loquacius posted:

How does the kind of guy who gets divorced over cheating 5 times in his life manage to find 6 women who are willing to marry him

WampaLord posted:

Can people stop with depressing ones? This is clearly just an abusive dad.

KomodoWagon posted:

Except he was right. He's trying to give his kid some perspective so she doesn't grow up convinced she's hot poo poo, albeit failing because she thinks getting an A on an exam is some kind of superhuman feat of intelligence. Can't be as smart as she thinks if she missed her deadlines.

I'm pretty impressed by how many people are calling this sad and abusive. You're not supposed to constantly tell your kids "Ohh, you're so smart and amazing and great" all the time. It turns them into lazy assholes. The way I read it, she thought she was the coolest thing ever, then messed up, and is now whining on Reddit like a sadbrains because her dad was absolutely right about her.

KomodoWagon posted:

Except he was right. He's trying to give his kid some perspective so she doesn't grow up convinced she's hot poo poo, albeit failing because she thinks getting an A on an exam is some kind of superhuman feat of intelligence. Can't be as smart as she thinks if she missed her deadlines.

I'm pretty impressed by how many people are calling this sad and abusive. You're not supposed to constantly tell your kids "Ohh, you're so smart and amazing and great" all the time. It turns them into lazy assholes. The way I read it, she thought she was the coolest thing ever, then messed up, and is now whining on Reddit like a sadbrains because her dad was absolutely right about her.

loquacius posted:

P much everybody goes to college in America these days, though. There is no way that kid is "too dumb" to go to college. He'd have a point if what he said was "going to college is a waste of time and lots and lots of money unless you go to a good school and pick your major well and get a scholarship, so let's choose your applications carefully" but that's not what he said.

Panfilo posted:

I knew a girl whose dad was a major hard rear end about grades, she had a 4.0 in HS went to UC Irvine and graduated summa cum laude with a degree in sociology and did fuckall with it because she works in a call center. Apparently all their efforts were centered on "get good grades" vs "how can I market this into a fun and stable career"

Dial-a-Dog posted:

It sounds like that dad did a really bad job of instilling an inferiority complex early on, and is trying his best to do it now before it's too late

loquacius posted:

I mean, if she doesn't care, and she looks good in the heels, then it's on you to buy some dress shoes that make you a little taller and then get over yourself

Ofc if she's wearing like 5-inchers or something then you might be SOL on the first point since they don't really make 3-inch platform shoes for guys since the 70s ended, but that just makes point #2 more crucial

pushpins posted:

If you have a girlfriend wearing 5-inch heels all the time you should have nothing to complain about

Panfilo posted:

I knew a girl whose dad was a major hard rear end about grades, she had a 4.0 in HS went to UC Irvine and graduated summa cum laude with a degree in sociology and did fuckall with it because she works in a call center. Apparently all their efforts were centered on "get good grades" vs "how can I market this into a fun and stable career"

phasmid posted:

Gf eats holes in sweaters, skirts, everything really. I wouldn't change her, especially since MKULTRA was a colossal waste of taxpayer money.

Pick posted:

Smartest guy I know ended up working at a call center. Took him like five years to get out of that poo poo

pushpins posted:

If you have a girlfriend wearing 5-inch heels all the time you should have nothing to complain about

Pick posted:

Wait, your girlfriend is a moth

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My friend [21F] hangs out with my boyfriend [20M] one-on-one all the time, but wouldn't even let me [20F] go to a concert with her boyfriend [22M].

I have a problem with one of my best friends and I'm not sure how to go about resolving it, or if it's worth bringing up at all. Obligatory apologies for terrible formatting bc I'm on mobile. And sorry it's kind of long, I tend to get a little long-winded.

Here's a little name key in case anything gets confusing:

Adam: [22M], one of my best friends for 6 years

John: [20M], my boyfriend of just over 1 year, best friends with Adam and good friends with Lacey

Lacey [21F], one of my good friends, dating Adam for just over 1 year, good friends with Adam and John for about 4? years, friends with me for ~1 year

Adam and I met freshman year in high school and have been really great friends ever since. About 2 years ago, Adam introduced me to his other friend group who didn't go to school with us. In this friend group were John and Lacey. The three of them were very close and spent most of their weekends together.

