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A Wizard of Goatse posted:maybe stick around instead of instantly abandoning his partner to her fate to save his own yellow-striped rear end? just spitballing here, I mean I'm sure game theory says something about optimization in a crisis but these humans can be so illogical They say you're not supposed to do that! 
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:maybe stick around instead of instantly abandoning his partner to her fate to save his own yellow-striped rear end? just spitballing here, I mean I'm sure game theory says something about optimization in a crisis but these humans can be so illogical seriously, they are both lucky she didn't get raped and murdered, it doesn't exactly take a long time. He's her fiance. If you're not willing to get stabbed defending your partner, stay in the dating game and leave the marriage to people who are a little more selfless. honestly I bet those robbers felt really bad for her
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Jan 19, 2017 16:45
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Me [36/F] with my boyfriend [36 M] of a year...He hit me/terrorized me after I bit him and is blaming me...But am I actually the one in the wrong here?quote:I've been with James for a year. Our relationship (we are poly/non monogamous) could, at best, be described as tumultuous. So much so that we've been seeing a therapist for almost 2 months now.
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Jan 19, 2017 16:49
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Ride The Gravitron posted:Me [28M] approaching a self esteem crisis over women's constant disappointment with my average penis, seeking advice Homeboy needs to stop blaming his dick and start learning how to actually please others in bed.
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Jan 19, 2017 16:49
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:Me [36/F] with my boyfriend [36 M] of a year...He hit me/terrorized me after I bit him and is blaming me...But am I actually the one in the wrong here? should have  ed his penis
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Jan 19, 2017 16:51
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:Me [36/F] with my boyfriend [36 M] of a year...He hit me/terrorized me after I bit him and is blaming me...But am I actually the one in the wrong here? Unless she literally bit his ear off, I'm having trouble seeing how the BF could not be the horrible rear end in a top hat in this situation. I can understand losing your temper for a moment if someone unexpectedly hurts you, but turning it into an hour long, violent temper tantrum is hosed up.
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Jan 19, 2017 16:53
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:Me [36/F] with my boyfriend [36 M] of a year...He hit me/terrorized me after I bit him and is blaming me...But am I actually the one in the wrong here? jesus loving christ, he beat the poo poo out of her over a love bite in a room full of people I can't believe she's asking if she's the one in the wrong... What in the hell. He sounds borderline AF and it sounds like getting hit is a pretty normal occasion in her life.
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Jan 19, 2017 16:54
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Pvt.Scott posted:I'm glad none of you are on my jury, Christ. I agree that people are kind of piling on hard, but in the thread she says she was looking at facebook on her phone during the night so you'd think she would have either seen the text messages or noticed the time at some point. I'm not going to jump on the "she's cheating" train just yet, but she at the very least should realize that going AWOL for 3+ hours when you never do something like that is never a good thing, add in the rear end in a top hat co-worker and you can see where the husband is coming from.
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Pvt.Scott posted:I'm glad none of you are on my jury, Christ. The guy sent her husband basically the most "I just hosed your wife" text possible short of actually saying it and the best she could say was "sry that text wasn't from me". Whether she cheated or not, she cheated. That is always going to be the paradigm in her relationship. He is never going to believe her explanation because it's ridiculous and doesn't add up, whether or not it's the truth. It's the way she behaved that night. She could have fixed all of this by just calling him when she noticed the text messages and explaining the situation, but she didn't. She didn't explain anything about it until the next day, even, which leads me to believe she was spending time formulating an alibi. I know if it was me and my partner and I was gone for 3 hours unannounced she would be chaining panic attacks and I would have a lot of apologies to make and a lot of explaining to do. A one sentence long text and a peck on the cheek when I got home before going straight to bed would not have a positive outcome on my relationship. If the story she is telling was true, she would have explained herself the same night, and she would have immediately crucified her co-worker. Because she didn't, it's always going to be suspect. Communication is important. edit: but seriously though if this was me and I looked at my phone and I saw a text in my log I know I didn't send to my wife that said "don't worry baby he's in good hands  " I would be moving heaven and earth to call her and explain what the gently caress was going on immediately before my marriage came to a screeching halt. Above and beyond everything else in her story, the fact that she saw that text and didn't immediately panic, call her husband, and explain the situation is enough proof to me that she's either a liar or a bad partner.Mirthless fucked around with this message at 17:08 on Jan 19, 2017 |
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Pvt.Scott posted:doing something else enjoyable that ended up lasting longer than planned. Yes, sucking her colleagues cock while he texted her husband.
