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Also, why are they "open romantically, not open sexually" if they don't have sex with each other She's okay with him dating other women and doing the same thing with them as he does with her as long as he never gets laid, what the hell is happening here It's gotta be Jesus here, she's trying to "save" him from sexhaving
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That woman is an idiot. Oh no, my boyfriend doesn't want to be celibate. How can I make him override all of his biological functions so he's as broken as I am? I don't think it's religion; this woman won't even give him a handy, and we all know Jesus is cool with that. She strikes me as the type that feels celibacy makes her more enlightened or some poo poo.
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Nov 4, 2016 17:28
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Leon Einstein posted:That woman is an idiot. Oh no, my boyfriend doesn't want to be celibate. How can I make him override all of his biological functions so he's as broken as I am?
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It is literally impossible to have a monogamous relationship and meet in the middle if one party is non-sexual. In every single instance, the sex wanter is assuming they can convert their partner. E: But do keep us posted if there are any updates. I wanna see where this one goes. Zulily Zoetrope fucked around with this message at 17:35 on Nov 4, 2016 |
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Nov 4, 2016 17:32
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Leon Einstein posted:I don't think it's religion; this woman won't even give him a handy, and we all know Jesus is cool with that. She strikes me as the type that feels celibacy makes her more enlightened or some poo poo. Then why wouldn't she let him have sex with any of the other women she's apparently okay with him dating? This is the dumbest relationship premise I've ever heard. One more thing and I'll shut up about this one, notice she's calling him "hypersexual" for having sexual urges after staying celibate with her for 4 loving months, as a 23-year-old man. If this girl isn't a super-sheltered Christian-homeschool girl I don't know what to say.
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Nov 4, 2016 17:34
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:I'm [F19] celibate and my partner [M23] might break it off or hook up with another woman unless we have sex
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This one is kinda hosed-up in and of itself but it's actually kind of ironic when you realize you are reading about it in a post on reddit Ex Boyfriend recorded arguments for all to hear quote:Over 13 years ago, when I was 25 I was dating a guy (25) at the time who was secretly recording me during the fights we would have when we were breaking up. We had a extremely abusive, tumultuous relationship. We also had a newborn child during this breakup. At times he would pick arguments, so that he can secretly record me yelling and fussing while he was calm and collected.
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Nov 4, 2016 17:42
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Zulily Zoetrope posted:It is literally impossible to have a monogamous relationship and meet in the middle if one party is non-sexual. In every single instance, the sex wanter is assuming they can convert their partner.
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Nov 4, 2016 17:46
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Leon Einstein posted:I don't think it's religion; this woman won't even give him a handy, and we all know Jesus is cool with that. Not necessarily, for the same reason some real Jesus freaks aren't cool with masturbation. Spilling the seed on the ground and all that.
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Nov 4, 2016 17:58
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lostleaf posted:You probably don't have kids or at least raised them. I have a 3 year old that is manipulative and surprisingly good at it too. All my coworker with young kids say the same thing about their kids too. Is it normal to dismiss your kid as manipulative when they reach out to others asserting that you hate them?
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Nov 4, 2016 17:59
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Charles Get-Out posted:Is it normal to dismiss your kid as manipulative when they reach out to others asserting that you hate them? I'd say it's more of an indicator of a rough time in the marriage than child abuse. Children can internalize it when they're parents fight and the can feel that the tension in the house is directed toward them.
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loquacius posted:This one is kinda hosed-up in and of itself but it's actually kind of ironic when you realize you are reading about it in a post on reddit 
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Nov 4, 2016 18:07
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seriously, lock that man up and throw away the key for good measure
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:I'm [F19] celibate and my partner [M23] might break it off or hook up with another woman unless we have sex what the gently caress is the point of a "casual, open romantically but not sexually" relationship with someone who refuses to have sex isn't that essentially exactly the same as being good friends with someone except they don't let you bone anyone
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loquacius posted:This one is kinda hosed-up in and of itself but it's actually kind of ironic when you realize you are reading about it in a post on reddit Why in the name of god did she just gloss over "He pulled a gun on me and threatened to kill me in front of the kid"
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Danaru posted:Why in the name of god did she just gloss over "He pulled a gun on me and threatened to kill me in front of the kid"
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Charles Get-Out posted:Is it normal to dismiss your kid as manipulative when they reach out to others asserting that you hate them? You clearly haven't had much experience with kids. Also I don't hate my daughter, she's by far the most important person in my life including my wife. She's still manipulative. I don't know how you can misinterpret calling my daughter that as hating her.
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Charles Get-Out posted:Is it normal to dismiss your kid as manipulative when they reach out to others asserting that you hate them? My neighbor has a kid (10) who's high-functioning on the spectrum and goes to a special school for kids with violent outburts where they won't get suspended for violence but they do have a zero tolerance policy where they'll send you home for the rest of the day for anything from shoving on up. We've lived next to them for six years and he goes in waves of being okay but recently his father and sister (who live in Ireland) have made it clear they won't let him visit anymore and that the reason he pays their rent and bills was so he wouldn't have to deal with him after the divorce. Despite the real villains being obvious here, he's started accusing his mom of hitting him and when we're home he'll sometimes scream "stop hitting me!" when they're in different rooms because a friend of his at school told him that's how he can stay with his dad. It's hosed up but kids are human and some are good, some are bad and some don't have the faculties to realize the impact their actions might have long-term. Ride The Gravitron posted:I'd say it's more of an indicator of a rough time in the marriage than child abuse. Children can internalize it when they're parents fight and the can feel that the tension in the house is directed toward them. Also, this.
