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i came home from the airport late Saturday night. There were a group of guys outside my neighbors looking around and just looking weird. I asked what's up. Apparently while neighbors were hosting a group, someone came up in their front yard and ripped down a gay pride flag. i'm straight. i don't know my neighbors. but i liked looking at it in the mornings and being like "right on." i've already ordered a replacement flag, and have plans to go introduce myself and offer the replacement, with the caveat that they don't need to hang it back up, since it might get got, again. I have friends and a family member in the community, and I'm all about rights, and flying that flag. I want to tell them I want to bust the head of the person that did that. it's not a super great neighborhood, but that poo poo is kind of past the line. I didn't do anything when I saw Trump signs, and recently Youngkin (Virginia). Kind of makes me regret that I didn't do anything, but that'd be stooping to the level. bottom line, am i going to come off as really weird and awkward? (i mean besides my innate weirdness and awkwardness) would this be a stupid gesture? i don't want to put pressure on anyone. and like i said, i'd be happy if they took it and just chucked it in their closet or something. i'd just like them to know that at least someone in the neighborhood recognizes what happened, and think it's lovely.
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Mar 21, 2022 03:59
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i dunno dude
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Mar 21, 2022 04:04
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I've lived here for about 10 years. I know my other next door neighbor as "Neighbor Jeff", and I've had a word exchange with him maybe 6 times in the whole time. He called me before, saying a huge black dude was walking down my driveway pushing a bike. I don't own a bike, so idk. But I looked in my backyard, and could see the path that was taken through the ivy. I have about 10' of ivy ground cover in my back-backyard. My neighbors across the street are an elderly couple that baby sit a lot. And I helped the grandmother push her mini-van out of the snowy slush once. we're not really like a "waving" neighborhood. but that incident that happened just really grinds my gears.
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Mar 21, 2022 04:04
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kntfkr posted:i dunno dude lol, cmon now. lemme get them 'pinions.
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Mar 21, 2022 04:05
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they might have already ordered a replacement flag. why don't you fly your own pride flag so you can offer solidarity without having to actually talk to anybody
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Mar 21, 2022 04:05
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The answer depends heavily on what part of VA you're in
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Mar 21, 2022 04:06
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kntfkr posted:they might have already ordered a replacement flag. why don't you fly your own pride flag so you can offer solidarity without having to actually talk to anybody honestly considered it, but I'd want their.. blessing? That sounds stupid. But I feel like I should talk to them first.
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Mar 21, 2022 04:07
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William Henry Hairytaint posted:The answer depends heavily on what part of VA you're in The Hampton Roads area. but kind of the lower income area. Which is why I was surprised with the Youngkin signs. But then I saw the lifted trucks with like 4 exhaust tubes. or pipes. or whatever. to be fair, their house is one of the nicer ones on the street. the previous house was a little ol' one like mine. That was demolished and then a nice 2-story was built.
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Mar 21, 2022 04:08
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just how weird will I seem, if i go over, introduce myself, and offer a new flag? i have never done anything like this. I only know neighbor jeff because I left a note in his mailbox with my phone number when I was going to be out of town for about a month, and said if he saw any moving trucks, or fires, or whatever to text me. he apparently kept my number, which is cool. i appreciate neighbor jeff. he even used his water key to turn off my water when I had a spigot break off on the outside of my house and just spewed water. everyone should have at least a neighbor jeff.
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Mar 21, 2022 04:12
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I live in VA and have seen many pride flags, none ripped down Hope this helps op
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Mar 21, 2022 04:12
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Seth Pecksniff posted:I live in VA and have seen many pride flags, none ripped down they've had it for at least a couple years. It's just lovely to think that I might live around bigots. I don't know. whereabouts Seth?
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Mar 21, 2022 04:14
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Giving people you don't know very well at all a pride flag is gonna be kinda awkward no matter how they react but if they react well you've potentially made some new friends. And it's not like you're in podunk Farmville or some other tiny town where it's gonna be inserted directly into the rumor mill and circulate for months. Youngkin is a shithead and our state deserves better.
