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Just get progressively more emotionally distant and dismissive, sneak in a few subtly hurtful remarks about her looks, and openly flirt with other women. It's like the guy's never ended a relationship before. snipe this is my advice for the whole thread now
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This is really easily solved by saying "this isn't what I want" and breaking up with her. Ya know, cause it isn't what he wants and he wants to break up.
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tip: the cat doesn't give a poo poo unless it's being abused
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Charles Get-Out posted:This is really easily solved by saying "this isn't what I want" and breaking up with her. Ya know, cause it isn't what he wants and he wants to break up. I can only imagine trying to tell a partner I am living with "this isn't what I want" without giving them actual concrete details of what is wrong. The dude isn't in a several month long relationship, that's not really going to fly.
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Chichevache posted:I can only imagine trying to tell a partner I am living with "this isn't what I want" without giving them actual concrete details of what is wrong. The dude isn't in a several month long relationship, that's not really going to fly. It doesn't matter because no one accepts your reasons when you want to break up with them if they are invested. Explaining yourself has always been a waste of time in my experience and just leads to the partner bargaining for the relationship. "This isn't what I want" is accurate and the dude gains nothing by getting super specific and saying she's fat and not emotionally or intellectually stimulating.
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Gaunab posted:Just going to say this since I can see the derail in this thread happening but Buy some rope, idiot!!!
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NOBODY GIVES A gently caress ABOUT YOUR KINKS AND WHAT PORN YOU WATCH
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Gaunab posted:Just going to say this since I can see the derail in this thread happening but The correct way to proceed is to show her his chinese cartoon porn collection to one up her. See how she likes that and then when she's sufficiently disgusted  and if she isn't then also but twice as quickly.
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That porn one wasn't even weird, that guy needs to get over his religious upbringing. What I have to offer is a video break up where the GF tests her BF's loyalty, he even manages to slip in the possibility of an open relationship. http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/weird-news/girlfriend-sends-porn-star-test-9081805
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Devian666 posted:That porn one wasn't even weird, that guy needs to get over his religious upbringing. Devian666 posted:He tells her he's done, hangs up on her, as she's left saying: "Are you f***ing kidding me? That's how he breaks up with me after a f***ing year?" 
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drat right. His method of breaking up would be a great answer for those redditors struggling with how to do it.
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Charles Get-Out posted:It doesn't matter because no one accepts your reasons when you want to break up with them if they are invested. Explaining yourself has always been a waste of time in my experience and just leads to the partner bargaining for the relationship.
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This is what happens when cat ladies have an open relationship.
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Defiance posted:Just get progressively more emotionally distant and dismissive, sneak in a few subtly hurtful remarks about her looks, and openly flirt with other women. It's like the guy's never ended a relationship before. Not sure how this is going to help with the cat lady.
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I disagree, if you're with someone and previously working on building a life together you owe that person an honest answer. I mean no one can stop you from randomly cutting off all contact with your person and moving to romania to pursue your pro LARPing hobby, but that's a lovely way to treat someone you cared about.
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You don't just stonewall them but there is only so much you can do to spare someone's emotions when you break up with them after several years, and as has been noted if you start bringing up reasons why then the break-up turns into a negotiation bereft of dignity or productivity.
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Psycho Society posted:I disagree, if you're with someone and previously working on building a life together you owe that person an honest answer. I mean no one can stop you from randomly cutting off all contact with your person and moving to romania to pursue your pro LARPing hobby, but that's a lovely way to treat someone you cared about. Yet it happens all the time. One of my friends called me after his gf of 10 years was gone with all of her stuff when he got home from work one day. No discussion, no explanation, no contact, nothing. She probably joined reddit.
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It's not stonewalling, it's telling them directly why you're breaking up with them and then doing it. It's much worse to get into protracted arguments about the state of the relationship or let the situation linger on hurt feelings. This dude especially knew he was done about a year and a half ago, but stuck around making himself miserable and wasting this girl's time and giving her hope the relationship would continuing being. She could've spent that year and a half doing almost anything else and it would've been better spent than sticking in a deadend relationship that the dude was too scared to end.
