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Met this guy online dating. We immediately hit it off. Most of the people I match with online my own age the conversation is boring or they just immediately try to get into my pants.
I've always been attracted to men significantly older than me but have never actually been with one. He's good looking, smart, etc. He even offered to pick me up and drive me to work so I didn't have to catch the bus. Which I thought was so nice even though I declined.
Anyway, we exchanged numbers. The conversations have been great. He calls me beautiful. And I really wanted to take him up on the date he offered. Until I find out this one thing, he has an 18 yr old daughter.
Now I have nothing against kids or men with kids. If his daughter was younger I'm not even sure it would bother me. But the fact that she's so close to my age, kind of grosses me out. Like he's basically trying to get with someone (me) who is his daughters age.
Basically what I want to know is am I being stupid about this? Should I go on the date and pursue this or just bow out?
tl;dr; Met an older guy online dating. It turns me off that he has a daughter my age. What do I do?

WampaLord posted:

My roommate [25M] pretends he's British to pick up girls. I [22F] let his little "secret" out and now he's pissed and claiming I broke some sort of weird code.


Oi mate, ya done broken the Bro Code, ya tosser!

loquacius posted:

Me [Bob Saget/M] with my kids [15/M, 17/F], I just spent literal years telling them about all the one-night stands I had before meeting their mom [dead/F] and then glossed over the entire marriage in about ten seconds and now they're encouraging me to go hook up with my ex [Canada/F] who they've known since birth and call "Aunt Robin", my issue is that apparently nobody involved sees a problem with any of this, wtf

Lockback posted:

GUESS THE AGE!


My [28f] boyfriend's [31m] female friend refers to me as "borderline retarded", and said my gene pool "should end with me".

loquacius posted:

Me [Bob Saget/M] with my kids [15/M, 17/F], I just spent literal years telling them about all the one-night stands I had before meeting their mom [dead/F] and then glossed over the entire marriage in about ten seconds and now they're encouraging me to go hook up with my ex [Canada/F] who they've known since birth and call "Aunt Robin", my issue is that apparently nobody involved sees a problem with any of this, wtf

Dial-a-Dog posted:

It's this guy's own fault for half assing his grift. If you want to convince people you're British for anything other than a one night stand, you're just going to have to commit to convincing everyone that you're British so the secret doesn't get out.

Seriously though that dude's a creep and she should probably blow up his spot every time he brings a girl back

Lockback posted:

Me (20f) with (36m). He has a daughter around my age and it turns me off?

feedmegin posted:

I would love to see what happens if he actually meets a British chick. (I can confirm as an actual British person who lived in the US for years that the accent does get you hella laid, mind you...)

bone app the teeth posted:

they use the word "bro" liberally. what are you expecting?

feedmegin posted:

I would love to see what happens if he actually meets a British chick. (I can confirm as an actual British person who lived in the US for years that the accent does get you hella laid, mind you...)

WampaLord posted:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UIXHcOjJpxY

loquacius posted:

I saw an ad for Las Vegas tourism on the London underground that very heavily implied it would and it squicked me the gently caress out

loquacius posted:

man, that movie was super weird about America (also Portugal but America came up more)

mind the walrus posted:

Does it work the other way around? I don't care personally because I'm never going to the UK, but I'm curious. All the US cultural exports must make US accents sound humdrum, and even if not American English sounds like a barking dog who dropped out of German II.

Dial-a-Dog posted:

I was going to ask how old she was when her dad abandoned her, but it turns out she hasn't even dove face first into a terrible relationship with this guy yet, what's even the issue? I met this guy and some (unchangeable) aspect of his life turns me off completely, what to do, should I date him anyway?

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I think finding out his daughters age just emphasized our age difference to me. I don't have a dad but if I did and he started dating someone just 2 yrs younger than me. I'd be creeped out.

Lockback posted:

Me (20f) with (36m). He has a daughter around my age and it turns me off?

mind the walrus posted:

Does it work the other way around? I don't care personally because I'm never going to the UK, but I'm curious. All the US cultural exports must make US accents sound humdrum, and even if not American English sounds like a barking dog who dropped out of German II.

mind the walrus posted:

Does it work the other way around? I don't care personally because I'm never going to the UK, but I'm curious. All the US cultural exports must make US accents sound humdrum, and even if not American English sounds like a barking dog who dropped out of German II.

JFairfax posted:

no, we hate americans in england. all foriengers in fact now

Lockback posted:

If you did not read the comments then you have correctly predicted that she does not have a dad.

DOMDOM posted:

Visited a goon friend in the UK for 2 weeks, can confirm American accent is not a turn on.

Unless you got the southern thing going for you, but that's a fine line between "plantation gentleman" and "hick"

I wonder how the daughter feels about daddy chasing girls her age. It's one thing to randomly pick up a chick at a bar or whatever and find out she's way younger... but to actively go after one through a dating site, that's next level poo poo.