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Mar 21, 2022 04:15
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i think whether or not you come off as awkward and feel embarrassed has nothing to do with the act of saying hello to your neighbors and giving them a token of support, and everything to do with how well you can naturally approach and engage others socially. since you had enough anxiety about it make this post, i can make a pretty good guess. but unless you are particularly invested in what these neighbors (who i assume are basically strangers to you at this point) think about you, just do it. nothing to lose really.
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Mar 21, 2022 04:16
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Yeah that's part of living in VA outside of NoVA/Richmond/Charlottesville Drove to Warrenton the other day. Quaint little town but I know it's chud central once you get outside the downtown core For some real advice just introduce yourself and offer to buy another
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Mar 21, 2022 04:16
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Instead of the replacement flag send them something nice like Edible Arrangements with a note that you are sorry for what happened to them, that you hope the basket helps a little, and that you support them. End the note with your name and number.
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Mar 21, 2022 04:17
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you could give the flag as an anonymous gift-- but if they ask "was that you" you gotta cop to it. that's the rules!!
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Mar 21, 2022 04:19
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William Henry Hairytaint posted:Giving people you don't know very well at all a pride flag is gonna be kinda awkward no matter how they react but if they react well you've potentially made some new friends. And it's not like you're in podunk Farmville or some other tiny town where it's gonna be inserted directly into the rumor mill and circulate for months. This is heartening. And, i'll take it. I just know how I look (not very liberal at all, if we use stereotypes). But, I think I might actually do it. or just throw it on their porch with a note and run away. one of those things. I liked to call Youngkin, Blumpkin. it made me feel a bit better about seeing his stupid f'ing signs. Someone had a huge banner in my neighborhood, and i wanted to light it on fire so bad. But, I didn't, cause apparently I'm more civilized than whatever bigot pulled down a gay pride flag.
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Mar 21, 2022 04:21
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maybe they pulled down their own flag and they are crisis actors
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Mar 21, 2022 04:22
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these are all great suggestions, guys. now i have to fret over exactly what to do, lol.
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Mar 21, 2022 04:23
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Bad Purchase posted:maybe they pulled down their own flag and they are crisis actors  i had not considered thatBad Purchase posted:i think whether or not you come off as awkward and feel embarrassed has nothing to do with the act of saying hello to your neighbors and giving them a token of support, and everything to do with how well you can naturally approach and engage others socially. since you had enough anxiety about it make this post, i can make a pretty good guess. This is a good post. I'm not really anxious about doing it, just don't want to come off as weird or awkward (which i get is basically anxiety, shush you) appreciate the feedback. blight rhino fucked around with this message at 04:26 on Mar 21, 2022 |
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Mar 21, 2022 04:23
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Look I'ma go out on a limb here, and I'm no genius or nothing, but don't you think your racist neighbor Jeff might have had something to do with ripping the pride flag down? It's a flag bro, very easily replaceable. Maybe you should go halfsies on a ring camera or something more constructive? Also, sorry you live in Virginia. I'm from southern MD, same poo poo. God bless y'all real good now
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Mar 21, 2022 04:30
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interwhat posted:Look I'ma go out on a limb here, and I'm no genius or nothing, but don't you think your racist neighbor Jeff might have had something to do with ripping the pride flag down? Lol Southern MD, like St. Marys? PG county? Waldorf? I lived in St. Mary's for a handful of years. And yeah, I considered neighbor Jeff as a culprit, but he has two little tiny dogs, and keeps to himself. (which is a great cover story, if you think about it) During the commotion when I came home upon the group of guys, I think they said they had cameras. But I was half listening because I was exhausted from flying. (in a plane)
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Mar 21, 2022 04:34
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You could like ask them of they want a replacement and tell them you're sorry about what happened and see if they can use some support
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Mar 21, 2022 04:35
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blight rhino posted:Lol Southern MD, like St. Marys? PG county? Waldorf? I lived in St. Mary's for a handful of years. Lol yea, born in St Mary's at PAX, middle school and high school were spent in Calvert. The only thing I miss about Maryland is being able to take my little sailboat out on the river whenever I want. Curious about who you are and if we ever crossed paths, kinda cool. Goin to bed though pm if you like. I live in Ohio now though, it's both better and worse and basically exactly the same, minus the beautiful Chesapeake
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Mar 21, 2022 04:40
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Hell yeah it's weird. What, you got a problem with that?
