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Proud To Post In The Pride Thread cishet ally reporting in |
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Jun 18, 2018 02:25
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hamjobs posted:ILU BACON TACO LOVE ACCEPTED |
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Jun 18, 2018 06:08
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hamjobs posted:ILU BACON TACO AND ILU HAMJOBS |
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Jun 18, 2018 06:43
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SciFiDownBeat posted:Proud To Post In The Pride Thread Go directly to Straight Jail. Do not collect 200 Gay Dollars. |
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Jun 18, 2018 14:46
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TVsVeryOwn posted:Go directly to Straight Jail. hey, it's ok, only the cishets who hate us go to straight jail unless they refuse to be lotioned and glittered
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Jun 18, 2018 14:51
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hamjobs posted:hey, it's ok, only the cishets who hate us go to straight jail Opps, sorry. |
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Jun 18, 2018 14:53
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also: we joke about gay jail, but remember--some of us have been to jail just for being who we are, and some of us are threatened with that--our siblings in this world--every day of they live and breathe. donate to RAICES and The Trevor Project and Lambda Legal and Transgender Law Center and the Transgender Justice Project and Trans Lifeline and Planned Parenthood and RAINN because those are the people fighting for us just to exist and we love you all
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Jun 18, 2018 14:53
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Jun 18, 2018 14:53
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TVsVeryOwn posted:What about the Gay Dollars? i hate to tell you this, but as someone who is LGBTQIATSA+ you're statistically more likely to experience wage discrimination, just like we experience housing discrimination, healthcare discrimination, and discrimination within the justice system. our gay dollars only show up in june, which are then gleefully taken away again by people selling us shinies at pride (personal experience only here).
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Jun 18, 2018 15:00
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this month remember our trans mother who loved us the most: marsha payitnomind johnson. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marsha_P._Johnson https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/obituaries/overlooked-marsha-p-johnson.html https://www.biography.com/people/marsha-p-johnson-112717 
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Jun 18, 2018 15:10
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im gay as hell and my ludicrous rear end is ready to destroy Institutions |
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Jun 18, 2018 16:18
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Android Blues posted:im gay as hell and my ludicrous rear end is ready to destroy Institutions let's gay it up friend, big gay steamroller is coming for em all
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Jun 18, 2018 20:44
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im gay and want to smash poo poo |
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Jun 20, 2018 06:15
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i think i identify as straight and im in a monogamous cishet relationship now, but i have experimented with kissing a few bois when i was younger. so idk, maybe i’m a closet bi/pan in denial or something |
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Jun 20, 2018 15:45
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adding to that, any guidelines for how to show allyship without taking up too much space or appropriation/erasure? can/should one attend a parade at all, or |
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Jun 20, 2018 15:51
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ulvir posted:adding to that, any guidelines for how to show allyship without taking up too much space or appropriation/erasure? can/should one attend a parade at all, or Remember that PRIDE is a protest, first and foremost. Attend a parade if you want but understand, it's a march for rights, not just a show we put on for everyone else. The best way to not erase our voices or our images is to boost signal, don't talk over people, don't ask what is in their pants or who they like to gently caress/if they gently caress at all, and don't assume gender identity or orientation. Be open to listening if someone wants to talk. Get hooked up with your local queer family or shelter or resource center or Degenderettes. Ask questions in spaces designated for community education. And above all, love everyone you know with an open heart and mind.
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Jun 20, 2018 20:29
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also while I haven't had this experience, a lot of my friends who live in parts of the US where it's still less accepted, or downright dangerous, to be openly anything but cishet, sometimes the best thing you can do is just go to a pride event and be a physical body showing your support. The more people who attend pride events with good intentions, regardless of their own personal identity, the clearer the signal it sends to people in the area.
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Jun 20, 2018 20:43
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MockingQuantum posted:also while I haven't had this experience, a lot of my friends who live in parts of the US where it's still less accepted, or downright dangerous, to be openly anything but cishet, sometimes the best thing you can do is just go to a pride event and be a physical body showing your support. The more people who attend pride events with good intentions, regardless of their own personal identity, the clearer the signal it sends to people in the area.
