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I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I have many insecurities and a low self esteem. I've been dealing with these issues for many years and whenever I'm in a relationship, my anxiety/depression increases like crazy.
My boyfriend has always been so supportive. He is patient and extremely loving/reassuring. He has never cheated on me and never betrayed my trust. For this I feel bad because he is always dealing with my jealousy, insecurity, and accusations.

The issue: Today I went into a closet to look for a shirt to borrow from him. In this closet I found a woman's jacket hanging. Now I know some might jump to conclusions, but I could tell that it's been there for awhile. We live together and there's no way it's recent. We live with his family and they're the type to put stuff away like that. So I'm sure it's been there for a few years and no one has really noticed it.
However, stumbling across this jacket triggered SO MANY emotions. I've been trying so hard to forget his past, and seeing a jacket from his ex made all the emotions come flooding back.

I showed it to him and he said he couldn't remember that jacket, but that I was right it may have been an exes. He said I could just toss it in the trash if it bothered me. I was so flooded with anger I got scissors and started viciously cutting it up and letting all my anger out.
He told me that it's all in the past and not to over think and dwell on it.
What do you guys think?

I'm trying to forget about it but it's hard. I hate his ex. I've never seen her but the details I know about her upset me. They were fwb for 3 years and she was married in an LDR the entire time. They were together when he was around 18/19-21/22. It's been several years since he's been with her but I can't help but compare myself to this invisible being when I've never even SEEN her. Partially because of little comments he's made throughout the relationship that I don't think he realized hurt me so much, etc.
Please help me. I want nothing more than to feel happy.

TLDR: Found boyfriend's ex's old jacket and it triggered all the pain I've been dealing with for the past two years.

Chichevache posted:

Me [30 M] with an ex [26 F] of a friend of mine, she accidentally sent me nudes and now demands I give her my phone because she wants to check if I deleted the photos

Gaunab posted:

Huffington post.


I wish I could see the tattoo. It just sounds so bad.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

I'm struggling to believe it because he said he was gone for a weekend and she gets this monster tattoo from butt cheek to neck? I have pretty huge tattoos on both arms and can say that they are approx a third the size of what he's saying and they each took three five-hour sessions with a couple weeks between to heal.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

I'm struggling to believe it because he said he was gone for a weekend and she gets this monster tattoo from butt cheek to neck? I have pretty huge tattoos on both arms and can say that they are approx a third the size of what he's saying and they each took three five-hour sessions with a couple weeks between to heal.

Jenner posted:

I tried to read it, I really did, but I got overwhelmed by second hand shame and embarrassment and had to stop.

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Hi reddit, I havent talked to anyone about this so i need to take this out here.
Basically I just started stressing out about my internet history leaking or whatever some weeks ago.
But in the last week I have been panicing over it. I find new reasons to overthink everything.
I have thoughts about my life basically ending because someone leaks my porn history or whatever.
For example I visited a friend that I don't really meet anymore last april. And i logged onto my facebook from his computer, and now im having "PANIC" over him hacking into my stuff because he's into programming/ hacking or whatever.
Even though i know it isnt possible, nor would he have the interest. Im not watching nothing Illegal or disqusting, im just attracted to big girls and that something I wouldnt want anyone knowing.
But this problem has escalated and basically taken over my life the last week. I need some guidance to calm me. Please.
tl;dr: Im having huge anxiety over my internet history which isn't interesting to anyone.

Anony Mouse posted:

Please stop talking about the master self-cuck, it's hilarious but gets a bit old and is a bit like punching a defenseless, self-owning baby who has already falcon punched himself into outer space.

Me [19 M] having HUGE anxiety over my internet history


"help, I'm a chubby chaser and this fact might ruin my life"

Jokes aside, the poor kid needs to take a chill pill. I seriously doubt that Anonymous is waiting in the wings to hack and kinkshame him, and even if they did his dirty secret really isn't all that dirty. Sounds like he just has deep seated anxiety that could manifest over almost anything.

gentle pete posted:

Me [21M] with my Girlfriend [19F] of almost 3 years, she has a weird problem with me watching anime

Nuebot posted:

Guys, guys! Sometimes my girlfriend isn't interested in anime! Maybe I should break up with her?

I don't know though, this one definitely feels like there's something we're missing. Like, does he talk about how much he wants to bone the anime girls or something? Because I probably would walk away mid-conversation when that started too.

Chichevache posted:

They're not wrong though. If there are condoms that feel as good as unprotected sex I would love to know the brand.

Teenagers should still be using condoms though. I'm definitely not advocating that they don't.