Meridian posted:

Over his wife not wanting to go to a Halloween party at a sex club. GOTTA MAINTAIN FRAME. Whatever the gently caress that means.

Kehveli posted:

Only if recovering addicts count. But really it's one of those things where the people living that lifestyle who aren't insufferable never enter your radar because they don't feel the need to get up in your face with it constantly.

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I've lied to my bf a couple of times, and the one thing he hates is LIARS.. Anyway what happened is, in the beginning of our relationship.. I started talking to a guy who liked me but I did not like him at all. I just talked to him because he kept running after me for like a month. Later he insisted and gave me birthday presents that I threw away because I felt guilt and bad for even taking them, so I decided I'll pay him money as soon as I got a chance but he left that work place and I did too so I couldn't get a chance.

I told that guy that I'm not interested at all and it's leading on to somewhere I don't want it to EVER. He said it's not leading on when I like you even if you talk to me or not. I stopped talking to that guy. Only talked to him for a month or so.

I told my bf about him but didn't mention gifts or talking that much... let me just mention we never really met. Not even along with friends, alone NEVER! I never said to him that I liked him and I NEVER said anything inappropriate to him or he ever said any such thing to me ever. We'd just talk about work related stuff and his family issues etc.

Okay so 2,3 months later another guy from work texted me who just saw me once, he only came for some advertising poo poo idk... and got my number from a card. Okay so he texted but after some introduction I told him that I have someone so it's better he stop texting me. And he did. I told my bf about it.

After a month that guy texted again saying he'd like to hangout along with my friends as he doesn't have any. I said he can find plenty other people but I don't want to hangout or talk to him because it's cheating to me and my bf doesn't approve it so.. he should stop bothering me. This time I didn't tell my bf...

After 3 weeks that guy texted again and as I went out of chat my bf asked who am I texting. I tried to hide and lied but he found out.... and we had a fight over it. He was really upset about it and told me to tell him EVER that ever happens.

Now almost 6 months later, I got a chance to call that first guy and ask for his account number so I could send him money... no bad intentions only for my own peace of mind and to get rid of that guilt. BUT my bf found out. He asked me and I lied at first but then I had to tell him. Now he's really really upset and says I shouldn't have led him on back in that time.

He's not believing anything and not ready to accept anything, tho he's my FIRST TRUE LOVE... but idk he's having so many thoughts about so many things now since I lied to him. I really feel bad for hurting him. I have apologised and I'm ready to give up anything for him. What should I do? How do I make him understand? To me it wasn't cheating but to him it is... idk what to do!!

tl;dr lied to my bf a couple of times, he's really hurt want to make things right...

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Me [23 M] with my so [22 F] of 3 years, so is talking very inappropriately with other guys, not sure where to go from here.

I've been noticing some weird behavior from my so and I'm looking for advice and some perspective. Its also hard because we live and work together.

About a month ago, I found out my gf had an OKCupid account, I had asked her to delete it. She told me that she has it to meet friends. I'm not sure if there is some setting to only meet friends, but i noticed that it was left on a page with guys and their percentage match with her. About a month after I found the app was still on her phone. I'm not a snooper, but I occasionally just open her phone to read reddit or something while mine is charging. I confronted her about it and she deleted it in front of me and says she deactivated her account.

About 3 months ago, while she is out bowling with friends, I got a little worried because she isn't responding to me. I open her laptop, and on imessage, I see she is talking really sweetly with a guy. Yes, I invaded her privacy, not good, but I do not like what I am seeing here. I confront her over the phone, she denies everything. When she gets home, keeps denying everything until I ask for her phone and to explain all this to me. Messages include i love yous, i miss you, pictures to each other (no nudes, just selfies), and the ugliest one: she told him "im horny right now". Looking through the messages, this guy knows she is in a relationship, and has suggested her to find her own apartment when she tells him she is frustrated with my messiness. They also met up at the bowling place. She tells she was there with friends and was staying at a friends house before going to the bowling alley. I looked at the location data, and it not any friends house I recognize. She explained it was her friend Kim's house. In a previous snooping episode, it was the place she went to for a sleepover. I get anxious when she's not with me or stays the night somewhere else, once, without letting me know she was going to spent the night. Back to the messages, after much frustration, I ask her to tell her just tell the guy to never talk to her again and block his number and i will wholeheartedly forgive her. She cried for this guy. She gave me some bs about her being polyamorous, which I will absolutely not accept in our relationship.

