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I think childfree people are either under 18, or are huge nerds. I spent enough time with those horrible dunning-Kruger type nerds to know that's exactly how they think/act/feel
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Really, the parts of that one that are just about the boyfriend obviously becoming disinterested in the relationship are sympathetic, and even "he's not interested in sharing my interests" I can understand being bummed about, but the coffee thing makes it weird. That has to be either a hard-drugs euphemism or a euphemism for something really socially unacceptable, like Warhammer 40k erotic fanfic or something.
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Lockback posted:A literal doormat gained sentience, found a terrible girlfriend, and posted on reddit.
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What exactly do childfree spergs mean by bingo or being bingoed? Just that someone goes through a list of reasons why children aren't actually worse than Hitler, and/or that with age and maturity their opinions on the matter may change, like many people's do? In the context of the orgy childfree post, getting bingoed would seem like a good thing. Getting filled out like a scorecard is a laudable goal for a fete.
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Pvt.Scott posted:What exactly do childfree spergs mean by bingo or being bingoed? Just that someone goes through a list of reasons why children aren't actually worse than Hitler, and/or that with age and maturity their opinions on the matter may change, like many people's do? In the context of the orgy childfree post, getting bingoed would seem like a good thing. Getting filled out like a scorecard is a laudable goal for a fete. Theres some bingo card with squares like "you'll change your mind when you're older" or "you're just selfish". They think getting criticisms is some Abusive threat to their existence, like getting Triggered.
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They mean being given the same criticisms for being childfree by those who aren't such as "who will take care of you" etc etc I know someone who is asexual who talks about being bingoed all the time, she's like the childfree of a sexuality quite honestly.
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54 40 or gently caress posted:They mean being given the same criticisms for being childfree by those who aren't such as "who will take care of you" etc etc How much of a gigantic overlap is there with childfree, atheist, and asexual?
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Dec 9, 2016 21:58
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The coffee thing has got to be drugs. Might not be heroin, but is very likely heroin. Though I cant imagine being in a long distance relationship with a heroin user, then thining they will stop using heroin if you moved closer to them. I also would not date a heroin user, so who knows.
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^why do you think heroin instead of like, pot or something?Panfilo posted:How much of a gigantic overlap is there with childfree, atheist, and asexual? Probably not even a venn, just a big old circle
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Dec 9, 2016 22:05
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it's just nested smaller and smaller circles
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Panfilo posted:I think the other reason they prefer animals over people is that animals can't say no. Never owned a cat, huh?
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I think there's also a big overlap of people who craft (knitting and stuff) and being super childfree too. I feel like so many crafters are either the nicest, friendliest people or batshit loving insane
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:it's just nested smaller and smaller circles Like a matryoshka doll of AUG? fruit on the bottom posted:Never owned a cat, huh? Cats can't speak English. 
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Tumblr threads have taught me that "asexual" is both a completely meaningless label with no set definition and the most important label in the world that defines your entire identity and informs every social interaction you will ever have
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I doubt the coffee is a euphemism. I don't know any coffee geeks, but it's definitely a real thing. Like beer or wine geeks. It's not a stretch to think that if she's that into it she would be bothered by her boyfriend totally blowing it off and refusing to even try it.
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If coffee really is a euphemism it's probably a euphemism for cocaine.But I don't think it's a euphemism because of all the specific details she includes and because at this point in the thread everyone should have accepted by now people really are that weird, petty and stupid.
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loquacius posted:Tumblr threads have taught me that "asexual" is both a completely meaningless label with no set definition and the most important label in the world that defines your entire identity and informs every social interaction you will ever have This is exactly true. The person in question for me was a friend of a friend. We tried to include her in stuff but if anything even remotely sexual came up, she would flip her poo poo about how we were attacking her identity. It didn't stop her of course from constantly looking at gay porn of captain America loving Bucky Barnes though. Being 'ace' was all-consuming to her where the point where I think she was actually just trying to convince herself she was. Her behaviour was so abusive and obnoxious that my one friend and I told the person who was her friend that she should really reevaluate the friendship because it was super toxic
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Why do people push for open relationships? Search for better sex? The thrill of doing something shady (cheating) without feeling bad? Sadbrains?
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You can legit get some good coffee and get all spergy about it like craft beer dudes or whatever. There's a cool little place here in town that grinds beans for local businesses and also makes a mean cup of joe. The only mixer they have is milk for their fancy poo poo. No sugar, cinnamon, caramel, whipped cream, or a billion other things. It is some damned good coffee with plenty of variety in taste available. I go there occasionally to scribble in a notebook and spend two or three bucks on some coffee. Sometimes I chat with a lady or something. E: they have absolutely nothing but coffee there. Pvt.Scott fucked around with this message at 22:26 on Dec 9, 2016 |
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Dec 9, 2016 22:24
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Pretentiousness and using said pretentiousness to gently caress random people outside your marriage.
