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Gumbel2Gumbel posted:What's everyone's take on all the phone snooping? I mean it catches cheaters but drat, that's a violation of privacy. If it hits the point where you feel the need to snoop on your SO's phone it doesn't matter what you find. Either you find proof you should break up, or you don't but the trust in your relationship has still broken down to the point you're spying on your partner and you should break up (also not finding proof still doesn't mean your suspicions are necessarily wrong). End result is the same so why bother with the crazy and invasive extra step
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 18:14 |
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HardDiskD posted:I (23/M) inadvertently hit my girlfriend (22/M) in the face really hard because she tickled me (and she knows I'm ticklish), but now shes acting like I deliberately did it. I hate both of these people, her for doing someone she knows gets semi-uncontrollable physical responses, and him for saying 'she reaped what she sowed' and worrying about his ~reputation~ like my husband and I gently caress around and tickle/mess with each other and we both have that instinctive kicking/wiggling that happens, but we don't blame each other for it. one time he fell off the bed and scratched the heck out of my cheek trying to hold onto me and I didn't get all pissy and think he did it on purpose, and I have loving BPD also I'm okay with my husband knowing my passwords and I know his as well, I've been able to deal with a lot of the anxiety by now and we're both open with each other. it can be a problem if it becomes controlling or fueled by jealousy, I know. luckily we're both just so stupid and poor that there's nothing to worry about
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 18:15 |
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The Snoo posted:I hate both of these people, her for doing someone she knows gets semi-uncontrollable physical responses, and him for saying 'she reaped what she sowed' and worrying about his ~reputation~ I don't know. If someone started calling me an abuser when I wasn't I'd be pretty upset.
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 18:20 |
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Gaunab posted:I don't know. If someone started calling me an abuser when I wasn't I'd be pretty upset. Yeah that is a serious accusation that carries a huge stigma and possible jail time.
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 18:25 |
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Yeah it said he apologized right away and took her to the doctor. What else does she want? The guy has a (ridiculous) uncontrollable reflex, it's not like he can go to anger management or whatever
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 18:25 |
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Gaunab posted:I don't know. If someone started calling me an abuser when I wasn't I'd be pretty upset.
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 18:24 |
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Dial-a-Dog posted:Yeah it said he apologized right away and took her to the doctor. What else does she want? The guy has a (ridiculous) uncontrollable reflex, it's not like he can go to anger management or whatever I've got something like that and have elbowed the gently caress out of my girlfriend by accident. She tries to massage my hosed up muscles without telling me (immune system thing) and it hurts like hell so it's an automatic reaction that happens sometimes.
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 18:25 |
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Khorne posted:Yeah. It's real hosed up that she is telling people he deliberately hit her and wants him to "own up to" something he didn't intentionally do. He even already apologized, that is literally what "own up to" means I don't know what else she wants from him and it sounds like the problem is neither do either of them
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 18:26 |
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Yeah telling her friends that he beat her is some ridiculous scorched earth, I dunno how things could recover from there.
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 18:26 |
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My girlfriend accidentally hit me in the jaw and chipped one of my front teeth, I never knew I should take the opportunity to ruin her life
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 18:27 |
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punch himself in the eye real hard and tell everyone she did it
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 18:27 |
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:Yeah telling her friends that he beat her is some ridiculous scorched earth, I dunno how things could recover from there. If my friend told me her boyfriend beat her and then later said "hahaha yeah it was a dumb fight and I was lying welp we're back together now" I would call the loving cops on her boyfriend because that's a giant-rear end abuse flag so in other words yeah I dunno how you come back from this because if she tells the truth and her friends are worth poo poo they won't believe her
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 18:29 |
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oops I glazed over stuff I guess, sorry I'm changing my response to 'wow she sucks'
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 18:41 |
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When I was 6 I decided to scare my dad awake when he was napping on the couch and in the process of being startled awake he smacked me in the eye. Cue me as a 1st grader telling my teacher when she asked how I got that black eye that "oh my dad hit me" and the resulting poo poo storm that started. Sorry dad.
