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ApplesandOranges posted:Ex-friend 34F asked me 35M about our relationship over 10 years ago. How to respond? lol, it rhymes mystes posted:I think Astraea is pretty decent for an unusual name? Yeah, it's a classical mythology name (among other things) but it sounds pretty and isn't one of the more common bonery ones.
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Call Your Grandma posted:Yeah I think the best approach is to just let people do their thing and zap em when they act inappropriately. you're two days late, we celebrated the resurrection of our lord and savior on Sunday
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Pantaloon Pontiff posted:I don't think it's that hard to get some people who you start chatting with interested enough to go on a date a date if you are not concerned with showing your real personality, don't mind lying, and study up on stuff that probably works. I'd also like to know what they use for training data, but it doesn't surprise me that an AI who has no real personality, no problem with lying, and a database of fairly flirty stuff that worked on some people can generate a few lines of text that pique someone's interest. I think most women on dating sites who will go on a date in a reasonable timeframe (as opposed to endlessly chatting or looking to collect messages for an ego boost) are really looking for 'sounds not boring and not red-flagged, I'll figure out the rest in person', so what an AI is good at generating should be good for that. I assume the bot is mostly just a numbers thing, it can message a lot more women without needing to spend extra time. But also yes, people who are serious about online dating generally are more interested in getting to know someone over coffee or drinks than building an online romance via chat, so the AI doesn't really need any elaborate seduction abilities.
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Apr 3, 2024 16:42
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mystes posted:If it's like the one I linked it seems like it doesn't have direct integration with any dating apps and you have to manually copy in the messages you receive to get it to generate responses so it doesn't seem like it goes off and spams people on its own lol, that's pretty bad then! I assumed the bot was at least doing the legwork for him since manually feeding messages into a chatbot seems so much worse than just typing up a couple messages worth of small talk, but I guess I was giving him too much credit
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Apr 3, 2024 16:55
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Captain Hygiene posted:AITA for accidentally doing my friend’s roommate’s laundry? I accidentally deliberately took someone else's laundry on purpose Tijuana-A-Go-Go posted:yta what was the point in putting up the notice, all you're doing is antagonising your neighbours. just saying no in person to anyone who asked would have been fine, could have said "sorry we're full" or whatever. explicitly making it about people in her building was a really dumb move and she's just put herself even further down everyone's poo poo-list Yeah, I think people with kids are probably acquainted with how hard it is to get into daycare on short notice. Nobody would have noticed anything was up if she just said she was booked up and the waitlist was overflowing.
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Apr 3, 2024 18:32
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Baronjutter posted:I bet that idiot could win her over on the concept of dogs if he introduced her to some really nice dogs. A dangerous junkyard dog is only going to further entrench someone's incorrect opinions on dogs. Nah, that lady's opinions on dogs are more correct than most dog owners. If you're not going to give a dog the care and attention it needs (which is a lot of work and not for everybody) then don't get a loving dog. The only dog opinions that need correcting in this scenario are the husband and his family.
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Apr 3, 2024 18:52
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haveblue posted:It sounds like the dog has major behavioral issues so taking care of it and retraining it will be a full-time job. It cannot be in the same house as preteens while those issues remain and it already has a history of biting people so it may be a lost cause :/ He also doesn't really seem to acknowledge that there's anything wrong in how grandpa takes care of the dog. Yes, maybe he's motivated by a deep concern for the dog's wellbeing and is just jumping at the chance to save the dog from a lifetime of neglect, but his reaction to an unhousebroken dog with a history of biting and running loose in the street seems to be more along the lines of "yeah cool dog!!" Trying to foist a living creature onto someone as a surprise present, even if they hadn't explicitly said they don't want it, also doesn't really speak to having a lot of appreciation for its needs beyond being a lifestyle accessory.
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Apr 3, 2024 19:20
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Larry Cum Free posted:The dog is family! It shares our blood! Well, technically it would be more accurate to say it takes our blood... Given the dog's pooping habits, it sounds like grandpa's carpet may now be family too.
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My "not a member of the upper class" gilded marble mosaic displayed over my guest pool has a lot of people asking questions already answered by my gilded marble mosaic
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I. M. Gei posted:A chiropractor is someone you go to if you really really need the pain to stop right now, but can't get in or afford to see an actual doctor for whatever reason (or if the problem isn't severe enough for a doctor to treat). They won't fix your problem and you shouldn't go to one long-term if you can help it, but if all you need is a quick fix to make some pain go away until you can see a real doctor, then a chiropractor isn't totally useless for that. A massage is going to be even better for that and won't maim you
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Apr 5, 2024 01:42
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Big Bowie Bonanza posted:AITAH for not telling people at my new job that my wife is bi? I'm definitely on the guy's side about not oversharing at his job but uhhhhh quote:I know that if a woman I barely knew told me out of the blue that her husband was bisexual I would think she was trying to set something up really dude?