HardDiskD posted:

help reddit, i can't ask my gf why she gets upset when i cant stop bringing anime up also i watch anime porn

54 40 or gently caress posted:

lmao he's probably watching one of the loving weird embarrassing anime like the one where the guy is in love with his little sister or something

Jack Trades posted:

They should try a polyromantic relationship between her, him and the animes.

Jack Trades posted:

Lmao if she thinks any reasonable person would just let someone snoop around their phone and computer.
Also that girl must not be very bright cause there's no loving way for her to check that the dude hasn't saved the photos on a thumb drive or a cloud server or something.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

she doesn't care about the nudes at all - she sent them so that she could look at his phone and computer

Anony Mouse posted:

Please stop talking about the master self-cuck, it's hilarious but gets a bit old and is a bit like punching a defenseless, self-owning baby who has already falcon punched himself into outer space.

Me [19 M] having HUGE anxiety over my internet history


"help, I'm a chubby chaser and this fact might ruin my life"

Jokes aside, the poor kid needs to take a chill pill. I seriously doubt that Anonymous is waiting in the wings to hack and kinkshame him, and even if they did his dirty secret really isn't all that dirty. Sounds like he just has deep seated anxiety that could manifest over almost anything.

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Me [22M] with my Girlfriend [22F], found out she keeps almost 50 photos of one of our friends on her laptop, and keeps porno videos with guys that look like him

This is all started when my girlfriend asked me to submit an assessment for her. She was at work and forgot to send it in and asked if I could do it. Her laptop was at my place so I said I'd do it, no worries. Now I admit at this point I started to snoop. I had to do a lot of clicking to find the porn, it was basically a file in a file in a file. At first I thought it was just photos of friends, but it ends up just being photos of this one guy, we'll call him E. I keep looking in the file and I see she downloaded porno videos with guys who look like him, and some gifs that literally last like 6 seconds but they look like E so she saved them. There are heaps of his actual photos she took from Facebook and Instagram.

I have no idea what to think of this. I remember asking her before if she was into porn and she said no. Apparently she is when it looks like one of our friends. We all met each other our first year of Uni and through the grapevine I found out she had a crush on him back in 2012, and it seems some of these photos are from back then.

I'm not sure what to do. Do I confront her? I know I invaded her privacy and it was a dick move, but I think her getting off thinking about a guy we both consider friends is a dick move too,

TLDR: Girlfriend keeps photos of a guy we know and porno videos that look like him. Keeps them in a hidden folder. What do I do?

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Hi Reddit.

My brother is a detective in the police force. He is a married man and, we are fairly close. He brings his family (his wife and daughters) over often for family dinner. My daughters and his daughters get along really well. My husband seems to be obsessed with my brothers job.

As I said my brother is a detective. My husband keeps asking him about his job. Like he asks him what he does, how many people he arrests, has he shot anyone. He asks my brother what he is working on at the moment. Who is the most dangerous person he arrested.

My husband has gotten into the habit of threatening to get people arrested. He keeps saying that his brother in law is a detective, and he will talk to them about getting them arrested. He actually goes into my brothers work, and is offended when my brother ignores him when he's working.

How do I get him to stop this behaviour

tl;dr: How do I get my husband to stop this behaviour?

Gaunab posted:

Doctor J Off posted:

My [27F] husband [29M] does not understand that My brother can't arrest people he does not like.


Help reddit, I'm married to a 10 year old.

Doctor J Off posted:

My [27F] husband [29M] does not understand that My brother can't arrest people he does not like.


Help reddit, I'm married to a 10 year old.

tactlessbastard posted:

Dump her, move on, and don't be such a snoop next time.

Charles Get-Out posted:

It's not like she's actually loving the dude to his knowledge. Crushes are harmless typically and people get them all the time, he should let it go unless he gets actual evidence of wrongdoing.

Unless of course he "just can't let it go" that his girlfriend might be attracted to another person, then he should sever and save her the annoyance of dealing with him.

ikanreed posted:

Jesus Christ. Does he not know what he's doing could get him arrested? How are people this dumb?

tactlessbastard posted:

He took it to Reddit. He's never going to let it go.

Charles Get-Out posted:

It's not like she's actually loving the dude to his knowledge. Crushes are harmless typically and people get them all the time, he should let it go unless he gets actual evidence of wrongdoing.

Unless of course he "just can't let it go" that his girlfriend might be attracted to another person, then he should sever and save her the annoyance of dealing with him.

Pick posted:

Self-Burning Man

Jack Trades posted:

Lmao if she thinks any reasonable person would just let someone snoop around their phone and computer.
Also that girl must not be very bright cause there's no loving way for her to check that the dude hasn't saved the photos on a thumb drive or a cloud server or something.