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given that timeline of events the husband is basically a saint for not flipping out on his dirtbag wife the second she came home, what the hell
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Fullhouse posted:given that timeline of events the husband is basically a saint for not flipping out on his dirtbag wife the second she came home, what the hell hahaha seriously I can't imagine reacting in any other way than pacing the goddamn house until she came home, and then having an hours-long argument over basic respect and concerns for safety, not to mention the skeevy text from Some Dude You Work With, on this, the one night you've ever come home 4 hours late from a work event.
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My (19m) gf (18f) has EXTREME ocd with food chewing and its getting out of handquote:If it's just us or with friends, she ALWAYS comments on someone chewing. She'll say theyre chewing like a cow and can't take it anymore. Her mom has told me that she has taken her mom's food and thrown it away because my gf says she's chewing too loudly.
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:My (19m) gf (18f) has EXTREME ocd with food chewing and its getting out of hand I have misophonia and I understand this completely (except the taking away food part, that's a bit much.) People chewing crunchy food can actually give me a panic attack. The guy next to me at work likes to eat Gardettos with his mouth open and I've had to leave the building before because of it. He should probably eat less food per bite, chew more softly and with his mouth closed and I'd bet you she'd have nothing to complain about. Considering all of these are basic polite behavior, I don't think it's a lot to ask. Honestly, I think she's a lot less weird than the people who get a bag of pretzels and loudly CLOMP CLOMP CLOMP CLOMP CLOMP them down in a room full of people and without being self conscious about it. edit: she definitely needs more tact, ftr, but she's 18 years old, that's something you have to learn as you get older, really. She's probably been able to get away with this for years but once she's in the working world to a serious degree I imagine she'll get over this real quick when it becomes consequential. I stopped commenting on people's chewing and started just finding an excuse to go elsewhere when I was in my early 20s. Mirthless fucked around with this message at 17:45 on Jan 19, 2017 |
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Jan 19, 2017 17:37
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Mirthless posted:People chewing crunchy food can actually give me a panic attack.
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Jan 19, 2017 17:47
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Yawgmoth posted:Sell your hair and use the proceeds to get therapy. I'm already in therapy. You can't cure Misophonia or treat it with medication. Mindfulness and CBT might help (not really confirmed) but I'm always going to have this problem (and so is she) Like most mental illnesses it comes down to figuring out how to make accommodations for yourself, because people sure as hell aren't going to make them for you. He's not going to be able to fix her so she does not feel this way, she needs to figure out alternative coping strategies. And if her partner can't chew quietly, she should probably date somebody else, not because that's rude, but because her mental health is more important than her teenager relationship and she clearly does not have the coping skills to deal with this problem right now.
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Mirthless posted:Honestly, I think she's a lot less weird than the people who get a bag of pretzels and loudly CLOMP CLOMP CLOMP CLOMP CLOMP them down in a room full of people and without being self conscious about it. Nah, she the weird one.
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TheAsterite posted:Nah, she the weird one. Yeah, I know, I really just wanted to bitch about people who loudly scarf down crunchy food with their mouths open like pigs If you're a grown adult and you're not chewing with your mouth closed, gently caress you
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Mirthless posted:Yeah, I know, I really just wanted to bitch about people who loudly scarf down crunchy food with their mouths open like pigs Buh whah if ihs ely haoatt aaahhh ahhhhh ssshhhhaaaaa
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Jan 19, 2017 18:01
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:Me [36/F] with my boyfriend [36 M] of a year...He hit me/terrorized me after I bit him and is blaming me...But am I actually the one in the wrong here?
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:Me [36/F] with my boyfriend [36 M] of a year...He hit me/terrorized me after I bit him and is blaming me...But am I actually the one in the wrong here? Ugh, this story is another  And did everyone just happen to miss polyboy punching and slapping his girlfriend when they were all in the same room or did they just decide it was better not to get involved beyond checking if she was okay? If I saw that poo poo, I would've at the very least tried to discourage OP from going with the nutto, or I would've felt like an accomplice.  WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:My (19m) gf (18f) has EXTREME ocd with food chewing and its getting out of hand Gotta side with the girl here (minus taking away food). I don't think I have misophonia, but I mostly go mad from the sound of people smacking their lips. Crunching and slurping sounds are generally fine, but urgrggh hearing wet smacking and chewing at the same time, especially if combined with breathing that sounds labored (or that sound when you exhale and phlegm is stuck in your throat), just makes me feel irrationally upset. Loudly chewing/smacking gum seems to be the worst! Mirthless posted:Honestly, I think she's a lot less weird than the people who get a bag of pretzels and loudly CLOMP CLOMP CLOMP CLOMP CLOMP them down in a room full of people and without being self conscious about it. I knew someone who did this, but with everything. Even foods that shouldn't result in smacking sounds, like popcorn! Earplugs helped.