Last year, John and I got really close, and Lacey and I got close as well. John and I started dating only a week after Lacey and Adam began dating. Lacey and I are pretty good friends now! We go get manicures together, spend time at her apartment with her dog, watch old rom-coms, text a lot - basic girl friend stuff.

Now to the problem today: Lacey seems to somewhat jealous of or upset by my relationships with Adam and John... I'm not really sure what it is. Maybe it's all just a misunderstanding. Anyway, the problem started when Adam had 2 tickets to see one of our favorite bands. He and Lacey were going to go together. However, Lacey didn't want to go, said she didn't like the band, etc. So Adam was left to find someone else to go with (wouldn't most girlfriends go see a band their bf was totally crazy about even if they didn't like the band that much?? But I guess that's beside the point). Adam picked my ex boyfriend, who is one of his friends and also loves the band. I had no problem with that and, frankly, I didn't even know Adam was looking for someone to go with. Adam told me a few days later that he originally was going to ask me, but when he mentioned it to Lacey, she was "upset about it" so he asked my ex instead.

At the time I was disappointed, but didn't think too much of it as we had been drinking that night and the implications didn't fully hit me. But now the more I think about it, the more it upsets me. Lacey tells me that I'm her best friend, but she feels uncomfortable with me going to a concert with her boyfriend..? It's hurtful. It makes me wonder, does she think I'm going to try to steal Adam from her?

Lacey also makes little comments about me and Adam's relationship (Adam's and my relationship? gently caress grammar). Adam and I went on ONE date after our senior year in high school, and after that, we both realized it wasn't what we wanted and we weren't really attracted to each other in that way. I was still attached to aforementioned ex boyfriend, and Adam was pining after Lacey (who was dating someone else at the time). Lacey always brings this up. There is absolutely nothing inappropriate about our relationship that crosses any boundaries. Adam is like a brother. He refers to me as "one of the guys" and definitely treats me like one, too. I might have understood if Lacey is a little wary in any other situation, but she and I are best friends! And I'm dating one of her best friends! I don't get it!!! She also has a history of being jealous of all Adam's female friends, if that helps.

Recently Lacey has been making some comments about John that make me feel a little uncomfortable in light of the concert situation. She's always saying things like "I've always thought John was such a handsome guy" but quickly mentions "but I've never had any romantic feelings towards him, of course. He's like a brother." The first few times, I took it like I heard it and assumed she was just complimenting my choice in (quite handsome) boyfriend. The other day, though, she texted me and said "If you talk to him, tell John that his favorite (platonic) girl hasn't heard from him in three weeks." I have absolutely no issues with them hanging out, even one-on-one, but the "favorite platonic girl" comment kind of threw me for a loop. Added to the concert debacle, it makes me feel like she's trying to push me out or something - to show that she's better friends with Adam and John than I am. I'm not worried anything is going on between John and Lacey or anything like that at ALL, it just makes me feel a little weird. It makes me sad that one of my best friends seems to not trust me around her boyfriend. And this apparent double standard frustrates me to no end - she can hang out with my boyfriend one-on-one no problem, but I can't even go to a concert with hers?

Other possible helpful details: Adam and Lacey briefly broke up about a month ago because she apparently wanted to be married within the next year and wanted 6 kids by the age of 30 (?!?!!), but Adam wasn't as committed, didn't know if she was the one, didn't know if he wanted kids, etc. Adam and I have only hung out one-on-one maybe twice since he and Lacey started dating. Lacey has jealousy issues with a lot of Adam's friends.

Reddit, I don't know what, if anything, I should do. Should I mention my feelings to John? He knows her a lot better than I do and could possibly have some insight. Should I say anything next time Lacey brings something up? Or should I just leave it all alone and ignore it like I'm inclined to do, as the eternal pacifist? Im afraid to make something out of nothing and don't know if thinking about this is even worth the time I'm spending on it. I love Lacey so, so much, and I don't know if this is normal behavior or if it's a tiny red flag. Thanks in advance!

