Mirthless posted:

lol I don't really give a poo poo, you guys might not have figured it out yet but I'm deliberately walking into your stupid "traps"

I'm proud of my hair, sorry you guys hate yourselves so much.

Mirthless posted:

lol I don't really give a poo poo, you guys might not have figured it out yet but I'm deliberately walking into your stupid "traps"

Mirthless posted:

I can't do anything with it at all when it's short. It looks terrible and sticks out in random directions because of the curling, but because of how loose my curls are they don't actually form into curls until they get to my shoulder.

sassassin posted:

Everyone has to give up Batman at some point.

Mameluke posted:

I'm on your team about blanketgate but that photo does nothing for your argument. Your hair looks limp and bushy.


I had long hair myself as a teen and keep it much shorter now. It sounds like we have pretty similar follicles. Have you ever considered relaxing it or using a straightening iron?

(it's your body, though, if it makes you happy)

VanSandman posted:

One of my favorite things about SA is goons relentless ability to self-own all the drat time. I am no exception, obviously.

Mirthless posted:

lol I don't really give a poo poo, you guys might not have figured it out yet but I'm deliberately walking into your stupid "traps"

I'm proud of my hair, sorry you guys hate yourselves so much.

Ride The Gravitron posted:

Batman has been a constant source of hope and inspiration for me. Everytime I have a hard day I remember how much he accomplished despite losing his parents at such a young age

Ride The Gravitron posted:

Batman has been a constant source of hope and inspiration for me. Everytime I have a hard day I remember how much he accomplished despite losing his parents at such a young age

Mirthless posted:

this is from May of last year so it's a bit longer. It's more small of my back than down to my rear end, really. I'm also about 25 pounds lighter.

I don't use a curling iron, that's just what my hair does when it gets to that length. I can't do anything with it at all when it's short. It looks terrible and sticks out in random directions because of the curling, but because of how loose my curls are they don't actually form into curls until they get to my shoulder.

edit: btw, i work in an office environment for an oil and gas company, right down the hall from our CEO. I keep it braided at work. Has had no impact on my professional prospects whatsoever. Tear down patriarchal societal expectations of what kind of hair you're allowed to have, they're pointless and stupid and it negatively impacts everyone in some way or another.

Ride The Gravitron posted:

Batman has been a constant source of hope and inspiration for me. Everytime I have a hard day I remember how much he accomplished despite losing his parents at such a young age

mfcrocker posted:

I'll be very disappointed if he didn't shout out "THE JUICE IS LOOSE!"

Anyway that thread has sensibly been locked because she needs to lawyer the gently caress up

fyodor posted:

Ride The Gravitron posted:

Batman has been a constant source of hope and inspiration for me. Everytime I have a hard day I remember how much he accomplished despite losing his parents at such a young age

Mirthless posted:

I lost partial motor function in one eyelid after an infection a couple of years ago.

Don't get sick without health insurance, kids.

Charles Get-Out posted:

Your eyes make you look like you lust for death.

What type of products do you put in your hair?

Mirthless posted:

Mirthless posted:

I use an anti-dandruff shampoo 2-3x a month, conditioner every time I shower and a hair mask 2-3x a week. I mostly buy Shea Moisture products.

re: my eyes, yeah, I know I look kinda murderous. I've had chronic insomnia for my entire life so I can't get rid of the dark circles. That's honestly not even a bad day for me. My wife keeps trying to get me to try products to minimize them, which I should probably do, because the dark brooding look really doesn't help much in my 30s.

Themata posted:

Hello goons,

Since we are currently just busy with long haired goon chat, would anyone be bothered if I post a giant link dump?

I'd been trying to collect as many of the interesting r/relationship stories posted on this thread as possible and formatting them to BBCode, but I've realized this thread moves too fast and I'll likely never do a full up to date archive of it all unless I spend entire days on it, but wanted to share what I have anyway. I wanted to do it as a way of saying thanks for all the terrible stories everyone else harvest, and it's 370 links atm and up to page 145 (with a short amount starting from page 374 and after when I tried to also get all the recent ones), but as mentioned, you all post too fast for me to keep up! I might keep at it slowly though, but the thread will probably be closed by then anyway.

Mae posted:

People will do anything to destroy this thread apparently, wow

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My[25M] GF[23F] is going out with a guy this weekend and I'm not comfortable with it.

Throwaway account cause my GF uses Reddit. Long read ahead. Sorry for any typos I'm in my car on my phone writing this.