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I'm a giant coffee nerd, and it would probably upset me if a partner refused to try some, but her distress seems to be because his reneging on a previous agreement was a final straw in the "I'm not really into you" haystack. So, it might actually be coffee, but the situation is that her brain finally connected the dots.
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Helsing posted:If coffee really is a euphemism it's probably a euphemism for cocaine.But I don't think it's a euphemism because of all the specific details she includes and because at this point in the thread everyone should have accepted by now people really are that weird, petty and stupid. I think cocaine users would just be all "Ok, more cocaine for me", but Heroin seems more like the kind of thing you want buy in from your SO. I dunno. Pot seems somehow less innocuous then her actually meaning coffee. Oh wait, it's about weird sex. quote:Before we met IRL he complimented me and was open to trying different things. He was excited. After meeting and the compliments stopped, it led me to believe he didn't find me as attractive/didn't love me as much. Of course he disagreed but I don't believe him. We also had discussed kinks we'd try and after meeting IRL he confided me in he had ED. He said after meeting IRL we'd elope then after we met it was "Oh, we're not ready for marriage." Everything changed. No compliments, sex, marriage, and now no interest in trying coffee? It's as though our relationship is a completely different one and it's 95% because of him. He's the one that changed. Or wait, maybe it is about coffee and she's just a weird person on the internet. [–]LDRCoffeeAddict [S] 0 points an hour ago He doesn't go to coffee shops with me. I go alone. He won't get something else and sit with me. The few times we happen to stop in because it's convenient he sits without a beverage. [–]LDRCoffeeAddict [S] -3 points an hour ago I'm fixated on him keeping his word, especially when it involves doing something with me he's never done with anyone else.
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Yeesh, it'd probably be better if it was drugs
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Theokotos posted:I'm a giant coffee nerd, and it would probably upset me if a partner refused to try some, but her distress seems to be because his reneging on a previous agreement was a final straw in the "I'm not really into you" haystack. So, it might actually be coffee, but the situation is that her brain finally connected the dots. This. He clearly either tried to dump her or is doing the really indirect dumping, and she cant handle it so she projects it onto a smaller issue." Its not that a promising relationship failed and I might die alone.... its just like a coffee thing"
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Nissin Cup Nudist posted:Why do people push for open relationships? Search for better sex? The thrill of doing something shady (cheating) without feeling bad? Sadbrains? They want to sleep around but are too emotionally needy to be single and just casually date like regular people
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First of all what kind of sadbrains is so down about coffee he won't go to a shop and get a water and a muffin or some poo poo. Why does he just sit there and stare with nothing to eat or drink? This guy seems really broken and she should tell him to gently caress off.
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How hard would it be for him to get an iced tea or something? There's got to be something he'd like in a coffee shop, jesus christ.
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tbh if someone went on and on at me to drink coffee like that, I'd probably not go just out of spite.
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It's not coffee; it's piss.
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quote:My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, and everything has been fine, but he is extremely high strung and I feel like it's getting worse.
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It's sad that so many of these threads can be solved via 
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except the childfree ones. they can only be solved by jumping off a bridge
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I picture her boyfriend being played by Fred Armisen doing his Peter character from Portlandia.
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Going to punch that guy
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He's fallen in love with the housekeeper and is trying to browbeat and needle her into leaving.
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Tears In A Vial posted:tbh if someone went on and on at me to drink coffee like that, I'd probably not go just out of spite. I'm going with this. I like coffee a whole lot, but my husband does not. Once in a blue moon if I get a particularly good cup/batch, I'll offer him some to try, even though I've never seen him drink coffee in the 13 years we've been together. He says "no thanks", and I say "more for me, buddy". It sounds like this woman's making a federal case over coffee. If I was in his shoes, I wouldn't go to the coffee shop either, because even if I got a chai and a muffin, it sounds like she'd probably harp on me the whole time about "blah blah coffee c'mon just try some you prooooooommmmised". At that point I'd start associating the smell of coffee with this wacko and REALLY not want to try any. artichoke posted:It's not coffee; it's piss. That's my secondary theory. If coffee is a euphemism, it's for some kink, not drugs. Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:milk carton story wait, they have a housekeeper, but an empty carton of milk was on the kitchen counter for a week?
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How is anyone confused by CoffeeGirl's post? It's pretty obvious that the guy just doesn't want to actually end the relationship and for some reason the OP is fixated on coffee being the reason
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:High strung BF getting stupid mad at GF for not doing simple random chores This is why my mom and dad got divorced. Well, that and the fact that my dad is gay, but I often wonder which element contributed more to the divorce. Which should let you know how destructive nitpicking random minor failures is to a relationship
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In my experience people start arguing over stupid poo poo due to bigger issues that they are not addressing or are incapable of articulating, so the smallest stuff becomes a means to express their frustration. I am reminded of the time a then girlfriend just blew the gently caress up because I gave an ice cube to my very excited labrador before putting some other cubes on her cup, because it apparently meant the dog was more important to me than her. We were in a really bad place.
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