Melchiresa posted:

My [24F] boyfriend [26M] asked me to go to a wedding today for a barely friend of his instead of celebrating our 5 year anniversary.

bubblebee posted:

This post has new updates.


UPDATE: I decided I would go to the wedding. We are currently at the reception and my BF is no where to be seen. He's been less than interested in conversation with me so he disappeared about 15 minutes ago.

UPDATE 2: I saw him run off with some girl I don't know into one of the hallways. I'm thinking of taking the car keys and leaving him to find his own way home.

bubblebee posted:

This post has new updates.


UPDATE: I decided I would go to the wedding. We are currently at the reception and my BF is no where to be seen. He's been less than interested in conversation with me so he disappeared about 15 minutes ago.

UPDATE 2: I saw him run off with some girl I don't know into one of the hallways. I'm thinking of taking the car keys and leaving him to find his own way home.

Khorne posted:

The 28 y/o man Pick post was excellent and one of the best posts Pick has made in this thread. It still amuses me because it accurately describes a whole lot of people in r/relationships, man and woman alike.

remigious posted:

Pick is a goddamn saint and I'm sorry if she sounds like a "downer." Maybe men should stop being garbage.

Tolkien minority posted:

look guys i specifically said dont start a derail yall should shut the gently caress up and not get the best thread in gbs closed

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Facebook Aunt posted:

This one is strange. That seems like the behavior of a drug addict or a teenager, not a 29 year old mother.

zakharov posted:

The thread's going to get closed if y'all don't knock this off.

Have a terrible husband!

Husband [26m] is upset with me [23f] because of all the "unnecessary" attention I give to our babies [8 month old trips]? Trying to understand him...


"Feeding our babies? YOU'LL SPOIL THEM"

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My [13M] parents (aka dad) named me after a Marvel Superhero. How do I stop the iron man jokes?

Hi, so my name is Tony Stark. I wish I was joking

I get so much poo poo for my name. I have no idea why mom allowed it. I can only assume she never heard of Iron Man. She seemed really surprised when she found out Iron Man and I share a name. My brothers and sisters give me poo poo for my name. My friends give me a hard time for my man.

"Hey Tony, where's thor?" "You going to assemble the Avengers Iron Man?" then you have the time people don't believe me when I tell them my name. I need to show them my passport. Every day I get an Iron Man joke. I wish I was kidding.

It actually does not help that my best friend is black. Cedric, My brothers keep asking me where Rhodey is. Or how's rhodey after his accident.

How do I stop the Iron Man Jokes?

tl;dr: How do I stop the iron man jokes

Caesar Saladin posted:

it wouldn't be so bad if they didn't make all the movies, that's just bad luck

who'd have thought they would have picked Iron Man as their main movie?

Charles Get-Out posted:

I wonder if Kevin Smith's daughter, Harley Quinn Smith, gets the same poo poo.

Dogfish posted:

Guess you're not part of that wide overlap, then. Congratulations on being a good person! I hope your wife's scary ex isn't still threatening you guys.

Charles Get-Out posted:

I wonder if Kevin Smith's daughter, Harley Quinn Smith, gets the same poo poo.

Jel Shaker posted:

Going to name my first born male Sue

See how that works out

Jel Shaker posted:

Going to name my first born male Sue

See how that works out

Jel Shaker posted:

Going to name my first born male Sue

See how that works out

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Me [23 M] caught off guard from her sarcasm [19 F], how to recover?

I asked a girl to do a user study on my school project and give feedback on our college campus. Since I'm used to hearing constructive criticism, I'm accustomed to concrete words on how to make it better and stuff. Shortly after we started, she was being fairly sarcastic about stuff in my project. Stupid me mentioned how I thought she was being serious and she said something along the lines of how she would stop the sarcasm. It completely caught me off guard because she hadn't really been sarcastic to me in the past. I felt like I missed a good opportunity to be playful and fun.

However, I would say the rest of the "date" went quite well. She had brought a rubik's cube, which we both like solving and she laughed so much while I was teaching her a new way to do it. This lasted about 45 minutes. Did a lot of playing with her hair and stuff while we were talking. I did feel a slight sense of she was done towards the end of it though, and she didn't reply to my Snapchat the next day.

In addition, a man stopped me on our way out and I introduced her to him as my "friend". Was that bad? I mean obviously she is my friend but yeah.
We are both the same major (computer science), nerds, musicians, obviously have a lot in common.

What should I do to recover from this situation? Is it as easy as being sarcastic myself to show her that I get sarcasm? Or maybe something else?
tl;dr: If a girl tried being sarcastic and stopped because I didn't really pick up on it, how do I recover?

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I [27/M] think I hosed it up with a friend [22/F], what can I do to salvage it?

So I know this girl since May. We're pretty good friends, we hang out every once in a while together, and talk to each other on a weekly basis.
Anyways, this Saturday night she agreed to hang out with me. I picked her up and we went to a party together. I wasn't feeling it since it wasn't as poppin as I hope it was. But I tried to enjoy myself.