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Gaunab posted:Just going to say this since I can see the derail in this thread happening but it's 2016 how do people still not know how to use private browsing  Single White Female: cat lady version
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Devian666 posted:Yet it happens all the time. One of my friends called me after his gf of 10 years was gone with all of her stuff when he got home from work one day. No discussion, no explanation, no contact, nothing. She probably joined reddit. goddamn
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loquacius posted:it's 2016 It's a pain in the rear end to login to xvideos.com every time  Devian666 posted:Yet it happens all the time. One of my friends called me after his gf of 10 years was gone with all of her stuff when he got home from work one day. No discussion, no explanation, no contact, nothing. She probably joined reddit. That's pretty hosed. If you're cohabiting I think a "we are done" is absolutely in order, unless it is someone fleeing an abusive spouse.
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when I'm single I don't bother with a private window cuz who the heck is gonna use my computer and NOT expect weirdo single guy porn
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to clarify that's porn about a strange man who is not in a relationship. His name is Marcus and he gets into quite the predicaments
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Zelder posted:to clarify that's porn about a strange man who is not in a relationship. His name is Marcus and he gets into quite the predicaments Why didn't you tell me you've got a camera in my house? I would've put more of an effort into it then.
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Chichevache posted:That's pretty hosed. If you're cohabiting I think a "we are done" is absolutely in order, unless it is someone fleeing an abusive spouse. I was quite surprised. It wasn't unusual for her to come up with stuff without prior communication. In this case she had apparently left the city she lived in as I saw her in another part of the country. Oh well, that's just the way some people handle relationships (badly) but then that's what this thread is all about.
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quote:My (21f) roommate (23f) is obssessed with my cat and stealing all of her affection. This may sound petty, but it's really bothering me. Go King Solomon on the cat, only with the follow through this time.
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tactlessbastard posted:Go King Solomon on the cat, only with the follow through this time.  I don't mean to be a bitch or anything, but we both agree I'm entitled to the front half of the cat.
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you can't like, own a cat man
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quote:I [23/m] just told my girlfriend [22/f] that I loved her... I don't. ahaha you loving idiot, you're boned
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corn on the cop posted:ahaha you loving idiot, you're boned Is this George Costanza's reddit account?
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There is another way out besides marrying her: suicide.
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oh god...for all the horrible things happening in other sad stories, that one really hits me because of the mundanity
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there's no way this story ends without hard objects being thrown
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Nov 2, 2016 07:13
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Reddit desperately needs the services of PG Wodehouse's Jeeves.
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We all do. All of us.
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The weirdest thing about that story is that they've been dating a year and he hasn't told her he loves her before.
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That's the whole reason why the girl was so excited to hear it? He has been waiting to say that to his one True Love his whole life and now he hosed it up because he can never take those words back or say them to someone else because true love is a magic spell and you can only cast it once
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kaschei posted:That's the whole reason why the girl was so excited to hear it? He has been waiting to say that to his one True Love his whole life and now he hosed it up because he can never take those words back or say them to someone else because true love is a magic spell and you can only cast it once Twuu Wuuv. I bet he thinks love is that wild lust rush you get at first, and if you don't have that constantly, you're not in love anymore. He's afraid he used all his Love points at the beginning of the relationship, and you can never rebuild that set. They're gone. Poof. He was saving them for that supermodel he was going to meet by chance one day, and now that dream is done. The only choice left is suicide or going gay. He might still have some Love in reserve, but only if he uses it for a man this time.
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Gaunab posted:The weirdest thing about that story is that they've been dating a year and he hasn't told her he loves her before. People are weirdly circumspect about it. I'm used to saying it at the end of phone calls so sometimes it slips out accidentally. Ok, thank you Mr. Stockbroker, love you bye-bye! 
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Pick posted:People are weirdly circumspect about it. I'm used to saying it at the end of phone calls so sometimes it slips out accidentally. Ok, thank you Mr. Stockbroker, love you bye-bye! More than once I've had people reflexively say "love you too" in the exact same absent-minded tone I said it and then it becomes the most hilarious thing after the hanging up as fast as possible out of embarrassment. quote:My [18M] mother and sisters [16F 14F,12F,8F,7F] is letting my brother [5M] believe if he behaves that it helps goku win his fights in DBZ. How do I tell her this is wrong? 
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I wish I loved anything In this world as much as that kid loves Goku.
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