flick my Mr. Bean posted:

I've seen this concept in plenty of these stories. Do they think they're sexual vampires sucking the energy from outside people so they can use it on their marriage? Are they trying to justify it by promising they'll fix their problems if they get to gently caress other people?

Dienes posted:

Yes, they do. They literally call it NRE - "New Relationship Energy."

mfcrocker posted:

Hey, if she likes 50 shades (ugh) she may find she likes getting inspected

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If it's weird, how do I get a hug from a girl.

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Is it weird to cuddle my pillow at night?

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I play guitar and want a song that would make a girl so flattered that she cries. Preferably a love song, one that is played on a guitar. I would love one that is often played on the radio.

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I'm 15/m and am writing a song for a 16/f and need some tips for writing. I want to leave her in tears because of having a flattering song.

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I play guitar but never get any pussy.

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Pvt.Scott posted:

Man, I saw 50 Shades in the theater and that was a good choice. Laughed for almost the whole runtime.

Charles Get-Out posted:

Digging through post histories can be fun.

Is it normal for me (16/m) to have never hugged a girl my age? (QUESTION)

Is it weird for me (16/m) to cuddle my pillow pretending it's my crush?

[Question] What song should I (16/m) do that would make a girl (15/f) cry?

What are some things to keep in mind when you are writing songs to your crush? Question

I [14/m] write songs, why don't I get laid? [QUESTION]

[Serious] Do women fart?

loquacius posted:

I saw Twilight in the theater because my ex made me, but she did let me get drunk first

Lunchmeat Larry posted:

a good way to get hugs is to get fat and live in a coldcountry because women will see you as warm and soft and comforting

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I have a professor who is from abroad. He is older (50s-60s) and is very lonely because he lives by himself and doesn't have many friends. His family lives back home (2 daughters that are my age and a son that is a few years older) and he has been divorced from his ex-wife for 21 years. He loves teaching and regularly invites his students to come to office hours and even hosts regular office hours at his apartment if it's more convenient for students. He has commented several times to his students that he is lonely and depressed because his children are so far away and he hasn't seen them in over a year.
Last night I went to his apartment to ask some questions about the class topic. It's not the first time and I usually end up there for a few hours because he wants to talk about his child hood and his family back home and other topics going on in the region. At the end of the study time he brought up how lonely he is and wanted to know if he could treat me like a daughter and be able to hug me and visit with me. I felt uncomfortable but I agreed because he was lonely. He then wanted to know if he could have a hug and give me cheek kisses (so I agreed again because I felt bad).
Now, he is a very religious man. He dresses extremely modestly, has never drank alcohol or smoked, and prays often. I've never gotten sexual vibes from him even from the cheek kisses. It just felt like a grandfather being affectionate with a granddaughter. I even told him that it made me uncomfortable and that I didn't want a sexual thing and he told me that he had not had any sexual relations with anyone since divorcing his wife because it's forbidden in his religion and that he has no interest in it.
So it seems like he is just an elderly man who is lonely and wants platonic affection but it makes me slightly uncomfortable. I feel bad because of how depressed he is and how isolated but it just feels weird to me even though I feel bad for him.
I left and he asked if when I got back from break if he could tutor me again and if I could have him over for tea to talk. I don't know what to do about this situation... I have a class with him next semester and I don't feel uncomfortable around him per-se, I just feel uncomfortable about this other thing he is requesting.
tl;dr: Older professor is lonely because family is away and wants a daughter figure, but it makes me uncomfortable. Don't know what to do...

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My [M 20] mom [37 F] is trying to steal my boyfriend [M 21].

Made a throwaway for this as my boyfriend uses Reddit. Apologies if this sounds disjointed or rambling.

To start this off, my mom has been in and out of my life since I was born. She was very immature and irresponsible when I was younger so I was mostly raised by my aunt (her older sister) and uncle. About 6 years ago she decided to buckle down and have me live with her full time for the first time, ever, really.

