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been sober for about three months now, it is frickin great and i am really happy about it my only advice is this: every time you take a drink, really pay attention to what is happening to you. when you are drunk, really pay attention to how you feel. the next day, be completely honest with yourself about your feelings and reactions to last night's drinking. if being sober is something you genuinely want, and you pay attention to what happens to you when you drink, and you are honest with yourself about its effects on you, you will realize that you feel a lot better when you don't drink. if being sober isn't something that you want, don't worry about it so much, just find a relationship to alcohol that works for you.
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Ork of Fiction posted:Get a bag and fill it with door knobs then scream and scream into the bag take one of the doorknobs out of the bag put it to your head and then use it to open ur mind.
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tiltposter posted:actually i drink to do the opposite that's fine, but you're not trying to quit! the op was asking how to quit.
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Aging Millenial posted:People, you are going about this the wrong away. The problem isn't you. The problem is reality. It loving sucks. you at least started down the right track, but you got lost in the woods pretty quick. to quit it helps to recognize something pretty simple: the spiritual basis of AA is on point. their expression of it may not be for everyone, may even be a little tyrannical, but the idea that to truly quit you need a spiritual revolution is right. and you, aging millenial, are right to say that people use drugs to lessen spiritual pain. because it is all about the spiritual aspect. there is no necessity to use drugs to address your spiritual difficulties. you can, of course; but to necessitate it is to overstate the case and enslave yourself to just another concrete solution. there are no concrete solutions. you just have to sit, often uncomfortably, with what is going on with you. that's about it. drug abuse is a way to avoid this uncomfortable sitting-with. drug USE can aid in this sitting, but it can quickly become a crutch. since what is going on with you is bound to be different from moment to moment, there cannot be a single solution; the solution is always defined by the terms of the question. learning to pose the question skillfully will ease production of the solution; indeed, a sufficiently skillful question is inseparable from its solution, and produces it immediately. well, that's about it op. if you want to quit, ask your heart to speak to you, and be willing to listen to what it has to say.
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Feb 8, 2017 23:37
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Nonviolent J posted:i miss the flamingo
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Feb 9, 2017 02:41
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there is a lot of negativity itt, and i will tell you op, that is not going to help you quit, so i hope you aren't reading!
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Feb 9, 2017 04:57
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the one in your heart.
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Feb 9, 2017 04:59
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the kingdom of heaven is on earth, friend.
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Feb 9, 2017 05:01
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jesus is in your heart. you are jesus.
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Feb 9, 2017 05:04
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do what you feel.
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Feb 9, 2017 05:20
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it's good you found something that works for you.
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Feb 9, 2017 05:26
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we can all use a little probation time now and then. go for it.
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Feb 9, 2017 05:29
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skeletonotherkin posted:I'm not a social drinker, but I love this sketch. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1_H_sVNgvf4
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there is a power in your heart not dependent on anything outside of you. touch your heart, and you can choose to encounter whatever it is you are avoiding by drinking. this is painful, but less painful than the suffering you cause yourself both by avoiding, and by drinking. if that's not enough, remember that many people in the world right now, and many people who once lived, hold you in their heart in compassion and wish well for you. that compassion is a tool they offer to you freely. you do not have to feel embarrassed to take advantage of it. when your own energy is low, you can draw on this infinite well of compassion to sustain you. you are not alone. the buddha was a very famous person who extended an infinite compassion to all suffering beings, but he was not the only one; probably the hearts that reach out to you are countless, from all times and places. there is always help if you are courageous enough to ask for it.
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Feb 15, 2017 04:36
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zh1 posted:what if the thing you're encountering is late stage capitalism that's ruining the human race and the world at large and can't be resolved by anyone there is no resolution to the causes of suffering. you can only change your attitude toward them. there are ten causes of suffering, according to the buddha, and the last three are non-negotiable: sickness, old age, and death. our society cannot accept any of these three. capitalism is a great engine designed to deny them. although your immediate material conditions are heavily regulated by this system and its desires, you have a space for freedom, both within you, and within your community. it is up to you to embrace your suffering, and to find the unlimited compassion that lives inside you, wanting to be free. you do not need a god to quit drinking, although if you want one, they are available. it is enough to have compassion for yourself, and to see yourself unblinkingly, to begin to change these things that hurt you.
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Feb 15, 2017 04:42
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Feb 15, 2017 04:48
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Corby Haas posted:No one can call you an alcoholic except yourself. Some phrases we use to self-identify include "restless, irritable, and discontent", "childish, grandiose, and emotionally sensitive", or, more colloquially, "the piece of poo poo at the center of the universe". awesome.
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Feb 21, 2017 05:52
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went to mardi gras, still sober. was fun af.
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oh poo poo dad gay is back, is it my birthday already?
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