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DOMDOM posted:Truth. Does watching porn teach you how to be good in bed? At all? Most of the postures are chosen for how they look on camera not how good they feel, and certainly not how good they feel for the lady. Even the orgasms in most lesbian porn look fake as hell. Maybe a vintage stag film could be instructional, where some hairy people just have sex while bow chicka bow wow music plays, but a lot of modern porn is awful for teaching you how to sex.
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Rockin Orthodontist posted:Does watching porn teach you how to be good in bed? At all? Most of the postures are chosen for how they look on camera not how good they feel, and certainly not how good they feel for the lady. Even the orgasms in most lesbian porn look fake as hell. I guess you'd have to be watching legit amateur stuff to get a more 'realistic' idea. But even then, it is all very subjective (maybe they're getting off because they know they're recording it/showing it to people, for example). I don't put intercourse in the same category as say playing an instrument or martial arts or something that requires a lot of practice and form to master. Honestly the best way to be good in bed is to just be a good listener; it doesn't really take any practical experience outside of that. For every terrible male virgin there are probably a hundred nonvirgins as bad if not worse because they built bad habits, act selfishly or assume they know what they're doing. Also there is this rubber band effect that's happening where we went from people assuming sex will be amazing the first time to having a really low expectation to avoid getting disappointed. How about not assuming it will be either of the extremes and just don't over-think it? If a person's expectations are too high, then they get disappointed. If they assume it is going to be terrible, they're probably not going to try as hard. Communication is the best way to learn.
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Rockin Orthodontist posted:Does watching porn teach you how to be good in bed? At all? Most of the postures are chosen for how they look on camera not how good they feel, and certainly not how good they feel for the lady. Even the orgasms in most lesbian porn look fake as hell. It's gotta be better than absolutely no knowledge at all.
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Day Man posted:It's gotta be better than absolutely no knowledge at all. Nah, if you watch porn and it makes you believe X thing will please a lady that definitely doesn't, that's definitely worse than going into it completely free of bias.
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Day Man posted:It's gotta be better than absolutely no knowledge at all. Naw. Throughout history haven't a whole lot of people gone into their first time without porn? It's not rocket science.
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What's worse, a guy who has no idea how sex works, or a guy who has watched this gif a thousand times and thinks this is how sex works?
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Rockin Orthodontist posted:What's worse, a guy who has no idea how sex works, or a guy who has watched this gif a thousand times and thinks this is how sex works? "this kills the mood. "
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20 something years of having "sex is so evil that you shouldn't even know anything about it" drilled into your brain seems harder to get over than "girls totally like facials and anal".
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Day Man posted:20 something years of having "sex is so evil that you shouldn't even know anything about it" drilled into your brain seems harder to get over than "girls totally like facials and anal". Yeah I would bet against the human sex drive always.
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Day Man posted:20 something years of having "sex is so evil that you shouldn't even know anything about it" drilled into your brain seems harder to get over than "girls totally like facials and anal". On the other hand, getting your dick wet and having an orgasm would go a long way to overcoming "sex is bad" indoctrination.
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There's a few positions that I wouldn't have thought of on my own that I saw in porn that my wife and I like to do but outside of that, it taught me nothing other than "penis goes in hole and sometimes nipples feel good." It certainly didn't set me up for disappointment though. Not sure how you can be online enough to watch porn as a teenager but not read the millions of people telling you porn isn't real.
flick my Mr. Bean fucked around with this message at 20:25 on Oct 2, 2016 |
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If the girl knows what she's doing, she could end up with a whipped rich lawyer boyfriend which seems like a good deal imo
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quote:My (50F) daughter (17F) is attracted to her teacher (30sM). She's mad at me for making her change classes. At least the comment section is calling her an rear end in a top hat.
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# ? Oct 2, 2016 21:41 |
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reverse doggystyle works
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# ? Oct 2, 2016 21:50 |
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Stop talking about the Mormon virgin and porn.
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# ? Oct 2, 2016 21:52 |
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mormon virgin porn??? sign me up! it should be called "Mount and Do"
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Manticorny posted:mormon virgin porn??? sign me up! I need full Mormon underwear or I can't finish.
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# ? Oct 2, 2016 22:36 |
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It is super loving obvious when you're with a guy that learned how to have sex from watching porn.