I love L very much. She's joyful, positive, supportive, beautiful. I could go on and on. We have been together for a little over two years and she's the best woman I could ever ask for. Last year (gonna get a lot of flack) in January I stupidly made the choice to entertain certain women on Facebook and have playful flirty conversations. Turns out that one of my female friends that I knew from high school added L on Facebook and after looking through her photos she saw some comments that I posted. They weren't bad (to me) but I was just complimenting my friend saying she was beautiful and stunning.

I know a lot of people. From high school and I used to do music. A lot of people add me on Facebook and I'm a bad looking guy so I get likes and comments on my photos. Facebook is a past time for me. I use it for fun. After my girlfriend saw the comments I made on my friends photos she was upset mostly because that same woman would flirt with me and leave suggestive comments under my photos mostly saying I'm handsome and this is her favorite pic and also leaving ❤😍 emojois.

I didn't think much of it but after my gf explained why she felt like it was inappropriate I told her sorry and I would stop. This resulted in her becoming extremely self conscious and insecure about her self feeling like she wasn't enough. That's when she began searching through my liked photo history on Facebook and like I said I don't take Facebook that seriously. But she saw dozens of photos where I left comments calling women beautiful and stunning and amazing.

She got upset because I call my gf "love" and I had said "you're welcome love❤" the same woman who would flirt with me. I'm not saying I lack self awareness but I don't think much of what I say because like I said I use Facebook when I'm bored. So after seeing that I have L my word that I wouldn't comment on any females photos anymore. One day an old friend from hs added me and all I said was "nice 👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾" under one of her pics.

My girlfriend is her friend on Facebook. I had no loving idea. So now she was upset that I lied and said I stopped commenting on photos (and to make matters worse I forgot about our 2 year anniversary 2 days before that. L was inconsolable, drove to my house with all my clothes and broke up with me. I pleaded with her to take me back and she did. L is now very insecure and even though things have gotten better (I have been doing better) I watch what I say to women now.

3 days ago L saw me compliment a female friend but it wasn't flirting. My friend posted a picture of her and her mom and I said you guys look idental. My friend said "well you know I get it from my momma!👅" and I replied "yeah well your moms hooked you up lol" my gf saw it and liked the comment last night. I told her it wasn't flirting and she said "I know you think she looks pretty I was just agreeing with you" she then said she's going to sleep and since then we have barley talked.

I told her to talk to me and if what I said upset her to just tell me but she assured me she's not mad and we're okay. Tmr she is off and we were supposed to meet up for breakfast then head to my mothers house. She cancelled and said she made other plans. I asked her what plans and she said she's going out with a friend. Asking who the friend is she says his name is Jason. We've met eachothers friend and she's never told me anything about a Jason.

I think she's trying to make me upset by canceling our plans to hang out with some guy. My gf isn't the spiteful type, but since seeing that comment it seems like she's passively aggressively trying to make me jealous or something. I'm not comfortable with her going out with this guy especially on a day where we had plans. I don't think that what I was flirting and out of line. When I tell her this all she says is okay. I've also been getting late replies since then. She seems uninterested in talking to me.

For the record. I have never cheated on L, I don't personally message any of the women who's photos I comment on and the ones who Flirt with me. L is the most beautiful, attractive, amazing woman I have been with. I know her insecurities are my fault but even though I said I wouldn't comment on photos anymore what I said wasn't bad. Any advice..thanks

Tl;dr-got caught being too friendly with women, gf became insecure, recently saw a photo I left under another woman's photo, gf saw it. She cancelled our plans to hang out tmr and is going out with a guy she's never told me about. I'm not happy about it.

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Once a guy asks me (22F) out, I am suddenly very uninterested

So I dont have a whole lot of dating experience, and my college is filled with a lot of people I'm not interested in. None of them are really my type. I like to try to hang out with guys though because my school is mostly girls anyway.

Occasionally I'll notice a guy and think he's not that bad, or in comparison to the others he seems a little more put together. Sometimes I'll notice small details and think "oh he seems alright." This has happened to me several times at school when I think a guy seems alright, but after meeting him or talking he will ask me out. Whenever a guy mentions having feelings for me I bolt. Suddenly they are so unattractive and all I see everything I don't like about them.

I wouldn't say I'm afraid of a relationship... I've dated a guy before and I have a crush on another guy right now and I'd be over the moon if he asked me out. But why do I suddenly hate all these other guys when the admit they have feelings for me?

TL;DR: Even if I found a guy interesting before, usually when a guy asks me out I suddenly notice everything I dont like about him and I'm repulsed by the idea of dating him.

