 21:15 on Jul 18, 2018

GRINDCORE MEGGIDO
Feb 28, 1985


New Wave Jose posted:

That would be funny for all the time Loq has said "Thread title and all" as a solution to a confession.


sugar free jazz posted:

this would be a great thread title tbh


There we go

GRINDCORE MEGGIDO fucked around with this message at 22:11 on Jul 18, 2018

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

New Wave Jose posted:

That would be funny for all the time Loq has said "Thread title and all" as a solution to a confession.

man, anyone trying to read the thread backlog is gonna be really confused by this lol

brb adding a line to the OP explaining it

RFC2324
Jun 7, 2012

http 418

loquacius posted:

man, anyone trying to read the thread backlog is gonna be really confused by this lol

brb adding a line to the OP explaining it

no don't

its way funnier without an explanation

Leave
Feb 7, 2012

Taking the term "Koopaling" to a whole new level since 2016.
Really, whoever suggests to cut your dick off every time is on to something. Your other problems will pale in comparison to suddenly slicing off your pecker.

wesleywillis
Dec 30, 2016

SUCK A MALE CAMEL'S DICK WITH MIRACLE WHIP!!

RFC2324 posted:

no don't

its way funnier without an explanation

Someone sends in a fesh in a few months: "I've been catching up with the thread and I can't see why the OP just keeps saying 'see thread title'. Why the gently caress would he tell someone with serious depression to just cut their dick off? What about the girls in the thread? Do they cut their tits off? Its been keeping me up at night, and I just lost my job because I've shown up for work late so many times in the last month".

Goons all respond: "See thread title".

sugar free jazz
Mar 5, 2008


:hai:

nashona
May 8, 2014

Though she be but little, she is fierce


I have no dick and I must scream

Bobby Digital
Sep 4, 2009

nashona posted:

I have no dick and I must cream

GRINDCORE MEGGIDO
Feb 28, 1985


Hey op,
We can just leave it there temporarily if you don't like it. Just PM me if you want it back at some point.
Also kudos and :five: for all the effort and this crazy, crazy thread.

Horse Clocks
Dec 14, 2004


hosed family goon doesn’t have to sever, or support everyone. You can do the middle ground.

Move out, deal less and less with you mum, but try to be an active person in the younger brothers life.

Pick him up from school, take him places and socialise with him like a rational member of society, let him do his homework at yours without being yelled at.

You can’t pull him away from the situation entirely, but you can offer him an anchor of sanity and support.

And if he becomes a poo poo like them then you can tell him why and stop helping him.

Family is only family when they act like it. Toxic people with similar dna aren’t family.

Caganer
Feb 15, 2018
https://twitter.com/feraljokes/status/1019648464752398336

Ghost Leviathan
Mar 2, 2017

Exploration is ill-advised.

Cory Parsnipson posted:

Ok maybe I should have said medical terms or something. I think toxic is a really strong term and sometimes it's used to describe an unpleasant relationship.

'Toxic' is a lot like and often hand in hand with 'problematic' where it's almost a weasel word with bad implications but usually used interchangeably with both petty and serious thins to the point where it becomes impossible to tell the severity meant by it.

Question Time
Sep 12, 2010



Ghost Leviathan posted:

'Toxic' is a lot like and often hand in hand with 'problematic' where it's almost a weasel word with bad implications but usually used interchangeably with both petty and serious thins to the point where it becomes impossible to tell the severity meant by it.

Eh, when I hear/read "toxic" in this context I just take it to mean "nasty." Didn't we just have this derail, or was that another thread?

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

I blame Britney Spears personally

quote:

I have an unshakable obsession with virginity. I know it really doesn't mean anything, but still when I find out a girl I like has had sex it depresses me deeply and I instantly lose interest. Just the fact that they would give themselves to someone like that, it's human weakness. Sex is nothing but a tool to manipulate people. I have had sex but only because it served a purpose. Not reproduction, either. Once you've hosed a person you can control them. People who do it for pleasure are nothing but degenerates and pawns.

