Pick posted:

People are affected by 30 second advertisements. You seem to be suggesting that I think that pornography is different, it is not that at all. It is that I think pornography is exactly the same as all other forms of media, and influences people the same way.

Pick posted:

In the time of New York City's "Satan's Circus", its most notorious den of depravity, prostitutes who provided anal intercourse or blow jobs were considered niche and were ostracized by other prostitutes.

WoodrowSkillson posted:

Do you also believe movies and video games directly cause violence than, or is that considered separate? Violent music too? People can be influenced by all of those things, and pornography, but I have never seen anything to give them the power to drive such acts alone.

WoodrowSkillson posted:

advertising does not make people kill, maim, or rape.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

No, but it certainly gets them to go out and buy a big Mac or have a drink a Coke or buy a certain car just because their emulating what they see in a commercial. I don't even like coke but sometimes I'll think "man, a nice cold glass of Coca Cola would be just perfect right now". Advertising doesn't have a focus on doing things like killing or naming or raping as you say but you know what I bet if it did that it absolutely would influence people's behaviour because were influenced by the social spihere around us, and that includes advertising

54 40 or gently caress posted:

No, but it certainly gets them to go out and buy a big Mac or have a drink a Coke or buy a certain car just because their emulating what they see in a commercial. I don't even like coke but sometimes I'll think "man, a nice cold glass of Coca Cola would be just perfect right now". Advertising doesn't have a focus on doing things like killing or naming or raping as you say but you know what I bet if it did that it absolutely would influence people's behaviour because were influenced by the social spihere around us, and that includes advertising

WampaLord posted:

Pick, do you think men watch porn in the same way we watch movies or TV shows? The time invested is way way different.

Ride The Gravitron posted:

When/how did you get comfortable with talking about farting/pooping with your significant other? I'm [25/m] and she's [26/f].

My girlfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship, but she's moving here soon and I don't know how to get more comfortable with just having to fart or take a dump without feeling super self-conscious around her. How'd you do it? Any awkward or horror stories?

WoodrowSkillson posted:

advertising does not make people kill, maim, or rape.

Pick posted:

I would argue that there has been propaganda, a form of advertising, that has effectively encouraged violence including killing.

WampaLord posted:

How does this fit with massively lower crime rates over the past decades, including violent crime?

Pick posted:

I agree, but I would argue that there has been propaganda, a form of advertising, that has effectively encouraged violence including killing.

La Brea Carpet posted:

Hey, I have this 30-year-old hand grenade and want to pull then pin and toss it at my loving, caring wife.


tl;dr: I cheated on my wife, whom I've been with for 43 years and had 6 children with, one time in high school and have kept it hidden ever since. The guilt is eating me alive but I know confessing is the right thing to do, even though it would needlessly ruin our life together.

WoodrowSkillson posted:

No it would not because buying a cheeseburger is not the same as violating all of societies taboos and rules in order to commit an act of violence against another human being. media will not cause you to do that.

food court bailiff posted:

Sonic inflation reverse-vore.

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This is a throwaway because some of my friends know my main.
So a little background information about my relationship, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months. It's a long distance relationship so we see each 1-2 times a month for a weekend. Our sex life is a rollercoaster, sometimes satisfying, sometimes not. By unsatisfying I mean him finishing early, and not giving me any warning what so ever before it's too late. I'm on birth control so it's not an issue if he comes inside, I just prefer he doesn't if I can't shower right after because the clean up is a pain in the rear end and its rather uncomfortable.
Anyway, this weekend (and the sex) was going fine until this morning when I was surprisingly really in the mood for it(doesn't happen that often, thanks birth control), so we engaged and he ended up finishing early(inside). I wanted to cry right there and then, the emotion was so overwhelming. I went to the bathroom to clean up and I just ended up crying my eyes out. This is the first time this has ever happened to me. I've read that orgasming can cause an overflow of emotions leading to crying, unfortunately I can't orgasm from PIV so I know that's not the answer.

I didn't end up telling him until later in the day and he apologized and had questions obviously, but I couldn't answer them because I had no idea why myself. I felt really bad about it cause I could tell he blamed himself. I told him it could be because I get my period in a couple days and that I'm just more hormonal than usual, which is possible.
What I didn't tell him is that I thought it could be the built up resentment I've been having for a couple months now about him finishing early and coming inside me without my consent. I just never thought that it would cause me to cry uncontrollably after sex. I have talked to him about where he finishes and why I don't always want in it inside and to ask before or during, most of the time he's really good about it. So that leads me to think that him finishing early without warning me when I was really in the mood is the cause. A massive disappointment possibly?

Help me out here reddit. I do plan on talking to him about the resentment when I get home, I just wasn't sure if I should tell him it was the reason I cried or not. I thought an outside opinion would make things more clear.
TL;DR: Not sure if the reason I cried uncontrollably after sex is because of the resentment I have built up towards him about finishing early without warning, or maybe it's because I get my period in a couple days and I'm more hormonal than usual.
I apologize about the formatting/grammar as I'm currently on mobile, and a very crowded bus for the next 3 hours heading home. Please let me know if you need anymore information or if I should post this to /r/sex.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

While I don't exactly think it is something that is completely entirely plausible in the modern society that we live in, we can't argue about the fact that there are people who get paid millions and millions of dollars every year just to figure out the perfect formula on how to figure out how to Joe every man to buy this or that on any given day. It's why alcohol and cigarettes are not allowed to advertise on TV or read magazines because they don't want impressionable you to have access to that and see these ads were people are being surrounded by attractive people having a great time :-) laughing all because they're drinking Corona or whatever. Fact of the matter is is that there there's plenty of literature to support the idea that the media does influence our actions and behaviours especially if were exposed to it when we're young children.