TL;DR: My best friend seems uncomfortable with my friendship with her boyfriend but also makes strange comments about her relationship with my boyfriend. Am I making something out of nothing?

phasmid posted:

Lacey is not your friend, you bimbo.

Dial-a-Dog posted:

I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that Lacey's only girl friend is the poster, or at least that none of Lacey's girl friendships are very long lived

Pick posted:

Beware the woman with few or no female friends. That's a legit tip.

Pick posted:

Beware the woman with few or no female friends. That's a legit tip.

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My [25f] boyfriend of 6 months [24m] has very extreme jealousy issues

So it started with him hating that my best friend was my ex boyfriend. I did understand this because when we were both single we would have a friends with benefits type deal. So I understood and told my best friend that I wanted to try with this guy and told him that we no longer could speak.

Now he tells me I have too many guy friends and that they all want me in some way or another. I do have a lot of guy friends so I started talking to them less frequently.

Now when we go to the store he tells me that i was being overly friendly with the guy cashier and that I was flirting when I wasn't. He will ask if I thought he was attractive I tell him no. I only love him. And then he drops it. I told him I didnt like this so he is trying to be better.

He and I were watching America's Got Talent and he told me that I was watching too intently and that I must of been into the one of the contestants in the show. I told him that he was being ridiculous. He told me that it was my job to make him feel secure even when he was being stupid.

I'm not really sure how to handle this anymore. Please give me some insight

TL;DR My boyfriend is jealous of everything that has a pulse.

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my [30F] partner [33M] of eleven years posted a nude of mine online

my partner and I have been married for ten years, together for eleven. stuff is normally pretty good. a couple of months ago, i sent him a reasonably sfw nude via facebook. he asked if he could show it to one of his friends as a bit of a humblebrag, and i said he could.

yesterday, he's using his computer on the loungeroom tv and he's scrolling through another popular website that we affectionately call the rear end in a top hat of the internet. he's scrolling down a thread, and i see that nude I sent him attached to a post about something unrelated.

I asked him why he did it, and he said that he was asking a question he wanted an answer to, so he wanted to pick an image that would get someone's attention. I told him I was upset that he posted that to a public forum without my consent, and reminded him how dangerous that was, considering that site's track record for how it treats women, how popular it is, and how fickle people can be, and he seems to think that it's okay because i told him i could share it with one of his friends, and if nothing horrible comes of it, i shouldn't be upset.

I can't even bring myself to be angry over this, I'm just upset and feel kind of violated, not just because of the danger (the photo itself has my fb user id # in the file name to boot) but just how flippantly he treated something that I shared with him to whoever cares to see it, and he doesn't seem to get why it's "such a big deal" if "nothing happened".

Am I in the wrong here for being upset? Am I over reacting? How do I make him understand how wrong this feels and how on earth do I get over it?

teal deer: partner posted a nude pic of mine on a popular site without asking, doesn't get why it's a problem if nothing bad comes of it. he's "sorry not sorry". what do.

china bot posted:

Thanks for telling me NOW

Pelvic Floor Wax posted:

subway masturbator posted:

Our [14F&13M] brother [30M] cheated on 5 of his ex fiances/wives. We don't want to go to his wedding to the 6th girl because it's just going to happen again

...

He's implacable of not sleeping with other woman

sucked my twin off posted:

A 13/14 yr old used the word implacable? What teen goes around saying "implacable"?

Pick posted:

If you can get amazing grades and tons of friends in college even better

Pick posted:

Yeah, if it's your partner than they should basically be up to saving themselves in that scenario. But I don't really think that's a fair standard to put on a one-year-old.

sucked my twin off posted:

A 13/14 yr old used the word implacable? What teen goes around saying "implacable"?

Pelvic Floor Wax posted:

sucked my twin off posted:

A 13/14 yr old used the word implacable? What teen goes around saying "implacable"?