Whenever I'm bored, nervous, or just want to escape, I mindlessly scroll my Facebook feed. It's like a nervous tick almost. I did that the entire time.
Towards the end, it was 2:30 and I just wanted to get back home. I kinda kept pushing the issue of rolling out. Not in an aggressive rear end in a top hat way, but more of like.. Whenever there was a lul, I'd sometimes be like "So uhmm. Yea, I kinda wanted to get going."

We eventually left. I was nervously checking my FB feed while at a redlight. I thought my foot was all the way on the break, but I guess not since I almost softly rear-ended someone.

I dropped her off. And she said "It was good chillin. See you soon." (probably didn't mean it, probably was just being polite.) I started nervously checking my FB feed again, and said "You too." And then she ogt out and didn't give me a hug like last time.

I then felt so bummed out for completly bombing this date. Women never agree to hang out with me one on one seeing I have a hard time developing close connections especially with women.

So whenever I drove her back home, I just went 90 down the free way without a seatbelt, I kinda was hoping I would kill myself. But I guess it didn't happen. I really want to somehow salvage it with this girl.

TL;DR: Hung out with female friend. She left without giving me a hug. I think I bombed it for seeming bored/uninterested. But I really do like her. What should I do?

bubblebee posted:

This post has new updates.


UPDATE: I decided I would go to the wedding. We are currently at the reception and my BF is no where to be seen. He's been less than interested in conversation with me so he disappeared about 15 minutes ago.

UPDATE 2: I saw him run off with some girl I don't know into one of the hallways. I'm thinking of taking the car keys and leaving him to find his own way home.

corn on the cop posted:

My [13M] parents (aka dad) named me after a Marvel Superhero. How do I stop the iron man jokes?

Hi, so my name is Tony Stark. I wish I was joking

I get so much poo poo for my name. I have no idea why mom allowed it. I can only assume she never heard of Iron Man. She seemed really surprised when she found out Iron Man and I share a name. My brothers and sisters give me poo poo for my name. My friends give me a hard time for my man.

"Hey Tony, where's thor?" "You going to assemble the Avengers Iron Man?" then you have the time people don't believe me when I tell them my name. I need to show them my passport. Every day I get an Iron Man joke. I wish I was kidding.

It actually does not help that my best friend is black. Cedric, My brothers keep asking me where Rhodey is. Or how's rhodey after his accident.

How do I stop the Iron Man Jokes?

tl;dr: How do I stop the iron man jokes

Dogfish posted:

Oh yeah the prairies. I always forget about the prairies, which are so culturally dissimilar to the parts of Canada on either end that nothing I can say about the rest of Canada applies to them.

Maybe I'm just not noticing them, but I would bet good money that there isn't a single Canadian flag anywhere in my neighbourhood. I'll look out for them over the next couple days and see if I've just been ignoring them. But on the other hand I've had the experience a couple of times of passing a house with a Canadian flag out front and thinking, "Huh, that's weird. Wonder if it's an embassy or something." I would be weirded out if I went to someone's house and they had a flag outside.

ChickenOfTomorrow posted:

i say all this as a person with an active tumblr who unironically said 'heteronormative' this morning.

Gluten Freeman posted:

edit: another one along the same lines. how many of these idiots are there

Dogfish posted:

Oh yeah the prairies. I always forget about the prairies, which are so culturally dissimilar to the parts of Canada on either end that nothing I can say about the rest of Canada applies to them.