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Irradiation posted:When I was 6 I decided to scare my dad awake when he was napping on the couch and in the process of being startled awake he smacked me in the eye. Cue me as a 1st grader telling my teacher when she asked how I got that black eye that "oh my dad hit me" and the resulting poo poo storm that started. Sorry dad. When I was in school, I was asked what my parents do. I said that my dad was an accountant and that my mom sold drugs. She was a pharmaceutical sales rep. She got an interesting call from the teacher that day.
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 19:33 |
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My boyfriend [24 M] joked about leaving me [24 F] for a younger woman someday when he's never joked about leaving or cheating before.quote:My boyfriend is the most romantic and thoughtful man I have ever known. He's never been the guy to make jokes at my expense - in fact his good guy friend jokes about cheating on his girl all the time and one time that friend and my bf's dad were joking about side chicks and my boyfriend and I were there and my boyfriend leaned in to whisper to me "You're the only one for me". He's pulled me in to slow dance in the kitchen at holiday family gatherings while everyone else stands around talking. He's given me thoughtful gifts and flowers and always does little things to make me feel good.
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 19:37 |
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Gaunab posted:I don't know. If someone started calling me an abuser when I wasn't I'd be pretty upset. My girlfriend is a psych major. We were shopping at my favorite used bookstore together. She picked up a book on domestic violence and why men beat their spouses. Then she went and paid for it separately and waited for me outside the store. When I checked out a minute later the clerk was giving me dirty looks and I didn't understand why until I got outside and saw what the GF had picked out. I'm still a little upset by that.
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 19:36 |
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:My boyfriend [24 M] joked about leaving me [24 F] for a younger woman someday when he's never joked about leaving or cheating before. The joke was harmless, but his reaction to her getting upset is eyebrow raising.
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 19:40 |
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Ok I'm gonna blame this on this thread but only because I have no idea what is going on e: to clarify this was a post about my weird new av, but I think it's because I made a joke about Trump's impending child molestation lawsuit loquacius fucked around with this message at 20:40 on Oct 28, 2016 |
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loquacius posted:Ok I'm gonna blame this on this thread Holy crow someone got salty lol
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 21:04 |
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consider that senpai...noticed
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 21:06 |
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quote:Me (24f) with my bf (26m). He sort of hit me and I don't know how to feel.
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 21:13 |
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if you can't take karate, keep your hands off his body
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 21:20 |
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china bot posted:if you can't take karate, keep your hands off his body This is especially funny to me because my girlfriend and I will randomly scream "BODY KARATE" and then karate chop eachother. Neither of us has ever cried, although we scared the cat once. (the cat did not get karate chopped, just surprised by the yelling)
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 21:31 |
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I [28 M] am very happy with my co-habitating girlfriend [52 F] of 3+ years, but not attracted to her anymore due to age
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I [28 M] am very happy with my co-habitating girlfriend [52 F] of 3+ years, but not attracted to her anymore due to age That sucks man. We're here for you.
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I [28 M] am very happy with my co-habitating girlfriend [52 F] of 3+ years, but not attracted to her anymore due to age 51 to 52 is like falling off a cliff, amirite?
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 22:10 |
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Gaunab posted:Me (24f) with my bf (26m). ... This is completely ridiculous, unless she meant to say husband (26m) and "married for about a year" now
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I [28 M] am very happy with my co-habitating girlfriend [52 F] of 3+ years, but not attracted to her anymore due to age Maybe when you two have children together it will get better and you will be attracted to her.
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 22:27 |
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Chichevache posted:Maybe when you two have children together it will get better and you will be attracted to her.
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# ? Oct 28, 2016 22:58 |
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Mods can you make it so that all posts in this thread preemptively have appended to the end?