See thread title

wow, it still works

quote:

My confession is I've been collection a set of weird darkweb sites. Not evil, not sick, just... weird.

There's a community of people who throw up weird 90s geocities style stuff, pranks, etc.

I guess I could post in GBS but so many people assume liking privacy/tor/bitcoin means you're doing something nefarious. Some of us just want to order LSD on the internet and look at weird gifs and find some funny stuff along the way.

Purposefully cropped the habbo one so you don't get dinged for linking to a potential DNM (I didn't enable JS to find out if it worked)

This one had 3 attachments:





I mean, w/r/t the first two, you know you can find lovely memes on the light web without having to do all this cloak and dagger bullshit, right

and the last one appears to just be a more cartoony, whimsical way to do illegal poo poo

Danaru
Jun 5, 2012

何 ??
Second 'fesher should absolutely post that thread in GBS because holy gently caress deepweb habbo is killing me

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

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Post the thread deepweb dude. Hell, you can PM me stuff and I'll create it for you if you're afraid of getting run out of GBS. I can live with being ostracized for a bit here if it means posting hilarious weird 90's early 2000's websites.

Blaze Dragon
Aug 28, 2013
LOWTAX'S SPINE FUND

I won't lie, I'd follow the hell out of that thread. Especially deepweb Habbo, that sounds goddamn hilarious.

Also I'm glad the current thread title has been useful, and so quickly at that. I thought it'd be less useful than the previous one, but it seems I was gravely mistaken.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Blaze Dragon posted:

I won't lie, I'd follow the hell out of that thread. Especially deepweb Habbo, that sounds goddamn hilarious.

Also I'm glad the current thread title has been useful, and so quickly at that. I thought it'd be less useful than the previous one, but it seems I was gravely mistaken.

Just to clarify, that anon should see both thread titles but the new one is higher priority

TehRedWheelbarrow
Mar 16, 2011



Fan of Britches

loquacius posted:

Just to clarify, that anon should see both thread titles but the new one is higher priority

agreed.

RFC2324
Jun 7, 2012

http 418

Blaze Dragon posted:

I won't lie, I'd follow the hell out of that thread. Especially deepweb Habbo, that sounds goddamn hilarious.

Also I'm glad the current thread title has been useful, and so quickly at that. I thought it'd be less useful than the previous one, but it seems I was gravely mistaken.

:same:

Cubone
May 26, 2011

Because it never leaves its bedroom, no one has ever seen this poster's real face.

:lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:

Stexils
Jun 5, 2008

i support deepweb criminal goon creating early internet legacy humor. godspeed and ill be at your funeral when the deep state assassinates you for loving with the habbosphere

Leave
Feb 7, 2012

Taking the term "Koopaling" to a whole new level since 2016.

loquacius posted:

Just to clarify, that anon should see both thread titles but the new one is higher priority

Or just mix the two, either cutting off his therapist's dick, or having the therapist cut off his. Someone is gonna benefit in either case.

Solice Kirsk
Jun 1, 2004

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You're basically describing a mohel.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Solice Kirsk posted:

You're basically describing a mohel.

Jewposting here to contend that in fact he is not

Xun
Apr 25, 2010

Post the thread I want to see it too

Thursday Next
Jan 11, 2004

FUCK THE ISLE OF APPLES. FUCK THEM IN THEIR STUPID ASSES.

loquacius posted:

Yeah, that's why I told anon to unionize first

The general strike wouldn't work without a union, this is true, they need a union megabad though


My biggest problem with it was that the prose was garbage

Every chapter read like a bullet-point list of actions. "Wade did A. Wade did B. C happened, so Wade did D. Wade sighed, steeled himself, and did E. Wade did F." It felt like legit culture shock the day I finished it and picked up another book by an actual good author.

It was an interesting premise for a book that Cline should have handed off to an actual writer that actually knows how to write, rather than just cramming as many sweet refs as possible into a book and spending the rest of his life counting money

but I guess it did work out for him so

e: You can rightfully say Ready Player One was bad for many reasons without even having to think about social justice honestly

He had two very good ideas, actually.

