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First of all, let me get this out of the way. This is not at all about the rules of this forum, this subforum, or any other subforum, regardless of background color. The forum rules don’t have much impact on the world outside of the forum. I am not telling or suggesting to anyone how they should or should not moderate to forum and nobody needs to be banned or probated. My interest is in how you behave outside of this forum and the impact your words and actions have on yourself and others. I am asking you to please, voluntarily, do not use this term in real life, or at all, and I hope you will take this topic seriously and not flippantly dismiss it which is why this is posted here and not in a more casual place. It is in my view, just as it is not acceptable to call me a human being or a tranny, or to call yourself or your friends that for contemptable behavior, it is not acceptable to use the word “retard” to refer to people with cognitive impairments and learning disabilities or to point at absurd or contemptable behavior and refer to is as retarded. Not Acceptable R-word PSA - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T549VoLca_Q Spread the Word to End the Word - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ru4xSKnVHhw NoGoodWay to use the r-word - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D8i3CnpJAno Self-advocates speak out about the R-word - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZU8iSGsUFHA I believe that this word embodies oppression and one of the most manifest and profound stigmas we have. People with cognitive impairments are dehumanized. The concept of intelligence is often conflated with a virtue, with humanity and therefore those who are intellectually disabled are often seen as lacking in that humanity. They are at greater risk for being raped or molested throughout their lives, in addition to physical abuse and torture. There are exceptions to the federal minimum wage for disabled employees and therefore these people are also severely exploited. The impact of the stigma is embodied in even modern institutions such the Judge Rotenberg center. And historical examples of profoundly abusive institutions where people’s teeth were knocked out as a matter of policy, even if the client had no history of biting. There are people alive today who live with the scars and trauma of this stigma. They have been maimed by these institutions. Here are some examples. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ev80qEtp2u4 Judge Rotenburg Center - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y909QxWVV8g You might argue that, “I don’t agree with any of that, what does that have to do with the word?” This is about stigma. As this term is used as a playground insult, when you point at contemptible behavior and use this term, you are promoting the beliefs and practices that dehumanize people with intellectual disabilities. People with intellectual disabilities, which are not always visible, hear you. People who have family members and friends hear you. In my short time here, I have picked up on how many folks here are deeply conscientious people with strong, if diverging beliefs about justice and fairness. I believe the overwhelming majority of you want the world to be a better place but this seems to be a blind spot for some folks who otherwise have good politics. I’ve been reading the SAcyclopedia to catch up on some of the in jokes. It seems that these forums have gone through many changes over the years. That’s good. I am not here to shame you for how you used to be. It shows growth. It shows progress. But this does seem to be a part of the culture and I really hope you are not internalizing those beliefs and are not using it in public or elsewhere. I hope that this community has reached a point in its evolution to discuss this with maturity and grace. If nothing else reaches you folks, the term is at the very least gauche, dated, and makes you seem like you have no class or manners at all. It is not funny and it makes you look cringe. My feeling when I see this term used is not offense or being “triggered.” Instead I feel a secondhand cringe that someone here would embarrass themselves by using such a tired, unfunny, and outdated insult. It is something embarrassing people would say. What to use instead? Honestly, in my opinion, I would rather people did not further stigma against people over their intelligence and come up with better explanations for why contemptible people are the way they are but I understand this may not be meeting you where you are at. I do struggle with this myself sometimes. But, powerful people are generally not “stupid” but have a disagreeable ideology, engage in groupthink, are pandering, or are lacking in judgment. People behaving in silly or absurd ways in various forms of media or in your day to day lives can similarly be explained without resorting to stigmatizing people who struggle with cognition and learning. Maybe they lack support, or manners, or class, or think something is funny that isn’t funny.
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# ¿ Oct 27, 2023 05:15 |
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# ¿ May 10, 2024 07:11 |
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SamuraiFoochs posted:I'm a person with a non-cognitive disability who's been called a retard as a slur plenty of times, and this post...kinda infuriates me. Let me be clear. I don't use the word. I haven't in at least 15 years. Probably longer. That's mostly because I don't want to offend people, and there are, in my estimation, far more palatable versions that're less offensive anyway, so what's the point? Here's why it infuriates me though. That is a good point and I do agree there are bigger problems. I'm affected by some of them. I can't get married to my partner because of disability income limits. I do think that eliminating the casual use of the word is a good first step in reducing stigma that perhaps fuels some of the lack of care but yes the other things you highlight are absolutely more important.
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# ¿ Oct 27, 2023 07:06 |
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Rappaport posted:Because dungeons and debates is about pedantry, there is a non-human-affiliated use of the word "retarded". But speaking of people, I wouldn't use the term and would consider it offensive if someone else did. I don't think many people are complaining about paint retarder medium or fire retardant.
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# ¿ Oct 27, 2023 13:15 |
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Jesus III posted:It's fun watching the word that used to be the right word become the wrong word. I hope I live long enough to see it happen over and over. Language is amazing. I don't think, strictly speaking, you were ever supposed to call people "retard" as a playground insult, even when "mentally retarded" was the legal and medical term. I think people tossing around this status as an insult or to label things that are contemptible is stigmatizing regardless of the term used.
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# ¿ Oct 27, 2023 17:04 |
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queeb posted:I guess if you're an airline pilot I don't think people are referring to technical uses of the term that have nothing at all to do with low intelligence. Like I mentioned earlier, I have a bottle of paint retarder medium on my worktable for my warhammer 40k stuff. People have sense enough to recognize that is not a slur. SamuraiFoochs posted:I think this is a comment towards my post, and if it is I promise you I don't think people should use the word and like I said I haven't in at LEAST 15 years. At least. Nor do I know anyone who even semi-regularly does anymore. This is a good thing. However, if YOU think there aren't people who go "slur gone, -ism over" and that that attitude isn't problematic towards further progress, then I have a bridge to sell you. I recognize that is true. Its similar to how ignorant white people think that racism is over since they are under pressure not to say the n-word at work, and therefore we need to scale back efforts against police brutality or economic inequality. Zoeb fucked around with this message at 05:35 on Oct 29, 2023 |
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# ¿ May 10, 2024 07:11 |
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My suspicion is that there are many people that get very defensive about their use of the term because there's a certain cognitive dissonance that comes from wanting to see yourself as conscientious but also wanting to use a word that sounds funny and is fun to say even if it's harmful and cruel. I think deep down folks who say this term but are otherwise conscientious people, they know that it's wrong. So when someone calls them out on using this term, they go on the offensive, they say that people criticizing them are bourgeois or policing the language of the working class. "And actually aren't you the real problem because you're not talking about the shortage of DSPs?" But ultimately none of that is the real reason that they say the r-word. They say they are word because it's funny and because it's cruel and they don't want to make the hard decision to remove it from their vocabulary.
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