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lostleaf posted:You clearly haven't had much experience with kids. Also I don't hate my daughter, she's by far the most important person in my life including my wife. She's still manipulative. I don't know how you can misinterpret calling my daughter that as hating her. Yo hold up, I'm not suggesting that at all. It's part of the post from r/relationships, the kid reached out to his bio mom and ended his letter with the assertion that his current guardians felt that way. After bio mom pointed this out to guardian mom she claimed he was manipulative and good at getting people to feel sorry for him. I'm speaking to the post and in the context of the post. The question was also a flat question, is it normal to do what the guardian mom did and dismiss her kids statement to the bio mom as manipulative? I do hear the point from other posters that this is likely a reflection of the state of the marriage. Nancy fucked around with this message at 19:15 on Nov 4, 2016 |
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As a child protection social worker and a foster parent I can verify this. My teen daughter told me yesterday that if I don't let her do independent study next semester she'll go live somewhere else (she loves it here)  it was meant to manipulate my emotions, but she also doesn't understand the impact of saying stuff like that, or even why it's manipulative. Kids just say whatever they think will get their needs met.It's a result of internalizing stress and household discord. For younger kids depression/anxiety often looks like stomach aches and headaches because of that. It's a way of reaching out for comfort from someone - "I'm hurt/they hate me, please love me" - not necessarily an indictment of their parents care for them. Also kids really do believe the grass is greener on the other side with their whole being.
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Charles Get-Out posted:Yo hold up, I'm not suggesting that at all. It's part of the post from r/relationships, the kid reached out to his bio mom and ended his letter with the assertion that his current guardians felt that way. After bio mom pointed this out to guardian mom she claimed he was manipulative and good at getting people to feel sorry for him. All kids have a fantasy at some point or another of their "real" parent rescuing them from a lovely life, no matter how cush their life is. He's only met bio mom once so he's able to project whatever he wants onto her, it doesn't take a huge stretch to think that when presented with that email the mom would get frustrated and point out that the correct word for what he's doing is manipulative.
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Charles Get-Out posted:Yo hold up, I'm not suggesting that at all. It's part of the post from r/relationships, the kid reached out to his bio mom and ended his letter with the assertion that his current guardians felt that way. After bio mom pointed this out to guardian mom she claimed he was manipulative and good at getting people to feel sorry for him. It's not ideal for a parent to describe their child that way but I can verify that sometimes that's how it feels when a child is trying to get emotional needs met by any means necessary in a time of stress I hope they can get some family counseling, since the "solution" to a child being manipulative is consistency and boundaries with a ton of love and affection and reframing by the parent. "I hate you!" from a child should he responded to with "I know you're upset, I am too, but I love you and we will figure this out" and NOT "stop lying"
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Oops. I'm the one who misinterpreted what you said. Sorry.
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Going to my swing dance class where it basically rains bitches more willing to gently caress than my celibate gf, brb
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I appreciate all of the responses and the perspectives from parents, thanks.
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loquacius posted:This one is kinda hosed-up in and of itself but it's actually kind of ironic when you realize you are reading about it in a post on reddit Why the gently caress am is anyone listening to these tapes?
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pushpins posted:Why the gently caress am is anyone listening to these tapes? Yeah if some guy knocked on my door asking me to listen to a secret tape of my daughter's friend's mom I'd tell him to gently caress off , because why would I want to do that and what kind of weirdo would even ask. Maybe this is one of those hosed up small towns where social life revolves entirely around gossip and/or meth.
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My girlfriend [23f] is going on a trip with her male best friend [23m]. Is it wrong for me [27m] to feel uneasy about this?quote:Using a throwaway. 
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She might not see it as that weird. The birthday boy probably things it's a guaranteed ticket to sex though. I do agree that a month is too long, but she might not realize how loaded that trip is going to feel pretty soon.
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loquacius posted:This one is kinda hosed-up in and of itself but it's actually kind of ironic when you realize you are reading about it in a post on reddit Ah, the old "gently caress with my wife till she gets mad then record it all and pretend to be the cool and calm one" aka The Schmorky Tactic also why the gently caress didn't she call the cops after he pulled a gun on her
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:My girlfriend [23f] is going on a trip with her male best friend [23m]. Is it wrong for me [27m] to feel uneasy about this? Where's Pete this guy needs him right now
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Oh man... the shmorky recording.
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Where can I find this thing that will let me laugh at shmorky more?
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pushpins posted:Why the gently caress am is anyone listening to these tapes? Maybe he is standing outside people's houses playing it on a boombox held over his head.
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Mezzanon posted:Where was she hiding the gun? I submit to you that she had it stashed in her unusually large vagina.
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:My girlfriend [23f] is going on a trip with her male best friend [23m]. Is it wrong for me [27m] to feel uneasy about this? This is not an ultimatum.
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:My girlfriend [23f] is going on a trip with her male best friend [23m]. Is it wrong for me [27m] to feel uneasy about this? When I was 27, I took a trip with my then platonic female best friend for a month to new Zealand. The opposite of what you would think happened. We fell out of being best friends by living so close for a month where my apparently disgusting habits pissed her off so much that she actually left the trip a week early. I don't think I'm disgusting  . No I didn't try to sleep with her.
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I think that people constantly asking reddit "is it wrong for me to feel uneasy about ______" is insane. Hey, maybe most people would be cool with what's happening or maybe they wouldn't; either way that's not the right question to ask. If you feel uneasy about something a stranger on the internet going "it's wrong to feel that way" is in no way gonna change that. Obvious edit: it's probably because they want a single response of "it's not wrong, you are right"
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