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Throwaway because my wife reddits as well and I don't want any problems. Apologies for any language mistakes
I love my son and my marriage is doing well. I don't have any major life problems and I have enough money to support the family and have enough left for retirement. However I am increasingly concerned by my son's behavior. He did fine in high school, and despite dropping out of one college, he has enrolled in another one and seems to be doing fine academically. The problem is that he has no life to speak of. To my knowledge he has no close friends, and I have never seen him talk to a girl or be in any kind of a relationship. He spends all of his free time online. I'm aware that in some cultures it's okay to still be inexperienced in those matters at this age, but in France it's highly abnormal and pretty drat sad.

I debated whether to respect his privacy or not, but I feared that he was involved in drugs or something due to his zombie like behavior so I installed K9 on his computer. What I discovered shocked me.
He regularly watches weird cartoons made for children. There's even one about a purple pony that is clearly destined for little girls or something

His favorite site is 4chan.org. I looked around it a bit, and it's really nasty. I don't know exactly what he was posting, but there's messed up porn, racism, and it seems like a total waste of time. Maybe I'm too old to understand but it sure disgusted me. I waste time on websites like reddit too but this is different.

He writes some weird speeches on reddit, sometimes pro-Islam comments or far left stuff. What annoys me is that he takes a lot of logical shortcuts and doesn't conduct research properly. Ever since he was a kid I've tried to teach to think for himself and debate rationally and develop and understanding of the world (this is fairly important in France, and a lot of top schools eat this kind of stuff up) but instead he writes some regurgitated bs and essentially parrots simplistic opinions all the time, arguments you'd expect a person in middle school to use.

Sometimes he posts some anti-American stuff and I worry this will get him in trouble later on in a background check or something. I don't necessarily disagree with what he says but it's really dumb to criticize the US openly when it can be traced back to you. These guys are merciless.

He looks at odd pornographic material on websites I'd rather not mention. I'm what could be called a "sex positive" person but what he watches is disturbing and involves fictional characters. On a more positive note, I am fairly sure he is not homosexual. Not that there's anything wrong with that in itself, but I'm kinda hoping to have kids some day and I don't want the catholic (and rich) side of the family to disown him.

He exhibits stalkerish behavior. He has photos of girls from his college in his hard drive. I doubt he has ever spoken directly to any or them or obtained their consent in any form.
Since he hardly ever goes out, he has never obtained any professional experience, relationship experience, philosophical experience or any other useful life skills. He doesn't know how to cook, doesn't know how to survive alone, and probably doesn't know how to deal with adversity and the real world.

I don't want him to wake up at 30 with nothing to show for it. I love him to bits, but clearly his self imposed loneliness is breaking up his mind or something to that effect. I'm not the best father in the world but I have been with him all the way and he used to be such a happy child. His mother is supportive and competent as well.
Any advice?
tl;dr: My son is turning into a loser

Nazzadan posted:

Me [58 M] with my son [23 M] who's starting to become a loser?


100% fake, but pretty funny

Dial-a-Dog posted:

The shame, to be doxxed and find out my dad is a redditor in the space of just one post

Regulation Size posted:

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This female singer is not super famous, but not unknown either. Needless to say, I don't know her personally, and she lives in Europe and we're on the west coast!

So a couple of times in my free time, I have made some wallpapers of her (fan arts), posted those and tagged her on Twitter and she has retweeted them, and this last time she followed me back. This obviously has no meaning other than appreciating me being a good fan.

My girlfriend is not happy about this, especially the retweets and followback and is telling me that I'm crossing the line. She wants me to stop listening to her music, block her on social media and never ever mention her or listen to her again.
Not really sure what to do here.

tl;dr: Girlfriend is upset that my favorite female singer followed me back on Twitter. She wants me to stop listening to her.

loquacius posted:

People on the Internet always tell you to sever no matter what

Multiple goons in E/N once told me I needed to break off my engagement because my fiancee and I would sometimes argue about where we were going to live in five years

WampaLord posted:

I'm really glad this thread is back, thanks OP.

My [23M] girlfriend [23F] of 1 year is upset that I really like a female singer.

LethalGeek posted:

Im starting to think people just shouldn't date before 25

Zulily Zoetrope posted:

Why would you post about it in E/N? Huge red flag imo

Pick posted:

I want to know where these incredible men are whose only flaw is that they listen to a singer I don't really like.

loquacius posted:

This remains the biggest blunder of the entire engagement period, because it led to me reading some bad posts

Unsurprisingly the winning solution, rather than anything they said, turned out to be "postpone the decision again and let life solve the issue for you, in the form of most of her immediate family moving out of her home state for unrelated reasons, which makes her want to move there less"

These days she's even talking about leaving her job to get another one closer to my work so we can buy a house out here and both have easy commutes. Everything's comin up loq

LethalGeek posted:

Im starting to think people just shouldn't date before 25

Nazzadan posted:

