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Yo here's my contribution for the evening. [I accidentally posted it in the regular feminism thread first oops] So here is like, #masculinitysofragile ground zero. How does patriarchy hurt men? by policing their actions so hard they can't even put their hands over their face without it being disgusting and feminine. Under patriarchy a woman is the worst thing you can be. Ergo, the worst way you can insult a man is by saying he is like a woman. Gentlemen, regardless of your sexual orientation, it must be exhausting to have to live every day navigating a constant minefield of whether your actions are "masculine" enough to avoid ridicule and ostracizing. Like, not even being able to wear certain colors because they're too "gay." Or moving your hips too much when you dance. Witch Hammer up there is in a social situation that must cause him constant anxiety, that even the smallest mistake can mean he is no longer masculine and acceptable. That's no way to have a healthy society.
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# ¿ Jan 2, 2017 04:28 |
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# ¿ May 22, 2024 15:59 |
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GlyphGryph posted:Having anxiety about this is, in and of itself, unmasculine. oh poo poo, good point! mental healthcare is for weak unmasculine people doing the Extremely Pissed Off Right Wingers reviews in the political forward thread, I certainly notice a theme of gun nuttery paired with toxic masculinity resulting in claims like "if you so much as set foot within a thousand yards of me on my property I will straight murder you because that's what men do" Military worship is a very basic EPORW thing but what I want to point out here is why is it a good thing to be bad at negotiation? Why is a gun the first and only tool a soldier (or a man) should have? rudatron posted:This is a massive topic in itself, and is probably, more than any other reason, the number 1 cause of MRAs existing - men who do not 'fit' within masculine roles overcompensating. do not get me started on MRAs. that shithole is so wide and deep. MRA, PUA, incel, men going their own way, all of them unhealthy coping mechanisms built up around perceived failures to Man well enough. (see: Elliot Rodger)
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# ¿ Jan 2, 2017 04:43 |
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brae posted:I wonder why they bother with the "please" after the "I am a lord of battle" preface. I find it helps to think of the audience for these memes as six year olds.
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# ¿ Jan 2, 2017 04:59 |
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Tiny Brontosaurus posted:I would like to point out that you entered this conversation - your very first post on the subject - was to correct a "logical error." This is an illustration of toxic masculinity. Your socialized belief that you know best and your opinion is worth the most regardless of how ignorant you may be on a topic is actively preventing you from learning. Patriarchy is making you less than you could be. like, why is it so loving important to men to make sure their opinion gets equal weight and exposure, no matter how inconsequential or ignorant? I can point to direct societal forces and policing actions for the macho masculinity stuff but this is a more ambiguous or subtle reinforcement I think. What does that socialization look like? Maybe calling on men over women in class is part of it. Maybe men dominating every discussion is part of it. Maybe the conflation of men with science and logic and reason? the men who overcome their instinct to just flap their mouths in every situation and are able to just sit and listen and think definitely have an advantage.
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# ¿ Jan 2, 2017 06:14 |
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OwlFancier posted:I think perhaps it is less a socialization to speak, and more a complete absence of socialization to hold your tongue. I 100% was socialized to watch what I said and when I said it very carefully. The only times I ever got in trouble in school were for "talking back." At the time I didn't see it as a gendered difference
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# ¿ Jan 2, 2017 06:35 |
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OwlFancier posted:You do get told not to be disruptive but that really just teaches you to moderate your subjects, actually just speaking is rarely discouraged as long as it is judged relevant. Your teacher/parents will probably approve of you giving a good answer or saying something interesting. "Let the boys answer" is definitely something I heard in classrooms where 2-3 girls were raising our hands for everything. messed up in retrospect. blackguy32 posted:some of the loudest men that have opinions on feminism have never picked up a feminist text in most of their life. blackguy32 posted:There are plenty of times where I keep my mouth shut. Many times its around cops, other times its because you don't want to deal with a debate where the other side isn't going to listen to what you have to say regardless.
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# ¿ Jan 2, 2017 06:57 |
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Tiny Brontosaurus posted:I remember one time a white guy showed me the laminated bill of rights he kept in his wallet. I'm told libertarians of color exist but I honestly don't understand how. You need like a massive amount of privilege and willful ignorance about how it works to remain a libertarian Tiny Brontosaurus posted:Good thing the somethingawful dotcom forums are a respite from the harsh realities of the outside world
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# ¿ Jan 2, 2017 07:24 |
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Mendrian posted:This is definitely close to the truth, I think. GlyphGryph posted:
over in EPORW land there are two major schools of responses on bullies. These are responses to a macro that says "'Like' if you would you stand up for a child being bullied" (the child being laughed at is of course a cute little white girl but that's another thread) Half the commenters lamented that kids would never learn to stand up for themselves if we didn't let them be bullied The other half were self-aggrandizing tough guy stories about how they made bullies eat dirt and saved the day Basically waxing nostalgic about bum fights between kids. Note that in both of these violence is the answer. There is no room for empathy or problem solving or conflict resolution. Not fighting back means you're not "standing up for yourself" and it's heavily implied that the child being bullied thus gets what he not only deserves, but NEEDS, to give him impetus to join the cult of violent masculinity. That must really suck if you're less physically intimidating, or if you just don't want to participate in socially sanctioned violence. By saying "these are the skills you need to make it in the adult world" (not empathy or conflict resolution) we're setting men up to be lovely to each other, and violent in their home life. quote:It does make me feel bad for the girls though, who I suspect were largely socialized to believe that pain is inherently bad or some sort of weird stuff like that. Causing pain to others is bad, yes...
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# ¿ Jan 2, 2017 16:43 |
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GlyphGryph posted:Perhaps instead of trying to explain to me what I'm "not seeing", you could try asking or listening or otherwise trying to understand what I'm really saying and where I'm coming from? So like, as far as what I hear you saying about pain having a purpose, eat something spicy or climb a mountain with your friends, and feel the satisfaction of something you've worked hard and sacrificed to accomplish. Basically this OwlFancier posted:I don't think things which encourage people to hurt each other are things that are necessary for living a fulfilled life
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# ¿ Jan 2, 2017 18:46 |
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Nerses IV posted:There's a lot of stuff out there I won't challenge, mostly because I don't see it as actual victimization. for example, starting my English major I specifically resented having to read anything but dead white males (In that specific phrasing), and I avoided women's studies classes like a plague. I was limiting myself, and I didn't realize until later it's because I was taught there was this hegemonic "canon" of writers, and I totally perceived that if I hadn't read Joyce or Hemingway et al then I wouldn't be allowed to access the Ivy halls of power I so desperately wanted.
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