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Bonzo posted:My [36f] son [15M] threw and stomped on a xbox game he got for christmas because it was not the one he wanted. My husband wants to let it go I think the best response to that is "sucks to suck; now you don't have any presents!" Although at some point that's standard rear end in a top hat teenager behavior and you just have to roll with it because if you dig in your heels and go ballistic they will double down and be even more lovely. Moral of the story is those childfree assholes are totally on to something.
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tater_salad posted:Wow, a cool hundred on her gifts, this guy's awesome. Yeah, I don't get it. Unless that dude was dead broke (and he isn't), there is zero reason to be a cheapskate over Christmas with his wife. They don't have kids either! I spent well over $100 on my girlfriend's gifts plus decent cash on her family too. It's just alien to me to not give good gifts to people you care about... but I guess I'm not a robotic rear end in a top hat like this girl's husband.
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30 Goddamned Dicks posted:Although at some point that's standard rear end in a top hat teenager behavior No way. If my 9-year-old did that it would be shocking. No teenager should be responding to gift disappointment by acting out physically.
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Dec 25, 2016 16:39
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30 Goddamned Dicks posted:I think the best response to that is "sucks to suck; now you don't have any presents!" That's not standard lovely teenage behavior. Sulking a bit or whining a bit -- sure -- but not tantrums. If that were my kid, he wouldn't have an XBOX 360 any more. At that age, you can AT LEAST politely say "Thanks mom, but this wasn't the game I wanted. Can we go exchange it?" Which would totally have been an option, until he destroyed it.
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Bonzo posted:My [36f] son [15M] threw and stomped on a xbox game he got for christmas because it was not the one he wanted. My husband wants to let it go  No Mom, you idiot! I have Bloodstorm, and Bone Squad, and Bloodstorm II, stupid.
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Dec 25, 2016 16:52
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30 Goddamned Dicks posted:Although at some point that's standard rear end in a top hat teenager behavior Uh no. That is not normal or standard.
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blackmet posted:That's not standard lovely teenage behavior. Sulking a bit or whining a bit -- sure -- but not tantrums. If that were my kid, he wouldn't have an XBOX 360 any more. And yeah, I would slap that kid so hard across the face if that were my teenage son. I get that he's a 15 year old kid, but that is some horrid behavior over not getting the right robot video game.
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Bonzo posted:My [36f] son [15M] threw and stomped on a xbox game he got for christmas because it was not the one he wanted. My husband wants to let it go I feel this is a fair reaction to getting Titanfall for christmas 
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Dec 25, 2016 17:01
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:And yeah, I would slap that kid so hard across the face if that were my teenage son. Yes, a good way to demonstrate an appropriate reaction to being upset.
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Dec 25, 2016 17:23
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Leon Einstein posted:It's very weird for couples not to share finances, but if they don't have the same mentality about money, it makes sense. I'm guessing the failure rate is higher in those marriages. It works great if both parties aren't retarded about money. I pay the mortgage and our car insurance, he pays for groceries and monthly bills. I make more so I take on the more expensive piece, but if I ever lost my job we'd probably switch it up. Has worked perfect for us.
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It just seems like an extra step. Are there such significant trust issues that a couple can't have a joint account and pay for things together? It would seem so weird for me to need to ask my wife to spot me for some expense because I got cleaned out that month for whatever reason. A lot of couples that have separate finances often explain it away by pointing out a big difference in income or money management. This just seems like a red flag, like the trust and power differential between each spouse is so great they need to draw a chalk line in the ground. At best, it's just redundant.
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Bonzo posted:My [36f] son [15M] threw and stomped on a xbox game he got for christmas because it was not the one he wanted. My husband wants to let it go  I was ultimately right about the dreamcast dying, but I was wrong in how I acted. It's kind of weird reading some of these stories because by 15-16 I stopped caring much about gifts and just bought stuff I wanted. Panfilo posted:A lot of couples that have separate finances often explain it away by pointing out a big difference in income or money management. This just seems like a red flag, like the trust and power differential between each spouse is so great they need to draw a chalk line in the ground. At best, it's just redundant. With that said, I've never been a dick about money and generally just pay for stuff and will never bring it up or expect anything in return or argue about it or let them stress over it. I'd certainly have a shared account too, and the point wouldn't be to "starve" them of money or control them in any way, but lots of people see money spend money and don't get the longterm management of it very well. Especially when they're dealing with spending small portions of a larger sum. Khorne fucked around with this message at 17:54 on Dec 25, 2016 |
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Dec 25, 2016 17:40
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jokes on you the dreamcast was a loving sweet rear end console
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Yeah I can't really see combining accounts. Keeping them separate is like dissociative fugue insurance for both of you. I'd certainly never let a longterm partner stress over "their" money or treat handing them cash as "lending", it'd be for unilateral idiocy prevention only.
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Sounds like a trust issue to me.
