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Lately when me and my girlfriend have been having sex her rear end has smelled extremely bad (like poop) especially when we are in positions where her rear end is facing me (doggy, spooning, etc) its an extremely big turn off and very gross (i'm a bit of a neat freak). I haven't wanted to have sex as of lately just because i've been so turned off by all of this. I know that taking a shower beforehand would solve the problem and be some fun foreplay but she still lives with her parents and they are normally home when we do it so showering would not be an option. What can I do to bring this up to her without hurting her feelings / embarrassing her?

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I am married and ONLY when I have sex doggie style with my hubby .. I have never been told this by anyone else before in my life.. I shower and clean myself so it has nothing to do with my hygiene. sometimes we have sex after I have stepped out of the shower and apparently he tells me it has always been there (the smell) because of this I haven't even been able to bring myseylf to have sex that way with him anymore.. is there something wrong with me?

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My husband just told me that he has always smelt "poop" while we do it doggy style too. I am also VERY hygienic and wash really well down there and it still happens. I feel really self conscious about it too and now have difficulty enjoying myself in that position.. Maybe some men have a really good sense of smell? I am not sure, but just know you are not alone.

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Just had this happen and I can see why you all would be self conscious in that position afterward. Like you, I'm really hygienic and wipe/wash really well. I'm not seeing me and my boyfriend being in that position for a really long time. Honestly, slightly pissed off at him right now but it's good to know I'm not the only one in a way.

possibly a scientist posted:

Hello ladies, being a man I noticed that smell from my woman too and it does put me off and I wondered if it was clean. The smell does annoy me. However I observed why it happens. Most of us are used to toilet papers and they dont always clean up so well and hence we do need some additional cleaning effort over there. What helps is while having a shower squat down so that your butt spread well and then wash the area with soap and rinse it off. Keep doing that each time you have a shower. It works best if you go to the toilet before u shower. Or in some countries they have water spray techniques which cleans the butt hole better and keeps the smell away. Hope it helps else trying using products but that could combine to a weird new smell.

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Girlfriend [28F] will not stop popping my [29M] pimples against my will.

Alright I'll preface this by saying I know how ridiculous it sounds. My girlfriend is obsessed with popping pimples. I don't know if I'm just hypersensitive or what, but this is extremely painful in most cases and I don't like it. I've begged her to stop for basically our whole relationship. I am making this post because I just flat out told her it's borderline abusive and I want it to stop, and to respect my boundaries. Her response was that it shouldn't be a big deal and that she literally can't stop herself. I thought this ultimatum moment would wake her up to how much I dislike it, but she doesn't seem to care.
When I say she's obsessed it's an understatement. I often have to fight her off for 15-20 minutes before she will leave me alone. I wear a shirt to bed now for the first time in my life because if I roll over she will start popping poo poo on my back. She pops our cats' catne obsessively. I've ended up throwing her away violently when she tries to pin me down against my will to mess with my face. It gives me panic attacks when I'm pinned like that now.
She's a great girlfriend in most other regards but the way she laughs off my pain is INFURIATING. I know she has willpower, she's a doctor. The only conclusion I can reach is that she doesn't take me seriously when I say it's extremely painful. She's said her patients have it far worse, but they're not loving living with it every day. I don't know what to do, I've already explicitly told her it's the only thing that makes me reconsider the relationship. Her reaction makes me feel that popping is more important than us being together.
I'm not going to leave an otherwise smart, awesome girl for this...but I need advice. What else can I do to convey that no means no?
tldr: I demanded my girlfriend stop popping my pimples and she flat out refuses. It's driving me insane.

DOMDOM posted:

Lately when me and my girlfriend have been having sex her rear end has smelled extremely bad (like poop)

almightyerin posted:

Poor guy. She's giving him PTSD with this poo poo. (this is from r/relationship_advice in case anyone's curious)

almightyerin posted:

Poor guy. She's giving him PTSD with this poo poo. (this is from r/relationship_advice in case anyone's curious)

haljordan posted:

Yeah I'm imagining the scenario where one partner is saying "I want 10 kids!" and the other is thinking "Holy poo poo, I want zero."

54 40 or gently caress posted:

And I use rose jam shower gel and a shampoo bar from lush

Captain Hygiene posted:

You just plan on having five then, I don't see what the big deal is

almightyerin posted:

Poor guy. She's giving him PTSD with this poo poo. (this is from r/relationship_advice in case anyone's curious)

almightyerin posted:

I can't help but wonder how large this girl is.

BOOTY-ADE posted:

Large enough that it takes multiple massages over several days to cover ALL of her back

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STLDR - Before my vacation i [F24] asked my boyfriend [M25] to open our relationship temporarily. Now hes regularly having sex with some girl in our apartment and im heartbroken

Im pretty loving upset rigth now , Im going to do my best to explain everything thats happened.

Ive had an extended holiday (3 months) planned with my best friend (Tory) for years. We have always talked about it and my boyfriend (Daniel) knew we were going to do it. She finally finished college this December and we put our plan into action.