The first was that schooling happened in the virtual world - something I absolutely believe will happen in another few generations. Imagine if every kid could go to the best schools with the best teachers - that’s a wonderful idea and I wish he had expanded on it.

The second was his idea for a “game” where you got to play the role of someone in a movie. Again, that’s something I absolutely think is going to happen soon enough. Cline is a sexist gently caress though and didn’t consider how to deal with 51% of the population wanting to be the hero without being a guy, but, again, cool idea. I think we will see this in our lifetime - sell people their favorite movies as VR experiences.

Agreed about the prose though. He’s a poo poo writer with a few good ideas. I also wish he’d handed them off to someone competent.

Or I could just be a huge ding-dong. I just tried VR for the first time yesterday and got a stomach ache instantly. But for the nanosecond I wasn’t barfy, it was loving great.

Also I’m on lots of pain meds so there’s that too. Don’t break bones, kids.

CheesyDog
Jul 4, 2007

by FactsAreUseless
Neil Stephenson's The Diamond Age made better points about virtual education like two decades earlier

RFC2324
Jun 7, 2012

http 418

I thought I missed like 10 pages, but no, someone had to respond to a post 50 pages ago.

nashona
May 8, 2014

Though she be but little, she is fierce


loquacius posted:

Jewposting here to contend that in fact he is not

Yeah, it's just the tip.

Leave
Feb 7, 2012

Taking the term "Koopaling" to a whole new level since 2016.
Reminds me of when I was waiting tables, nobody ever wanted to get stuck with the mohel table. The tips just weren't big enough.

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

Thursday Next posted:

The second was his idea for a “game” where you got to play the role of someone in a movie. Again, that’s something I absolutely think is going to happen soon enough. Cline is a sexist gently caress though and didn’t consider how to deal with 51% of the population wanting to be the hero without being a guy, but, again, cool idea. I think we will see this in our lifetime - sell people their favorite movies as VR experiences.

Between when I wrote that original post and now I read the actual CC Let's Read Ready Player One thread and it came up in that thread that the movie-reenactment poo poo was 100% based around rote memorization which is the absolute lamest way to be a fan of something

It actually kind of bothers me that I haven't watched Holy Grail in like twelve years and I can still recite scenes from it from memory

nashona posted:

Yeah, it's just the tip.

Not even that, it's just the window dressing

loquacius
Oct 21, 2008

quote:

2 years I was in a really bad relationship that ended with her directly getting me fired from my job and her having a miscarriage 5 months into her pregnancy. The entire situation was a nightmare that is in my past now but her getting me fired from job left me completely broke and having to move back in with my parents who live in the middle of no where in the mountains multiple hours away from any area where I could find work again. In order to find work I need to move back into an apartment but i'm completely flat broke so i'm in a catch 22 of not being able to work because there is no where near me where I can work. In order to try and fix my situation i've been teaching myself a skill I can find remote work for in order to save enough money to move so I can work again but ever since my life collapsed I have had the a really hard time getting myself back on track and improve my situation. I know the situation i was in prier broke something in me mentally because I have a really hard time thinking and behaving the way I used too prier to all of this happening, and trying to overcome it so I can get help and fix myself feels impossible almost constantly. I'm not suicidal but I am constantly overcome with this feeling of anxiety and dread about everything and I keep having to tell myself that its all in my head and that its not going to stop unless I keep pursing my plan to fix it. Usually I am good at forcing myself to push through and keep on track with learning and improving my situation but my brain is just constantly loving with me and I can't stand it. I know i'm severely depressed or something else along those lines because I don't think the way I used too and there is constantly this presence in my mind reminding me of how far i've fallen and that i'm useless that I know isn't true. It's not a separate voice or anything like that but it feels like my brain is surrounded by a cloud just slowly poisoning my brain. I just wanted to write this cause I feel that it's probably better to get myself mentally aligned again by writing down my feelings about everything

I honestly don't have a whole lot of advice for you because our system is kinda broken if you don't have any resources. The only thing I can think of is that you need to find something anything to do to get back on your feet. Work a convenience store, work fast food, just anything, because (a) you need a nest egg to find an apartment somewhere else again, and (b) unemployment is obviously not having a great effect on you.

quote:

I’ve been in love with my best friend for almost 20 year and am too much of a pussy to tell her.