Not necessarily funny, but topical with recent happenings

Me [27 M] dating a [27 F] 2 short months, has cut off all contact with me over a picture of a clown

big trivia FAIL posted:

if you and your SO argue about something as minor as completely upending your lives to move to a new place then you both need therapy, possibly medication, and need to set unconditional boundaries. personally, would think long and hard about completely dissolving the relationship, as this has all of the classic signs of mental and emotional abuse

big trivia FAIL posted:

if you and your SO argue about something as minor as completely upending your lives to move to a new place then you both need therapy, possibly medication, and need to set unconditional boundaries. personally, would think long and hard about completely dissolving the relationship, as this has all of the classic signs of mental and emotional abuse

Pick posted:

I think that's a little presumptuous, maybe they should try opening up the relationship

Pick posted:

I want to know where these incredible men are whose only flaw is that they listen to a singer I don't really like. If this is the only thing I have to compromise on in a relationship, well, I guess I'll take that bullet.

scrubs season six posted:

At one point early in the evening we were hearing strange sounds and what appeared to be someone screaming followed by lot popping and crunching noises. While in the bathroom my buddy decided to have a peak outside of the bathroom window. My buddy lets out a yell and busts out into the room and I'm like "what?!" He doesn't say anything but goes right to his backpack and gets his Smith and Wesson 357 out. I'm thinking "what the gently caress" and I dig into my bag to get my Sig 232 out. He says we need to get the gently caress out of there right now. I saw he was serious and that made me serious about it, we grabbed our poo poo for the most part (left a few clothes behind) and looked out the peep sight to make sure it was clear to our car. I threw my gun into my pocket, he put his in his waistband and we hauled rear end to the car and got the hell out of there. On the ride away, I asked what he saw in the bathroom. He told me when he looked out the window there was this creepy-rear end clown facing away from the window, pants at his ankles, making a weird motion. He told me the clown slowly turned 90 degrees to look at him, my friend said he looked down to see this clown loving a full-sized dinner ham, when he looked up from the ham loving the clown was smiling and waving at him.

big trivia FAIL posted:

as a poly, i agree that a 3rd party can provide a different perspective, coming into the relationship without the existing baggage

Pick posted:

I think that's a little presumptuous, maybe they should try opening up the relationship

DOMDOM posted:

Can you guess the ages?

I [27/F] yelled at my husband [35/M] of 8 years, over dental hygiene


9 out of 10 dentists agree, stop giving your wife dental infections with your rotting infectious mouth.

WampaLord posted:

I'm really glad this thread is back, thanks OP.

My [23M] girlfriend [23F] of 1 year is upset that I really like a female singer.

loquacius posted:

I am open to this idea but I think we should probably have some babies first

y'know, to keep us grounded

Pick posted:

with each other? because think of what an amazing gesture of trust it would be for us to be having these children with others but raising them together

LethalGeek posted:

Im starting to think people just shouldn't date

Tender Bender posted:

Also lmao when you are over the age of 16 and/or have been dating for longer than two weeks and advocate ghosting as a good end to a relationship. Most of the time this is before the OP has even confronted the SO about the suspected issue or let them know if anything is wrong. Your girlfriend asked you to walk her dog? Move your stuff out when she's at work and block her.

Pick posted:

with each other? because think of what an amazing gesture of trust it would be for us to be having these children with others but raising them together

Pick posted:

I want to know where these incredible men are whose only flaw is that they listen to a singer I don't really like. If this is the only thing I have to compromise on in a relationship, well, I guess I'll take that bullet.

Pick posted:

this can be particularly helpful if one person is having sexual difficulties. with an open relationship, the other partner can experience what it's like to not have to address that problem. everyone wins.

Nissin Cup Nudist posted:

Checks out

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My [22F] brother [30M] keeps prolonging his vacation in NY. He left his children [6F&4M] with me. It's been 2 and a half months , he was suppose to be gone 2 weeks

My brother left his children with me for a 'business trip' to NY. He's so full of poo poo it's not a business trip it's a vacation for him. He asked me to look after Travis and Brie and I accepted because I adore these two. The problem is they were originally staying with me for 2 weeks, it's been 2 and a half months

He keeps prolonging this vacation of his and he keeps telling me he will be back next week. It's been two months and honestly the kids are asking me where he is. I have wanted to tell someone for a long time but my mother and brothers told me just to look after the kids. I love them but they need their dad and I am wondering if I should contact their mother.

Their mother lives in Canada and she visits the kids every now and then. She does not contact this side of the family unless she is coming to visit. What is there to do, because they really want one of their parents? I have told my brother to come home and he told me no, I have the entire conversation on Facebook about how he is working/enjoying himself

tl;dr: Brother has left my niece and nephew with me while he went on a business trip/vacation to NY. (New York) they were suppose to be staying with me for only 2 weeks and it's turned into 2 and a half months

Gaunab posted:

mind the walrus posted:

I like the part where an adult woman who is capable of reasonable independence and taking care of two growing children for months on end never once had "contact the loving authorities" come into her head.

mind the walrus posted:

I like the part where an adult woman who is capable of reasonable independence and taking care of two growing children for months on end never once had "contact the loving authorities" come into her head.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

Calling the police on a sibling would certainly be my last resort...I imagine threatening to would be a better move.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

Calling the police on a sibling would certainly be my last resort...I imagine threatening to would be a better move.