About a month later, while just noticing out of the corner of eye, a "kim" is messaging her. While snooping, I find out its the same guy and she walks away when I confront her, I dont chase after her. I did find a message where he say i love you to her, but did not see any of her saying it back, but again, it was just a topical snoop, no looking into back history. I decide to go to the park and run. I ask where she is and refuses to tell me. After a while she tells me where she is, but she is not there. I tell her i want her to rip this guy's heart by saying some really mean things, including to say that she led him on for our amusement so he can leave us alone. I'm not with her when she claims she did this. She offers no proof, deleted her text logs and says I just have to trust her that that she told him the mean things over the phone. When I do pick her up, she is near one of her ex's house who she is still friends with (but i'm OK with that friendship as she has explained that she didn't love him anymore and they have many mutual friends). I am not sure if she visited him. I have explained that this guy she is talking to knows we are together, is disrespecting our relationship by flirting with her and it sickens me for her to talk to another person the way she talks with him. We stay together, but I have very little trust for her now.

Last night, as she is about to go to a halloween event, I press the home button on her phone to check up on the battery percentage and I notice two messages on notification, in one, another guy she is talking to calls her "babe". It is only coming from him and she is not calling him names back from the timngs I see. Looking through past messages, she is meeting this guy at the halloween event. She says she is just going with her best friend (f) and is only buying tickets from him. I ask for proof, which she refuses to produce, and walks away. After a while, she somes back and I tell her to leave. She asks what she can do, says that we broke up a week ago after we had a fight, says she still loves me, wants to stay, seems like shes on an emotional rollercoaster, she stayed at her mom's last night.

All this stuff is happening once a month for the past few months that I snoop into her messages. I have very little trust in her, especially when she deletes her conversations after I confront her.

TL;DR - my gf is talking sweetly to other guys, as far as i know, nothing sexual has happened.

Right now, I called in sick and i'm home right now. This is my first real relationship, my long time friend, my first kiss, lost my virginity to her, we have a cat, I spend Christmas with her family, her family likes me, we work at the same place. I'm inexperienced and I dont know what to do.

Gaunab posted:

TL;DR - my gf is talking sweetly to other guys, as far as i know, nothing sexual has happened.

Xaris posted:

this guy is really dumb

Gaunab posted:

She asks what she can do, says that we broke up a week ago after we had a fight, says she still loves me, wants to stay, seems like shes on an emotional rollercoaster, she stayed at her mom's last night.

HardDiskD posted:

the girl is also very dumb because he is routinely snooping on her phone and she wont learn that

Xaris posted:

*to the tune of tegan and sara*
everyone is awful when you're posting on reddit


(and also SA)

WampaLord posted:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UIXHcOjJpxY

Better Fred Than Dead posted:

I've never seen this and holy crap

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My boyfriend [m36] got mad because I [f24] made a comment about another guy. Was I being inappropriate?

I need to know who is in the wrong in this situation! So my boyfriend and I are very much in love. We have absolutely no issues. We barely fight, maybe a bicker here or there like any couple, but we are in a very healthy relationship. We just bought a house that we are about to move into and we are planning to get married sometime next year. I'm also 7 months pregnant.

So he was drinking last night after work watching football and made a sexual comment about the cheerleaders. It was a stupid guy comment like "I want to stick it up her butt." I didn't think anything of it but it hurt my feelings a little bit because our sex life hasn't been the sexiest since I've gotten pregnant. I called him out on it and he said he was kidding. He always tells me I'm beautiful and sexy but he sometimes makes sexual comments like that without any thinking. I usually just brush it off because I feel that it's mostly harmless.

Fast forward 2 hours later. I ordered a pizza and the delivery man shows up at the door. I pay for the pizza and close the door. As I sat down I made a comment that the pizza guy was "kinda cute". That's when my boyfriend lost his mind. He started yelling and asking why would I ever say that to his face and accused me of wanting to gently caress the pizza guy. I told him that it was an innocent comment and I didn't mean anything sexual by it. I then pointed out the comment that he made earlier about the cheerleaders and how it was worse than my comment because it was sexual. "That's different because I will never touch them because they are on the TV! This guy was at my door!" He then told me that he cannot trust me anymore and that he thinks I will just gently caress any guy that I think is cute. This made me so angry because I will never cheat on him and never even think of cheating on him. He was so mad at me that he slept on the couch last night because "he didn't feel comfortable sleeping next to me."

So I barely got any sleep last night because I was so upset. I figured he drank too much last night and he would apologize this morning. But he didn't. He barely gave me a kiss when he left for work and told me I was "being mean last night" and that he will "hit on other women in front of me so I know how it feels."

I am so angry at him and his immature behavior. He has never been like this and I feel like he's overreacting. It really hurt my feelings that he said he will hit on other women in front of me to make me jealous because I didn't even hit on the delivery guy! Is my boyfriend acting crazy?

TL;DR - I said a delivery guy was "kinda cute". Boyfriend lost his mind.

Gaunab posted:

Chomp8645 posted:

They should stay with each other so that nobody else has to deal with them.