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Jan 19, 2017 18:04
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:My (19m) gf (18f) has EXTREME ocd with food chewing and its getting out of hand Dude, you gotta let her go so you can eat as much food as you can stand until your metabolism fails you. Then you date the food controling spouse and smugly act like your just really healthy on your own. Best part is it may be the same girl since nobody else should be putting up with this. Its just a break, really.
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Mirthless posted:Yeah, I know, I really just wanted to bitch about people who loudly scarf down crunchy food with their mouths open like pigs On the other hand people that get openly upset about loud chewing and act like babies about it suck, too. When I was 12 I was chewing with my mouth open and my step mom started imitating me by chewing with her mouth open, but really over the top and with her eyes crossed and smacking her lips a bunch, so I told her to go gently caress herself (then I got grounded) In hindsight I was definitely acting like a little poo poo, but whatever I was 12 and I chew with my mouth closed, now.
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datajugend posted:Buh whah if ihs ely haoatt aaahhh ahhhhh ssshhhhaaaaa hey man a couple of bites when it's super hot is one thing, but if you're going back in for extra bites after you scorched all the tastebuds off your tongue I feel like I have the right to judge you. LethalGeek posted:Either he has the most sensitive dick in the world or she just triggered some super repressed memory? I have no idea but either way lady loving run. Seriously, he beat her, in public. Run far the gently caress away from that situation, and run fast. Everything about the story before that made me uneasy, and everything about the story after that made me full on terrified for this lady, the guy basically had a complete psychotic break over a love bite. I'd be really worried about how much further this could escalate. The erratic driving, the incredibly fast jump to pretty extreme violence, holding her against her will, etc... This guy will end up murdering her eventually. The fact that she's questioning who was really at fault, too, and the way she says other things in her post... This guy likes to gaslight her, a lot, and she buys into it. Everything is her fault. When people don't like them it's her fault. When she gets hit, it's her fault. When she says he was acting irrational, no he wasn't, and it was her fault. Etc. There's layers upon layers of abuse here, I really hope she gets out.
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Pick posted:punchability level... extreme... Everything about this from computer science to a game shop to a nerdlinger offending the poo poo out of a woman because she was attractive and it made him so mad is just, it's perfect. I want to frame this story and hit people with it.
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Ride The Gravitron posted:Me [28M] approaching a self esteem crisis over women's constant disappointment with my average penis, seeking advice 
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Themata posted:Gotta side with the girl here (minus taking away food). I don't think I have misophonia, but I mostly go mad from the sound of people smacking their lips. Crunching and slurping sounds are generally fine, but urgrggh hearing wet smacking and chewing at the same time, especially if combined with breathing that sounds labored (or that sound when you exhale and phlegm is stuck in your throat), just makes me feel irrationally upset. Loudly chewing/smacking gum seems to be the worst! Could still be misophonia - it's a relatively "new" condition (in that it's being diagnosed and looked at) and pretty broadly defined. quote:Some small studies show that people with misophonia generally have strong negative feelings, thoughts, and physical reactions to specific sounds, which the literature calls "trigger sounds." These sounds are apparently usually soft, but can be loud. One study found that around 80% of the sounds were related to the mouth (eating, yawning, etc.), and around 60% were repetitive. A visual trigger may develop related to the trigger sound.[1][3] It also appears that a misophonic reaction can occur in the absence of an actual sound.[1]
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Ride The Gravitron posted:Me [28M] approaching a self esteem crisis over women's constant disappointment with my average penis, seeking advice I'm starting to think that there's got to be some kind of sample bias going on in these stories that the writer doesn't realize. Like how guys who flaunt their wealth get mad because "women are only interested in money", instead of realizing that their approach is going to net women who are only interested in money. Or yes, women who shove their tits into a guy's face and bounce on his lap being mad that they got a guy who only cares about sex.
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General work drama and male long hair chat reminded of the time my boss came up behind me randomly and started playing with my long hair and commenting on it. I was sitting there going oh boy if this was reversed I'd be in HR SO FAST! Didnt bother me one bit but it's funny to me how easily that could have turned into a post that could have shown up here.
