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Gaunab posted:Here's another story that might bring back bad high school memories Everyone should just remind her that a lot of the people she knows right now in high school (especially the lovely ones) stop mattering altogether a few years from now. I've kept close with a very, very tiny handful of people I knew in high school and the rest are just acquaintances that I barely see off Facebook. Unless you're a total rear end in a top hat, everyone gains a lot more friends out of high school and typically goes through some pretty serious changes until none of you are the same people again. This rear end in a top hat, especially, is going to be nothing but a "crazy ex-boyfriend" story in two or three years.
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ahhhhh yeah, its just one of those craaaazy ex-my-entire-terrible-family stories a few years down the line if you think about it
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DragQueenofAngmar posted:ahhhhh yeah, its just one of those craaaazy ex-my-entire-terrible-family stories a few years down the line if you think about it I could definitely see this story again in 6 years turning into "I called 911 after he beat me until I couldn't see anymore, now my family is disowning me because the police won't let me drop the charges" if they'd stayed together Mirthless fucked around with this message at 00:30 on Jan 27, 2017 |
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Jan 27, 2017 00:27
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haha small towns
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When I was a kid in SE Michigan there was an incident in an adjacent township where a couple of kids from the high school football team went out on a bender and managed to totally loving paralyze a dude, deliberately. (they threw him from a truck or something, I don't remember, it wasn't an "accident" accident but a vehicle was involved) It caused a huge amount of controversy, you see, because the perpetrators were looking at scholarships and instrumental to the success of the team, and said perpetrators had made the mistake of paralyzing somebody just over the county line, so their small town hick cops couldn't save them. I wish I could find the drat story, but I remember some weepy moms from Milford or South Lyon or whatever moaning about how unfair it was to ruin the lives of these two upstanding young men over a moment of childhood indiscretion~ neck down btw permanent brain damage as well if I remember correctly
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The only small town story I got is a dude broke into the high school after graduating to steal the football team playbook, as if he was gonna sell it to a rival team in an alternate universe where high school football is important, let alone in MA and not Texas. He got cold feet and was caught sneaking into the school to put it back. He got no charges but was sentenced to googling his name forever proving that he embarrassingly cared about high school football after leaving high school. He posts white supremacist stuff on facebook now so I guess he landed okay.
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America, sports, and humans in general suck loving hard tbh
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I remember some football players got the book thrown at them for trying to rob a guy at gun point not far from the school. They were black though.
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Why the hell did he throw the coffee? That's downright psychotic
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Jan 27, 2017 00:50
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Because he's an rear end in a top hat who has probably done whatever the hell he wanted his whole life with no consequences. Why not throw hot coffee on some poor homeless dude? He would have gotten away with it if his friend didn't have a conscience.
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Not sure if y'all will find this interesting but I do. I'm with her - they've got some real issues but this arrangement sounds exhausting. My [26M] girlfriend [25F] wants to move, thinking it will solve all of the issues we're currently having. quote:My girlfriend (25f) and I (26m) have been together a little over 3 years. When we met I was living with my parents, and about a year into our relationship we moved out into an apartment together.
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living with someone else parents must be exhausting but it really doesnt sound like the parents did anything at all wrong and she sounds like shes got some major issues
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I think I would pretty much go nuts when, after six months of living in a place where I can't even comfortably use the kitchen, I'm told that I should cool it on the netflix. Granted I'd also be able to like, not care so much what the parents think, but walking on eggshells in your own home would suck really hard. I don't think the parents have to do anything wrong for that to be extremely uncomfortable.
