54 40 or gently caress posted:

I feel like the whole thing is a relationships post waiting to happen because she has all these nasty guys creeping on her and asking if she has a boyfriend and her usual response is "regretfully I'm taken but I'll let you know if anything changes " and I can't imagine that feels good to her boyfriend

54 40 or gently caress posted:

she has a boyfriend and her usual response is "regretfully I'm taken but I'll let you know if anything changes "

tactlessbastard posted:

I still don't understand why twitch is a thing. Who the hell wants to watch someone else play video games?

tactlessbastard posted:

I still don't understand why twitch is a thing. Who the hell wants to watch someone else play video games?

tactlessbastard posted:

I still don't understand why twitch is a thing. Who the hell wants to watch someone else play video games?

Khorne posted:

It's the same reason tv stations exist in 2016? A never ending stream of content that you can pay attention to while doing other things. And twitch is ad-free with tons of fresh, fun content? While tv stations are reruns, 40% commercials, and don't even have great programming at all hours. On top of that, twitch broadcasters directly interact with viewers and communities form in the chat rooms. To the extent that twitch and discord are the irc of 2016.

Khorne posted:

fresh, fun content

Professor Shark posted:

Haha that is so parhetic and degrading, for everyone involved

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My boyfriend [28 M] is overly jealous and controlling of me [25 F] and goes through my phone when I am asleep. [2+ year relationship]

Alright, so, my boyfriend is the kind of guy that everyone who meets him would describe him as the nicest guy ever - he's super charismatic, outgoing, funny, you know the type. It's part of why I fell in love with him. But as you know, once you delve more deeply into the relationship, and as time passes, you learn more about the person and start to see beyond the rose coloured glasses. He definitely has a "mask" he wears when we're at social events, talking to parents, coworkers - kind of like a "work voice", if that makes sense? It's kind of like he's putting on a show. Obviously, he doesn't act that way around me anymore. I know him in and out, all the good, all the bad - as he does about me. We've lived together for a year and a bit now, and I have my own share of mental health issues (which he knew about when we began dating), and have definitely been a rollercoaster for the better part of our relationship. I'm not perfect by any means, and I don't mean to convey that at any point in this post. Okay, I'll get to the point now.

So, he's always given me small hints about the idea that he's a very "protective" person ever since we started dating. I use quotations because his behaviour has never been "protective", but overbearing, jealous, and invasive. It's gotten progressively worse over the course of time, and it's usually elevated when he's drunk. He gets extremely possessive, but not in a way that could be seen as a loving or endearing facet of jealousy, such as getting upset over another man looking at me or flirting with me(which does get him aggravated, but not even close to the point of anger he gets to when things are "my fault"). He instead gets angry with me for things like wearing makeup or a dress, or posting a photo of myself on social media. It's passive aggressive at first - a snide comment about how I "don't need to dress up so much for this place", or "why are you wearing fake eyelashes? who are you trying to impress?" - things like that. He's openly expressed how he thinks that everything I do is for attention and that I'm self-centered and everything I do is for male approval and attention. He "doesn't buy" that women like to do things for themselves, and rejects the idea of women taking ownership of their bodies and doing what they please with them. (I should note - I do not post explicit, nude, or implied photos, though I don't think it should matter if a woman wants to show herself off, but he makes it seem like I'm posting full frontal nudity if take a selfie in a t-shirt and jeans.)

So, with all of this jealousy, all of which is taken out on me, things have gotten worse over time. We've fought over men trying to flirt with me, with it being "me not shooting them down 'hard enough'", things like that, and it had come to the point that I was basically "not allowed" to speak to any males. Even male friends that I had conversations with were met with a disapproving, passive aggressive attitude and snide remarks about how they're "just trying to gently caress me" and that "no one wants to be my friend, they just want to get in my pants" "no guy wants to just be friends with a girl, you're so stupid and naive", etc. I got to the point where I was even afraid to have a text conversation with a male friend. He would go through my phone when I wasn't in the room, and I caught him multiple times and asked him what he was doing. He seemed ashamed at first, claimed it was because his ex cheated on him with a guy she was texting, and that she'd always turn her phone over and it was a trigger for him. I tried to respect that, keep my phone "up", but never had anything to hide.

Then, things went too far. I usually keep my phone charging beside my bed, and one night I had had a few drinks and wound up with it underneath my pillow. Multiple times, I've woken up to zero notifications, only to find that I had a bunch of notifications and texts, but the phone had obviously been unlocked and searched through so the notifications had disappeared. I tried to ignore it, but I actually woke up to him rummaging underneath my pillow in an attempt to get into my phone.. I asked him what was going on and he was drunk and indignant, asking why I was "hiding my phone". I rolled my eyes and rolled over and tried to ignore it. Things escalated and we got in a huge fight. This continued to happen, and I got increasingly more protective of my phone because he would NOT. STOP. GOING. THROUGH. EVERYTHING. I have absolutely nothing to hide, but I feel like he should respect that people should have their own things and be entitled to a certain degree of privacy.