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# ? Oct 29, 2016 01:44 |
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quote:My (31m) Girlfriend (31f) wears old granny panties with holes in them and doesn't present herself in a way I find sexy OP posted:I'm a lawyer she is a therapist. She has a casual dress code and I have business professional. I'm not downing granny panties regular cotton underwear would be absolutely fine, holy underwear was the turn off. And not just one time either consistently holy old underwear. OP posted:Dude it's not a brief I'm riting here
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# ? Oct 29, 2016 01:55 |
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Skratte posted:
Mods! New thread title! Also, it's been said before, but what's up with guys that don't like giving head? I mean, sucks that that's the only way she can finish but c'mon.
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# ? Oct 29, 2016 02:53 |
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holy rite
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Skratte posted:I'm a lawyer He either neglected to mention she's Mormon or he is Saul Goodman. Murray Mantoinette posted:
Eh, I get why he would be bothered that she only orgasms from oral stimulation. And I get why he would be bothered if he feels she's doing an "orgasm scorecard". But he should be trying to address that instead of getting so worked up that he can't even cum anymore. Maybe look into getting a WeVibe or try adding clitoral stimulation to help her out. Or break up so she can find a guy who she is actually attracted to because OP sounds like he's probably poo poo in bed. Chichevache fucked around with this message at 03:04 on Oct 29, 2016 |
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My [29/f] boyfriend [35/m] is off drinking with an old female friend I've never met and I feel really uncomfortable. Not sure if I'm overreacting. Ok. Here we go. I live with my boyfriend, who I've been dating for 2 years. It's a serious relationship and we frequently talk about our future together. I have some trust issues with my boyfriend. He has a history of cheating in past relationships and that's made me paranoid in our relationship. I'm very open with him about it and I'm working on getting over it. But it's difficult to get over when he repeatedly does stuff like this. For example this one time he said he was getting dinner with his sister and stayed out until 2 AM without texting or calling, which left me really worried. The next day I was very upset and thought there's no way he could possibly be out until 2 with his sister... until he confirmed it with pictures and texts. He was with her. Another example: he sometimes gets drinks with a female friend and is very secretive about it. I've only met her once, and only because I eventually demanded to meet her. He knows it makes me uncomfortable but never invites me along. So that brings us to today - I'm not sure if what is going on right now is sketchy and inconsiderate... or if I'm just being jealous and suspicious. Earlier this week my boyfriend casually told me "oh by the way an old friend of mine ("random woman I've never heard of") who lives in Austria is flying into the country and I'm going to have lunch with her on Friday." He told me they'd meet in the city where he works around noon and then he'd be home around 8 PM. He also said he'd "try not to be too drunk when he gets home" It was out of nowhere and I said ok cool, no problem. Over the next few days it dug at me because I'd never heard him mention her in our 2 years together (and he's told me about virtually all of his present and past friends) so I asked him some questions like "where did you meet, how long have you known her, is she married" etc. My very loose understanding from his very short answers is that her husband (or the father of her daughter?) lives in our country and she's visiting? Not even sure. One thing: my boyfriend and I live in a big city, but he works in a little rural fishing town. For some reason he decided to meet this woman in the town where he works. This makes everything a bit sketchier because it means they're isolated, I can't meet her, etc. Well, my boyfriend called me at noon to tell me he was waiting at the train station for his friend and he'd call me later. Then I got a text from him at 5 PM showing a picture of him at a bar saying everything's going fine. Eventually at 7 PM he called me, sounding quite drunk, to tell me he was at the hotel restaurant with his friend. Almost immediately he put his friend on the phone to introduce herself to me. She sounded pretty drunk too and basically just said "oh it's so great to meet you, I'm visiting again at Christmas time so maybe I can meet you in person then" and some other stuff that I didn't really catch. My boyfriend came back on the phone and said goodbye and that he'd be home "at some point." The whole call was like 7 minutes. 