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People need to close the gap between checking out and breaking up.
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My (23/M) girlfriend's (23/F) kpop obsession is out of control.quote:I'm worried that her obsession is getting out of hand. In a way it's cute, and I'm glad she has something that makes her so happy, but on the other hand, it has reached an extreme. It's all she ever talks about. Her reference point for everything. I really don't think fandom culture is all that bad, but with her, it's like her life revolves around when her favourite group releases an album or debating with people online about whether so and so has had work done. What in the gently caress?
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Feb 1, 2017 17:49
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If that vegan guy can't make something work with "carrots, celery, hummus, beetroot dip, avocado dip, chips" for a morning snack he isn't a very good vegan. Those are some really good veggies.
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Feb 1, 2017 17:51
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Subjunctive posted:I broke up with that person, got back together, and was then married for 15 years (one kid).
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Feb 1, 2017 17:52
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One of my (small, massachusetts) high school classmates is a high profile k-pop star now. It's funny because he has legions of fans and yet I have inside poo poo - a picture of us together on the high school math team.
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Feb 1, 2017 17:53
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quote:I once said he looks like meerkat and she glared at me so fiercely Worth it? Worth it.
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Feb 1, 2017 17:53
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Charles Get-Out posted:If that vegan guy can't make something work with "carrots, celery, hummus, beetroot dip, avocado dip, chips" for a morning snack he isn't a very good vegan. Those are some really good veggies. he only eats pickles, black olives, and sand
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Feb 1, 2017 17:53
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Yawgmoth posted:You are literally the only person I have ever heard of doing this and being successful. I have other friends you should meet!
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WampaLord posted:My (23/M) girlfriend's (23/F) kpop obsession is out of control. Kpop obsessives are kind of weird, this is A Thing. To wit, one of my friends is a really good artist & kpop fan and his Tumblr is full of his drawings of kpop and anime dudes bawling.
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Feb 1, 2017 17:55
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Yawgmoth posted:You are literally the only person I have ever heard of doing this and being successful. Everyone else breaks up, gets back together, then goes "oh right, that's why we broke up!" and breaks up again. One of my friends is in the process of doing this for the 4th time with the same girl because he's terrified of being alone and she's a loving sociopath. This can happen as well. I think it depends on the kind of reflecting a person does when they're broken up. "I kept getting huffy about the contents in the fridge but not communicating; we fought so often about things that don't matter. I need to get perspective." <-- has a chance "I am super super lonely and scared." <-- hrmmm
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Feb 1, 2017 17:58
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Yea don't date anyone who has a creepy cult-level obsession with someone. Whether that's a K-Pop fan or Jennifer Lawrence stalker, not a healthy person
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Feb 1, 2017 17:59
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Psycho Society posted:Yea don't date anyone who has a creepy cult-level obsession with someone. Whether that's a K-Pop fan or Jennifer Lawrence stalker, not a healthy person You will have to take my JLaw waifu body pillow from my cold dead hands. Diabetes does a real number on the blood flow to your extremities.
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Feb 1, 2017 18:05
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My ex-boyfriend [28 M] got his second DUI and totaled another car. I [24 F] am going to bail him out of jail later today and I don't know how to handle this without freaking out on him.quote:No throwaway, because screw it. It's my life and I'm going to have to deal with this reality one way or another. quote:I have to bail him out because my cat still lives with him, and he has the only keys to the house. I already asked the jail staff if I could get his house keys and the answer was no. The house is also alarmed, otherwise I would just smash the window to get the cat out.
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Feb 1, 2017 18:05
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Bubblyblubber posted:You will have to take my JLaw waifu body pillow from my cold dead hands. Not an emptyquote
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Feb 1, 2017 18:06
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WampaLord posted:My (23/M) girlfriend's (23/F) kpop obsession is out of control. quote:She will openly say things like, "He's so hot, I'd let him punch me in the face," and "I want him to ruin me emotionally," and most recently, "I want Yuta to stick his fake chin in my rear end."  e: wait is this like the inverse of that Bob's burgers episode the bitcoin of weed fucked around with this message at 18:08 on Feb 1, 2017 |
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Feb 1, 2017 18:06
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Pick posted:This can happen as well. I think it depends on the kind of reflecting a person does when they're broken up. It's a real healthy relationship and I am kind of amazed one or both of them hasn't posted in /r/relationships yet.
