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quote:even tighter group of three of them they call "inamorata". I don't need to read the rest to know this group is loving.
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:My wife (41F) is obsessed with her friends as if she were a 13 year old. Me (45M). quote:Even at our wedding, I begged her not to get wasted. But after the wedding, she spent more time with the sisters drinking in their hotel room than in the nice suite with her new husband. Just as I wanted to make love to my wife, she passed out drunk in my face breathing foulness. I know that the wedding night is all about the bride, but drat, I was hurt and have never really recovered fully. Isn't this totally normal? I've read a ton of stories from married people who said "Oh, we didn't even have sex on our wedding night because we were too tired/drunk." He's held a grudge about this totally normal thing for his entire marriage.
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:My wife (41F) is obsessed with her friends as if she were a 13 year old. Me (45M). Jeez, just a get a divorce already. The entire paragraph about the dog is funny though.
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Dec 1, 2016 21:47
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WampaLord posted:Isn't this totally normal? I've read a ton of stories from married people who said "Oh, we didn't even have sex on our wedding night because we were too tired/drunk." I think in the vast majority of those cases, the bride and groom get drunk together
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Dec 1, 2016 21:49
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Gaunab posted:Jeez, just a get a divorce already.
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WampaLord posted:Isn't this totally normal? I've read a ton of stories from married people who said "Oh, we didn't even have sex on our wedding night because we were too tired/drunk." There's a vast difference in "we're too tired/drunk to gently caress on our wedding night" and "My wife is too drunk and tired to gently caress on our wedding night because she spent all night getting drunk and ignoring me"
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Dec 1, 2016 21:51
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WampaLord posted:Isn't this totally normal? I've read a ton of stories from married people who said "Oh, we didn't even have sex on our wedding night because we were too tired/drunk." I think it's more of the fact of him specifically asking her to not do something she always does on their wedding night (getting shitfaced) and doing it anyways It sounds like hed be happy with her splitting her time 90% friends and 10% him but he can't even get that
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Dec 1, 2016 21:52
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:My wife (41F) is obsessed with her friends as if she were a 13 year old. Me (45M). Uhhh , I think its the alcoholism friend. Not the texting.
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Dec 1, 2016 21:53
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:yeah I feel bad but I laughed at the middle-aged 200 lb woman getting drunk and "wrestling the dog" I've gone on the record to support wrestling a sibling, but I am against wrestling any animals that are not in your weight class.
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Dec 1, 2016 21:55
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Lone Goat posted:I've gone on the record to support wrestling a sibling, but I am against wrestling any animals that are not in your weight class. Can you imagine how confused this poor dog was as a sweaty fat woman with blue wine teeth started rolling it around the carpet?
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Dec 1, 2016 21:57
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Dude should have left a long time ago, it sounds like this woman is a raging alcoholic and she's going to drive him to the poor house.
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Dec 1, 2016 21:59
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:My wife (41F) is obsessed with her friends as if she were a 13 year old. Me (45M). wife is a) an alcoholic b) perpetually trapped in high school
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Dec 1, 2016 22:01
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:My wife (41F) is obsessed with her friends as if she were a 13 year old. Me (45M). lol
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Lone Goat posted:I've gone on the record to support wrestling a sibling, but I am against wrestling any animals that are not in your weight class. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tSx14Rozd0c&t=92s
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Dec 1, 2016 22:09
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Business Gorillas posted:I think it's more of the fact of him specifically asking her to not do something she always does on their wedding night (getting shitfaced) and doing it anyways Disregarding everything else about her, asking someone to not drink at their own wedding is ridiculous assuming they aren't pregnant. It's a celebration, bitches! But she is an alcoholic and a terrible partner.
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Dec 1, 2016 22:10
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Trevor Hale posted:Oh god. 
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Dec 1, 2016 22:24
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loquacius posted:In response to people telling the 15F OP that she should tell everyone she can about her mom's visitation subscription plan: Is this the same girl who says she won't lie about abuse? It always upset me when genuinely good kids faced incredibly harsh/controlling parenting and that this wasn't abusive. (Maybe the harsh/controlling parenting is why they were such good kids? Meh.) Who Is Paul Blart posted:This is without a doubt the dumbest thing ever posted on these gay forums. Give it time, I still post here. Also there was that guy who said paying for sports stadiums was the same as paying for welfare/food stamps but that's a whole different kind of stupid.
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Dec 1, 2016 22:28
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WampaLord posted:Disregarding everything else about her, asking someone to not drink at their own wedding is ridiculous assuming they aren't pregnant. It's a celebration, bitches! Yeah, you can drink without getting shitfaced drunk, which I think is what he was asking for.
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Dec 1, 2016 22:30
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Jenner posted:Also there was that guy who said paying for sports stadiums was the same as paying for welfare/food stamps but that's a whole different kind of stupid. Wait, what?
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Dec 1, 2016 22:38
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Don't marry an alcoholic unless A. You also are at least a borderline case and B. You never want kids.
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Is this a breakup worthy offense or am I overreacting?quote:For some background: both 25, been together 2.5 years, lived together a bit less than a year. Responses are pretty evenly split between he's an rear end, and that she needs to grow up. I'm somewhere in the middle, she needs to grow the gently caress up especially if where they live is prone to storms (it is, she clarified that in the comments) and learn how to flip a circuit breaker. He is also a bit of a doucher, but his girlfriend is a total baby.
