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Buce posted:Day 11,347 Why are you quoting the Tucker Carlson diaries?
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Mar 6, 2023 09:19
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I was (more) socially inept as a late teen and early 20 something. I was also badly dressed and had stupidly high standards. Then in my mid 20s I lived somewhere with legalized sex work so I stopped caring completely and got nearly morbidly obese. Looking back there's a girl I used to work with in my early 20s who was almost always looking at me any time I looked up at her. Never did anything because I be thought I could do "better" if I waited and got swole. I deserved to be slapped silly for being such an idiot. She was cute 
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Mar 6, 2023 09:22
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I was 16 lmao
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Mar 6, 2023 10:41
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Neither of us came because it's too cold in February to be trying to gently caress in the woods. Still remember it fondly he was a good dude
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Mar 6, 2023 10:56
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Benny Harvey posted:I was (more) socially inept as a late teen and early 20 something. I was also badly dressed and had stupidly high standards. That's the thing about ridiculous lopsided standards, I think a lot of people have them as a defense mechanism. Like you have this subconscious block that protects you from trying and failing(or, even scarier, succeeding) with someone in your "weight class" by convincing yourself that your only goal is sex with Hollywood hot models. Because when they turn you down it's because they're too shallow or you're understandably fat or whatever instead of a normal/"ugly" person shooting you down because then you have to do some introspection. I noticed it in a lot of...ok I tried googling a modern term for it but...Fag Hags(I can say it my husband is trans?) back in the day when they'd exclusively develope crushes on their GBFs because ultimately they couldn't have them through no fault of their own. The whole thing is a bummer because I know from experience those little hang ups (he's chubby, she's got acne, I keep staring at their crooked tooth) fade in time and you really can grow to find someone attractive if you give their other traits a chance. Sgt. Politeness fucked around with this message at 21:36 on Mar 6, 2023 |
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Mar 6, 2023 21:33
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Mar 6, 2023 21:36
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call me old fashioned but i only gently caress with hoes who rock dolce & gabana
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Mar 6, 2023 22:41
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Sgt. Politeness posted:That's the thing about ridiculous lopsided standards, I think a lot of people have them as a defense mechanism. Like you have this subconscious block that protects you from trying and failing(or, even scarier, succeeding) with someone in your "weight class" by convincing yourself that your only goal is sex with Hollywood hot models. Because when they turn you down it's because they're too shallow or you're understandably fat or whatever instead of a normal/"ugly" person shooting you down because then you have to do some introspection. I noticed it in a lot of...ok I tried googling a modern term for it but...Fag Hags(I can say it my husband is trans?) back in the day when they'd exclusively develope crushes on their GBFs because ultimately they couldn't have them through no fault of their own. You know I was going to disagree with you on the grounds that this girl seemed a cert. But then I saw you added "or even scarier, succeeding" and drat...
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Mar 7, 2023 13:09
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OP, very few people seem to be taking your question seriously, so I'll try to lend a hand. I lost my virginity as a teenager, but an examination of some notable subforums indicates that adult virgins get super into politics and--regardless of their specific political orientation--start to believe that womens' romantic preferences are dictated by abstract political concepts instead of things like emotional maturity, confidence, and hygiene.
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Mar 7, 2023 14:31
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If you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best
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Mar 7, 2023 16:08
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CyprianLatewood posted:something I've been curious about is like where do people even meet other people these days? even before covid i don't think people were meeting strangers in bars or whatever aside from like random hookups, and it seems like I'm not attractive enough for online dating. every match I've ever had has been a mistaken swipe, a fake account, or someone who unmatches after a day or so, even when they actually sounded interested in meeting me some time. Have you tried Meetup? I've also used local groups on Facebook.
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Mar 7, 2023 16:14
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Lost my virginity at 24, didn't enjoy it that much. Haven't had sex in the 14 years since. So I'd say I'm virgin-adjacent. At some point I had to conclude I was asexual, although I tried to fight off the realization for a while.