Things were okay at first. But she's still very immature for a parent. She dates and sleeps around a lot. For example, I have two younger sisters and a younger brother, only one of which lives here with us. This has been a serious source of tension between us for almost the entire time I've been here..

Anyway, about 2 years ago I came out as gay, which my mom was fine with. She actually encouraged me to try to look for guys to bring home even when I still in high school. I've had a few boyfriends, but I didn't bring most of them around home. My most recent boyfriend, who I'll call N, has only been with me for a couple months now. But a few weeks ago I decided to "take the plunge" and invite him over to my place. I thought things went well, my mom was very friendly and asking N a ton of questions. But something seemed a bit off.. Like one of the first things she asked him was about his sexuality. N is bi, but prefers men, and I thought that was a very strange question for her to ask.

Since then, N has been over at my house several times. Almost every weekend and sometimes Friday nights as well. Every time, my mom will chat him up like crazy. Sometimes to the point where I have to pull him into another room to get some time with him for myself. Most of the time it seems like pretty innocent chat, but once after coming from the bathroom I caught them laughing with my mom poking N's cheek/dimple. Again, very weird behavior to me.

Last night I came home, my mom was acting kind of weirder than normal. She was bubbly and happy and talking about how she was getting so many texts. When I asked her who they were from she listed a couple of people and then said N. I asked her when she had exchanged numbers with N and she said something like "Oh just one of the times he was here".

I've texted N a few times today, but we won't see each other in person again until Monday. This is seriously bothering me though. I know N is bi, but he's always told me he prefers men and has never really dated a woman. Much less one as old as my mother. I'm very convinced that she's strongly coming onto him though, and he's either going along with it or is wanting it in return. I'm not too sure what to do now. I'm considering confronting N, but it could end up making me look like a crazy jealous control-freak of a boyfriend. Anyone have any suggestions?

tl;dr: Mom is being very flirty with new boyfriend, who seems to be going along with it. Any suggestions for ways to confront or find out what's really happening?

Gaunab posted:

Charles Get-Out posted:

My [23/F] older professor [50s-60s/M] wants to treat me like a daughter


This definitely won't turn more creepy and bad.

Charles Get-Out posted:

My [23/F] older professor [50s-60s/M] wants to treat me like a daughter


This definitely won't turn more creepy and bad.

Pvt.Scott posted:

Mom's prowling, so what?

Danaru posted:

Getting drunk and ripping on Twilight sounds like a decent time, actually.

Danaru posted:

Getting drunk and ripping on Twilight sounds like a decent time, actually. I might have to pitch that one. It made Last Airbender a lot more tolerable

WampaLord posted:

The Rifftrax commentary tracks for all the Twilight movies are amazing.

WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:

My wife[32f] and I [36m] tried an open relationship and 3 ½ months in I am disgusted by her behavior.

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At that point I was considering getting a lawyer and divorcing her there however I chose not to. I don’t want to break up our family.

WampaLord posted:

The Rifftrax commentary tracks for all the Twilight movies are amazing.

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Me [24 M] with my GF [25F] I just found out she is a millionaire and has been hiding it from me

I have been dating her for over 9 months, and she has been living with me for over 3 months. I do like her alot, but we have different views on kids as I don't want them (as I cannot afford them) but she does. I work for minimum wage for 50 hours a week in a warehouse, and she does about 20 part time as a teaching assistant . I went to visit her old apartment to collect mail, and was curious about one thick letter about her finances (which was loosely sealed) , I read the letter and found out she owns 4 homes and has about £4 million savings. I resealed the letter and researched that the properties are worth about £1 million each.

We both work minimum wage, but she tells me she has some savings which we use to pay rent. We don't have many luxuries and we often have to make scarifies to pay rent (such as no hot water or no heating). I have a feeling she may be a cheapskate/leacher, or she could be testing me to see if I truly love her.