Another friend (Michelle) went on a similar trip years ago. She and her friend both had longterm boyfriends at the time, and they both ended up cheating on the trip. A while later their friendship fell apart, and they both revealed each others infidelity. It got ugly. Michelle and her boyfriend broke up, her (ex)friend stayed with her boyfriend but from the sounds of it their relationship was severely damaged.

At first i thought they were absolutely horrible for doing it, but after talking to her i could see their side of things - months of no sexual contact/release, being in a party atmosphere, of course there would be temptation. She's young, attractive and gets lots of male attention. The encounter was purely sexual, she was drunk, and they used protection. The next day the boy was out of her life completely and that was it. I vehementely disagreed with doing all this behind her boyfriends back though.

Talking with Michelle about a month ago, she asked what im going to do about Daniel. I honestly hadnt thought about it like that, i felt like i could easily go 3 months without having sex. And id never want to betray Daniel's trust. But Michelle made a good case for 'opening' our relationship while i was away - she said (paraphrasing): "Of course you love Daniel. But traveling is about experiencing new things, and that includes sex. Youll say it wont happen now, but you just have to trust me that once youre their youll feel different. Daniel is going to wonder either way if youre loving other guys on your trip. Just be upfront with him and see what he says."

And so that night i talked to him about it. I explained that i wasnt going to be looking to gently caress every guy i see that im attracted to, and that my love for him was as strong as ever, but i also wanted to be able act freely and party like other girls my age. It was more contingency if anything - i dont plan on loving other guys, but if it happens it happens. A nigth of partying half the world away with people ill never see again shouldnt ruin what we had here. Id insist on using protection. And of course he would have the same opportunity as me, he would be able to freely see girls if he chose to. He wasnt happy, but said he understood. He said "Youve tied my hands. If i tell you i forbid it, ill still be worried if youre being true to your word. By expressing that this is what you want, theres nothing i can do to stop you".

Daniels a bit of a homebody - he goes out with his friends on occassion, but most nights he spends in our apartment playing video games or watching netflix. Given his lifestyle i wasnt overly worried hed be hooking up with all these random girls.

Me and Tory left on February 17. Its been eye-opening and a ton of fun. But its also been stressful. We havent done any partying, we talked to some guys one night but nothing came of it. Tonight i checked my email at an internet cafe and there was a message from Kay, a sweet old lady who lives above us in our apartment complex.

""I have debated for days whether to send this to you and potentially ruin your vacation. But you deserve to know the truth. Daniel has been seeing another woman since you left. There is no doubt that he is seeing her, she has come over most nights and I have heard them being intimate. You deserve so much better. I'm so sorry.""

I thought i could handle this open relationship arrangement. I cant. This message shattered my heart into a million pieces. This isnt what i intended at all, i wanted the freedom to act in the moment. He is taking this as a free pass to regularly gently caress some girl. And i have a feeling i know exactly who it is, a girl from his work who was always overly flirty with him.

I regret ever taking Michelles advice and opening my stupid mouth. I dont want him to gently caress other girls, i dont want to gently caress other guys. I want this slut out of my apartment NOW!!! I am a loving wreck and need other womens opinions. Tory has been so unhelpful, basically telling me to grow up and that i got what i asked for. No poo poo?! People arent allowed to change their minds or regret their decisions?!

How do I go about contacting him and expressing that this needs to stop NOW without coming across like a crazy hypocritical bitch? And let him know that i will be 100% faithful on my trip? I dont even know how i am going to look at him when i get home. I am beyond hurt, this feels so wrong and so sick.

I am going to bed now to try and get some sleep, i will check and respond to all comments tomorrow morning. Thank you

EDIT: guys, seriously stop it. I know i hosed up, i brought it all on myself. Kicking me while im down isnt helping. Im not asking for your opinion on my stupid selfish decision, im asking the best way to approach this and fix it.

Tory says i should email him saying "what i said before about opening our relationship was a mistake. I havent slept with anyone here and i dont want to. Youre my parter and i dont want to compromise what we have. Please be faithful as I will be to you. I love you." Simply dont tell him about Kay's email or that i know there's another woman. Thoughts?

BOOTY-ADE posted:

Large enough that it takes multiple massages over several days to cover ALL of her back

And at those stinky butt losers not dabbing some Vicks under their noses and going to town like men

Malkof posted:

MRA fanfic or a tale of self ownage? You decide true believers!