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Jun 20, 2018 21:33
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I;m Thinking About Thos Non-cishets |
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Jun 20, 2018 22:11
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SciFiDownBeat posted:I;m Thinking About Thos Non-cishets I don't want to see or be seen by the cishets
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Jun 21, 2018 21:47
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I'm going to share a story about myself, I suppose it's several stories, really- explaining my reasoning for supporting Gay Pride. As a kid growing up sexuality hit me hard and fast at the age of 10. I had no idea what was going on, all I knew was I had urges and desires that I didn't have in the 5th Grade, while dealing wth the newness of the 6th Grade. My peers had thier definition of what and how I should act, and I had no clue. I suppose I had a slight skip to my walk ( I was almost always optimistic and care free) and my voice wasn't very deep. I loved Disco, Soul and R&B but all the other white kids were supposed to like Rock, and most of my friends were African-American. I was polite and courteous, especially to teachers and my elders. Obviously, this all meant I was gay. It also meant I should get my rear end beaten. My neighborhood kids and fellow students were happy to oblige. Rather than fight back (Sunday school said to turn the other cheek) I ran. I could describe many such beatings, dispensed simply because someone decided I was gay, and that I should get my rear end beaten because of it. I won't. As I got older I started lifting weights, put on some muscle and learned how to defend myself. Then I joined the US Air Force, where I felt I would be safe from bullies and senseless beatings. I was wrong. Long story short, while on active duty and in the barracks of an Air Force Base someone else decided I was gay, because I had a friend who I spent a good bit of time with. We were both heading back from a date we had, he with his fiance and me with my girlfriend (after a break-up with my own ex fiance) and this guy mouthed off and came charging down the hall at me. He was drunk. I thought he was just messing around. He clobbered me right in the jaw, knocked me back a good 10 feet and screwed up my spine pretty good. When I came to he was on top of me screaming he was gonna kill me. I don't think it's hard to see how this could trigger PTSD. I also spent a good bit of time at a military mortuary, but that's another story. The exchange went like this: rear end in a top hat (to my friend, who I just walked in the other door with on the other side of the dormitory): Hey, you suck dick! Friend: gently caress you! *he goes into his room, I'm walking toward Airman rear end in a top hat* rear end in a top hat: Hey, Splatmaster, you suck dick too! Me: gently caress you! Him: I'm gonna kick your rear end! Me: Go for it! That's when he charged and came running down the hall at me. I never got out of the way or defended myself, because I never figured anyone would be that stupid to hit someone, for literally no reason other than he was drunk and wanted to beat on someone. He decided in his small, bigotted little mind that my friend and I MUST be gay, because we hung out a lot together. Truth is, he and I were on snow removal duty, and he knew I have a serious driving phobia so we stuck together during the winter and had a common interest (Sunday adults only skating, back in '84-86 or so. Lots of beautiful young ladies, before I met my wife...) My reward for not doing anything was at least herniated 3 discs in my lower back and ruptured discs in my neck that were so bad (in 2005) I had to have surgery to fuse 3 vertebrae together to prevent spinal cord erosion. In the end I've gotten a decent VA disability rating because of the incident, it doesn't make it better but it makes it easier to deal with. I'm not gay, but I'll be damned if anyone else is going to be stopped from living life on their terms... A few years before I joined the Air Force I moved out of the neighborhood that was filled with so many painful memories to a place that was the complete opposite, the High School had students that were mean, but nothing compared to living in the Projects. I became good friends with Tim, and when I got back from Basic Training he asked me to meet him someplace. So I did. He was there waiting for me, with a letter in hand. The letter stated that he was gay, and that if I was disappointed in him, he would understand. Dissappointed in him? For being gay? What he poo poo? I hugged him and told him he can be as gay as he wants, and that's when I realized how special the moment was- it was the first time someone came out to me. It made me realize that for some people, it's a struggle to want to live life one way, but they have to act another to appease everyone else. He was of the mistaken impression that since I was in the Air Force, we couldn't be friends, because at the time the military was struggling with zero tolerance to don't ask don't tell. I met a few folks in the military that were gay, but had to keep quiet about it because while don't ask don't tell was in force, you could still end up having a bad time of it if your supervisor wasn't pro-Gay. They talked to me about it because they needed someone to talk to, and I made them feel comfortable. I'm glad I was able to ease their minds. I wrote a lot, if you made it this far thanks for reading it. You guys make me feel comfortable enough to talk about it. https://i.imgur.com/QKTkerO.mp4 |
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Jun 21, 2018 23:48
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splat  you are a good and pure friend, and i am proud of you, and i am sorry that you were queerbashed just for existing the way you are, even though you're straight.gently caress bigotry. spread love.
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Jun 22, 2018 01:18
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This is really great of you to share this. Thanks, and lots of love. |
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Jun 22, 2018 01:19
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damb splat that's some crazy stories 
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Jun 22, 2018 01:23
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hamjobs posted:splat |
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Jun 22, 2018 01:24
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I'd bet that cishet yobber men have been assumed to be gay at a higher than average rate just because of being chill, fancy free, nice, la la la, not normatively super masculine. I know I have, luckily I've never been assaulted for it It's messed up that people think that not being stereotypically masculine means you're gay and even more messed up that they think that's a bad thing On the other hand i guess it could be considered an inadvertent compliment to gay men in a roundabout way. Wow you're extremely nice and pleasant, what are you gay? well thank you very much for saying so I do try to be nice 
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Jun 22, 2018 01:30
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hamjobs posted:splat I can't put this any better. Thank you Splat.
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Jun 22, 2018 01:54
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hamjobs posted:splat spread love like a disease. |
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Jun 22, 2018 02:20
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not ready posted:spread love like a disease. don't forget free or low-cost STI testing: in the US: https://gettested.cdc.gov/ in Canada: https://www.actioncanadashr.org/ in the UK and Ireland: https://www.fpa.org.uk/find-a-clinic in Australia: http://www.mshc.org.au/ in New Zealand: http://www.familyplanning.org.nz/clinics anywhere in Europe not listed: https://ecdc.europa.eu/en/test-finder planned parenthood also has additional resources available to help connect you to sti testing worldwide check yourself and save your health, yobs
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Jun 22, 2018 02:35
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you're good people splat, i'm glad your still here with us
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Jun 22, 2018 03:38
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Jun 22, 2018 12:30
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Jun 22, 2018 12:31
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Thank you for sharing splat <3not ready posted:spread love like a disease. A zombie film, but the "infected" are just full of chill and good vibes |
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Jun 22, 2018 13:43
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ya thanks for sharing that powerful story. i’ve been bullied for not being super masculine myself and called gay as if that was supposed to be bad, but nowhere near your experience. |
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Jun 22, 2018 18:29
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alnilam posted:Wow you're extremely nice and pleasant, what are you gay? well thank you very much for saying so I do try to be nice |
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Jun 22, 2018 18:29
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One of the people who bullied me pretty badly in school for being queer just came out on Facebook and sincerely apologised to me. This has been a good moment.
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Jun 22, 2018 20:43
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Jun 22, 2018 21:19
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hamjobs posted:One of the people who bullied me pretty badly in school for being queer just came out on Facebook and sincerely apologised to me. |
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Jun 22, 2018 21:36
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im bi and bitter
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