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PriorMarcus
Oct 17, 2008

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I fully believe it, but just for anyone that ask, where's the receipts for the latest Linehan poo poo?

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PriorMarcus
Oct 17, 2008

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smellmycheese posted:

GB news swinging it with some wacky conspiracy theories lol

Do tell...

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ThomasPaine posted:

God I miss the hope of the corbyn years so much. I really don't see a path to anything good in the near future. Keith wins by default next election and fucks around doing tory lite policies for the whole term. Tories take over again in 10 years or so. The cycle repeats. By then I'm getting on for 50. What the gently caress do we even have to look forward to as a country?

The Tories will probably take over again in 5 years, so you'll only be 45 mate.

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Oct 17, 2008

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kingturnip posted:

Boris is probably the best example of why many modern politicians are awful: he wanted to be Prime Minister because it was his ambition. To be 'top dog'.

Not only that, but wasn't it Boris that thought he might stand a chance of being the first person to be both PM and US President but then he accidently let his US citizenship lapse?

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OzyMandrill posted:

He oversaw the introduction of the 20mph speed limit, which makes him super-Satan, world destroyer, harbinger of the end times.

Whoever comes in next will probably walk back on that.

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Oct 17, 2008

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Failed Imagineer posted:

No way are they walking at 20mph

Legit made me giggle at work.

PriorMarcus
Oct 17, 2008

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Is there anywhere on the forums to vent about a toxic mother and he toxic antics?

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Chubby Henparty posted:


Oscarina's a saint!!!

Well this made me laugh so thank you.

PriorMarcus
Oct 17, 2008

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So earlier this weekend people said I could vent about my mum and her latest toxic action, so here it is...

My mother and I have never had a great relationship. She was a single parent, and I her only child. She was for my entire childhood emotionally distant and manipulative. I never knew my dad, and she would often weaponize conflicting stories about him (he died before I was born/he died in prison after committing murder/he was alive and didn't want to know me) when I would misbehave or show any negative emotion. I still don't know what the truth is about my dad and I know I'll never find out, because anything I get from her is likely to be a lie. She did a lot of other emotionally manipulative stuff, but that's the biggest example that comes to mind.

When I went to university I was able to cut all ties with her, and barely spoke to him for the five or so years that I lived away from home. Then, following a bad car accident and a breakup I ended up having to move back into her house for a few years.

That was about 10 years ago, and I've been trying to find some common ground with her ever since, I think, against my better judgement. I have my own house now, with my partner, and we are very happy. Once a week I visit my mum, and I dread it every week. She has a lot of toxic traits and being in that environment always affects my mental health, but I feel obligated to see her by virtue of her being my mum.

My partner has a Grandma and Granddad who are 96 and 94 years old respective. Corvid, luckily, hasn't touched them, but it did end up confining them to their house during lockdown and they have never physically recovered. They are wonderful people, very forward thinking for their ages, quite left leaning on a lot of subjects, but also delicate in the way that someone of that age tends to be.

My mum is not only all of the problems listed above, but she's also routinely miserable, right leaning, reactionary and bitter. But she thinks she's great at looking after old and young people and, about a year ago, wanted to start a relationship with my partners Grandma and Granddad.

My partner and I discussed this and basically decided it wasn't a good idea. My mum isn't the most cautious when it comes to illness, she's often liable to say something upsetting on purpose or by mistake, and she's also easily upset herself. My entire extended family has been cut out of our lives because of an argument my mum had with my Aunty about a carpet some 25 years ago.

So I told my mum I didn't think it was a good idea, that the grandparents needed a lot of notice for visitors and that, because she was my mum, they would feel the need to make a fuss and wear themselves out cleaning the house (all true).

Meanwhile myself and an aunty have struck up a relationship again. She's sad she didn't get to see more of me growing up, and I'm enjoying connecting to a family member who doesn't have any of the toxicity of my mum. My aunty also has an history of depression and anxiety, so I feel connected to her as I can discuss my own mental health issues and their place in the family history in a way that I can't with my mum, who thinks the entire thing is just people being "sad".

