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teacup posted:Not trying to just bump post or anything but I really would love to know if anyone does know of specific stores or a more efficient way than just random googling or looking at random stores... which I've done anyway but just looking for more! We used Ian at http://www.ellissi.com/ who is based in the Melbourne CBD. He was amazingly helpful. Probably not the cheapest but worked closely with me, within my budget and got the perfect stone for my fiance and put together a unique design. Highly recommended.
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Nessa posted:So does anyone have any ideas for substitutes for wedding bands? At least for the ceremony? I wear jewelry a lot, but my fiancé doesn't and won't, so even if we were to get wedding bands, one of them would be forever unworn, and that kind of defeats the purpose of having wedding bands, doesn't it? I'm looking for some kind of alternative. Friend of mine has a ring, but because it was a family heirloom and didn't fit and he didn't want to resize it, he wears it on a chain around his neck. Perhaps something on a chain? Get a really, really snazzy gold-plated credit card-looking thing?
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Aug 5, 2013 13:50
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He won't even wear a "manly" wedding band? I'm sorry, but "I don't wear jewelry" seems like a real flimsy excuse for not wearing a wedding ring. It's a small piece of metal he won't even notice he's wearing after a day or two. It's not like you're asking him to wear a gold pimp chain that says "Nessa's husband" or something.
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Aug 5, 2013 14:11
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Aquatic Giraffe posted:He won't even wear a "manly" wedding band? Although, hot drat, I'd wear a chain like that.
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Aug 5, 2013 14:29
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Aquatic Giraffe posted:He won't even wear a "manly" wedding band? Yeah my husband was all "I don't want to wear a ring! It will feel weird and I'll want to mess with it all the time." Etc. Ect. Two weeks later and he said it felt weird to have it off and now he never takes it off.
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Aug 5, 2013 15:32
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Baboon Fiesta posted:I am also terrified of making a speech and dancing in front of an audience. You're making a speech at your own wedding? That is super brave of you. There is no way I would have remembered Any of the lines. As far as dancing goes, just go for the tried and true "shuffle and laugh" method.
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Aug 5, 2013 16:05
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We have booked the venue and confirmed the date for January.  I am now focusing on the catering and venue decoration, and by the end of August, early September, I will decide on who is going to make the dress (have a list of people, need to go and talk to them). My sister is helping me with enquiries about photographers, hairdressers, and so. Things are starting to look more defined now Baboon Fiesta posted:
Speeches are always terrifying. I am glad it's not a tradition in my country! Good luck with the wedding on Saturday 
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Aug 5, 2013 18:18
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As a guy who never wears rings, I don't have any problem with the idea of wearing one. Hell if I found a really cool one I'd wear it regardless of being married, I've just never really looked at rings much. That being said, now that my wedding is 4 months away, I'm actually getting excited about wearing the ring because there are so many awesome options out there nowadays, carbon fiber, wood, bone, meteorite, damascus steel, etc. I'm actually having a hard time deciding.
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Aug 5, 2013 18:24
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Yeah ring materials were exciting to me except then I realized that the ring will (hopefully) be used for like 50 years or more so durability is a big issue. I pretty much nixed any exotic materials because of that. Now that I've bought mine I somewhat wish I had been a little bit more adventurous, but I didn't want to get some striking design that would look goofy/dated in a couple decades.
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Aug 5, 2013 19:16
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LogisticEarth posted:Yeah ring materials were exciting to me except then I realized that the ring will (hopefully) be used for like 50 years or more so durability is a big issue. I pretty much nixed any exotic materials because of that. Now that I've bought mine I somewhat wish I had been a little bit more adventurous, but I didn't want to get some striking design that would look goofy/dated in a couple decades. Plenty of the exotic materials are just as durable as the more common ones. Out of the ones I listed wood and carbon fiber are probably the two that might not stand the test of time, but you can also do inlays of either of them in more durable materials. Damascus steel and meteorite are both plenty durable for a wedding band. I'm kind of leaning toward a combination of those two at the moment.
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Aug 5, 2013 19:50
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silvergoose posted:Friend of mine has a ring, but because it was a family heirloom and didn't fit and he didn't want to resize it, he wears it on a chain around his neck. Perhaps something on a chain? Chains are not really an option either. My fiance just has a problem with jewelry of all kinds. Yeah, it"s pretty weird, but I don"t want him to do anything he's uncomfortable with. I'm looking for something that we can do for the ceremony to replace an "exchanging of rings". He said he would wear a ring for the ceremony, but not wear it afterwards, and I just feel that it would be a waste of a ring and defeat the purpose of exchanging rings in the first place.
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Aug 5, 2013 20:18
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For the ceremony you could do something like a hand binding, unity candle, etc that's not permanent. For the permanent mark...tattoos maybe? Friendship bracelet? This is hard.