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purple death ray posted:jokes on you the dreamcast was a loving sweet rear end console Panfilo posted:Sounds like a trust issue to me. Khorne fucked around with this message at 17:59 on Dec 25, 2016 |
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Dec 25, 2016 17:55
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You say that but I just wanna know that, if I have a psychotic break at some point, I can only spend up to half of my net worth on lawn gnomes instead of all of it. Hell, each of us depositing half of each paycheck into each account would be fine. Edit: lol if that was a pun
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Wasn't intended to be a pun but it works as one now that you mention it. And separate finances aren't going to protect you from getting financially screwed over if you're married; if your spouse gets high on bath salts and buys ten grand pianos then gets taken to collections they'll try and go after any common property (like a house). So just because the other spouse had their own checking account doesn't mean squat in that situation. As an example, my cousin and her ex husband had separate finances,which made it much easier for her ex husband to hide a drug habit that caused them to lose their condo.
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Panfilo posted:Sounds like a trust issue to me. Having split finances is the difference between "You spent X dollars on [bullshit]?!? Of OUR MONEY?!" vs "You spent X dollars on [bullshit]?!? Lol have fun ya idiot" It's the end of that most common relationship bullshit argument forever. Combining finances is the craziest idea I can imagine.
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Scudworth posted:Having split finances is the difference between "You spent X dollars on [bullshit]?!? Of OUR MONEY?!" vs "You spent X dollars on [bullshit]?!? Lol have fun ya idiot" Again, if you have a partner you can't even trust to make competent financial decisions without some arbitrary hedge to protect your money, then there are bigger potential problems that separate accounts can't fix.
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Dec 25, 2016 18:31
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Separate accounts for bullshit, a shared account for shared expenses that evens out differentials in earnings.
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30 Goddamned Dicks posted:Although at some point that's standard rear end in a top hat teenager behavior and you just have to roll with it because if you dig in your heels and go ballistic they will double down and be even more lovely. That's not standard teenage behavior and that's a terrible approach to parenting. Also I just can't imagine separate finances working for my marriage. My wife and I just make sure we've cleared it with each other before we spend any money. I'm sure there's plenty of other reasons for it but keeping separate accounts to protect yourself from one another sounds like there's no trust in that marriage. flick my Mr. Bean fucked around with this message at 18:46 on Dec 25, 2016 |
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:And yeah, I would slap that kid so hard across the face if that were my teenage son. I get that he's a 15 year old kid, but that is some horrid behavior over not getting the right robot video game. Cool, you're either a child abuser or a potential one.
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zakharov posted:Cool, you're either a child abuser or a potential one. quote:I was at my GFs place yesterday helping her cook for her families Christmas lunch.. I was just watching to be fair.
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To be fair that's probably the best course because no way that relationship is going to last
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Pick posted:....
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flick my Mr. Bean posted:
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Honestly re: combining finances. I think it really, really comes down to the individuals. Money can make people really weird. Works for us to keep it separate and there's def not any sort of trust/power issues behind it, but that's certainly not the rule.  system works perfect for us but maybe not for othersAlso lol at that guy just assuming her reaction from what was probably pretty scary stuff makes her a softie. What a WEAKLING.
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My answer to the teenage thing is to divorce your husband and leave forever so he can raise the human mistake you made together himself and see how he likes actually taking an active role with the lovely kid you helped raise together.
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She's dodging a bullet. Better to learn you boyfriend is verbally abusive at 4 months into the relationship than having him slowly chip away at your self esteem.
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Doesn't tantrum teenager know you can just exchange the game for the correct one? As a kid this happened to me a couple times ; got a second copy of starcraft instead of the broodwar expansion I asked for. No big deal, exchanged it for the correct thing and let me spend the difference at the game store.
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Panfilo posted:Doesn't tantrum teenager know you can just exchange the game for the correct one? As a kid this happened to me a couple times ; got a second copy of starcraft instead of the broodwar expansion I asked for. No big deal, exchanged it for the correct thing and let me spend the difference at the game store. If you're the kind of fifteen year old that has tantrums than no, you know nothing.
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Its legal to gently caress 15 year olds here It should be legal to slap them as well
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54 40 or gently caress posted:Honestly re: combining finances. I think it really, really comes down to the individuals. Money can make people really weird. Works for us to keep it separate and there's def not any sort of trust/power issues behind it, but that's certainly not the rule.
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We have a joint account for paying the mortgage, things for the dog, and SOMETIMES groceries. I have a set amount from each paycheck going in, he just sort of moves money in when he can. I check it once a month to make sure there's enough to cover the house payment. I make somewhat more, so I pay car insurance for both cars, the electric bill, internet, Hulu/Netflix from my individual account. He pays both cell phones, water, and garbage from his individual account. Student loans, credit cards, car payments, spending cash, etc. are handled from each of our individual accounts. It works OK for the most part.
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flick my Mr. Bean posted:My wife and I just make sure we've cleared it with each other before we spend any money. That sounds loving horrible.
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scrubs season six posted:That sounds loving horrible. "Hey, I'm gonna buy Titanfall 2. That cool with you?" "Sure. Is that the one with the giant robots?" or "I'm going to lunch with Lindsey just to give you a heads up." "Okie Dokie, will you bring me something to eat when you're done?" I don't know how I survive.
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scrubs season six posted:That sounds loving horrible.
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