Snatch Duster posted:

Uh lmao

Got any research that isn't based on 1700s france and the primary authority being cited isn't a psychological professor? Maybe gynecologist

Pick posted:

thank god your wife is the doctor

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[Pets] I [24F] don't like our dog. Husband [25M] says I need to stop focusing so much on it.

We've been married a year together for three. A year ago we rescued a beautiful Boxer dog. She's very sweet, very obedient, and an all around very good dog. I know she's a good dog and I wouldn't ever get rid of her because my husband adores her. I know we got lucky. But I still don't like her.

She stares at me all the time when I'm in the room with her. If I go upstairs for three seconds and turn around to come back down she's in my way. She'll stop to look back at me when we're walking making me run into her. If we're walking toward each other (usually because she followed me after I disappeared from her sight for ten seconds) she'll dart which ever direction is narrowest so I always run into her. I can't handle is being constantly monitored and followed. It has me on edge every time I move. I'm a cat person. The cats follow me sometimes. But it's usually after I've been gone a while or they act like the room I'm in happens to be the room they were interested in.

I suspect her nervousness is increased by how frustrated I get when she's in my way. If I tell at her forcefully several times she'll stay put, but I absolutely hate having to be so commanding all the time when I just want to relax.

My husband is tired of hearing this from me. From his point of view she's a good dog and I'm stressing her out by getting annoyed. He says I'm overreacting and I need to not let it bother me. He's much more of a dog person so he doesn't mind her. But she also doesn't follow him, stare at him, or trip him.

I don't know what to do here. I know she's mostly good but I hate it. And my husband seems to be siding with the dog. Am I way off base? Can I do anything?

Tl:Dr dog follows me everywhere but is otherwise good. Husband says I need to get over it. I'm tired of being monitored by a dog.

Gaunab posted:

Tolkien minority posted:

further proof that cat people suck

Snatch Duster posted:

You suck cats own

Tolkien minority posted:

further proof that cat people suck

Snatch Duster posted:

I recently been put in charge of EPA.

Tiny Deer posted:

Need some advice with husband's breach of trust


tl;dr "Wait, I was the only one who was supposed to have sex outside of our marriage, not you! How dare you betray me, you cheater!"

ArbitraryC posted:

Lol you think the 3 months she spent browbeating him into being okay with her taking a vacation with her fuckbuddy she could have also spent readying herself for him to do the same. They both boned their sidepieces literally on the same timeline, and the only reason she's spent a month upset about it is because she's a big ol hypocrite. If she had any empathy for her husbands position during their "communication" she would have been prepared for him to find someone too.

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My friend posted an instagram video featuring her brushing my teeth, it was captioned "My best guy friend @[Instagram handle], lol he finally let me brush his teeth for him. Were so quirky."

I don't use any of my social media accounts all that often (more of a reddit kind of guy), but my girlfriend does and apparently she got very upset upon seeing the video.

For background my friend wanted to act out some scene she saw in a japanese anime that she likes. I couldn't tell you why, but like she says, she is quirky.
My girlfriend took offense to this, and asked why I was "letting some other girl into my mouth". I told her that I respected her feelings, but had no idea what she was talking about and that there was nothing inherently sexual about brushing your teeth.

She said that I'm a guy (wtf?) and I wouldn't understand, but that what my friend did was an act of dominance over her and that she posted in a public place to establish it. I couldn't believe I was hearing her say such nonsense because she hasn't displayed any paranoia or jealousy in the four years that we've been dating. This was extremely out of character for her.

Should I interpret this as a red flag/ sign of paranoia and jealousy? If so, how do I communicate to her that insecurity is unattractive to me?

tl;dr: Girlfriend is upset because a friend and I were joking around and I let her brush my teeth to live out some fantasy of hers.

PS: Before you ask, yes I brush my teeth, floss, and wash my mouth twice a day so she wasn't doing it to highlight my poor dental hygiene or anything like that.

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OP, the scene she is referencing is a HIGHLY sexual scene of a brother brushing his sister's teeth, becoming sexually attracted to, and beginning to grope her breasts when their mom walks in.
Want to tell us again how this is all innocent and platonic?

A big flaming stink posted:

I watch way too much anime and I have no idea what the hell the post is referring to so its probably true the guy is completely ignorant of the implications.