Any way... last week I got married. We had been planning a bigger ceremony for last year, but Grandma and Granddad are in declining health and the ceremony we wanted to do was some travel away. So we did a small, intimate ceremony at the local registrar office. It was really lovely.

Along with our other guest Grandma, Granddad, Aunty and my mum attended. We are wanting to clear some debts and get some work done on the house so we just asked for cash as gifts.

Firstly, and this is a minor issue, but I know she did it on purpose, my mum didn't take her jacket off for the entire ceremony. She was wearing a large purple Trespass jacket. It was warm at the venue, and everyone else dressed up for the occassion, but for the full ceremony and for the photos afterwards my mum is in this full body purple rain jacket.

Secondly, she spoke to my Aunty a few days after the ceremony and asked if she (aunty) had heard from me yet. My aunty said no, and my mum was aghast and said I should of rang to thank her for the money she gifted. We are sending out thank you cards to everyone, and we'd been on our mini-moon. My mum rang me to let me know my aunty was "really upset" and I should ring her. So I did, not wanting to have upset someone I've only recently started to get to know, and she seemed perfectly fine. She wasn't upset, or if she was she didn't let on, and we had a lovely conversation about the wedding and Christmas.

And then, and this is worst of all, she spoke to my partners Grandma. Now, I often try to stop my mum being alone with people like this, but as you can imagine at a wedding it's really difficult to not be doing other things. My partners Grandma said would like to see my mum more (we've never told her about my mum's negative side) and my mum told her that she'd like that too, but that I'd "forbidden it. That she'd wanted to see her all year but I'd said no". I found this out because my mum bragged about the conversation to me, upsetting my partners Grandma and planting poison about me on my wedding day.

Myself and my partner are fuming about it, and this kind of poo poo is exactly why I don't want her going around and seeing them.

That's two people she's tried to make upset with me from the wedding, and now I'm dreading Christmas when I'll be seeing her next. When she told me about the conversation with Grandma I had a mini-panic attack and had to excuse myself because I'm so tired of being on edge around her, wondering what she will say to me or other people, or wondering what emotional turmoil she will invent to make everything about her.

I wish I could cut her out entirely, but then I think about her by herself, with no real friends or means to see people easily, and it breaks my heart.

PriorMarcus
Oct 17, 2008

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OwlFancier posted:

Unless there are some very nice things about her you haven't mentioned she sounds like a complete oik to be honest. If all she does is make you miserable then why put yourself through it? Is it worth everyone else being unhappy to keep her happy?

Honestly, no there isn't. She spends a lot of money on me and my partner at Christmas and birthdays, but it honestly just feels like blackmail at this point.

I'm always somewhat worried, that despite everyone else agreeing with how I see her, that I'm overreacting or being overly sensitive to how she makes me feel, and I'll regret cutting her out with some distance. But I also suspect that's by design.

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fuctifino posted:

I found it empowering standing up to my mum during her final toxic years. I hope you do to if you ever make the decision to confront your mum.

Honestly, reading your contributions to this thread about your mum is one of the reasons I'm feeling confident talking about this here and seeking advice. It made me recognize a lot of the same behavior's. The last year or so I've been kind of remembering a lot of things from my childhood I'd buried, and her role in them, so I was already growing more aware of how deliberate the damage she did to me was, but then reading your own experience helped me see how ongoing it still was.

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Microplastics posted:

I reckon you and my wife would have a lot to talk about, because I recognise a lot of what you say in what my wife has said, before she cut off her mum 10 years ago.

My wife has always had this fantasy that she could somehow reconcile with her mum, like in the movies. That her mum would have some change of heart, some revelation, even it's on her deathbed. Every story has a happy ending right? Especially if it's your story and you need it to have a happy ending. It took my wife a long time to accept that that just wasn't going to happen - her mum is going to remain a narcissist until the very end.