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Tolkien minority posted:living with someone else parents must be exhausting but it really doesnt sound like the parents did anything at all wrong and she sounds like shes got some major issues I lived with my wife's parents for a couple of years at one point and it was loving terrible she's right, they need to get the gently caress out of that house. Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I think I would pretty much go nuts when, after six months of living in a place where I can't even comfortably use the kitchen, I'm told that I should cool it on the netflix. Granted I'd also be able to like, not care so much what the parents think, but walking on eggshells in your own home would suck really hard. I don't think the parents have to do anything wrong for that to be extremely uncomfortable. i couldn't make a loving grilled cheese sandwich without her dad telling me to turn the heat down and her mom coming in to be passive aggressive about the "mess" i was making after a while no matter what way you behave you're going to get on the nerves of the people who own the house. parents don't have a lot of patience with their adult children, they have a lot less patience for the people they didn't crap out.
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I think I would pretty much go nuts when, after six months of living in a place where I can't even comfortably use the kitchen, I'm told that I should cool it on the netflix. Granted I'd also be able to like, not care so much what the parents think, but walking on eggshells in your own home would suck really hard. I don't think the parents have to do anything wrong for that to be extremely uncomfortable. I don't disagree but the girl is crying for 45 minutes straight because he airbnb isnt just how she pictured it. like i'm gonna give the parents a lil bit of slack here
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:I think I would pretty much go nuts when, after six months of living in a place where I can't even comfortably use the kitchen, I'm told that I should cool it on the netflix. Granted I'd also be able to like, not care so much what the parents think, but walking on eggshells in your own home would suck really hard. I don't think the parents have to do anything wrong for that to be extremely uncomfortable. The kitchen thing is all on her though, it doesn't sound like they care at all and are even asking her to do something. She definitely sounds like she has some issues that need to be dealt with over and above the living situation. When I am visiting a friend, I feel weird just going into their cupboards etc, but they have been living there for 2 years. At some point you learn to adjust and it becomes your place as well at least when it comes to things like making cooking and other day to day needs.
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GB_Sign posted:The kitchen thing is all on her though, it doesn't sound like they care at all and are even asking her to do something. She definitely sounds like she has some issues that need to be dealt with over and above the living situation. The kitchen thing isn't all on her, she feels like a guest in their home instead of it being her home and that really changes the dynamic and comfort level.
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ArbitraryC posted:The kitchen thing isn't all on her, she feels like a guest in their home instead of it being her home and that really changes the dynamic and comfort level. Not enough of a guest to do her own drat dishes though? This guy has the perfect opening to  so he might as well take it.I mean just look Tolkien minority posted:I don't disagree but the girl is crying for 45 minutes straight because he airbnb isnt just how she pictured it. like i'm gonna give the parents a lil bit of slack here 
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They're letting them live there rent-free. I think maybe the woman who weeps at an Air BnB and gets passive aggressive about Netflix while refusing to do the one chore she was asked to do may be in the wrong here.
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Tiny Deer posted:They're letting them live there rent-free. I think maybe the woman who weeps at an Air BnB and gets passive aggressive about Netflix while refusing to do the one chore she was asked to do may be in the wrong here. No doubt is her behavior strange and neurotic but it seems likely to me that it is a consequence of walking on eggshells for a year in what's supposed to be her home. That poo poo ain't free. I suspect that she is right that a lot of her issues would go away if she had a place that felt like home to go back to each day. (They should also set up QoS on their router so she can at least take the refuge of netflix when he's having family videogame day but I guess I'm asking for the moon there.)
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While living with your parents sounds like literal poison to any relationship, dude's girlfriend seems like a melodramatic lazy idiot. What kind of person has a meltdown when their Airbnb isn't the bestest ever or refuses to do the dishes? He should just before they move out because it's not going to magically improve with her once they do.
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:No doubt is her behavior strange and neurotic but it seems likely to me that it is a consequence of walking on eggshells for a year in what's supposed to be her home. That poo poo ain't free. I suspect that she is right that a lot of her issues would go away if she had a place that felt like home to go back to each day. (They should also set up QoS on their router so she can at least take the refuge of netflix when he's having family videogame day but I guess I'm asking for the moon there.) I agree, I think they might have issues but living with his parents is going to exacerbate all of them and probably cause new ones. Even the AirBnB one might be a function of her hoping they'd get their own place for like one night instead of being on some strange couple's couch.