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Mar 21, 2022 04:50
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Buy them a forums account OP and let them weigh in
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Mar 21, 2022 05:00
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Treecko posted:You could like ask them of they want a replacement and tell them you're sorry about what happened and see if they can use some support True. I've already purchased it. Maybe, I'll go to the door and just throw it at them as it slowly unfurls, and they'll be in awe of the neighborhood support. interwhat posted:Lol yea, born in St Mary's at PAX, middle school and high school were spent in Calvert. The only thing I miss about Maryland is being able to take my little sailboat out on the river whenever I want. Curious about who you are and if we ever crossed paths, kinda cool. Goin to bed though pm if you like. Ewwww. Calvert. lol, just kidding. It all kinda sucked. I was more local around PAX, California, Leonardtown, Hollywood. We did have a privately owned pier we used, and I 'ran away' and lived on our boat for like 3 months. I will have to update this thread in the next couple of days.
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Mar 21, 2022 05:01
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Aren't you worried that it'll make you look guilty? What if they think it was you that stole the flag and are now trying to assuage your guilt by replacing it?
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Mar 21, 2022 05:06
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Have you considered that there might be more going on? That you might be a Targeted Individual? I'm trying to raise awareness for it here: https://forums.somethingawful.com/showthread.php?threadid=3997290 It is more common than you think.
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Mar 21, 2022 05:21
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blight rhino posted:just how weird will I seem, if i go over, introduce myself, and offer a new flag? I’m gonna be totally honest, OP. You sound like a guy who is already incredibly weird, and everyone but you knows it.
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Mar 21, 2022 05:25
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If you throw the pride flag at thier door they'll think you're a bigot making a hate crime. Maybe. You should just talked first.
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Mar 21, 2022 05:28
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You obviously mean well. Just give it to them directly and stop fretting about it.
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Mar 21, 2022 05:46
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I just poo poo my pants
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Mar 21, 2022 06:00
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Never mind the Pride Flag, give them a Black Flag flag.
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Mar 21, 2022 06:00
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Why don’t you just put up another one but soak it in the semen of every gay man in town. That way, when it dries and they try to rip it from the earth with their hands, they will have the semen of many men on their hands and satisfaction will be yours.
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Mar 21, 2022 06:04
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Naw too gay we need a better plan
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Mar 21, 2022 06:20
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kntfkr posted:they might have already ordered a replacement flag. why don't you fly your own pride flag so you can offer solidarity without having to actually talk to anybody this is the correct answer but i bet op won't even ask them to bless the flag first Bloodfart McCoy posted:Never mind the Pride Flag, give them a Black Flag flag. does anyone have a shirt like this but with like, gay dads? that's the best idea i have good luck 
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Mar 21, 2022 06:27
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you could just give it to them anonymously somehow. either post it to them or slip it through the door at a quiet moment. then they'll be like 'who sent this? could be anyone around herel'. you'll know it was you and feel good and they might enjoy not knowing more. that's what i'd do.
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Mar 21, 2022 06:31
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Have you posted this question on Nextdoor?
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Mar 21, 2022 06:34
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I agree with goons saying introduce yourself, express your displeasure at the situation, then offer to buy them a flag. If they say "don't bother," insist, but respect their decision. Congrats you own a pride flag. You're an ally, only cowards don't try.
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