I am planning to marry her one day, but am thinking of maybe proposing in the next 2 weeks due to this news. I would love the idea of marrying a rich girl, my life would improve significantly.

Should I tell her I know the truth that I know and how I know?

I was planning to propose after maybe a year or two, but am rushing to propose early so we don't split, am I a bad person?

Will there be alot of future problems in our relationship if she has alot more money than me, I work minimum wage, and she is a millionaire?

tl;dr: I found out my GF is really rich, and we live on the poverty line, so I want to marry her

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I (29f) don't shave my legs often, and I've never had a problem until dating him (32m). 1 year.

So at 29 years old, I've been in a few relationships. I've also grown into who I am as a person. I've never been big on shaving my body hair because I prefer the way body hair feels, and I prefer how it looks. I'm also not particularly hairy.

I've never dated someone who had a problem with my body hair. Really, they'd all been like "okay, it's your body," and occasionally when I did shave, they would also be like, "okay, it's your body."

So in come Karl. He's pretty cool, and I enjoy the time we spend together. Problem is, he definitely has an issue with my body hair. I think he pretended to be okay with it at first, but now that he realizes this is who I am and it wasn't just because it was winter or anything, he has opinions about it.

He does it in kind of passive aggressive ways, like he'll show me a picture of a girl with pit hair and wrinkle his nose and go, "Isn't that gross?"

I'll always point out that he has armpit hair (and lots of it) but he doesn't think that's gross. He says "It's just different."

I trim my pubic hair often because it tends to grow wildly and out of control and I don't like sitting on it or tugging it (lol). We might watch pornography together and he'll always make a big deal out of the pubeless girls. Again, I'll point out that he has pube hair, but it's always "different"

I get that people are allowed to have their preferences, which are heavily informed by our culture and the people around us. He grew up orgasming to hairless women in pornography and dating women who were shamed for having body hair. I understand that our culture very much looks down on women for having body hair, really, I do.

But I grew up liking my body and my hair and not feeling like I needed to shave it or take it off just so I would sexually appealing to men. Growing up, my mom didn't shave often, either. And my dad obviously didn't care, given the number of times I heard them getting it on.

So my thing is... whose preferences take precedence here? Am I being too stubborn for liking myself how I am? I am not at all comfortable with the idea of removing my pubic hair.

tl;dr: BF takes some passive aggressive stabs at me having body hair. I have a preference, he has a preference. Whose preference wins?

Gaunab posted:

Me [24 M] with my GF [25F] I just found out she is a millionaire and has been hiding it from me

mobby_6kl posted:

Do it dude, live the dream and then and take half her poo poo!

chitoryu12 posted:

She'd probably fight like hell for it. If she's got 4 million pounds in savings but is still living in a crappy apartment without heat to avoid spending too much on living expenses, she's a crazy cheapskate.

chitoryu12 posted:

She'd probably fight like hell for it. If she's got 4 million pounds in savings but is still living in a crappy apartment without heat to avoid spending too much on living expenses, she's a crazy cheapskate.

Subjunctive posted:

Or it's still in a restricted trust.

chitoryu12 posted:

She'd probably fight like hell for it. If she's got 4 million pounds in savings but is still living in a crappy apartment without heat to avoid spending too much on living expenses, she's a crazy cheapskate.

chitoryu12 posted:

I would think that, but he mentioned she "takes money out of savings" to pay the rent and supposedly owns multiple houses, all while being content to let her boyfriend work 50 hours a week and just dabble in part time stuff. If he's telling the truth, she seems like she's more concerned with having money than actually living with money.

Subjunctive posted:

Or it's still in a restricted trust.

Gaunab posted:

chitoryu12 posted:

I would think that, but he mentioned she "takes money out of savings" to pay the rent and supposedly owns multiple houses, all while being content to let her boyfriend work 50 hours a week and just dabble in part time stuff. If he's telling the truth, she seems like she's more concerned with having money than actually living with money.