Drunk Nerds posted:

The most offensive thing, for me, in this entire thread, is that someone has 1 million+ just sitting in their savings account and not being invested

flick my Mr. Bean posted:

I wish I had a wedding as small as my brother's. I had a ridiculous event because wealthy family members were paying for it and we ended up letting them have a bit too much control. When several things went wrong, I ended up having to fix them because the wedding coordinator cracked under the pressure. Aside from the ceremony, it was a miserable goddamn day for me from. My wife on the other hand was happy because she had no idea anything was even wrong. The best feeling in the world was sinking into the seat of my car and knowing it was over.

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I have been with Kyle for 4 years and it's been really amazing. I had some issues in the beginning and he's honestly helped me through it all and helped me get over serious things. I'm the happiest I've been in quite awhile.

Obviously for these 4 years, he's been with me through summer before and seen what I wear, which is normal stuff for hot weather. Shorts, occasional tank tops, sometimes maybe a sun dress..

He's never once said a bad thing about what I wear, and in fact, all my clothes that I like - he bought for me. I'm so insanely confused.

When we talked about it today, I just mentioned being excited for summer so I can wear my favorite clothes, and he said "Well definitely don't be planning on wearing all those clothes you did last summer" I asked what he meant and he told me I'm not allowed to wear anything like that anymore.

I tried to get more information but I couldn't. I don't understand why after 4 years it's only just now an issue. He told me he prefers winter because I wear leggings and big sweatshirts everyday.

And also, just for reference, I haven't lost or gained any weight at all since last summer.

Tl;dr; fiance of 4 years suddenly is telling me what I'm not allowed to wear this summer. He's never cared and most of my clothes are from him. I haven't lost or gained weight.. So why the sudden controlling issue?

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Here we go again, another story of the first signs of a controlling personality in a relationship where the guy is far older (he started dating you when he was 34 and you were 19, God almighty). Yes, he never showed this kind of behaviour before. Yes, the relationship is perfect apart from this. Yes, the age gap doesn't bother you and you feel you are both on the same page. Yes, he did a lot for you in the past (btw that's how he got your trust). And yet, we can assure you this is just the likely beginning of an abusive relationship. I bet that after getting married he won't want you to work. I bet that he won't want you to see your friends and family much. And so on, till he swaps you for a newer model once you become a mother or you start looking older than 19.

You can argue over the technicality that you got engaged spring 2016 and that summer was normal etc etc but him asking you to basically cover yourself for others is a massive, humongous and flaring red flag. And I bet you won't care about our advice and you will just decide this is just a blip in your otherwise perfect relationship. You can't see it, but you were groomed to be is little doll for him to do and decide as he pleases.

WampaLord posted:

Tale as old as time...Beauty and the Creep...

My (23f) fiance (38m) is suddenly being very weird and told me the things I'm not "allowed" to wear this summer??


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Themata posted:

My boyfriend's weight gain is screwing with my head and our bed. Help!

WampaLord posted:

Tale as old as time...Beauty and the Creep...

My (23f) fiance (38m) is suddenly being very weird and told me the things I'm not "allowed" to wear this summer??


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Serephina posted:

Wait, what mutual funds do you have that give 8.5%pa, because I'd love in on that

edit: safely, any schmuck can gamble

chumbler posted:

I think if you call it "sexytimes" you should have your sex license revoked.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Lol this person is tired of this poo poo

Mameluke posted:

Could the r/relationships mods just automatically post in any thread with an age discrepancy greater than, say, 7 years?

Mameluke posted:

Could the r/relationships mods just automatically post in any thread with an age discrepancy greater than, say, 7 years?

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My [22F] bf [23M] tells me I need to wear something different in public and we've had huge arguments about it these last couple of days

My boyfriend has never been controlling, when it comes to what I wear, so this is a pretty big break in our trust, imo. I've always been able to wear what I wanted and he has always been very supportive of me. Me and my best friend bought fur suits last week and have occasionally worn them in public. My boyfriend hates this and keeps telling me I shouldn't wear it in public but I tell him it's my body and I can wear whatever I want and it has caused a huge rift in our relationship. I feel like he's being very unreasonable with this since I don't care what he wears in public and I don't want him to make decisions for me and tell me what I'm allowed to wear or not wear. Is this a dealbreaker? How do we move past this?

tl;dr: My boyfriend has started telling me that I'm not allowed to wear clothing that I recently bought and it's giving me anxiety that he might be showing controlling behavior.