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She definitely sounds like a bit of a pill but I also lived with my in laws for about seven months and it truly is horrible. One time my MIL started a conversation on a very controversial topic that we didn't agree on. I, very politely, told her that maybe we could just agree to disagree, and firmly said I really didn't want to have that conversation because it was stressful. Nope, she had to follow me around the house and antagonize me until I left for work shortly after.
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Cough Drop The Beat posted:While living with your parents sounds like literal poison to any relationship, dude's girlfriend seems like a melodramatic lazy idiot. What kind of person has a meltdown when their Airbnb isn't the bestest ever or refuses to do the dishes? He should just Living with your partner's parents is exactly enough of a hell to cause somebody to have a total meltdown over their AirBNB turning out to be a bait and switch. "Finally, a space I am paying for, I will be able to control it" - whoops! Surprise! You don't control poo poo about your own life! ArbitraryC posted:The kitchen thing isn't all on her, she feels like a guest in their home instead of it being her home and that really changes the dynamic and comfort level. They probably do little things to remind her she's a guest all the time, too. I lived with my in-laws for two years, bought all their groceries and paid rent and I still never felt like it was my home. She's being a little unreasonable maybe but I suspect the poster is turning a blind eye to passive aggressive poo poo his parents are doing to his girlfriend because it's a lot easier to live with them than it is to pay rent on his own place. They need to grow up and loving move out. He can't live with mommy and daddy forever. He's a god drat 26 year old man (who has lived exactly one year apart from them in his entire life) and he's complaining that his girlfriend's netflix habit interrupts videogame time with pop-pop. gently caress this guy!
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guys, its totally possible that living with your inlaws sucks major donkey nuts and this girls brain is broked. they;re not mutually exclusive propositions
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:No doubt is her behavior strange and neurotic but it seems likely to me that it is a consequence of walking on eggshells for a year in what's supposed to be her home. That poo poo ain't free. I suspect that she is right that a lot of her issues would go away if she had a place that felt like home to go back to each day. (They should also set up QoS on their router so she can at least take the refuge of netflix when he's having family videogame day but I guess I'm asking for the moon there.) btw, having been in a similar situation to this in most respects (but myself being the outsider in the story) she's absolutely right in that getting the gently caress out of the house is probably going to fix all (or most) of their problems. She clearly had her poo poo together enough to survive as an independent person from age 17 on, so clearly she can function outside of her boyfriend's parents house. They've been living there for at least a year. I will guarantee you that if she had any energy at the start of this to contribute to that household it is long loving gone and the stress of living someplace you are not welcome with a partner who is too clueless to figure it out compounds until it becomes a ball of neuroses you can't untangle without multiple emotional meltdowns. You do not understand how awful it is to be a "permanent houseguest" until you do it. He is a god drat grown man and he lives with his parents and lets them pay his bills and refuses to move out when they clearly don't like his girlfriend and she clearly knows it. If she's acting crazy now, it's because of him. edit: seriously though, you're 26 years old and you're annoyed at your girlfriend for interrupting playtime with daddy????? this poo poo wouldn't drive anyone else crazy? Read this loving quote. HE IS 26 HUMAN YEARS OLD. quote:Since moving in with my parents, there have been some issues. My girlfriend has been living out of home since she was about 17, so she’s definitely not used to living with parents (even if they’re not hers). Its gotten to the point where my parents have sat me down and expressed their concerns regarding her behaviour. They haven’t come out and said ‘we don’t want you to be with her anymore’ (and they would never do that anyway), but I can see how much stress this is causing them. OF COURSE SHE'S NOT USED TO LIVING WITH PARENTS, SHE'S 25 YEARS OLD YOU loving MANCHILD Mirthless fucked around with this message at 03:17 on Jan 27, 2017 |
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Tolkien minority posted:guys, its totally possible that living with your inlaws sucks major donkey nuts and this girls brain is broked. they;re not mutually exclusive propositions I think this is likely. She sounds like there's a few red flags, but living with anyone's parents is annoying. When visiting and staying with family anything more than a week starts pissing me off.