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How do I (30 M) tell the woman (30 F) I'm dating about my fetish about her body?

OK so I'm dating this woman for about a month who has "weird" legs. I say weird in quotes, because she thinks they're weird. They're not deformed or anything just a shape that makes her not want to expose them (by wearing a skirt etc). I, on the other hand, have a thing about that specific shape of legs. How do I tell her this and sound sincere?

My main concern is she's going to think I'm taking pity on her while at the same time, also pointing out something she's conscious about.

TL;DR: How do I tell this girl that I genuinely like the thing she's conscious about?

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[Long] - I [33 M] am having serious problems with my girlfriend's [30 F] sexual past. Not sure I can live with it.

Throwaway because you never know.

I've been dating my girlfriend for a little more than 6 months now, and I think we are by any definition soulmates.

Given our age and how much in love we are, we're already thinking of getting married and having kids. We truly have a beautiful rapport, the one where we're completely honest to one another, speak of everything, support each other, essentially all the awesome stuff you hope to find in the relationship you think will be forever.

We're both from the same city, except I moved away a few years ago to pursue my career. We meet every weekend for now, but she's already considering moving to the same city I'm currently living in, which is a HUGE step for her, considering how well she's doing professionally back home. We also share a big part of our social circle, which is pretty large for both (smallish city where a lot of people know each other, southern Europe kind of thing).

Now, here comes the problem. She's a very strong and independent woman, completely self-made and fairly successful, despite her young age. Needless to say she's had her deal of sexual experiences, which I didn't have a problem with when we began knowing each other, until I did. I never thought that her past could be an issue, so early on I sold myself as super open and liberal (which I still believe I am) and willing to have the kind of relationship where it's not a problem if any of us is still in touch with one or multiple exes. After all we love and respect each other, it's silly to put this kind of barriers to personal freedom.

While getting to know her, I didn't really enjoy the fact that she had gone out with a bunch of older men (all in their forties), but hey I'm not the judgmental kind of guy, so I decided to live with it. My real problems begun when she told me that she had been the lover (as in she knew he had a girlfriend but "went out" with him anyway for a short while) of this dude that had already caused me trouble since he was an ex of my ex. He's now a client of hers, so they interact professionally, occasionally. I also personally know him. Bitter to swallow, but I did, with the occasional jealousy outburst when he sent her a Christmas present (again because he's a client).

She also told me of having been the lover of a married dude (with children) for a while. Again, who am I to judge, I've done my deal of things I'm not proud of, so who cares, right?

Wrong.

I've lived kind of peacefully with this knowledge until things went south when, during the past weekend, I was casually browsing my facebook and asked her "hey what happened to (dude's name)? (he seemed to have been involved in some sort of an accident). "Oh, he's the married guy I told you about". Boom! Anxiety level through the roof. I somehow managed not to explode in her face but have felt horribly since then. Turns out I know the guy very well and am devastated by the fact that, to put it judgmentally, she has been "his slut".

She felt my paranoia and is now worried I'm not the kind of "chill" guy I pretended to be. On my side of things I'm not sure anymore that I can honestly live with her past, while acknowledging that this is entirely my problem.

To clarify, I don't have the slightest doubt that she is (and will be) loyal to me, that we share the same set of core values (I've done things I'm not proud of too, she knows them and the people involved - doesn't have a problem) and that I could confidently build a future with her. I'm also sure that this is entirely my problem, which stems from the fact that I personally know most of the people she's been with. To put it bluntly, I probably hate the fact that she's been considered a slut by more than one person.(her "count" is in the mid 20s, overall). It's not just the existence of her past, it's the fact that I personally know most of these guys. Plus that she's still friends and interacts with many of them.

I would love to be the kind of person that is really chill, trusting and able to live comfortably with his so's past and present, though I'm afraid I may not be in that position. I don't know.

My question, and what I'd like to get opinions on, is whether I am the one deeply insecure or it's also her request for "extreme liberalism" to be kind of unreasonable. I'm asking this because when reading material on retroactive jealousy, having to deal with multiple exes you personally know, which are also currently in her everyday life, is an instance never mentioned. Is it healthy? Can it be done? Is it just my problem or would it bother virtually everyone? To what extent is being bothered acceptable?

tl;dr: My gf has had her deal of sexual experiences, with many people I personally know. She would like a relationship where we are not jealous of one another's present or past, and are trusting and honest with one another. I'm beginning to question my ability to deliver that kind of relationship, as I don't seem to be able to live with some things she has done in the past with people I personally know.

Gaunab posted:

Gaunab posted: