Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I think the 13 year old should ignore The Rules, and his uncle should, as well.

Carrion Luggage posted:

and gently caress each other

Carrion Luggage posted:

and gently caress each other

Dunning Krugerrand posted:

My [29F] housemates [33F, 46M] have been in a secret relationship for several months, and it has been seriously screwing the dynamic of our intentional community. Now it's out in the open, and I don't know what to do from here. (REALLY long)

Dunning Krugerrand posted:

My [29F] housemates [33F, 46M] have been in a secret relationship for several months, and it has been seriously screwing the dynamic of our intentional community. Now it's out in the open, and I don't know what to do from here. (REALLY long)


Help, two of my cult mates are loving!

gentle pete posted:

Tl;Dr: please read above.

"I (26F) was just confronted by BFs sister (29F) and she spoiled my BFs supposed surprise proposal. Not sure what to do." posted:

So I'll get right to it. I've been dating my boyfriend (27M) for 3 years. We've talked marriage and are ready and I was expecting a proposal sometime in the next 6-12 months.

Well my BFs sister, Karen, just emailed me verbatim, copy and pasted here:

"Hi _______,

So I heard through my parents that (BF) plans on popping the question just before the family Christmas party this year and I need you to do me a favor. I need you to say no. I am not going to let my little brother get married before me and it doesn't sit well with me that you've only been together a few years. I don't think either of you are ready and I am asking that this is postponed for a few years at the least."

What.

So 1: spoiled proposal, I had no idea it was coming.

2: she's not even dating anyone but she wants to get married first? Wtf?

I obviously can't talk to bf about this because then he'll know I know about the proposal. I can't talk to his parents because again, word will get out that I know.

My friends have said I should totally ignore it but say yes and let all hell break loose, but I'd rather not start off a marriage with my future SIL hating my guts.

Do I talk to her about this?

What do?

tl;dr

Future SIL is upset her brother is getting married first and wants me to turn down proposal. How do I confront this situation?

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(22M) My new SO (24F) is into some weird things I'm slightly freaked out by...

I have been with this woman for nearly two months now, and last night in bed, we were just playing around, and she knows I have a foot & bush fetish (my only ones), so I was massaging her feet. And then she began to pin me down and wanted me to eat her rear end... I didn't think she would be so dominating and at first I was kind of taken aback because she's a really sweet and gentle girl normally, and I've never seen this side of her before. Obviously I had never done this before and I was laughing at first, and said, are you serious? And she laughed and said of course, I even haven't shaved for a while just for you... And anyway I tried eating her rear end, and it didn't smell very nice, but I couldn't say that to her!

She wanted to eat mine whilst giving me a BJ and she went a little further down than I expected and I was like woahhhh because she tried to lick my rear end and I didn't even get a warning....

She's really attractive and so hot, the sex is amazing, but since this new fetish of her wanting her rear end eaten, it's kind of freaked me out. How do I tell her her rear end smells too much for me to eat it out regularly?

On the other hand, she satisfies my fetishes by not shaving and letting me massage and take care of her feet, so is it fair for me to satisfy hers and eat her rear end?

PS. None of my previous SO's have been into anything as crazy as this, so it's something I've not dealt with before...

tl;dr: New SO is into rear end eating, but her rear end smells and I'm not into it because of this! Also don't like she fact she wants to eat my rear end!

Themata posted:

This thread has made me [28F] paranoid that at some point my girlfriend [27F] and I are going to end up an /r/relationships when we're struck by emotional abuse or sudden polyamory.

Also, I don't think I've seen a single case in the last 160 pages where any of these goddamn Redditors used "person and I" vs "person and me" correctly.

Bibliotechno Music posted:

Hahaha what a bitch.

Gaunab posted:

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My [22m] thanksgiving(s) nightmare(s). Father's [52m] new wife [?f] regularly makes quasi-racist remarks and is now seemingly neglecting my deceased mom's dog. What do I do?

Skip to part 3 if you want the main story only.

Some backstory to all of this, in high school my mom developed lung cancer and lost her battle after fighting valiantly for two years. It was not easy for any of us. My brother and dad were the most negatively effected. My dad and I were very close. But my brother, we'll call him Chris [22m], and dad were nowhere near as close as my brother and mom nor my mom and I. My dad did his best to serve the roles of both parents but never really seemed to dig himself out of his depression, apathy, sorrow, etc. He tried using religion, sports, and old movies to cope, all to no avail. I tried to help, but I had to go off to college less than a year after my mom's death. Whenever I went home, our old home became increasingly dirty and my dad became more depressed. I encouraged him to date to get out of his stupor.