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Mar 7, 2023 16:18
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Icochet posted:If you can't handle me at my Eggland's worst you don't deserve me at my Eggland's best
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Mar 7, 2023 16:46
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Visiting sex workers was brought up earlier. It's fine if you're just curious about what sex feels like but I can confirm that otherwise it doesn't really feel like it "counts". Tbh the handful of times I've kissed girls are more meaningful and fondly remembered than any bought gently caress I've had
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Mar 7, 2023 18:16
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Technically my penis was inside my mother’s vagina during the birthing process. Caesarean babies are the only true virgins
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Mar 9, 2023 19:54
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I was actually 21 when I first had full on sex. I was a late bloomer at least among my friends. I remember guys trying to pressure me into it in high school and I was too scared of it so I didn't, even though I did everything else but p in v. I was afraid it would hurt or I would get pregnant or something. When I did lose my virginity it was actually a good experience and I don't regret waiting at all. I guess it's different for girls though. But I've heard so many horror stories from people about their first time.
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Mar 9, 2023 20:25
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get that bussy popped
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Mar 9, 2023 20:38
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Putty posted:Remember the formula guys Page 5-6 - Johns show up to discuss their Johnnery
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Mar 9, 2023 21:03
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CyprianLatewood posted:It seems like it would be kind of depressing. The one time i had sex was with an emotional connection with someone who I felt I really got along with pretty well, but we had both had drinks and she was a few years older than me and didn't really want to be involved after that, I think she felt like she was too old for me (I didn't think so, she was 35 and I was 29, but that's not my decision to make). Paying someone a few hundred dollars to have sex with me just feels like it would be pretty depressing overall, I would prefer to be with someone who actually wants to be with me rather than someone who's just going to work. You seem like a nice enough and self-aware person. I think a mental health professional could help with your sad brains. Also do mushrooms and bang grannies & grampies Bad Purchase posted:grannies and grandpas are desperate for sex, they are overlooked because of their age, but actually they have a ton of experience to offer and aren’t as picky as young or middle aged men and women Flowers for QAnon fucked around with this message at 21:56 on Mar 9, 2023 |
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Mar 9, 2023 21:53
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Da gently caress
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Mar 9, 2023 22:25
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never gonna stop give it up such a dirty mind always get it up for the touch older kind my my my wooooooooooo
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Mar 9, 2023 22:37
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don't knock the granussy till you've tried it is what I always say
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Mar 9, 2023 22:50
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I'm gay as hell and God says I can't gently caress guys
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Mar 9, 2023 22:51
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oh? you touch my tra la la? edit: my ding ding dong?
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Mar 9, 2023 22:51
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i have a feeling the guy in the whistle song asking for someone to blow his whistle isnt literally talking about a whistle
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Mar 9, 2023 23:15
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Cosmik Slop posted:Lost my virginity at 24, didn't enjoy it that much. Haven't had sex in the 14 years since. So I'd say I'm virgin-adjacent. At some point I had to conclude I was asexual, although I tried to fight off the realization for a while. Yeah losing one's virginity is way overrated. My own first experience was not wonderful and memorable. I think many would say the same, especially women. Do you ever jack it or jill it? If so, you're not without sexual impulses, so "asexual" would surely be a bit strong a term for it? (No need to answer of course if it's too personal / none of our business, more a question to ask yourself anyway.) Perhaps more like your If your first sexual experience left you feeling brutalized, the memory would be colouring your preferences still both consciously and unconsciously, unless you've, err, unloaded about it a lot with e.g. a good pschotherapist or counsellor. I must share more sexual history with mine soon. BigBadSteve fucked around with this message at 15:16 on Mar 10, 2023 |
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Mar 10, 2023 15:14
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BigBadSteve posted:Yeah losing one's virginity is way overrated. My own first experience was not wonderful and memorable. I think many would say the same, especially women. Yeah, it's sort of in a grey zone. I definitely understand sexuality and experience what I would believe would be described as sexual impulses. Used to whack it all the time when I was younger, still do of course but less so as I age. It's more that trying to have sex with someone else has always felt like a terrifying surrealistic nightmare, like being trapped in an H R Giger print. (I've stumbled across the term "achoriosexuality" which seems to fit but the whole modern craze for finding more and more narrow, specific definitions for various human poo poo leaves me kind of cold). It could very well just be my neuroses acting up, body image issues and whatnot.