We've had this same fight more times than I can count, and he's gone to the point of threatening my male friends that I've had platonic conversations with (I've never cheated on him and never would in a million years, and I've asked him if he believes that, and he said he does, so I do not understand this AT ALL). Every time we have this fight, I tell him to stop, and he says he will. Then he does it again. When I've pressed him about it, he's said that he's not going to stop, and that "people in relationships shouldn't have anything to hide" "my sister and her husband have an open phone policy" - like that matters to me?

Anyways, I love him, I really do, but I am so sick of feeling like I am always doing something wrong by simply having a cell phone. I feel like a criminal that needs to have inspections done with a parole officer, and I didn't even do anything to deserve this. I've never cheated, and never would. I don't know what his incessant desire is with my phone and going through my things, but I don't know how much more I can take. It's actually pushed me away more than anything.

TL/DR I love my boyfriend but he goes through my phone while I'm asleep and defends his actions despite me never having done anything to warrant this type of behaviour.

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bone app the teeth posted:

Khorne posted:

It's the same reason tv stations exist in 2016? A never ending stream of content that you can pay attention to while doing other things. And twitch is ad-free with tons of fresh, fun content? While tv stations are reruns, 40% commercials, and don't even have great programming at all hours. On top of that, twitch broadcasters directly interact with viewers and communities form in the chat rooms. To the extent that twitch and discord are the irc of 2016.

zakharov posted:

My boyfriend is perfect except for being a paranoid rear end in a top hat, soon to be a stalker

Sjs00 posted:

That's it; I'm never dating another human being. Losing it to an alien or some helium based lifeforms

Tiny Deer posted:

Every time I remember there are people willing to pay other people to play video games for their viewing pleasure I realize Black Mirror isn't dystopian enough.

Pvt.Scott posted:

One of my best friends is about 15 years younger than his brothers and sister, give or take a couple years in either direction. He just slid in there right before menopause, I suppose. My buddy's dad died while he was still pretty young.

As far as I was told it was one of those, "what do you mean I'm pregnant," moments, and his parents just decided to roll with it. Drummer, author, goofball, father, husband; he's a p cool cat, all told.

My parents were a lot more firm about stopping at two, three years apart. Vasectomy and poo poo after that. Good choice. Shoulda stopped at one, though. Then you wouldn't have to read my posts.

SirSamVimes posted:

yes, the fact that some people find entertainment in a way that you personally dislike is evidence that humanity is doomed

Groovelord Neato posted:

a 16 year gap between siblings is extremely weird.

Gluten Freeman posted:

maybe don't date a teenager, dude!


lol "i made the mistake of giving him a blowjob"

Tiny Deer posted:

Wait, is humanity doomed in Black Mirror? I thought it was more about how humanity is a bunch of assholes.

And these Twitch people seem like a bunch of assholes.

Edit: like watch whatever the heck you want, man, all power to you. I'm posting in this thread, I'm not exactly in a position to judge.

Panfilo posted:

When I was 19 my dad went and had 2 more kids with his second wife. I'm 22 years older than my youngest brother.

flick my Mr. Bean posted:

My coworker has been married three time and has nine kids ranging from ages thirty-three to seven months.

Ride The Gravitron posted:

Maybe those child free folks are on to something.

Ranma Fan Art posted:

maybe, the truth is in the middle

Ride The Gravitron posted:

Maybe those child free folks are on to something.

Pvt.Scott posted:

One of my best friends is about 15 years younger than his brothers and sister, give or take a couple years in either direction. He just slid in there right before menopause, I suppose. My buddy's dad died while he was still pretty young.

As far as I was told it was one of those, "what do you mean I'm pregnant," moments, and his parents just decided to roll with it. Drummer, author, goofball, father, husband; he's a p cool cat, all told.

My parents were a lot more firm about stopping at two, three years apart. Vasectomy and poo poo after that. Good choice. Shoulda stopped at one, though. Then you wouldn't have to read my posts.

Dial-a-Dog posted:

Everyone please keep posting lists of sibling ages I love it

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1. Mom's rich.

2. My brother broke my old one.

TL;DR: My stupid brother broke my TV and I want a new TV. I will accept nothing less than the biggest TV for my room. My mom laughed at me.

Ranma Fan Art posted:

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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:

I [13M] will accept nothing less than a 80 inch TV after my brother [17M] broke my old one. My mom laughed in my face.

WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:

I [13M] will accept nothing less than a 80 inch TV after my brother [17M] broke my old one. My mom laughed in my face.

WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:

I [13M] will accept nothing less than a 80 inch TV after my brother [17M] broke my old one. My mom laughed in my face.