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Feb 1, 2017 18:08
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:My ex-boyfriend [28 M] got his second DUI and totaled another car. I [24 F] am going to bail him out of jail later today and I don't know how to handle this without freaking out on him. I understand that your cat is worth risking harm against other human lives and putting your own life in danger, but why in the gently caress does it still live with him? That cat is a tramp and you should sever, its juts playing the field by talking about an "open ownership"
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Feb 1, 2017 18:13
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Yawgmoth posted:It's a real healthy relationship and I am kind of amazed one or both of them hasn't posted in /r/relationships yet. Maybe they have posted, but have cunningly shifted their ages one year forwards / changed white wine to prosecco / switched the horse cock dildo's name from "Mr. Ed" to "Freckles" and fooled all of us. Fooled us all like chumps.
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Feb 1, 2017 18:16
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Me [21f] finally lost all interest in [37m] boyfriend and he just disgusts mequote:I have had months of things going further and further down hill and then being good for a few days. Our relationship has been a vicious cycle I have gotten to the point in which I was going to leave or kick him out a few times. The other night something that he said just hit me the wrong way and everything changed. He has always been mean to me and called me names and talked down to me but now with fat comments and slut comments when I am the only one working and pay for EVERYTHING.... no. He has not worked for months and months I have two kids under 5 to take care of and I work full time and I am in school full time. It is just hard coming to terms with the fact that the man that I thought I loved so much just disgusts me now he is such a freaking looser, and that fact hurts me. Trying really hard to avoid thinking about things like "why was I not enough for him to love me after everything I did?" In all honesty it does not matter anymore I am planning on moving when good ol taxes come back at the end of the month but how do I live in this until then? I have been sleeping in the baby's room because I just cant sleep by him he just makes me uncomfortable and yells at me (seriously yells at me for trying to be intimate at night, for not doing things after work around the house, for waking him up in the morning when I get ready for work and I just cant take it.) Sex used to be a fall back for us but not anymore he still feels intimacy toward me and close to me but it is even more uncomfortable than hooking up with a total stranger to me so much so that I cant even physically allow sex down there which has never been a problem. My thing is that this whole thing still hurts, but I have just reached a level of resentment that makes it all that much harder, how can I try to make it till I can leave with out making it too much of hell? I cant be too obvious that I am not interested anymore I do not want to set him off and deal with screaming or threats I am just over it. My boyfriend is super mean and I hate him so I'm making out with my kids uncle on my lunch break Post two months ago: The man I'm in love with is slowly murdering my sexuality quote:Ok so, I have been with him for a handful of months and this man is killing my sexuality. I am a very sexual person I love to do it I think about it often people know me for being open and comfortable with it. But, my SO gets really upset with me because I try to do it too often. He doesn't check me out, like ever. If I try to get his attention just so he will look at me once in awhile he gets angry. I try everything I can to get his attention like dressing up for him or not dressing at all and still nothing. I understand that because hes older (37) his sex drive is lower than mine and im (21f). I am starting to really hate it. It is something that I really enjoy, I hate the constant rejection I hate him acting like doing anything sexual with me is a chore half the time, and I hate not feeling like Im good enough for him or that I am unattractive. I have other men looking at me all the time, or trying to get my attention or make me feel good but im loyal and I want my man just to enjoy me but instead I get yelled at. Like If I try to wake him up with head I get yelled at. "why cant we just cuddle you grab on me constantly" Is that really that big of a problem? UGH I don't know that's my confession, this is a huge deal to me and it shouldn't be it ruins my day.
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Feb 1, 2017 18:24
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Feb 1, 2017 18:28
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Ouhei posted:Your company has HR for a loving reason, report his rear end. Problem Solved, NEXT. Depressing as it sounds, small companies don't legally need HR in the US, and that means they can do almost anything they want. I used to work for a place on Long Island (before moving to NYC) that had only eight employees. The bookkeeper was comfortable enough to only ever refer to black people as niggers, even in polite conversation. I complained, and was told by the Italian Office Manager "If someone called me a guinea, I wouldn't care" as though that somehow made it okay. It's a loving soul-crushing experience.
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Feb 1, 2017 18:30
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:and she has one selfie posted on r/roastme that I can't even bring myself to post cause this woman's life is already depressing as poo poo She's just full of piercings, she's not like a super uggo troll. Didn't understand your reservations.