Important to note: my mom loved dogs. They were her life. She had just gotten into dog breeding before she died, and gave the entirety of her first litter away for almost free, provided they would be going to a good, family home. She made sure every family was good by speaking to them on the phone and through skype on multiple occasions. She trained the puppies to sit, eat when told, and made sure they were all up on their shots before they left. Truly, she loved dogs, especially her own. She left her 3 dogs to us.
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Fast forward to August 2014. My dad began to date. Although we knew, my dad tried to hide it from us because he felt bad and thought we'd be upset with him. We weren't, and he never made and attempts to discuss this with us. Months and weeks go by. Chris tells me that my dad has been unleashing our sob story on the first date to every woman he meets on their first date. Chris and I were obviously concerned.

Alas, we hear the day before Thanksgiving that my dad is bringing someone to Thanksgiving. Apart from the awkwardness of what is bringing someone you hardly know to an intimate family dinner, Chris and I do our best to oblige our depressed father. However, the dinner is awkward. The lady, we'll call her DeeDee, is overly friendly and intimate with us, immediately delving into politics. She rants and raves through the whole dinner about everything from illegal immigration to welfare "leeches." It is important to point out at this point that DeeDee is Cuban, and her parents were refugees to America from Castro's rise to power.

Chris and I honestly do not know how to handle it. I call my mom's brother, Dave, to discuss what to do. He tells me that my dad is in a rough place and to allow him some time to figure things out. I oblige.

Moving forward to Christmas dinner, a very similar pattern emerges: hardcore political discussion verging on racism and DeeDee doing all the talking. BUT, here's the kicker, my dad and DeeDee reveal they are going on a vacation to Mexico. This is problematic. My brother attends a high school over a half-hour away, with no bus service, and has no car. And I have been told for months that no money will be made available to me for school/food/etc for a while (my parents had made a deal with me years ago that college was mandatory and they would pay for everything so long as my grades were good). I realize my college money is going to their vacation. My brother realizes that he will have to get rides from relatives and family "friends" to attend school. My dad leaves my brother around $100 for almost two weeks worth of expenses. Much more, small, ridiculous things occur after this. My dad stops making dinner or giving my brother money for food. My dad fully neglects the dogs, and one develops a skin disease, causing my dad to exclaim that they are racking up "too high" of medical bills. My dad stops our weekly skype chat and refuses to answer his phone outside of his work or commute, as he says DeeDee pries into him too much. More things such as this become regular occurrences.

Again, I call Dave. Tell him how awful everything is. No help is given and, unsurprisingly at this point...my dad and DeeDee get married in May. After 9 months of dating.

We are forced to film the wedding for them.

My dad "owes/borrows" money from my brother's medical bills and other things, amounting to well over $2000. Neglecting to repay my brother in order to fund their honeymoon among other things.

They inform my brother that he will be moving out of our old family house, and that they will be moving in. My dad does not pay for my brother's new place. My dad hands my brother 2/3 of our "problem dogs" as DeeDee put it.

They inform us that our house will be undergoing renovations.

Again, another one of our dogs completely loses her hearing. Again my dad refused to pay for any of it. Again, my brother and I have next to no money. Our parents had not allowed us to get a job in high school and told us college would be paid for. "School was our job," they said.

To save time, we will move forward to yesterday. Although, I stress that between this time and today, I had generally kept these people at arm's length, for obvious reasons.
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Skip here: Thanksgiving 2016:

Chris, my girlfriend, and I drive over to my dad and DeeDee's house. When we arrive, it had been completely transformed, as my girlfriend noted, into part-museum, part-1950s Americana. Ignoring the odd decor, I wanted to see my mom's dog, Susie, the 1/3 they kept, that I had not seen in over a year. We make our way into our partly finished basement and my dog is nowhere near in sight. I ask my dad, "where's Susie?" My dad goes into the unfinished part of our basement, that is not heated, and takes Sophie out of crate. I don't know how long they have done this to her. I did not know this was happening. Susie is a lap dog, and is one of the sweetest, most loving dogs you will ever meet. This truly broke all of our hearts. They have DeeDee's large dog running around upstairs. So I asked my dad why Susie is locked up in the cold basement, my dad said, "because she has accidents." This is probably because they both work 10~ hours a day and are not home to let her out. So Susie is locked up in the cold, unheated basement while she can hear DeeDee's dog roam free above her.