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remigious posted:It is super loving obvious when you're with a guy that learned how to have sex from watching porn. *Spits in woman's vagina, slaps her face with his flaccid wiener *
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military cervix posted:At least the comment section is calling her an rear end in a top hat. Seriously way to take a harmless crush and make a huge issue out of it you loving idiot
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# ? Oct 2, 2016 23:25 |
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Link to crazy diary mom thread please
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:Link to crazy diary mom thread please Seriously, I must see this.
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:Link to crazy diary mom thread please Yeah I tried googling the title and couldn't find it...
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If you want a really fun read, try the comments from sites for people whose spouses have Asperger's.quote:Man oh man. Thank you for this. I've been married to an Aspie for 22 years. I didn't know it when we got married. He didn't know it. In fact, he wasn't diagnosed until just this last year (21 years into the marriage). People have always said that we seemed to be more 'business partners' than 'marriage partners' and I have to say, knowing what the problem is hasn't made it any easier. In fact, it has made it harder. Before I knew I could hope that one day he'd 'wake up' and start treating me better. Before I knew I was able to tell myself that once the kids were grown and out on their own I could start a life on my own. Now I don't even have hope because my moral compass doesn't let me just leave him, and I am so tired - so FUNDAMENTALLY tired of everything being about him. It hurts. it really does. quote:I'm right there with you. Opposite with presents, has to make him stop, it was a lot OCD. quote:I have been married to an Aspie for nine years. He was not diagnosed until after we were married. For many years I could not understand why he was underemployed ( he had to degrees). He convinced me that if he just got another degree (in Mandarin Chinese) he could be a translator and get a job that suited him. It was when I watched him interact with his coworkers (we worked in a kitchen; he was a dishwasher) while we played a simple game of cards that I began to dig on the internet. He felt comfortable with the fit, although was somewhat embarrassed about the whole thing. Once we were able to get help from an employee placement agency that helps people with "disabilities", he has become employed as a computer programmer. quote:My wife is an Aspie. Very high functioning. Four degrees, three doctorates. quote:My husband too was diagnosed after we married. It's three years in and I am so beaten down by his deep need to be in control, his need to have the last word and to be right, his anger, his utter lack of empathy and humor, that I no longer recognize myself. quote:Although its nice to know I am not the only one suffering through an AS/ NT marriage I do feel so bad for all the rest of you; never would I wish this existence on anyone. The previous commenter who hoped the "worship" of autistic kids didn't backfire took the words right out of my mouth. My AS husband is arrogant about his condition, he is convinced it is an evolutionary leap forward for mankind and that having no emotions to deal with only means he is superior to those of us who can't/ don't operate on pure logic. Even though what passes for "logic" to him often looks like "insanity" to the rest of us, he is NEVER WRONG and thus every problem we have is MY FAULT. And nothing in his world "just happens", blame must be assigned for everything even a full trash can! I am reading my second book on how to be married to an Aspie and this one, like every other article, book, blog, is only about how the NT partner must basically lower their expectations and adapt to all the AS partners' needs. Well what about OUR needs? Is marriage to an AS partner just supposed to be a nonstop give-a-thon, with no satisfaction, affection, love, or consideration of our very valid feelings? Sure it's a disability, but won't we ever hold these people accountable for all their awful behavior? quote:The "shut downs" are the worst. I have been married to my husband for 2 1/2 years, together for 5, and I just had the epiphany last week that he has AS. It explains so many things, some of them things that I didn't even think needed explaining but were just part of his issues with anxiety or a result of being a bachelor most of his life. quote:I have been in a relationship with a non diagnosed aspie for 7 years , I was attracted to his good looks masculinity incredible body and deep mystery , I am in the caring proffession and thought he offered a challenge but I certainly got more than I bargained for ........ His quirky behaviour , , childlike innocence , lack of common sense , inappropriate responses soon became apparent , this again was part of his unusual charm and it made me want to reach out and mother him ! However , I soon experienced cool indifference , lack of interest in my topic of conversation , lack o empathy and outright selfishness on his part , I often felt alone when he was in the same room and the lengthy silence during evenings were only interrupted by his mumblings about certain actors in films and his " voice overs " during adverts , when watching tv , when I attempt to enter into gentle conversation about how he makes me feel invisible he becomes very defensive and asks why I should have an opinion !!!! quote:I know all this. I know I am his personal secretary, personal assistant, nurse, counsellor and mother all at once. I KNOW. What I don't know is what to do for me!! That's what I was hoping for here. Tips on self care.