That said both the guy is dumb for just dismissing his GF being mad and the GF is dumb for not just outright explaining why imitating that scene is fraught with implications.

talk to each other you fuckin morons

Pick posted:

A serious one but an interesting one, just complicated feelings and an odd situation:

Pick posted:

the POINT is that a lot of the stats we use are from completely ridiculous populations with no real modern application

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First of all. thanks for reading. I love my wife dearly and she is a kind, sweet, person, so just posting this makes me feel awful. We've been married for about 2 years (dated for 3ish before that), and I'm finding myself becoming disappointed with my marriage. I don't look forward to spending time with my wife much anymore. Part of that is a lack of common interests (I really like to ski and play sports, she will come with me but is not interested in improving and would not do these activities of her own volition). She doesn't really have any hobbies other than watching Bravo and Facebooking. Further, she can't keep up intellectually, so I end up spending a lot of time chatting with my brother and other friends because the convos are more engaging, humorous, and enjoyable.
The above being said, she is a great wife. Very supportive, pleasant to be around, etc. Sex life is pretty good. Unfortunately, I'm starting to see her more as a "sidekick" than a life partner. I'm definitely feeling like I'm more my truest self when I'm around my brother and co-workers than with her. I married her in part because I thought she'd make a great mother (she's phenomenal with kids), but as I get more involved with my career I'm not sure I even want kids anytime soon, if at all. On another positive note, I love my in-laws and my wife loves my parents.
I'm starting to fantasize more and more about being alone again (I'm pretty introverted, so this isn't hard). She could tell something was wrong the other day, and I made the mistake of telling her that I sometimes doubted that we were right for each other. Needless to say, she was absolutely devastated. I agreed to go to counseling with her, and we are seeing the counselor in a couple days.
It's worth noting that I suffer from anxiety (not bad) and have a somewhat depressive personality. I've never been a particularly content person and am always looking forward to the next thing (project, job, etc.). This has served me well in my career, but I'm worried that it's messing up my marriage a little bit.
Long story short, I'm pretty bored in my relationship and I find myself regretting not marrying someone more ambitious and intellectually compatible. What do I do next? What do I tell the counselor?
TLDR -- married a sweet, pleasant life companion but am getting very bored. She knows I'm unhappy and we're seeing a counselor next week. How should I approach the counselor visit and life with my wife thereafter?

Pick posted:

Holy poo poo come back to this and lmao

I'd immediately change my name.

Pvt.Scott posted:

I've see a .gif of the tooth brushing, and while goofy and hilarious, the sexual implications are obvious even without any overt molesty poo poo, which as I am now informed, also takes place.

E: haha poo poo, abandon all hope ye who click That was goofy as poo poo

Gaunab posted:

Pick posted:

you're on a fuckin roll in this thread, you know that?

Pick posted:

if anyone said "wibble" to me in bed i'd immediately put my pants on and check their ID

reagan posted:

i can sympathize because my sister has some dumb loving boxer that does the same poo poo and slobbers all over. gently caress off dog, poo poo.

Waterbed Wendy posted:

you shut your goddam republican mouth, reagan. dogs just want to love you and hang out with you and if you resent that than you are literal trash and bad.

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I (22F) keep cockblocking myself in wet dreams, in a monogamous relationship of 1 year

Hey so this is less looking for advice and more if anyone else experienced something like this.

So I'm generally not the biggest fan of 100% monogamous relationship (ideally I like to have a hall pass or threesome once or twice a year). About a year ago I got into a serious relationship with my current BF. Straight out the gate I told him I prefer open relationship, and after thinking it over he told me he wouldn't be comfortable with it. I realized that he really is that special and being with him is worth more than a sprinkle of one night stands here and there.

Now here's the issue whenever I have a wet dream, my dream self ends up stoping anything from happening. It's been happening a few months now. In my dream I'll be doing some crazy dream adventure with a hot dream stranger, things are about to get steamy and then I say "oh I have a boyfriend". When I woke up I told this to my bf and he ended up laughing. I don't feel guilty about being attracted to someone beside my bf, so I don't think it's guilt fueled reaction. I just think it's strange it keeps happening. So people of Reddit does this happen to you, any advice of conquering your dreams nightmares on elm street style, thought, opinions?

TL:DR am in a monogamous relationship of 1 yr. When ever I have a wet dream my dream self says "oh I can't I have a boyfriend"

Pvt.Scott posted:

I've see a .gif of the tooth brushing, and while goofy and hilarious, the sexual implications are obvious even without any overt molesty poo poo, which as I am now informed, also takes place.

E: haha poo poo, abandon all hope ye who click That was goofy as poo poo

Pvt.Scott posted:

I've see a .gif of the tooth brushing, and while goofy and hilarious, the sexual implications are obvious even without any overt molesty poo poo, which as I am now informed, also takes place.

E: haha poo poo, abandon all hope ye who click That was goofy as poo poo

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

Tangential to this can anyone explain to me why british and australian colloquial english have to use so many babytalk sounding words, it's v creepy tbh

Pvt.Scott posted:

Oh cool! Can you make it legal for me to dump your posts in the national park near here?

Antivehicular posted:

Me [28 M] with my wife [26 F] of two years -- did I marry the wrong person or is this just general quarter-life crisis stuff?Relationships
submitted 7 hours ago by Shasarazade


For the love of God, people, don't marry people you think are dumb! This woman is going to have her life ruined because you decided to marry someone you thought of as a broodmare rather than an equal.

ArbitraryC posted:

I don't think "they would make a good parent" really is quite the same as calling someone a broodmare.

Antivehicular posted:

He outright says that his wife has less value in his eyes now that he doesn't think he wants children.