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Cosmik Slop posted:Yeah, it's sort of in a grey zone. I definitely understand sexuality and experience what I would believe would be described as sexual impulses. Used to whack it all the time when I was younger, still do of course but less so as I age. It's more that trying to have sex with someone else has always felt like a terrifying surrealistic nightmare, like being trapped in an H R Giger print. (I've stumbled across the term "achoriosexuality" which seems to fit but the whole modern craze for finding more and more narrow, specific definitions for various human poo poo leaves me kind of cold). It could very well just be my neuroses acting up, body image issues and whatnot.  I can relate to a lot of what you're saying. I was a normal sex haver up until my early 30s, then just got over relationships or hook ups in general. Then started all sorts of brain meds to help me feel better, that basically just removed all sexual drive, mentally and physically, that I had left. It kind of sucks. Plus the fact that I've gained a lot of weight doesn't really help with my self image. I've made it to the gym a few times in the last couple weeks, but it is nowhere near a routine, yet.
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Pretty sure asexuals aren't literally sexless eunuchs or your grandma
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Mar 10, 2023 20:56
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Prove it! by not having sex
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Mar 10, 2023 21:57
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Colonel Cancer posted:Pretty sure asexuals aren't literally sexless eunuchs or your grandma I've seen everything from "sex is an utterly baffling and alien concept to me, i have never thought or done anything sexual" to ""yeah I'm married and have sex with my spouse regularly but I don't really, y'know, vibe with it" and some of these are like uhhhhh E: maybe we need to bring back the time honored "volcel" Cosmik Slop fucked around with this message at 23:59 on Mar 10, 2023 |
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Mar 10, 2023 23:56
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its easy to not have sex. I do it every day
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Mar 11, 2023 00:00
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My memories don't go back far enough to remember being a virgin 
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Yeah it's more of a "getting it over with" thing, both for the discomfort and awkwardness for both parties. You can have more fun after that. I got an adult buddy who isn't ace or gay but gets violently ill from his attempts even when the ladies are ready to roll, because anxiety. It's super frustrating to him and kind of sad all around, and it's not like I can really offer any advice. Like, that's therapist territory. He just gave up and is still sad about it. Won't pay for it either, which I totally get. Just kind of a bummer.
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syntaxfunction posted:My memories don't go back far enough to remember being a virgin Okay I just want to apologize for my post, I didn't see yours first.
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Mar 11, 2023 01:14
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loaded up on boner pills
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Mar 11, 2023 01:24
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The Butcher posted:Yeah it's more of a "getting it over with" thing, both for the discomfort and awkwardness for both parties. That might even be something that meds would help with more than therapy. I used to get sick from anxiety like that but when I went on antidepressants it improved. Now I get that way a little bit with a new person but not as much. Obviously I don't know that guy but it's just what helped me. Unfortunately for men a lot of antidepressants cause issues with sex but I think the newer ones aren't as bad for that
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dsf posted:its easy to not have sex. I do it every day Even a non-Catholic kid can do it!
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Prof. Crocodile posted:OP, very few people seem to be taking your question seriously, so I'll try to lend a hand. Yes, but the sample size there is skewed toward men with hangups about virginity large enough to make it their identity and seek out a community to help them rationalize why. And to formulate excuses for them to never change, because to change oneself is the single hardest thing any modern person can do.
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