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Pick posted:If you want a really fun read, try the comments from sites for people whose spouses have Asperger's. I need a cig after that
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poo poo a brick, these people need to be euthanized (USER WAS PUT ON PROBATION FOR THIS POST)
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LethalGeek posted:I need a cig after that quote:Anastasia McPherson Pilcher said...
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next step in the evolutionary process right here, folks
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Even the curated stories on official-y sites like autism.co.uk are not as encouraging as you'd probably expect.quote:I have submitted my story because I found so much reassurance and support from reading other women's accounts of their relationships with a person with Asperger syndrome.
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I will never understand these people who stay in loveless/sexless relationships and marriages for years and decades. Twenty five years of trying to fix your marriage? Holy lol you'd be happier single and certain you'd die alone
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Worse, there's a story I think I the new York Times or similar about a guy who was cured of his autism and it led to his divorce
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Dial-a-Dog posted:I will never understand these people who stay in loveless/sexless relationships and marriages for years and decades. Twenty five years of trying to fix your marriage? Holy lol you'd be happier single and certain you'd die alone They think they're at fault for not loving enough or being patient enough.
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Pick posted:They think they're at fault for not loving enough or being patient enough. Plus some of them look like real catches. Decent looking, good job, spends lots of time at home. Isn't abusive, cheating, or an addict. Oh boo hoo, he's not affectionate enough.
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Dial-a-Dog posted:I will never understand these people who stay in loveless/sexless relationships and marriages for years and decades. Twenty five years of trying to fix your marriage? Holy lol you'd be happier single and certain you'd die alone Sunk cost fallacy. You get so invested in trying to work things out, quitting at any point feels like all the years up to that point were a waste of time. A loveless marraige can also feel harder to justify to others vs a partner that is outwardly abusive, cheats, etc.
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Panfilo posted:Sunk cost fallacy. You get so invested in trying to work things out, quitting at any point feels like all the years up to that point were a waste of time. A loveless marraige can also feel harder to justify to others vs a partner that is outwardly abusive, cheats, etc. Also, since they haven't really changed, and nothing really "changed", it's hard to feel like any specific thing is the precipitating incident. Also it's hard to come to terms with the idea that not only do they not care about you, actually they never did.
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Well maybe they shouldn't have married a train-hugger to begin with
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Gumbel2Gumbel posted:Well maybe they shouldn't have married a train-hugger to begin with Well let's be fair, these men are really attentive, to the women in the comments section, calling them overly-emotional needy bitches Thankfully, they're there to give advice when women are unreasonable. quote:My husband is of little to no support on that front either, the loneliness and building resentment is unbearable. I think it's wrong to tell us we should stay, this is our life, they can't help it, etc. I'd rather be alone than feel alone w/a man that takes no responsibility and just piles it on me. He left me alone through serious illness & has no friends & as a result I'm losing mine too. No one is comfortable around him & all he wants to do is blame me and make no changes. I can't imagine never knowing what it is to live w/o all of this stress and oddly, I want that for him too. Why don't they admit they would rather be alone, is it the change b/c he can go so long w/o noticing me, of course that is unless HE needs or wants something. If you aren't married yet, run, it will destroy you, they can't cope w/anything and you are always wrong and they are reclusive and lack all introspection and empathy except on the rarest of occasions. I'm scared, but I really think this time I'm done. I just wish he could let us be friends, maybe more, just can't live w/it day in and day out. I wish you all so much happiness and support. quote:Get out of the house, join the gym, volunteer, go to places you have never been to before. Before you totally give up on what you have go find out what is out there. Take a deep breath put a smile on your dile and give it a go. Pick fucked around with this message at 05:18 on Oct 3, 2016 |
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Rockin Orthodontist posted:Plus some of them look like real catches. Decent looking, good job, spends lots of time at home. Isn't abusive, cheating, or an addict. aspie spotted
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ROFLburger posted:what is a 'relationship' ?
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Source pls
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