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Bubblyblubber posted:She's just full of piercings, she's not like a super uggo troll. Didn't understand your reservations. WAY TO GO WAMPA!! fucked around with this message at 18:38 on Feb 1, 2017 |
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Feb 1, 2017 18:34
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conscience, I assume
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Feb 1, 2017 18:37
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Pick posted:conscience, I assume
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Feb 1, 2017 18:37
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nooo but i like funny typos 
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Feb 1, 2017 18:42
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quote:That guy reminds me of me and there is no intent to hurt; I bet he's more concerned about ensuring a stable support-structure for your relationship, thus his focus on so much work, for he may have come across statistics about divorces or break-ups usually being over matters of money or lack-of-money, and he simply wants to ensure that the support-structures of sufficient finances are in place so that he does not risk letting your relationship crumble. I know it seems paranoid-like, but as a MAN, who seems to match closely with his description, this is one of my reasons. I know for a fact that it would be extremely painful for me to lose a woman whom I had chosen to commit myself 100% to and I would be willing to work like a madman to make sure that ALL of our «material-needs» were covered, for I know how unstable the economy is in a world of police-state interference, and any «risk» of «forced separation» would cause me to do everything that I felt necessary to reach self-made multi-millionaire status for our benefit. quote:The most important piece of advice that anybody can give you is to keep your emotions under control as much as possible. Absolutely do not direct any angry emotions towards him (surely he is not abusive and does not intentionally try to hurt or harm you otherwise why would you be in love with him). Why not try offering to help him with his work or his tasks or take on being a «secretary» for his scheduling if you're qualified for the job ? If you're not qualified for the job then try learning how to be able to be of assistance to his career, what skills you might need, and this way you will be able to spend more time together, working towards his career-goals and stuff together.
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Feb 1, 2017 18:44
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Feb 1, 2017 18:50
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Pick posted:there should be age gap laws
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Feb 1, 2017 18:57
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:if you don't use a throwaway account on r/relationships your awful boyfriend will https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IXoTM9apowE&t=45s
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After reading about the Bumble BFF thing last night, I turned to my husband and mentioned it. He said, "you should sign up" lol So I did. Here's my trip report: 95% (not an exaggeration) of women in my city mention either "adventures", "brunch", or "happy hour". Other extremely common ones: yoga, hiking, dogs, wine, watching The Bachelor. I mean, I get that you want to list common things to maximize your chances to find a buddy, but oh my god even the pictures looked like the same woman over and over. I went through at least a hundred. I live in the most basic of cities, apparently, at least in terms of pseudo-dating app users. I feel for you single guys out there trying to find someone of substance on dating sites. Uninstalled.
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Feb 1, 2017 19:10
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Pick posted:there should be age gap laws everyone should be allowed to make their own choices in life but there should definitely be something in the system to account for the fact that young people are dumb and there are a lot of sexual predators in their 30s and 40s
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Feb 1, 2017 19:14
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artichoke posted:After reading about the Bumble BFF thing last night, I turned to my husband and mentioned it. He said, "you should sign up" lol it's every city, IDK whether there's some nefarious social pressure convincing women that the most desirable traits in the world are a love of wine, travel, and Game of Thrones or that's really just as close as 95% of people really get to being interesting but yeah
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Bumble is like some weirdo (even more weirdo) version of tinder where everyone is trying really hard to embody the "young successful businessperson in 1995" for whatever reason Who knew young people were so into windsurfing in between their meetings for their 3 startups
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Mirthless posted:everyone should be allowed to make their own choices in life but there should definitely be something in the system to account for the fact that young people are dumb and there are a lot of sexual predators in their 30s and 40s well yeah there already are laws like that. It just ends in most of the world around 15-16 or 18
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Feb 1, 2017 19:18
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:it's every city, IDK whether there's some nefarious social pressure convincing women that the most desirable traits in the world are a love of wine, travel, and Game of Thrones or that's really just as close as 95% of people really get to being interesting but yeah It's because most people are insecure posers.
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Feb 1, 2017 19:19
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Pick posted:It's because most people are insecure posers. couldn't they pose as someone with actual interests, like even if they were doing the whole "I thought about what it'd be like to be Jennifer Aniston once, in middle school = I'm an actress" thing it'd at least imply they ever had hopes or dreams anyway linking this one cause it's super long and self-absorbed but I'm sure a certain contingent of this thread will super appreciate it: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1nrdfm/me_21f_with_my_boyfriend_21m_of_over_a_year_i_had/
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:it's every city, IDK whether there's some nefarious social pressure convincing women that the most desirable traits in the world are a love of wine, travel, and Game of Thrones or that's really just as close as 95% of people really get to being interesting but yeah drinking wine and watching game of thrones by yourself while desperately wishing you had someone to travel with is the hallmark of a sad lonely woman, there are a lot of those around notice all the activities listed are either solitary or really basic things people would normally do with close friends
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If they had awesome amazing hobbies they shared with awesome people, they wouldn't be using a dating app, they would have found someone already through those hobbies.
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