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Dec 1, 2016 23:13
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I can actually see both sides of this argument like from her perspective he's all like "NO madame I will NOT help you, for I am BUSY with my MONEY-SINK CARD GAME and that is FINAL, good DAY harrumph" and from his perspective she's all like "aaaaa heeeellllp, thunder is scaaaary, and the liiiights, they went oooout and I don't know what to dooooo, I'm mad that you're not basing your life around my inability to cope with simple and common inconveeeeniencessssss boo hoo hoo"
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Dec 1, 2016 23:18
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Yeah she needs to learn about circuit breakers and poo poo, but now she knows for next time. What if it was just the breaker though, what if the whole neighborhood lost power or something and he is jsut like "nahh, children's card game". Dude has no sense of priorities and she needs to 
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loquacius posted:and from his perspective she's all like "aaaaa heeeellllp, thunder is scaaaary, and the liiiights, they went oooout and I don't know what to dooooo, I'm mad that you're not basing your life around my inability to cope with simple and common inconveeeeniencessssss boo hoo hoo" Are we completely sure she isn't actually a dog?
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Dec 1, 2016 23:24
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If the whole neighborhood lost power, how can him coming home help? He could have been nicer in texts and all, but the procedure (in my head) for the power going out is: Step 1. Wait for the power to come back Like I'm breathing deep and ignoring that he's playing magic and assuming it's whatever else he could be doing on a friday night, like out with his friends or whatever.
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Dec 1, 2016 23:24
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An earnest and forthright explanation could probably solve this one, she needs to ask him to maybe be willing to sacrifice Magic Night under certain circumstances considering he does it like four nights a week and in exchange promise to try her best not to degenerate into a blubbering pile of goop when faced with something as terrifying as "weather"
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Dec 1, 2016 23:24
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Him coming home wouldn't have restored the power. Light a candle and read or go to bed if you lose power. She's a baby. My dad lost power during our Christmas party last year. 50+ people, no power for hours. We all survived.
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Dec 1, 2016 23:25
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Nooner posted:Dude has no sense of priorities and she needs to duh he's a magic player
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He could have compromised and gone home, picked her up, and let her come hang out at the Magic tournament where there's at least power.
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Like I'm assuming if there were an actual emergency that he could help with, then he would come home. I dunno, maybe I'm projecting, I briefly dated a girl who was utterly incapable of dealing with the day to day reality of the universe as it exists, she'd panic at everything and like....it's exhausting.
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Dec 1, 2016 23:27
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The whole story is pointless because who is right and who is wrong is a value judgement based on their personal dynamics. Maybe she's one of those "how to adult???" folks who just never knows anything about anything despite being on this earth for 25 years. Those people are annoying and deservedly get brushed off sometimes. Maybe she's constantly hounding him for dumb poo poo she should be able to handle herself and he didn't want to deal with it right then. Or maybe this is just a fluke, she's normally a responsible adult, and he's an overgrown manchild. Maybe he's never lending a helping hand and always just way too engrossed in a stupid card game while also spending 100% of his/their disposable income on it. That info isn't in the story and frankly wouldn't be reliable without coming from a 3rd party anyway. Meme Poker Party fucked around with this message at 23:30 on Dec 1, 2016 |
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edit: quote is not editWampaLord posted:He could have compromised and gone home, picked her up, and let her come hang out at the Magic tournament where there's at least power. Or at least paid for an uber. 
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:Like I'm assuming if there were an actual emergency that he could help with, then he would come home. I dunno, maybe I'm projecting, I briefly dated a girl who was utterly incapable of dealing with the day to day reality of the universe as it exists, she'd panic at everything and like....it's exhausting. Yeah, there's literally nothing he could do for her. I'm assuming she could've driven somewhere?
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:Like I'm assuming if there were an actual emergency that he could help with, then he would come home. I dunno, maybe I'm projecting, I briefly dated a girl who was utterly incapable of dealing with the day to day reality of the universe as it exists, she'd panic at everything and like....it's exhausting. On the other hand, this guy is a magic player. He should probably take care of his gal, before he gets sucked into the incel vortex of sadness.
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Leon Einstein posted:Yeah, there's literally nothing he could do for her. I'm assuming she could've driven somewhere? "and I have no car and nothing is in walking distance to the apartment. " "would it be alright if he came home since I was sitting in darkness," Apparently she doesn't know how to light candles or find a flashlight either.
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I get him coming home wouldnt help bring back power if it really was out, but at least she wouldnt be alone freaking out, its more of a prioritizing moral support of your partner that you know is freaking out over playing cards
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Leon Einstein posted:Him coming home wouldn't have restored the power. Light a candle and read or go to bed if you lose power. She's a baby. Pretty much my perspective. I mean maybe he's spending too much time/money on his hobby, which is potentially a legit relationship issue, but he was also at a pre-arranged event where a) he'd made a time commitment of several hours and b) he was doing something that wasn't terribly conducive to being on the phone. In this case it was Magic: the Gathering, but there are lots of other hobbies and events that have similar time commitments and practical restrictions on phone access. Expecting him to drop everything for a non-emergency that he would either be completely unable to resolve or that she should have trivially been able to resolve on her own isn't really a reasonable expectation and is predicated on the assumption that his time/money/hobby is less important than being immediately available to assuage her anxiety over a minor inconvenience. I mean at worst she'd be unable to cook something for dinner, so just order takeout or text him and ask him to pick up something on his way back.
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