WampaLord posted:

Tale as old as time...Beauty and the Creep...

My (23f) fiance (38m) is suddenly being very weird and told me the things I'm not "allowed" to wear this summer??


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My dad [40M] found out I [18F] call my boyfriend [19M] daddy. Now he can't look me in the eye.Non-Romantic

submitted 1 year ago * by embarrassed_daughter

This whole thing is incredibly embarrassing. This is my first post on reddit (long time lurker) and I'm not the best at grammar or story telling so please forgive me.

My dad and I have always had an amazingly close relationship. My mom died when I was young, so it was just me, him, and my uncle. I knew if I had a problem I could always come to my dad. Even when I wasn't a little girl anymore, I called him daddy. He was always affectionate, meaning he'd kiss my temple or put his arm around my shoulders or play with my hair when we would watch a movie.

Now, I don't really know how to explain the situation with my boyfriend. In short, he likes it when I call him daddy. I wouldn't call it BD/SM or anything like that, because otherwise we're very vanilla. When I call my boyfriend daddy, it is by no means has the same meaning as it would for my dad. I know how to differentiate. That's all I can really say.

As you can imagine, my dad was more than a little taken aback to see someone named Daddy texting me. He was deeply confused and demanded to know what it meant. I stumbled on my words and nearly sobbed as I explained everything to him. He was quiet the rest of the ride and didn't really say much at dinner.

This was a week ago and I can still tell my dad is upset. He hasn't been affectionate like he used to and he isn't as talkative either (he used to talk my ear off). He's been spending most of his time working on his car in the garage.

I want to fix this because my dad is the only one I've got and most daughters would kill for the relationship we have, but I can see that whats happened as really cut him deep. I don't know where I could even begin to fix this.

TL;DR: Dad found out I call boyfriend daddy, now he's acting different. What can I do to fix things between us?

Edit: According to one user, my dad's just upset he found out I'm a whore. Problem solved!

Ride The Gravitron posted:

Tiny Deer posted:

He's upset because he's trying to figure out how he hosed up raising you so badly.

Not that you turned out to be a bad person, it just turns out it's skin crawlingly creepy to call your boyfriend daddy--especially when you call him that so much he's saved that way in your phone.

Basically your dad is wondering if all of your therapists are just going to assume he molested you.

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My (25/M) fwb (32/F) keeps calling me daddyDating

submitted 3 months ago by paternityornah

Where's the problem, ha ha, amirite fellas? finger guns

In all seriousness this is very weird for me. I've never had a girl call me "Daddy" before, and I now know I hate it. I understand this is a thing that some people do during sex, they dirty talk and call each other weird names in the heat of the moment, and while my ego is pleased, the rest of me finds it very bizarre that she calls me daddy. I was able to ignore it the first few times, but she keeps saying it. Do I think she has daddy issues? No. It's just a thing some people say during sex. Maybe she's trying to take a submissive role in the bedroom because she's a badass in real life? I don't know. We don't really dive into anything too personal. The reason we're FWB in the first place, is we're both very busy and we don't have time to get in touch with our feelings when we're together. I'm in law school at a major, highly competitive university and she's a badass doctor who just got divorced.

I asked her not to call me "daddy" once, but she laughed and asked if I have daddy issues, lol. To clarify, I don't. I get along great w/ all my family members, which I think may be the problem? I come from a white picket fence upbringing, and, admittedly, the sex I had before was very vanilla compared to the sex I have with her. I know I've improved since we started sleeping together. That's the cool thing about older women, ha ha, amirite fellas?!

No but seriously, it's weird. Boner killer weird. And she doesn't just say it once or twice. She goes like this, "Ohh, yes, daddy!!! gently caress me harder, daddy!!! TEACH ME A LESSON!!! Tell me a I'm a bad girl, oh, daddy!!!! HNNNNNGGHHHHHHHH DADDDDDDDDDYYYYYYYY!"

I am neither exaggerating nor tooting my own horn. And hey, I'm sure there are plenty of guys who are into that sort of thing, but I am not one of them. Part of me wonders if maybe she's laying it on extra thick to encourage me to do better? But she does orgasm at least once every time, no lie, and I would expect a divorcee in her 30's not to settle for anything less than she needs. She's a brilliant, hot doctor. If I'm not her cup of tea, I'm sure she can find someone else at the drop of a hat. Literally every guy in any given room looks her up and down the second she walks in.