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Pick posted:Unlike Obama, who could totally out-bone that man in a flat second She should break with him, then show up later with an Obama lifesize stand-up like 
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Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:Not sure if y'all will find this interesting but I do. I'm with her - they've got some real issues but this arrangement sounds exhausting. I'll take List of Bipolar Disorder Traits for $2000 thanks.
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Ah, if living with parents is as hellish as you guys say I can see that pushing her to her limit. They definitely should move out, at least, because otherwise she's going to burn the house down if she keeps being driven more and more insane--sort of a Wide Sargasso Sea scenario.
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TheScott2K posted:Hold her purse for her once in a while if she needs you to for God's sake. It's not like some leprechaun is going to suddenly appear and call you a human being before punching you in the balls. I swear, some guys are such bitches about their masculinity. I had a good laugh at this. Thank you!
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Pick posted:I agree, I think they might have issues but living with his parents is going to exacerbate all of them and probably cause new ones. Imagine fantasizing about a trip and getting able to relax alone with your SO and then the place you booked is a craphole. It wasn't crying over the AirBnB. It was crying about the whole hosed living situation. Also, if she can only use the internet if no one else can it IS kinda a case of they can use it but she can't.
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sure living with the boyfriend's parents is a lovely dead-end living situation and kinda suggests he's no winner either but on the other hand if you bring up that someone's being an rear end in a top hat to their hosts(/anyone you care about) and they come back with this, you break up with them. You break up with them on the spot, and you never look back.quote:‘I’m an emotional person, its how I react to stuff and I’m not going to change.’
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Dienes posted:Imagine fantasizing about a trip and getting able to relax alone with your SO and then the place you booked is a craphole. It wasn't crying over the AirBnB. It was crying about the whole hosed living situation. and the fact that the rear end in a top hat who is making her live in this situation is too stupid to understand it's not the AirBNB she's upset about A Wizard of Goatse posted:sure living with the boyfriend's parents is a lovely dead-end living situation and kinda suggests he's no winner either but on the other hand if you bring up that someone's being an rear end in a top hat to their hosts(/anyone you care about) and they come back with this, you break up with them. You break up with them on the spot, and you never look back. 1. this is the whole problem 2. the things she's doing aren't that unreasonable and she is allowed to have emotions and feelings about things, and her being a permanent guest in their home does not make her feelings and emotions invalid You can't live someplace comfortably for very long dancing around being a "guest" in "somebody else's home". She's been there more than a year. She was probably polite at first.
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Pick posted:if u can't handle me at my worst u dont deserve me at my best (p.s. i'm literally always at my worst and always will be)
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:(p.s. i'm literally always at my worst and always will be) noooo the worst is right after you break up with them
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yeah guys, the crazy person with all the red flags is totally the girlfriend, he should leave her, he's totally a catchquote:I do love her and I want to make this work, but I'm so tired of having to constantly play counsellor in addition to boyfriend. I'm going skiing in Japan for a week with my dad, leaving tomorrow, and throughout this week she's been making comments about how awful next week is going to be when its just her and my mother.  "You need to be a better domestic servant to my parents before I'm going to move out of mommy and daddy's house" is a pretty insane ultimatum, honestly, loving unhinged in my book Just reading this dude's posts I still can't believe he's 26. The way he talks about his parents borders on the reverential. They're his best friends and his respected peers. That's loving weird, dude. You shouldn't be so attached to your parents that you look for excuses to not move out of their house. Mirthless fucked around with this message at 05:48 on Jan 27, 2017 |
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quote:My [19F] date [20sM] made me pay for him.Dating lol
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