I was bullied a lot in school since I was fat, nerdy, and short. The bullying started in 3rd grade and I remember crying after school every day. In 4Th grade Sara moved to our school and became my friend, my only friend back then.

She protected me, helped me grow as a person, and made my life livable. How could I not fall in love with her? In middle school we went to every dance together, she asked me, as I was too scared to ask her. We would dance and she’d lay her head on my shoulder. Those were the best nights of my life back then. I realize now that was the time to kiss her, to ask her out. But I was too scared to lose her, too afraid of a “no”.

In high school we both played trumpet and sat next to each other in band. We’d hang out every weekend, at least at first. Then she met Tony.

She dated Tony freshman year, and started spending weekends with him. Ate lunch with him. I got really jealous and one day told her I saw Tony kissing another girl. “But I could be wrong” I told her. She believed me and talked to Tony, who proceeded to call her jealous and dump her.

Our weekends went back to normal after that. Movies, video games, and just hanging out. I ballooned up to nearly 300 lbs during this time. And Sara was getting chubby, too. That was my goal, I realize that now. Make her undesirable to other guys. It worked for a year or so.

The summer before Senior year, Sara went to a college prep camp. I didn’t see her for 2 months. She came back home having lost some weight and with a new “friend” she met; Greg.

I saw less of her that year, I quit the band and got really into WoW. She would sometimes talk about Greg when we hung out, I’d quickly change the subject.

We went to different colleges, she did better than me in school and got into s much better school. We drifted apart for a few years then, but we kept up on Facebook and texting. She broke up with Greg, got a degree in Engineering, and got a job back home. She also lost all that weight she put on in high school. I failed out of community college, moved back home, and got a job at Arby’s. I’m also 375 lbs.

We became friends again after graduation, just one of those things where you meet back up like nothing happened. We hung out most weekends. She encouraged me to better myself and try and find a better job. And I was about to, but then she met Joe.

She started dating Joe, eventually got engaged, and their wedding is on August 18th.

I was invited and will attend, and I’m finally going to do what I should have done years ago. With Sara I’m focused, a better version of myself. Without her I’m a loving fat failure.

I realize this will be awful for Joe, and I feel bad. He has always been nice to me and dore deserve love. But not with Sara, no way. He met her online, but look at how Sara and I met. That’s a love story, 2 people who met as kids, reconnected, and make each other better.

I fully admit I might cause a scene, how many people actually have objections to a wedding? But her family knows me, and I think they’ll be happy deep down when I do it. Hopefully. I’ve been a pussy for 20 years, time to change that.

Honestly it doesn't sound to me like this girl makes you any better of a person and you're actually not great for her. You really have to develop a life and personality independent of her. Trust me, a girl you have a crush on getting a boyfriend doesn't feel as bad when you have other things going on in your life.

I'm gonna throw a whole bunch of thread standards at you: get therapy, don't fall in love with your therapist, get a hobby, try to get out and meet more people (hell, 40K wargaming counts). Bettering yourself is hard, but before you can make progress there you have to put yourself in a position where you don't feel like complete poo poo all the time. You're not trying to be better, you're trying to feel better. Getting hung up on a girl and embarrassing yourself at her wedding isn't going to help.

Like, seriously, please don't make a scene at the wedding. Something taking balls to do doesn't automatically make it the right choice. It takes balls to rob a bank or shoot up an orphanage, but those are still horrible ideas.

8 Ball
Nov 27, 2010

My hands are all messed up so you better post, brother.
This girl makes me better!

*keeps ballooning in weight*

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TehRedWheelbarrow
Mar 16, 2011



Fan of Britches
fat goon.

high school gal and i had a very complicated thing that ended up extending well into both of our separate marriages and well into my second.

it will destroy both your lives trying to chase "what ifs"

grow the gently caress up and move on for both your sakes or if you remotely give a poo poo about her as a person other than your "what if"

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