My wife regularly had depressive episodes before severing. Since severing, her mental health is far far better. She lives a happier life. She doesn't regret it. She was lucky she had unwavering support from me because she wouldn't have done it if they're was any doubt it was the right thing to do. It sounds like you have that support too, thankfully.

I'm not sure how much your partner is willing to 'manage' your mum, but for us, I was willing to do the weekly phone calls and odd-jobs and what-have-you, just to keep my wife at a distance while also giving my wife the assurance that her mum wasn't withering away in isolation.

My partner would definitely be willing to do this. I'm not sure it's something I'd want her to do, but she would. My mum routinely 'plays dumb' on stuff, like bills and paperwork, and has me do it for her, and I've come to realize this is just another method of control.

Any details you could give, or anyone could give, about the process of cutting them out would be appreciated.

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Doctor_Fruitbat posted:

I will not tolerate that poo poo anymore, you can be interesting right out the gate or you can gently caress off. I'm willing to overlook a show's problems because sometimes a concept needs room to breathe and grow, but with a lot of slow shows that's not the case and the writers are just dragging their feet. Since people brought up BSG, consider how strongly that began - the opening episode immediately starts in the middle of a crisis with a really unique premise, and even once it settles down it throws out an interesting new problem each week.

I've long since concluded that you need a decent episodic structure for anything to be worth watching, even when a longer serialised story is the main draw. Any show where the episode descriptions are some variant of "A talks to B. C makes a decision. D confronts E" are absolute trash that are not, never were and never will be worth wasting your time on. This is the hill I will die on beyond the point of reason.

The Expanse is actually pretty episodic whilst still having a serialized narrative.

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smellmycheese posted:

The Forensic Sir Keith, with his tight grip on the party and politics, has just claimed at his press conference that he has no information, zero, nada on why his close friend and advisor was a regular visitor to Nonce Island.

I'm surprised we're not discussing Nonce Island documents right now actually.

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smellmycheese posted:

Prince Andrew is mentioned 38 times lol

Even more if you count the times he's mentioned as just Andrew.

Also, Bill Clinton "likes them young" and Stephen Hawkins watched an underage orgy.

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Microplastics posted:

Lmao that's the kind of grift that tories could only dream of

Honestly, good for him.

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forkboy84 posted:

It's hopeless optimism. Kieth will ensure a Tory comeback in at very most 10 years

100%. We will see exactly the same poo poo happen here as in the US. One term of a poo poo left wing government overseen by someone wholly unfit for the challenges the country faces followed by super-fascism making a spectacular comeback.

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fuctifino posted:

My anxiety went from 97% to <5% today after receiving her latest letter :toot:

This is great news, I'm really happy it looks like this will be an easier experience than you'd expected.

Bad Mum Solidarity.

PriorMarcus
Oct 17, 2008

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How come dead voters are distributed into other columns too?

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Nothingtoseehere posted:

Those are newly eligible voters.

Thanks.

PriorMarcus
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Angrymog posted:

So do they generally base it on where the tip is or where the balls are?

Depends, is the tip spurting?

PriorMarcus
Oct 17, 2008

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sebzilla posted:

Some kind of vacuum travel mug or other solution to endlessly making hot drinks and then not managing to drink them before they go cold.

They could even jump on current trends and get them a Stanley cup.

But...

Flux Wildly posted:

The other thing that sounds ridiculously bougie but I can’t stop recommending is a weighted wet wipe dispenser. Being able to pick a single wipe, single handed, is an incredible force multiplier when you’re wrangling a poo filled nappy and squirmy baby, on barely any sleep.

The correct answer is this. Little quality of life things are great for new parents and I can attest to how useful a weighted wet wipe dispenser is.

PriorMarcus
Oct 17, 2008

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I quite like Blackpool. I've always had a nice experience there and the Zoo is great. :iiam:

PriorMarcus
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I just find the seaside to be good for my mental health. Maybe I just need to find somewhere nicer.

