Command Ant posted:

This isn't going to top the suicide threat one as far as goes, but...


I really want to know what he thinks she's doing behind his back while he's asleep.

KateKonitzer posted:

flick my Mr. Bean posted:

The best thing about berth ell pup is if anyone googles it to see what it means in Old Norse, it won't just show them that it means prep the bull. It'll link them to the archived reddit post as well as the title of the deleted post which is enough as it is.

angel opportunity posted:

Can someone please link me to the prep the bull couple breaking up? I haven't been following the thread the past few months

Ratjaculation posted:

And a good thermos is a great gift

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My (27F) BIL (24M) of 4 years does not take no for an answer, crossed a line last night. Not sure what to say to my sister (24F).

Last night my family and I were hanging out after dinner, we had been drinking a decent amount and I decided to stay the night at my sister and BIL's house while my parents went home.

My BIL has a habit of engaging in arguments with people, which he describes as having a "political discussion". He's that guy on facebook that feels the need to have arguments over huge comment threads, saying that he's "just spreading information". It becomes amplified in intensity when he's been drinking, and there's little to no possibility of redirecting the conversation once it has taken that turn. After about a year of trying to engage I have just learned that once he starts to talk about politics it's time for me to excuse myself and go to bed.

So, naturally, at some point in the night my sister had passed out on the couch and BIL and I got into a heated discussion about politics. Unfortunately I'm not good at recognizing these arguments before they start, but at some point I had had enough, told BIL I was going to bed and headed into their spare room.

I hadn't brought any extra clothes with me, so I was just in my underwear and was topless in bed (lights off, laying down, etc) when BIL barged in with a glass of water. He knelt down, about eye level with me, and began talking to me about how he was "trying to educate me on the truth". I'm sure alcohol had a bit to do with this, but I started to freak out. I told him, "hey, I'm obviously topless, trying to go to bed, and I need you to leave." It's like he didn't even hear me. When I quickly realized he wasn't going anywhere I started to cry, saying over and over, "please leave me alone". I felt so trapped, like I couldn't get out. He then starts talking about how if I didn't agree with him (about this political topic) and didn't want to be around him I was putting my relationship with my sister in jeopardy. Things like, "If you're not going to see me, you're not going to see her".

I couldn't handle my poo poo at that point but regained my composure long enough to say forcefully, over and over, "Get out of my room". He finally left and I immediately put my clothes on, called an uber, and as I was getting up to leave the room he came back in again. I pushed my way past him and walked out the door.

My sister called me after about 30 minutes, hysterically crying, saying that BIL was so worried about where I went and he was so upset about me "not feeling safe in his house". I told her we would talk about it later.

I'm devastated, not to mention the fact that I've been in full-on panic mode since last night. I have no idea if I'm overreacting or not. This is not the first time he hasn't taken "no, I don't want to talk about this" as an answer, and in fact I've woken up a few times at my sister's house to her crying loudly and saying "please, I don't want to talk about this, let me sleep" over and over. I want to talk to her about what happened, but she seems to think this is normal behaviour. He's not physically abusive or anything, I don't think, but I feel like this instance escalated so much that I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose her, like he said I would...that would kill me. But I am at a loss on how to talk to her about this and what to say.

tldr: My BIL came into the room where I was sleeping, topless, after I had told him I wasn't engaging in an argument anymore and was going to bed. I became scared and was crying when he refused to leave after I asked him repeatedly. He was talking about how I wouldn't be able to see my sister again if I didn't agree with him and I was finally able to slip out. My sister wants to talk, now, and I'm not sure what to say.

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I came home from College and I would like to resolve this before I go back.
On Christmas day my boyfriend simply asked my brother to get him a can of beer. My brother picked up the can and just threw it at him. He pushed the rest of them over and said "loving kill yourself, who the gently caress are you? This is my loving house, I'm not your slave you bald gently caress. I'm sick of being you your slave, your slave, your slave. Get up and do it the gently caress yourselves you lazy fucks." He said this as he walked around the room pointing at everyone. Mom, dad, brothers, grandparents, etc,
What exactly do I do? He's only 9 years old and I have never seen this much anger come from him ever.
TL;DR: Brothers angry, what do I do?

flick my Mr. Bean posted:

My crazy ex who I've posted about before lied to people about me threatening to commit suicide if she broke up with me.

subhuman filth posted:

He has a severe case of being a tinycolossal human being

Melchiresa posted:

My [20F] brother [9M] snapped on christmas day. He threw a can at my boyfriend [21M] head told him to kill himself and he's sick of being peoples slave.


If this is real

SpiderHyphenMan posted:

Maybe I grew up sheltered, but I can't imagine ever asking a nine-year-old to get me a beer.

Melchiresa posted:

My [20F] brother [9M] snapped on christmas day. He threw a can at my boyfriend [21M] head told him to kill himself and he's sick of being peoples slave.


If this is real

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My (24F) boyfriend (29M) of 2 years watched porn on his phone when my family was opening gifts yesterday

I've brought my boyfriend home with me to have part of Christmas break with my family. Yesterday morning when everyone was opening presents and having fun, he was kind of off to the side after he'd opened his gifts and was staring at his phone. He didn't notice me coming over and I saw a porn video playing before he could close the app.

I obviously couldn't do anything in the moment or everyone would find out. So I pulled out my phone and sent a quick text being like what the gently caress dude, to his credit he looked embarrassed and put his phone away for the rest of the morning.

Last night I brought up how inappropriate it was. There were kids around and even if there hadn't been, who tf feels the need to put on porn during Christmas with their SO's family. I felt massively disrespected and embarrassed, even though fortunately no one else saw. But I did notice some people glancing at him oddly just for sitting apart from everyone and absorbed in his phone, like he didn't care to be included.

Might be worth it to mention that we've been here a few days and since the house is full of people, I've said no sex while we're here because I feel really awkward doing it in my childhood room and also in case anyone overheard. There's not much privacy and I don't feel comfortable and obviously neither would any of my relatives. So he's been pissy about that and still tries to come on to me at night. I guess that could be a factor??

Just wondering if there's anything I can do to get him to realize it's not "no big deal" and is in fact weird and embarrassing? I now am reconsidering bringing him over again if I'm going to have to worry that the second he's bored or horny he's going to pull up porn around my family.

TL;DR boyfriend was watching porn instead of being involved with my family during Christmas and thinks it doesn't matter since no one (except me) saw it.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

That kind of behaviour is really worrying because what's going on at home that he lashed out like that? I guess working with at risk kids always pings something for me. He could just be spoiled or any number of things though.

corn on the cop posted:

Melchiresa posted:

Hence my response

Working in social services + reading reddit is a drat nightmare sometimes. After a rough day at work I end up shying away from subs like this for a while.

Dial-a-Dog posted:

Man some of the dorks in these stories get away with murder. I'm pretty sure I'd get dumped if I sat out girlfriend's family's gift opening to watch porn on my phone (in the same room even), all she's doing is "reconsidering bringing him over again"

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

What kind of person watches porn on their phone while at a family holiday gathering????? gently caress.

Chichevache posted:

Unacceptable, unless his political opinions match up with mine.

ArbitraryC posted:

I was about to say simply head over to D&D particularly the threads on social politics and there will be people talking about how you should be aggressively engaging anyone who says anything you find offensive.