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TL:DR what is the best way to talk to my bf about his son intentionally causing drama and fights in the house? What's the best way to handle the situation, and act, when his son interupts me talking or blocks hugs between my bf and i?
My boyfriend and I (29F) recently moved in together. He only has his son over the weekend, where he spends the night. I also have a son (3) who lives with me full time except sometimes he sleeps over at his dads.
Anyway, I used to really like my bfs son. He had a quick wit. Funny kid. I never thought him and I ever had any problems.. but I kept hearing my bfs family talk about his son, and how his son needs therapy. I thought they were just being a little harsh. Kid seemed fine to me.
But now I am seeing they were right, this kid is terrible and I dont even like him around me anymore. Hes never openly bad.. but hes manipulative and intentionally tries to stir up drama. And lies!
Example:
I woke up early one morning and got coffee going for my boyfriend and did some dishes to surprise him and went back to bed. Later in the day, after my bf dropped his son off at home he boasted about how his son made him coffee and did the dishes this morning, what a great kid!
In the past, his son would randomly tell me stories about his dad. Tell me how he was talking on the phone all night with someone, tell me hes out with a woman (which he was.. but he was out with his sister..)
He also gets my toddler and my roommates toddler (4) all riled up and than tell on them so they get in trouble constantly to the point I have to keep the kids separate from his son..
His son recently got in trouble as well for punching a 2nd grader in the face, claiming self defense.
And the big one happened last week, where (I THINK) my bf finally saw what his son is doing..
They were downstairs watching tv and my bf needed his charger, so he sent his kid up to my room to ask me for it. His son asks for the "pink charger". What pink charger? I don't have a pink charger.. his kid says "okay" and leaves very quickly. After some time passed, I sent my bf a text asking about what pink charger? He replies "my phone charger. It's not pink.. just give it to (my son) jesus" and his son appeared again. I gave him the charger and replied to my bf with "what's with the aggression?" No reply.
I start heading downstairs and see the charger on the stairs. I pick it up and go down and hand it to my bf and ask him what's going on. He got snippy with me and grabbed it from me. It took a few moments of bickering (in front of his son) for the whole story to come out.
His son told my bf I wouldn't give him the charger, than left the charger on the stairs and told my bf I told him to say to quit being lazy and go get it yourself.
He reprimanded his son (more gently than I would have) and was hugging and rustling his hair as he did it.
His son is staying with us again tonight, I'm at work and dont even want to go home.. idk how to talk to my bf about this. Its at a point that I DREAD the weekend. I'm just in a bad mood knowing hes coming over.. and my bf notices, asks me why im always "in a mood" when his son comes over. Why we always fight when he has his son ect. How can he not SEE that his SON is starting all of these fights between us? I get putting your child first.. but this is too much.
My bf tries to be nice when I get home ask how my day was, hug me.. but when his son is there I cant even get a word in because his son likes to pretend like his dad is talking to.him.
"My day was okay, thank dad" (long hug) and than they start talking and im left just standing there. Like my bf totally forgot about me.
He wants us to eventually have his son full time.. and if this is how it's gonna be, no way. I cant live with that at all.
But how can I talk to my boyfriend about this, without sounding.. silly? I don't want him to think I'm jealous of a child.. and its not jealousy (I don't think) I just dont like being tossed aside like that, and his son interrupting like that bothers me.
EDIT: I'm not going to change what I wrote, but I want to add.. hes not a terrible kid. That was out of line of me. I'm just stressed out and upset. Hes a good kid, I just dont trust him (and can't due to the examples above). I can understand everything commenters have said.. and i respect that. Which is why we made a space for just them in the basement. A mini apartment to mimic life before my bf moved in with me to make things easier on his son.. but its not helping, and it's slowly getting worse as time goes on.

Mameluke posted:

My boyfriends (31m) son (10m) is terrible


She also posted My (29F) boyfriends (31M) family think I am a hardcore drug addict... but it's been deleted. So we have one single mother with a child and a roommate who also has a child, who's invited her boyfriend (with the manipulative child) to live with her. This will surely turn out great.

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so really short version is, we went to a Halloween part at a private house last night. It was a very mixed young business person//college and maybe even some high schooler types snuck in. It was EXTREMELY rowdy and most everyone was drunk (or more). Most of the girls were dressed as skimpy as possible (I think there were at least 5 Harley Quinns--as an example).

My fiancé rarely ever drinks so he was pretty wasted. As the party was slowly winding down I see him eyeing a college girl (at least I hope she wasn't one if the HS girls that snuck in) dressed like a witch but with garter belt and stockings and more than half of her butt hanging below the hem of her costume.

Like in slow motion I see him reach out and smack her on her bare butt. He hit her pretty hard because she jumped and started crying and took off upstairs. I rushed over and asked him what the gently caress and trying to prevent him from getting killed by all the guys. When I asked him what he was thinking he said "are you kidding me, she was asking for it with her rear end hanging out like that."

Asking for it..,he actually had the loving balls to say she was asking for it. I turned in disgust and honestly didn't care if he got his rear end kicked, grabbed my friend and walked to her house.
Fiancé was apparently able to talk himself out of getting killed and He texted me that he made it home via Lyft and this gem "you should dress up like that witch for me!"

To me, pretty hung over and still livid and feeling horrible for that poor girl (I should have tried to find her but it didn't occur to me) this should be a deal breaker. But this is so out of character for him...maybe a second chance if he promises to never do it ANYTHING resembling this?

tl;dr: Fiancé spanked a girl at a Halloween party and when asked to explain why he said she was asking for it by wearing her costume. This should be a deal breaker but it's very out of character for him and I don't know how to handle it.

Frog Act posted:

my (26f) fiancé (32m) togheter 5 years spanked a girl at a Halloween party last night. She did not like and when he was asked to explain himself he said "she was asking for it with her costume."


lmao he's a raper

Frog Act posted:

my (26f) fiancé (32m) togheter 5 years spanked a girl at a Halloween party last night. She did not like and when he was asked to explain himself he said "she was asking for it with her costume."


lmao he's a raper

Chichevache posted:

call the cops on him.

Chichevache posted:

gently caress it, call the cops on him.

Manticorny posted:

yeah, it's not like they have real problems to deal with

Chichevache posted:

You're right, sexual assault isn't a real problem.

Manticorny posted:

You're right, smacking someone on the rear end is sexual assault.

Manticorny posted:

You're right, smacking someone on the rear end is sexual assault.

Manticorny posted:

You're right, smacking someone on the rear end is sexual assault.