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I (25F) had a disaster of a date with this guy (26M), how should I proceed?

Ok, so I went on a first meet up for drinks thing with this guy I had been talking to for a few weeks.

We ended up at this bar where he knew lots of people. Throughout the night he kept on disappearing on me to speak to people, have cigarettes outside, etc. All of a sudden he was talking to this girl for a bit and when she left he told me that that was his ex.

I went outside to join him after he had left for a while and we had a nice conversation outside and a very nice moment, when all of a sudden the friend of his ex started talking to us and suddenly his ex girlfriend and her other friend showed up. I started talking to one of his ex girlfriend's friends and his ex girlfriend was sitting close to him, flirting. I felt uneasy with this and felt so inadequate and awkward so I said "Look, if you don't mind I might get going". He shrugged and I left.

Now he is sending me all these messages asking me why I left and arguing that he didn't mean anything and telling me that he really wants to see me again.

I don't know how to process all of this, as it all feels like a big disaster. Any thoughts on this?

tl;dr: disaster of a 'date' where a guy chats profusely to his ex girlfriend. I leave because I feel uncomfortable and he shrugs. Now he is asking to meet again. I don't know how to process this?

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Nazzadan posted:

Nice page-long derail, morons.

I (F19) cried after sex with my boyfriend (M21) (nsfw?)



My boyfriend keeps spunking in me without telling me and doesn't let me orgasm, am I overreacting by resenting him?

Gaunab posted:

Pick posted:

I am not even against pornography per se (that would be as stupid as being "against movies") but the normalization of violence and degrading content should be addressed. And it is genuinely weird that so many people cannot stop watching pornography, even when they try, especially when they are still using it on a daily or multi weekly basis despite their own wishes.

Nazzadan posted:

My boyfriend keeps spunking in me without telling me and doesn't let me orgasm, am I overreacting by resenting him?

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Me [37 M] with my GF [30 F] of 8 years, I am sure she cheated but what do I tell our mutual friends when they ask why we broke up?

Hi, So the question is as the subject heading says but a bit of background:

I have been with my girlfriend for 8 years, I loved her and thought the relationship was going well. We have lived together for 7 years and there have never really been any problems. About 6 months ago my GF was offered a job in another city (we live in a small town although she is originally from a big city). We decided she should take it as it was a good career opportunity and I would look for jobs in that city and move down in the future.

During this time I have had ongoing health issues which the doctor is struggling to diagnose, on top of that there is a real possibility I will be made redundant. With all this on my mind I have obviously been talking through my issues with my GF.

I started to notice she became more distant, not replying to messages and if she did she wasnt asking any questions about me or how I was. Organising weekends to meet up became more difficult, she wasnt interested in doing things with my family etc, basically all the red flags were going up. When we met up I started to notice she was texting the same guy on a regular basis. One day I was using our Samsung Tablet and noticed she was getting messages at 2 am from this guy. My paranoia got the better of me and I did something that I am not proud of and read her messages. I found out that she has been meeting a guy and probably guys behind my back in this new city and lying to me about who she was seeing. I also found out that she met up with another guy in a hotel, it doesn't explicitly say that they did anything but I am not that naive.

So I questioned her about her being so distant an acting like she was single her response was: "Since I have been in the city I've really enjoyed my job, making friends, visiting places etc. I have also felt guilty enjoying it while you were having health/job issues. I obviously care about you but feel like there is little I can do to help you or improve anything for you, especially now we live apart. At the same time I dont think I should be enjoying my life less because of it."

I have never really asked anything of her other than to listen to me talk about my issues - which I assumed (wrongly?) that a partner of 8 years would be happy to do. She hasnt yet aditted to meeting up with guys behind my back or at a hotel (although obviously I know it happened through reading the messages - bad man I know).

I am obviously fairly devastated about this as I thought we were happy and in a strong relationship. After 8 years I thought that any issues we could talk about, instead she decided to act like a single person behind my back and allowed me to find out using underhand methods. I think what hurts the most is that there was no attempt to discuss the issues she had, it was straight to lies and deception. After spending 8 years of my life with her I think I deserved better

So - our friends will obviously ask why we broke up - I dont want to seem bitter but I don't think simply saying its complicated is a fair replication of what happened and even assumes me some responsibility when this was not my fault. Do i just tell people the truth? Sorry for the rant and I hope the post isnt too long and incoherent. Thanks for reading.

tl;dr:Girlfriend became moved to a new city and enjoyed it so much she decided that she didnt need me in her life, instead of talking to me she began meeting up with other guys, including at a hotel. We are obviously going to beak up but we have lots of mutual friends who will ask why? What do I tell them Do i tell them the truth?

Pick posted:

In the time of New York City's "Satan's Circus", its most notorious den of depravity, prostitutes who provided anal intercourse or blow jobs were considered niche and were ostracized by other prostitutes.

NomChompsky posted:

While there's a good argument to be made about how advertising and media affect the morality and actions of the people that consume them, I think there's an equally strong argument to be made that people seek out the media and stimulus that best fits with their own fantasies and preconditions, and that goes equally for people who are willing and able to do violence to another person. But then I feel like we get into a weird chicken-egg situation which at its basest level is like the Peter Hitchens argument that swearing too much and in public will cause society to become more callous. Is society more callous because we swear or are we swearing a lot because we were already becoming more callous?