Jeff Sichoe posted:

also you poor buggers with stinky rear end in a top hat owning partners should try scented lube

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I played softball all four years of high school. My best friend did as well, but for a different team as we went to different schools. This resulted in a bit of a friendly rivalry.
Senior year rolled around. Our team was scheduled to play hers shortly after she pitched a no-hitter. I had the most home runs of anyone on my team and we were both feeling cocky. We'd also both been toying with the idea of going to a tattoo parlor once we were 18. This led to us making a bet. If I struck out against her, I'd have to get a tattoo of her choice. If she failed to strike me out the entire game, she'd have to get the tattoo of my choice.
I came so close to winning, but she struck me out in the 7th and final inning. Two months later, when I turned 18, I figured a bet is a bet. We went down to a local tattoo parlor and I got inked. To commemorate the fact that she owned my rear end at the plate, the tattoo was of a softball with her name and jersey number on it, and I got it on my left butt cheek.
Fast forward five years. A lot has happened since then. For one, I'm now engaged. My friend has also died. She was killed in a car accident three years ago. Since then, this tattoo has taken on a new significance. It's more than just a funny story I've related to the handful of people who've seen it. It's a part of her that'll always be with me.
Since our engagement, my fiance has been pressuring me to get it removed. He never had any problem with it before and I'm not sure why it's suddenly such a big deal for him as he never really gives me a straight answer. I don't have any intention of getting it removed and I don't want it to be a source of friction between us, so now I'm lost. What should I do?
tl;dr: My fiance suddenly has a problem with a tattoo I got as part of a bet when I was 18. What should I do?

Tom Gorman posted:

A bidet attachment is the most worthwhile investment I've ever made.

Get one. On Amazon. You can hook it up in like 5 minutes.

Charles Get-Out posted:

I don't see many MRA flagwords, but I'm not super well-versed in that stuff.

Charles Get-Out posted:

My finance [M/28] has issues with a tattoo I got when I [F/23] was 18.

Charles Get-Out posted:

My finance [M/28] has issues with a tattoo I got when I [F/23] was 18.

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My girlfriend and I have been together for six months and so far everything has been going great with her. She is seriously a really great girl and I could see us being in a long term relationship for quite a while. Not only is she absolutely gorgeous, but she is a very intellectually stimulating person as well. We spend hours having discussions about various topics and I'm always very intrigued and engrossed in our conversations. We never get bored just being together.

I introduced her to my parents already and wanted her to finally meet my sister. We went to her apartment where she cooked dinner for us and the two of them got to know each other. Just as I predicted they would, they got along swimmingly and the night was really fun. After dinner my sister gave us some wine (I'm not 21, I know).

My sister made a comment about how I lucky I was to snag a girl like her because usually I'm hopeless when it comes to women (this is not true). I teasingly pushed her on her shoulder and reminded her that she was still single. She lightly pushed me back and asked me if I wanted to go.

We sometimes jokingly do this, and escalate the situation into a play fight. We exchanged a few more pushes back and forth and my sister kind of tackled me on the ground and tried to pin me. I flipped her over onto her back, pinned her and started counting to three, but she flipped me over again, straddled me and pinned my arms behind my back for three seconds. We laughed a bit and then my girlfriend and I left.

Later, when my girlfriend and I were alone, she made a comment that was like "So you and your sister, like, wrestle?". I told her sometimes and that it was just a thing we jokingly do together. I asked her why she seemed so tense and she said that she didn't want to offend me, but the situation just gave off game of thrones vibes. I assured her that it was nothing more than just fun and that there weren't any undertones or anything. I also said that I felt kind of hurt that she immediately made incestuous conclusions. She apologized and said that it was wrong of her to even say anything about it.

I know that she apologized about it, but this whole conversation still makes me feel kind of upset. Why would she even say something like that?
Edit: Sister is 21 if it matters
TL;DR: Wrestled with my sister in front of my girlfriend and my girlfriend said it gave her "game of thrones vibes".

haljordan posted:

Also the situation that boggles my mind the most, by far, are the couples who consider staying together when it's clear that one person wants kids and the other doesn't. That is by far the biggest decision you could make as a couple, way more than buying a house. Hell, one of the reasons I knew I'd end up marrying my wife was because we both made it pretty clear early on that neither of us wanted children. How could either side compromise on that and somehow expect to not regret it the rest of their lives?

Frog Act posted:

Facebook Aunt posted:

The one who wants kids counts on eventually being able to wear the other down, assuming other family members and society's expectations will help. Once a kid is born they assume the reluctant partner will love their own kid, see that they were foolish to not want kids, and everything will be wonderful.

almightyerin posted:

Poor guy. She's giving him PTSD with this poo poo. (this is from r/relationship_advice in case anyone's curious)

DOMDOM posted:

Stinky butt girls.

everywhere

RNG posted:

Again, As A Gay Dude, I feel like if straight guys had to get hosed in the rear end at least once in their lifetime they'd learn so loving much. Not even as a fetish, I don't want to be the one to do it, I just want them to come to terms with trying to make anal sexy and painless when they're on the receiving end.

Ignis posted:

He also made a post out of concern about his wife's apparent detachment to her daughter, when his own detachment can't be any more clear from his posts

Anyways here's a fun one but not relationships related

KY: SERIOUS: I may need to get rid of a lion.

Ratjaculation posted:

Any update on the hipster boyfriend?

Samuel L. ACKSYN posted:

yeah but you've never heard of it.

Ratjaculation posted:

Any update on the hipster boyfriend?