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John Wick of Dogs posted:He muddies it by switching the genders, but imagine you are a woman (if you aren't already) and a coworker You've known for about three weeks, barely an acquaintance, comes up to you apropos of nothing and says "Oh, by the way, I think you should know, my wife (who you've never met) is bisexual". Yeah, to be clear I get why he's concerned about bringing it up to female coworkers. It's that he, personally, would assume it's a come-on that makes me  EDIT: tbf I'm willing to accept that I'm probably being naive
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Please, have some empathy for the guy. He's obviously staying because he fears for his life should he ever try to get out.
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hmm yes everyone in the gastropub was definitely staring at you out of jealousy. look at their jealous laughing faces as you assemble your hobo burger
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Elviscat posted:I worked with a racist guy who poo poo his pants on a weekly basis who would order his burgers, loudly and angrily, "WITH NO SALAD!" Claiming lettuce and tomato made him gag and I'm reminded of him every time I hear a story like this. I can't believe you got to work with President Donald Trump 
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CharlestheHammer posted:Going to a bar full of alcoholics and freaking out about the one milk guy is pretty funny I think you mean going to a bar full of NORMAL PEOPLE and being justifiably upset about the SMUG rear end in a top hat WHO LOOKS DOWN ON THEM
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FMguru posted:"Accidental", eh? I went to look at the comments and reddit is mostly voting NTA  I guess that, yeah, on the surface of it uninviting a close family member over slinging some mud is an overreaction, but it's pretty clear that there's a lot more going on here between 1) mom "accidentally" hitting her future DIL instead of her husband and going to console her husband for not being hit with mud and 2) the rest of mom's family ganging up on her son for not defending mom enough.EDIT: also 3) he admits he did not see the mud throwing or impact but repeatedly insists "it looked like an accident" the holy poopacy fucked around with this message at 00:42 on Apr 7, 2024 |
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Brawnfire posted:First let me ask why they have it in the first place, if they don't use it? Is that common practice? Depression-era regulations mandating that bars keep milk available to serve in order to prop up the dairy market
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Fellas, my wife doesn't want a partner who beats her. Does this mean she's a cheating harlot???
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Hughlander posted:This is a long one but I couldn't not post it due to the bolded part at the end of the update r/relationships - I thought it was an apology photo for him, so I already jerked him off while he looked at it
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MagusofStars posted:This would also explain why a guy in his late 30's (or older?) thinks he can beat a state champion swimmer. Well it depends on if they're girl elephants or bears
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Space Skeleton posted:A similar thing happened to my parents. They were dating for a while but their surviving parents started seeing each other and were about to get married. My parents went and eloped to get in ahead of them because they knew their parents would tell them to break up after they were married. My parents ended up having a traditional marriage a little later. I'm glad you came out OK but it was very rude of your dad to not change his DNA to match his new parent
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People are coughing when I expose them to secondhand smoke, but I'm pretty sure they're just doing it to make me feel bad.
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Midnight Voyager posted:wait what's this about miscarriages?? Not part of the OP's current relationship drama except as an example of something OP mentioned to his girlfriend in confidence that she put on blast when she went to mine his letters for Content.
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Shanghaied posted:Is this from a far away country where birthday cakes are dirt cheap? 'Cause just lmao ruining multiple expensive cakes for your lovely joke year after year lol. i hear legends of an exotic land called The United States where you can just go to the grocery store and get a sheet cake for like twenty bucks
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:I had a teacher in third grade who just hated a kid in the class who was high functioning but obviously neurodivergent for no particular reason and did poo poo like this. ding ding ding
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litany of gulps posted:I am a teacher. There's no shortage of people in every walk of life that want to do nothing but exert control over others - work, relationships, etc. But the foaming at the mouth hatred of teachers is basically tearing down the public school systems all over the country, and all that will be left is something that won't even allow for neurodivergent students to participate, so have fun with that. Charters just kick them out and private schools don't even allow them in. What's your point, exactly? Should we salute and thank teachers for their service when they actively bully neurodivergent kids because this is the best we can hope for?
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litany of gulps posted:You do you, but joining the alt right in their crusade against the schools isn’t going to end the way you think it is. lol
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"Some teachers mistreat kids and we should do something about it." "Ah, so you're a Nazi. Got it." 
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dervival posted:my ND brother went to a public high school with a well-established IEP in place, and there were two separate teachers that took every opportunity to ignore it and generally liked to be cruel to him in various ways. I ended up having one of them for honors english a few years later, and his dicking around with rubrics was bad enough that I went gently caress it and dropped down to the standard english class for half my junior year. i'm glad you've presumably been able to avoid those kinds of toxic coworkers while teaching, but they do exist whatever you say herr goebbels
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Pantaloon Pontiff posted:I always get a kick out of these self-fulfilling prophecy stories. This just put WAY more points in the 'end this relationship' column for her since he's shown himself to be controlling with money as soon as something isn't exactly what he wants. These 'my partner must always do things with me and I will freak out if they want to do something alone' stories are so weird to me; if someone wants to cheat on you, they can do it locally or semi-locally, they really don't need to be on another continent. "babe give me several thousand dollars for a solo European vacation starting right this second" "no" "wow so controlling  "
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Pantaloon Pontiff posted:In what's posted (I didn't track the story down so there may be something different in comments on the original) there's no mention of her wanting 'several thousand dollars for a solo European vacation' or for him to pay anything more than he's already paid. She's just moving the date on a plane ticket back, which AFAIK doesn't is usually just a token fee for rescheduling, not a new ticket cost (if this is actually a 'thousands of dollars' change then never mind my original take). Also my read of "left her stranded in a foreign country without financial help" is that he canceled the existing ticket when she talked about changing the plan, not just that he refused to pay for a new ticket. Buying a ticket for a week or so out is going to be much more expensive than buying a ticket months in advance, and in my experience airlines will expect you to pay the difference when you try to reschedule. That difference still may not amount to thousands of dollars, but it's also unclear how OP's ex planned on paying her own way in Italy without OP footing the bill for her. Pantaloon Pontiff posted:It's his responsibility because he got her over there in the first place with a promise that he'd pay for the return trip. If he just said 'take it or leave it' on the original ticket then I'd have no problem, but what he wrote implies to me that he said 'oh, you thought of a different plan? fine I'm canceling your way home entirely' which is him backing out of a promise. I'd agree if that was the case but it seems like a stretch to read it into the OP. At a minimum there's nothing to suggest that he canceled the ticket before he told her he wasn't going to pay for a different return trip, or that she tried to begrudgingly agree to the original return flight only for him to cancel it anyhow.
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AITA for refusing to do all household chores on days when my wife works and I don’t?quote:My wife [33/F] and I [32/M] have been together for 7 years and married for a year and a half now. My wife has been working 9-5 ever since we met. My work has me traveling for 60-70% of the year. I usually take my 2-3 days off in the midst of my travels to go back home and be with my wife.
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:What was the though process on that one Hmm, I've successfully cheated on my wife with dozens of men and she suspects nothing. I should probably make sure that I come home smelling like womens' perfume so that she doesn't think I'm out banging dudes as I have been for many years without her knowing.
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Fil5000 posted:I find this conceptually off putting because as a general rule if I go somewhere where you order single plates then I want the thing I order, not half of it and half of something someone else wanted. What you're doing is tapas only worse. Bad tapas > no tapas 
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:WIBTA if I tell my wife she has to be honest with me? he's actually married to Inspector Clouseau, who was trying to tell him about the time a sinister guy delivered a message
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StrangersInTheNight posted:this is how I read it too and it's why so many folks don't reveal abuse. because so often the not wanting to discuss it right out the gate becomes accusations of lying, or someone actually ends up getting butthurt that you 'kept something' from them and makes it about them and how your not telling them about your assault is a reflection on the trust level in your relationship (which they've just successfully torpedoed) This one is especially egregious because his logic is that she was lying about not being interested in a massage... because she already had had one and therefore had to be interested in massages, which could only mean she was up to something shady by pretending she didn't want a massage!
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SMEGMA_MAIL posted:AITA for telling my dad that I'm not his replacememt wife? well, he wasn't wrong when he said "we're doomed"
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AITA for naming my son after my father instead of my FILquote:I (26F) recently had twins with my husband Harry (30M). I love my babies so much but the labour was a nightmare m. It was extremely traumatic for my husband and I, and we’ve agreed that we are definitely not having anymore kids. What kind of weirdo voluntarily wastes time fiddling with the incubator???
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