How do I kindly tell her that I can feel my penis invert when she calls me daddy, without making her feel dirty or "troubled" or not up to par? To my knowledge, she and her husband divorced because she wasn't adventurous enough in the bedroom and he started cheating on her. Obviously there's no good reason to cheat on someone but that was what she half-drunkenly told me the night we first met at the bar. She hasn't mentioned him or their divorce since. Yes, this is a lot of thinking for a FWB situation, and although I'm not trying to swoop in and rescue this woman on a white stallion, I'm also not a monster. I want to let her know she doesn't have to act porn star-ish. If that's her thing, then that's her thing, but I really don't think that's her thing. When she's truly into it, she goes all quiet and holds on, and yeah.

Tell me what to do, Reddit.

TL;DR - I'm in law school. She's a badass doctor and recently divorced. Neither of us are looking for anything serious. We're just "having fun" and while I do have a lot of fun when I'm with her, she feels the need to act really porn-star-ish and call me "daddy" when we have sex. I once asked her not to, but she responded with a joke and calls me daddy anyway. To my knowledge, she and her ex split up because he said she wasn't adventurous enough in the bedroom and so he started cheating on her. I have a feeling her porn-star-ish persona during sex has something to do with that. How do I let her know my stance without making her feel bad?

Ride The Gravitron posted:

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I am neither exaggerating nor tooting my own horn. And hey, I'm sure there are plenty of guys who are into that sort of thing, but I am not one of them. Part of me wonders if maybe she's laying it on extra thick to encourage me to do better? But she does orgasm at least once every time, no lie, and I would expect a divorcee in her 30's not to settle for anything less than she needs. She's a brilliant, hot doctor. If I'm not her cup of tea, I'm sure she can find someone else at the drop of a hat. Literally every guy in any given room looks her up and down the second she walks in.

datajugend posted:

He should start calling her mommy

Psycho Society posted:

It seems pretty weird that she put him in her phone as daddy, you don't need to fetishize every interaction you have with someone.

I don't really care about the daddy thing, it seems to turn a lot of girls on but it's probably not worth thinking about too much.

datajugend posted:

He should start calling her mommy, or mum

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My boyfriend (26m) started calling me (32f) mommy during sex, not sure how to react?Dating

submitted 1 year ago by throw911notamilf

tl;dr boyfriend has mom fetish

My boyfriend has very recently started role playing with me, where he's my son, I'll baby him up and he'll constantly call me mommy.

Is this kind of role play common or is my boyfriend an odd duck? Not sure how to feel with the idea that my bf may have mommy issues.

No I don't look like his mom or anything, and he says he doesn't have any weird feelings about his mom. Confused.

datajugend posted:

He should start calling her mommy, or mum

Psycho Society posted:

Never do this

Psycho Society posted:

It seems pretty weird that she put him in her phone as daddy, you don't need to fetishize every interaction you have with someone.

Coucho Marx posted:

Nah, or do it when he knows the relationship's played out, for fun

Then report back with results!

Mirthless posted:

Help, Reddit! I [35m] called my wife[38f] of ten years mommy while we had sex, she left me while I was at work and she's not returning any of my texts or calls!

WampaLord posted:

Also this dude is spending way too much mental effort over a FWB situation.

Ask her to stop saying it. If she doesn't, then just stop loving her. Like he said, she'll find someone who's way into it and they'll live happily ever after.

Tiny Deer posted:

He's upset because he's trying to figure out how he hosed up raising you so badly.

Not that you turned out to be a bad person, it just turns out it's skin crawlingly creepy to call your boyfriend daddy--especially when you call him that so much he's saved that way in your phone.

Basically your dad is wondering if all of your therapists are just going to assume he molested you.

MinionOfCthulhu posted:

To add to this, anyone who calls a significant other 'baby' should be registered as a pedophile.

Coucho Marx posted:

loving people can't communicate, gently caress.

"Hey, so we need to talk about how you like to call me 'daddy'. I understand that it's something you enjoy and turns you on, and that's fine, but it just does the absolute opposite for me due to [reasons, probably involving him immediately thinking of his own dad]. I'm really sorry, but I can't do what you want. Maybe someone else can help you fulfill that need? I'm not sure if this arrangement can work."