10 minutes later my boyfriend sent me a picture of this strange woman in a red dress that I've never met on the beautiful ocean boardwalk during the sunset. So I guess they went on a very romantic and picturesque walk. At this point my stomach dropped and I was really upset. Even if he's not cheating or doing anything sketchy.... why would you think it's nice to send your girlfriend a sunset walk picture of this woman who you're clearly drunk with!?! I didn't respond to the text and less than 5 minutes later he texted me again "didn't you like her? <3" Again, I didn't respond because this is starting to make me really uncomfortable. Again, less than 5 minutes later, he calls me. He clearly realizes that he's hosed up because he (very drunkenly) says something like "Listen, I know you don't trust me but I just want you to know that nothing is happening and I wish you were here. I want you to be a part of my friend's life." My stomach is straight up on the ground now, I feel like I could cry, and I tell him "maybe don't send me romantic sunset pictures of her for one. We'll talk about this tomorrow. I just feel really uncomfortable" and he said "Ok just know I'm thinking of you the whole time" And I tell him, almost crying "you're making it way worse, man, you could have met her in our city or you could have invited me to come meet her but you didn't" and he realized in his drunken brain that this conversation was making it worse so he quickly ended the call. It's been 20 minutes since that call and I haven't heard a word from him. No idea where he is or when he's coming home. I'm filled with a lot of anger and frustration right now. I'm trying so hard to trust him and I have nevertold him not to go somewhere or not to do anything or not to see anyone. I've seriously done my best to be open minded and let him do whatever he wants. But he does poo poo like this and I'm left not trusting him. I don't think he met up with this woman with intentions to cheat on me. But I think the way he handled this reunion was so inconsiderate and thoughtless. There are so many ways he could have been more tactful: he could have invited me to meet her, even if just for an hour towards the end, for one. He could have met her in the city where we live. That's the very least he could have done. I think he shouldn't spend 8 hours drinking with some woman his girlfriend of 2 years has never met, but that's just me. Am I being ridiculous here? He's going to get home "at some point" and he's going to be drunk as hell so I can't talk to him about it tonight. Tomorrow his friends are coming into town to spend the entire day with us (yes, us, for some reason he wants me to spend time with THESE friends, but not mysterious Austrian women) so I feel like I can't even say anything. It's so confusing that he's so insistent that I spend time with oneof his friend groups but then hidesanother person from me. Like, I don't even really want to spend the entire day tomorrow with his guy friends but he insists that I come... why? Why not invite me to meet this mysterious woman when you know I have trust issues with you?? I don't understand. I just feel loving horrible right now. I feel like we've gotten into situations like this many times and he keeps doing the same poo poo because he doesn't consider my feelings. Advice, please. edit: see boyfriend's sarcastic response in the comments. tl;dr: Boyfriend is off drinking with some Austrian chick for 8 hours and I'm freaking out.
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# ? Oct 29, 2016 03:56 |
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But then.. panlorules: Seriously? Are you going to put up with all that poo poo?? Surely that "boyfriend" of yours is pubcrawling right now, while you weep... You should put some make up on and go for a walk, meet some new people. You deserve better, dude! OP: This is my boyfriend, everyone. I showed him this post and I get a sarcastic response. AND THEN OP: He got physically abusive and we broke up. I go home later this week. Case closed. spineofasnake: Are you okay? Please call the police if he has become violent. OP: He's violent as gently caress. I'm trying to get my things out of his room but he keeps physically pushing me out or picking me up and dropping me down. I'm on the couch now and he's leaving me alone. I will leave in the morning.
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# ? Oct 29, 2016 03:59 |
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My (25f) fiancé (25m) is blaming my diet for my miscarriage.quote:suffered a miscarriage last month. I was almost through the first trimester. Agony doesn't begin to explain the depth of my pain. I feel like a failure, my hormones and body still feel so out of whack, sometimes I just break down crying over what I've lost. I'm young but I was so excited and ready for this baby. gluten free people that dont have celiacs are the worst
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# ? Oct 29, 2016 03:59 |
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I [28 M] am very happy with my co-habitating girlfriend [52 F] of 3+ years, but not attracted to her anymore due to age .....Mom?
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wow that is truly disgusting. 50% of miscarriages happen within the first trimester and what a lovely trip to lay on someone who is hurting. and with cheating gut I'm so glad she's leaving and I bet the reason shes paranoid and knows he's a cheater is because that's how they got together in the first place
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