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Trainee PornStar posted:

All that untapped green energy going to waste from Capt Tom spinning in his grave.

Unless the sneaky old codger was just a big a grifter as the rest of his family...

Of course he was.

PriorMarcus
Oct 17, 2008

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smellmycheese posted:

The man is literally shrinking and transforming into a corncob



Edit - for clarity. That isn’t shooped, that’s from todays Grauniad

It's easy to imagine Rishi is on a lower step here but I promise he isn't. He's on the same step as the guy to his screen-left.

PriorMarcus
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May is the current rumored date yeah, apparently it's an open secret in Westminster despite what anyone says to the News.

EDIT: 212 in Fahrenheit degrees, is the boiling point of water at sea level.

PriorMarcus fucked around with this message at 15:08 on Feb 5, 2024

PriorMarcus
Oct 17, 2008

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Didn't Liz Truss used to be left-wing? I know the answer is power and wealth, but what the gently caress happened?

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fuctifino posted:

My brother and his son have ghosted at least two direct requests from my mum's solicitor to try to find out where her body or ashes are located. There's a good chance that I may eventually end up with them, so that she can have her wish of having her ashes being placed in a steam locomotive firebox.



I just feel sorry for the innocent soul whose ashes where used in this test run.

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serious gaylord posted:

drat even Harry has flown back. He must be serious

Certainly feels like he's a lot closer to being dead than we've been led to believe.

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Oct 17, 2008

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And nothing will come of it.

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fuctifino posted:

Yeah, this can't be stressed loudly enough.

Let's not kid ourselves though, if she wasn't attending not a single one of them would of given a poo poo about the joke. Starmer is a loving TERF just like the rest.

PriorMarcus
Oct 17, 2008

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Can you imagine the loops the papers would jump through if it came out William had beaten her so badly she ended up in a coma? And all because Harry has stressed him out so much he mistook her for Megan or some nonsense.

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serious gaylord posted:

drat Kates dead and Charles is on the way out.

Seems like Megan has won

No wonder she's...

PriorMarcus
Oct 17, 2008

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Carefully placed cover text so I can't tell if she's wearing her sub necklace (she probably is).

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Tesseraction posted:

The corgis are all dead, but that was because Liz said she didn't want to die and leave any behind to mourn her, so she stopped adopting them years ago and let them die off.

She also used her last bit of energy to snap the necks of the surviving ones so that was thoughtful of her. Probably would of clung on for another few months if not for that.

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fuctifino posted:

They did a Boris. This person is standing by the entrance of the hotel for the return

https://twitter.com/Elizab_Mitchell/status/1755920055399833939

This is how far they ran in the early hours while everyone else was sleeping



Be fair though that's like 15 miles for a man of Sunak's height.

PriorMarcus
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I honestly couldn't mention more than a couple of DJs currently working, let alone historic ones. I can't believe his death even has the cultural relevance to be news.

:iiam:

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The Question IRL posted:

That was almost certainly something he was told to do. Radio DJ's were told to talk over the beginning and ending to songs so that people wouldn't tape popular songs and were instead encouraged to buy the singles.

It was probably at the behest of his bosses.

I wonder why the economy started doing really badly after 2016. What event could have possibly caused this?

The last ever Land Rover Defender being made presumably.

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TACD posted:

Is the job of the Low Pay Commission to try to keep wages as low as possible? I honestly can’t tell anymore if that’s just the obvious joke or simply correct or where the gently caress we are in the satire dimension at the moment

I’m gonna guess it’s a double-bluff Orwellian naming thing where the stated purpose is to look into causes of low pay to try to prevent it, but the actual purpose is to prevent any changes that might cause pay to rise

You managed to be not cynical enough. The purpose of the Low Pay Commission is that it has no purpose other than paying people like Philippa Stroud obscene amounts of money for doing nothing.

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