Onto dinner, DeeDee somewhat withholds from politics. However, discusses in front of us "how horrible it is to lose a partner" and "how they plan to die together." Okay. Weird, but not too bad. She then tells us how they are continuing to "renovate" the house. She discusses replacing our childhood bedrooms with Lucile Ball and Andy Griffin themed rooms. Telling us about the artwork around the house. She tells us she wants to add some "classic historical women like Queen Isabella or Betsy Ross, etc." I respond attempting to make nice and give an idea, "Or, Rosa Parks?" She laughs. No, not a chuckle, or even a normal laugh. A prolonged, guttural laugh, in a "how hilarious cute you young millienials are" kind of a way. For 10 seconds. She sees my pained look and says, "Thank you, haha, but no, not somebody 'like her.'" I am flabbergasted, and do not know what to say. She moves on. Next, she delves into their next vacation, saying how she "doesn't want to be in line with 'those people.'" She tells us that she heard about some guy with a machete was in the normal line, so they applied for a TSA pre-check/expedited-line pass. But she finishes up the story with, "I don't think those people would pay the extra 60 bucks to be in our line. So if I hear any ALLAHU AKBARs, I won't have to worry." Moving on with her topic of choice, she discusses my dad's line of work and humiliates "those people" who "want to have illegitimate children, ignore the sanctity of marriage, and act like savages." She ends the night by saying to her dog, with only my girlfriend in the room, "HEY, GET away from the table. No blacks allowed at the table," and laughs.

tl;dr: Father's new, cuban, wife is a racist. Mom is dead, and would literally kill father if she could come back and see how she what he has been up to.

How do I proceed? What do I do about my dog? What do I do about my dad's wife?

Gaunab posted:

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My Boyfriend [24] farted on my face [22] for Thanksgiving, and I don't know how to forgive him.

We've been dating for 2 months now, and I told him I wanted to have something special for Thanksgiving because it's our first big holiday together. He promised that he'll give me something special, and when I asked what, he 'joked' that he'll fart on my face.
I took it as a joke and laughed about it.
Come the actual day, we're just play-fighting on the bed as we sometimes do. He caught me in a vice-like grip and I couldn't get away, and lo and behold, butt in my face, he farted. Then, he bent down and whispered in my ear, 'Happy Thanksgiving.' I went around telling everyone that's what he did, but no one would believe me! He's always going around acting like the good guy and ever too-polite. And now I'm the bad guy for trying to 'spread lies' about him.
Urghs. I'm not answering any of his text messages and I'm not if this is the final straw for us. I made it clear that I wanted a nice celebration or gift, and all I got was a smelly fart in my face. I can't stop crying about this. It's like he doesn't care.
Edit: To all those people saying that Thanksgiving gifts aren't a thing, well yes. It's usually dinner and food but we had an agreement. I spent a whole day making him cookies and what I got in return was this stunt which he's not taking seriously at all. Maybe I should have made that clear.

almightyerin posted:

From r/Relationships less popular cousin, r/Relationship_Advice...

gentle pete posted:

White friend [M20] called me a n*gger?

Gaunab posted:

rear end eatin

Khorne posted:

I like how he downplays his foot fetish poo poo but tries to hype up her eating his rear end as too much for him. She's probably thinking "drat, if I entertain this weird foot thing and the bush thing I can bust out stuff I enjoy without worry".

kierrie posted:

Eating rear end is loving gross and unhygienic and does not compare to a foot or bush fetish you weird person.

kierrie posted:

Eating rear end is loving gross and unhygienic and does not compare to a foot or bush fetish you weird person.

almightyerin posted:

From r/Relationships less popular cousin, r/Relationship_Advice...

kierrie posted:

Eating rear end is loving gross and unhygienic and does not compare to a foot or bush fetish you weird person.

Bibliotechno Music posted:

Hahaha what a bitch.

loquacius posted:

She needs to not only accept the proposal but rub the wedding in the sister's face as much as possible. Make her the maid of honor. Make a toast at a family dinner thanking everyone for welcoming you into the family, especially the sister who you just know will find a good man and settle down one of these days. Make a point of tossing the bouquet right at her and give her an exaggerated thumbs-up.

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

I think the 13 year old should ignore The Rules, and his uncle should, as well.

remigious posted:

Are there people that genuinely enjoy eating rear end and don't just pretend they do so they can be one of the cool kids? What is enjoyable about it?

remigious posted:

Are there people that genuinely enjoy eating rear end and don't just pretend they do so they can be one of the cool kids? What is enjoyable about it?

kierrie posted:

Eating rear end is loving gross and unhygienic and does not compare to a foot or bush fetish you weird person.