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:My (19m) gf (18f) has EXTREME ocd with food chewing and its getting out of hand I also have misophonia and it is just the worst, most absurd thing, especially when you don't realise you have it and it manifests as uncontrollable fury every time you hear someone chewing... Unfortunately it's one of those things that's completely your damage, unreasonable to force other people to accommodate AND it doesn't respond well to treatment so if you've got it you have to learn coping strategies asap (and don't date noisy eaters or people who eat with their mouth open fuuuuck.) Girl should do some reading and learn some coping strats before she fucks up all her relationships by flipping her poo poo every time someone eats a crisp. Also learn to never, ever tell anyone about it because then they think it's funny to chew in your ear and get butthurt when you lose your mind.
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sassassin posted:You don't have to be drunk to have fun and lose track of time with friends/co-workers. even in this best case scenario it's intensely disrespectful of your partner to say "be home around 8!" and then go no contact for hours. they are guaranteed to worry about your safety, which could be easily dealt with by simple communication. "losing track of time" = "it doesn't occur to me that my partner is wondering if they should call the police"
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Werong Bustope posted:Also learn to never, ever tell anyone about it because then they think it's funny to chew in your ear and get butthurt when you lose your mind.
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Werong Bustope posted:I also have misophonia and it is just the worst, most absurd thing, especially when you don't realise you have it and it manifests as uncontrollable fury every time you hear someone chewing... I had somebody do this with a mosquito tone in a training class at one of my previous workplaces, on purpose, for two weeks. I nearly got fired when I eventually had my full meltdown. I was two months into the job and I full on had a screaming fit in the middle of a packed training class, over a sound that only two other people in the room besides me could even hear. I had to show people wikipedia articles because they wouldn't believe that I was hearing this (they couldn't, high frequency tone) or that it could affect me that negatively. I can't hear the drat things anymore (too old) but when I could they would make me physically ill. I lucked out and had management come down on my side in this (intentional harassment in the workplace of a mentally ill employee is not a headline you want in the news when you're a multinational corporation) but that could have been way worse in another office. People are dicks.
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boner confessor posted:even in this best case scenario it's intensely disrespectful of your partner to say "be home around 8!" and then go no contact for hours. they are guaranteed to worry about your safety, which could be easily dealt with by simple communication. "losing track of time" = "it doesn't occur to me that my partner is wondering if they should call the police" yeah, the most generous reading is that the story happened as told, and she for some reason decided not to let her husband know at any time that the event was running late. She also managed to miss 4 texts over 2 hours, and also let a drunk co worker text back. Her response was than to simply text her husband and wait till the next day to address it. in the most generous reading, she is a completely inconsiderate rear end and behaved like she was cheating.
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It's hard to read text messages from your husband when you're enthusiastically riding your hot co-worker's dick, to be fair. I can buy he sent the text without her knowing he was about to blow the affair, at least!
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Tiny Deer posted:It's hard to read text messages from your husband when you're enthusiastically riding your hot co-worker's dick, to be fair. I can buy he sent the text without her knowing he was about to blow the affair, at least! oh, she cheated, just with a moron who thought this was funny, also she probably lied and said she was not married or something so the guy thought it was a jilted lover or something.
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Tiny Deer posted:It's hard to read text messages from your husband when you're enthusiastically riding your hot co-worker's dick, to be fair. I can buy he sent the text without her knowing he was about to blow the affair, at least! Maybe she told him they had an open relationship and he was into it and the guy was just trying to add to her husband's fantasy?  I know I keep saying it, but seriously, that really was the most "I just hosed your wife" text he could have possibly sent.
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Tiny Deer posted:It's hard to read text messages from your husband when you're enthusiastically riding your hot co-worker's dick, to be fair. I can buy he sent the text without her knowing he was about to blow the affair, at least! What amazes me is that the cheating stories are 99% someone cheating in a way so obvious and stupid it's practically offensive. Cheating is wrong, and everyone should dump a cheater, but for god's sakes have some loving pride in your work, you know?
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Pick posted:What amazes me is that the cheating stories are 99% someone cheating in a way so obvious and stupid it's practically offensive. Cheating is wrong, and everyone should dump a cheater, but for god's sakes have some loving pride in your work, you know? hahaha seriously like that lady on the last page who admitted to her boyfriend she was going to lie to him constantly but "oh no i'll totally be faithful bb "christ, people, put a little effort in, really! If you're going to horribly betray somebody who loves you the least you could do is not look like you're half-assing it.
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