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Aug 5, 2013 20:32
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rockcity posted:Damascus steel and meteorite are both plenty durable for a wedding band. I'm kind of leaning toward a combination of those two at the moment. Meteorite will rust and is somewhat soft. Damascus steel is a bit better, not that's not my thing so I didn't really consider it. I also work with my hands a lot and am outside in the elements very frequently for my job, so I might be a bit rougher on the ring than most people.
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Aug 5, 2013 20:39
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Hawkgirl posted:For the ceremony you could do something like a hand binding, unity candle, etc that's not permanent. For the permanent mark...tattoos maybe? Friendship bracelet? This is hard. A candle could work. I hadn't thought of that. I think we just won't do any sort of permanent mark. It's not really necessary.
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Aug 5, 2013 21:19
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LogisticEarth posted:I also work with my hands a lot and am outside in the elements very frequently for my job, so I might be a bit rougher on the ring than most people. Yeah my husband and I are both outdoorsy and he does a lot of labor-type jobs so we just went with plain titanium bands. They were $40 for both of them I think. I've been wearing mine for over a year and it looks a little scuffed but otherwise fine. If I decide I need a shinier one (doubt it) I'll just get a new one. I don't even have an engagement ring or whatever, I just have the band. I really don't care about diamonds. It's pretty funny because I've had people (both girls and guys) grab my hand to look at my ring when they found out I got married, and they always look kind of shocked when they see it's literally just a band with no stone or anything.
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Aug 5, 2013 21:47
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Nessa posted:A candle could work. I hadn't thought of that. Yeah. If you want the giddy newlywed "omg I'm married!" feeling one usually gets from noticing their ring, maybe you could write each other a little note and keep it in your wallets. 
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Aug 5, 2013 21:58
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Hawkgirl posted:Yeah. If you want the giddy newlywed "omg I'm married!" feeling one usually gets from noticing their ring, maybe you could write each other a little note and keep it in your wallets. I'll probably just wear my engagement ring once it gets finished.
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Aug 5, 2013 22:44
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nyerf posted:Now, I don't normally wear makeup, and have no idea what I'm doing half the time, and I certainly don't know what makeup would work best for outdoor daytime wedding photographs. Our photographers normally have a woman they recommend for hair + makeup but she's on maternity leave apparently so now I'm lost. As a cheap makeup wearer (drug store stuff for most of my stuff, ranging mostly from Wet N' Wild to Physician's Formula), it was helpful for me to splurge on getting a "beauty box" from Wantable. I played around with different makeup, and ended up mostly with just a few add-ons (more eye shadow, different eyeliner, sparkly shimmer, a long-wearing RED lipstick) to what I usually wear. My cousin's primer was key to keeping everything in place. When I asked my photographer what I should wear, she said she could work with however much or little I had on. This is something good to look for in photographers. Not someone who will make you look like you have more or less makeup on, but someone who knows their editing well enough to emphasize your most beautiful features. That's really what makeup should do anyway, and there's no reason to pressure yourself into doing something you're uncomfortable with just because WIC says you need to pay X amount for hair & makeup. Nessa posted:So does anyone have any ideas for substitutes for wedding bands? At least for the ceremony? I wear jewelry a lot, but my fiancé doesn't and won't, so even if we were to get wedding bands, one of them would be forever unworn, and that kind of defeats the purpose of having wedding bands, doesn't it? I'm looking for some kind of alternative. Just super seconding Razz and Hawkgirl. Both good ideas. My husband also doesn't wear jewelry at all. Neither do I, except for a ring or two and maybe a bracelet or necklace if I'm getting super fancy. It was weird the first couple weeks, and John kept taking his off to wash dishes and then going out and coming home to get it and then going out again. Now we seriously don't think about them and it feels weird to have them off. Your fiance might end up in this same group. Or just don't do a ring exchange. Candles and hand-fasting are both great ideas. There are other alternatives, too, like exchanging intimate (not sexy) gifts, or hell, like swearing an oath in front of your most important people that this person is the most important.
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Solved our string quartet budget problem-- we're hiring part of the local university's orchestra. Only costs $450 for two hours (so they could play for cocktail hour too) instead of the $1000+ professionals want for 45 minutes of music. Now I'm beginning to wonder if there are other services I can get for cheap via college students.
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Aug 6, 2013 16:39
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Aquatic Giraffe posted:Now I'm beginning to wonder if there are other services I can get for cheap via college students. My cousin got married last year and asked around the film department of her college (NYU) for someone interested in doing their video. It worked out wonderfully, and I plan on doing the same.
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Aug 6, 2013 18:53
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I'm so tired of the loving "giving away" discussion and who gives who to who and poo poo. I've decided. This is what I want.
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Strat posted:We used Ian at http://www.ellissi.com/ who is based in the Melbourne CBD. He was amazingly helpful. Probably not the cheapest but worked closely with me, within my budget and got the perfect stone for my fiance and put together a unique design. Highly recommended. Cheers, thank you
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So, I've just gotten engaged. We've been dating for awhile (over 5 years.) I'm 25, he's 24, and we have absolutely no idea about this wedding planning business. I've dipped a toe or two into the fun stuff, as in what the color theme is,what dress I'm shooting for (I've decided), what your bridal party will be wearing, and what sort of ceremony we'll be having (a friend of ours will be officiating, we're not religious people.) But, honestly, I have no idea about what I should be planning in the timeline we're planning for; In at the very least 2 years, but probably about 2 1/2-3 years Is there an order in which I should be deciding on All Things To Do With Wedding? Does anyone know what worked best for them? Links would help.
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Aug 9, 2013 03:05
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Sugar Bean posted:So, I've just gotten engaged. We've been dating for awhile (over 5 years.) I'm 25, he's 24, and we have absolutely no idea about this wedding planning business. I've dipped a toe or two into the fun stuff, as in what the color theme is,what dress I'm shooting for (I've decided), what your bridal party will be wearing, and what sort of ceremony we'll be having (a friend of ours will be officiating, we're not religious people.) But, honestly, I have no idea about what I should be planning in the timeline we're planning for; In at the very least 2 years, but probably about 2 1/2-3 years The Knot is actually really helpful for this. It sends email reminders about where you should be in your planning and kind of puts things in a general order.
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TheKnot is what we've been using. it has a checklist of what to do when. With such a long engagement I wouldn't worry about the actual logistics until about a year out. Personally I got all the stuff that wasn't date-sensitive done first (buying my dress, picking out bridesmaids dresses, buying rings, etc) since our date has been in constant flux. On that note, our June date is now toast. We're now shooting for January. Bring me all the kittens in the land, I must punch them all  Goodbye, deposits.Edit: All of our vendors have been amazing and none have made us fork over a new deposit yet and all have been available on our new date  Aside from a huge-rear end fight with my dad about the date change this is going a lot more smoothly than I imagined it would.
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Got hitched yesterday and everything went swimmingly, woo! Of course, it didn't hurt having a couple of Goons there lending moral support (no neckbeards) and that my bride just so happens to be an event coordinator - I simply had to be at there on the correct time/date/place, wearing socks, no exceptions. Of course, the snifters of Irish whiskey the gals at the venue had onhand for just such an occasion didn't hurt a bit, either. "Casual" and "fun" were the operative words of the day and I'd like thinking our guests felt the sentiments accordingly; it was a nice event, one hundred percent drama-free and now I've got a wife presently gestating our first child anticipated for sometime in September. Bonus points are awarded to the lucky holders of the preliminary draft of the wedding handouts with the graphic of Dickbutt as a placeholder while I was checking the formatting and looking for a decent images of we two - oops! Not sure how those made it into the stack, but we got a good laugh they made in onto a couple of lucky placeholder's spots. Again, fun and casual were the orders of the day and I'm eternally grateful we pulled if off accordingly!
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Just a real quick question, the first post isn't seemingly UK biased so I was wondering if anyone could provide any advice for the best places in the UK for engagement rings?
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incendia posted:Just a real quick question, the first post isn't seemingly UK biased so I was wondering if anyone could provide any advice for the best places in the UK for engagement rings? I came here to post this exact same thing. I've looked a little around a handful of places but would appreciate any advice going.
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I'm starting to see things around the internet about tipping vendors. Is this a common practice? Which vendors need tips and how much is customary? I'm not trying to  about tipping, I genuinely don't have a clue about this. I don't want to accidentally be a dick and not tip them when they were expecting one.Bumping the wedding up 5 months so it's now 5 months away instead of 10 is messing with my slow and steady planning groove and now I'm like OH poo poo GOTTA GET poo poo DONE. I'm almost caught up to speed, and I am so glad I got a lot of stuff done way in advance.
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Aquatic Giraffe posted:I'm starting to see things around the internet about tipping vendors. Is this a common practice? Which vendors need tips and how much is customary? I'm not trying to I quote my clients on salary basis and don't expect to receive a tip. That said: I can't remember the last wedding I played where I didn't receive a tip. Having worked the catering side of things before, many include a service charge calculated on all the food furnished paid out to the wait staff as a tip. I think that it is a specialized service and no tip is necessary but I don't mind that it has become customary? Keeps me on my toes and wanting to do a good job for clients (musician).
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I would say wedding consultant if they're good, other people if they're really awesome or go the extra mile, but in general, no tips. Food service gets tips only if there's no built in 20% service charge as is standard.
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Also, if there is anyone who you are using as a vendor who is the actual owner of the business (photographer, DJ, hair salon owner that ends up doing your hair, etc.), typically they do not receive a tip.
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Good to know. The people I was planning on tipping were our musicians since they're students and would appreciate the extra cash and the hair/makeup people since that's an industry where tipping is customary. I was beginning to think it would have been a big faux pas not to tip your DJ and photographer, then getting worried because we'd already maxed our budget on those things and couldn't afford an extra 20% 
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Aquatic Giraffe posted:He won't even wear a "manly" wedding band? Hey, it's been a whole week and I still find myself playing with the my ring. That said I also don't understand his concern. Yes it felt weird trying it on in the store; I've never worn rings. It was strange seeing it on my finger that first time, but since the ceremony it's been a nice, little constant reminder of us.
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New Weave Wendy posted:Also, if there is anyone who you are using as a vendor who is the actual owner of the business (photographer, DJ, hair salon owner that ends up doing your hair, etc.), typically they do not receive a tip. This is completely spot on. I'm a wedding photographer and I can count on one hand the number of times I or my parents (family business) have received a tip for the weddings. If you feel they did an amazing job, you're welcome to, people will very rarely turn down a tip That said, if anyone has any questions, I'd be happy to try and answer them.
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Writer Cath posted:This is completely spot on. I'm a wedding photographer and I can count on one hand the number of times I or my parents (family business) have received a tip for the weddings. If you feel they did an amazing job, you're welcome to, people will very rarely turn down a tip My fiance and I are thinking of forgoing posed pictures entirely. We just want our photographer to wander around and take pictures of ceremony and reception. All the posed pictures from other people's weddings that we've seen just look kind of fake. Do you think we're making a mistake? Have you had other people that did this and then regretted/loved it?
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compshateme85 posted:My fiance and I are thinking of forgoing posed pictures entirely. We just want our photographer to wander around and take pictures of ceremony and reception. All the posed pictures from other people's weddings that we've seen just look kind of fake. Do you think we're making a mistake? Have you had other people that did this and then regretted/loved it? I'd base your decision on your photographer's portfolio. Does everyone look relaxed and natural or does it look like school picture day? If you mesh well with your photographer on a personal level it'll help too. We got along well with the photographer who did our engagement pictures and they came out really nice; on the flip side my friends hired a photographer who turned out to be a creepy guy with questionable people skills (who hits on a bride at her wedding?) and they looked like they just want to get out of there ASAP instead of enjoying themselves in their posed pictures. If you're on the fence, can you do a short engagement pictures session with your photographer and if you think the posed pictures look stiff and fake forego them at your wedding?
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compshateme85 posted:My fiance and I are thinking of forgoing posed pictures entirely. We just want our photographer to wander around and take pictures of ceremony and reception. All the posed pictures from other people's weddings that we've seen just look kind of fake. Do you think we're making a mistake? Have you had other people that did this and then regretted/loved it? What AG said is pretty spot on, definitely see if you can get an engagement session to get a feel for the photographer's work. If it's possible, see if the photographer can have an assistant on hand, taking more candid photos. The reception photos do tend to be relaxed and informal; very rarely do we pose things at the reception. As for my own experience with that sort of thing, if the client wants that style, we happily do them, but usually include one or two formal poses. And for the most part, the couples wound up liking the posed stuff more. I find that parents tend to appreciate the traditional poses, so that's a consideration if you're giving out gifts. But ultimately, it is your day and you should have the kind of pictures you want. But be sure to bring this up with your photographer beforehand. Writer Cath fucked around with this message at 02:59 on Aug 18, 2013 |
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Aug 18, 2013 02:52
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As another wedding photographer, most people end up liking the posed stuff more, but they have to be well done. I've seen a lot of really corny, boring and awkward posed shots in my day. I try to find either really interesting locations or really play with my studio lights when I do mine to make them really stand out. There's nothing wrong with no posed stuff though if that's what you want. I come from 4 years of photojournalism so the rest of my shooting is all done super natural and candid. I wouldn't be offended if someone asked me not to do posed stuff, though I'll saw my favorite shots during a wedding are nearly always my posed ones, mostly because I can control the light a lot more. And to add more anecdotal experience about tipping, I've shot maybe 15 weddings now and I've never been tipped.
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That's good advice. We're getting married on Friday and we never did an engagement session so I think we're just going to forgo most posed shots, except maybe ones with immediate family if they get insistent about it. I like our photographers non-posed shots better anyway and she is a friend from way back. I'm not super into this wedding, I just went along with it because my fiance wanted it, as did both our moms. So if the photos aren't perfect, I really don't care. I just don't want to get flak about not doing the traditional shots 1,5 and 10 years down the road.
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