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mmmf gangbang and dating dudes 8 years older than you by 18, I feel like her life probably has a lifetime original in it.
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ArbitraryC posted:mmmf gangbang and dating dudes 8 years older than you by 18, I feel like her life probably has a lifetime original in it. I like that the red flag was the threesome and the foursome but the cheating ten times gets mentioned in passing. They are both weird weird people
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# ? Feb 11, 2017 06:43 |
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Girlfriend had and enjoyed sex with other people before she met me, WHAT DO????? Also lol she's a barely legal nympho who admitted to cheating on her ex, you either take the good with the bad or move on
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Streak posted:Girlfriend had and enjoyed sex with other people before she met me, WHAT DO????? "I met this girl on Tinder for a hookup and we started loving immediately, but it turns out she's maybe kind of sexually impulsive?!?!"
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Mirthless posted:she doesn't sound like a very good person but i'm going to guess she was awakened to sexuality way too young and not by choice Mmmyeah the 18 year old dating a 26 year old and has a history of #somes that young kind of pings for me as well
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# ? Feb 11, 2017 10:35 |
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From /r/legaladvice:quote:I work for a public sector organization in California. Recently, our employer has given us Android phones on which we must install Citrix Secure Hub. This app is essentially monitored/controlled by the IT Department and phone activity, location can be checked via servers at work. I have no issue with using the phone at work, but I am not comfortable taking this device home (as we are supposed to have these phones with us at work and take them home with us daily). The phone is my dedicated work cell phone and I am expected to keep it around me as needed. I sent the following email below to the IT Department expressing my concerns. I was later told that I must install the app. So, today, I will install the app. However, I can't help to wonder that something does not feel right. Please advise. EDIT: Just found this in the comments quote:IANAL - I am an administrator of /r/Citrix and am familiar with XenMobile. OP posted:Our staff have used it to determine the location of employees on occasion. quote:The admins have used it to determine a person's location - I'm not saying you can't do that. The intended use case is geo-fencing and device location. OP posted:Our organization has some ethics issues and has had them in the past as well. This is a main reason for concern. quote:Then your issue is not the employer mandating a MDM and with the employees themselves. Your complaint is with HR and management, not IT. Dude just Um Actually'd this guy and repeated what the guy said in the first place "Help I think my company is trying to spy on me" "Sounds like the real problem here is that your company is trying to spy on you Maybe you should get your facts straight next time" Danaru fucked around with this message at 11:36 on Feb 11, 2017 |
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Just leave your work phone at work or do what I do and switch it off and leave it in the car when I'm not working.
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# ? Feb 11, 2017 13:49 |
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Turn it off and leave it in your trunk, why the gently caress do you need a work phone at home unless you're on call 24/7?
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# ? Feb 11, 2017 15:01 |
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Dude is massively paranoid, your work knows where you live anyway. Don't take the phone anywhere other than work and home. E: Long, but worth it: How do I help my [35F] husband's [38M] girlfriend [31F] better accept our situation? quote:I'm making a throwaway account because my husband doesn't really do reddit, but he knows my reddit name and I want to get some advice before going to him with what I hope is a possible solution WampaLord fucked around with this message at 15:09 on Feb 11, 2017 |
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WampaLord posted:Dude is massively paranoid, your work knows where you live anyway. Don't take the phone anywhere other than work and home. honestly the wife and husband sound pretty reasonable and if you're going to do an open marriage uhhh I guess that's the best way to go about it?
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# ? Feb 11, 2017 15:16 |
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Huh, it sounds like they're more stable and giving their kids a better up bringing than many other families so he should probably just find a girlfriend who can respect it
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No woman is going to want to be treated like a secret affair for years and years. Can't stay over, can't meet the kids, can't get married, can't have kids of your own... Also many parents do not sleep in the same bed, so acting like they have to do it for their children is insane.
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"daddy/mommy snores really loudly so mommy/daddy gotta get some sleep in the other room" If you go to so much effort to keep it up for the kids and the world, why go into relationships? Like wampa said, he is never gonna have a good relationship if the gf always have to be the secret affair hidden in a corner. They sound like they got a good thing going for the kids and all, but why even get married? E: nvm i guess its for the benefits datajugend fucked around with this message at 15:51 on Feb 11, 2017 |
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WampaLord posted:No woman is going to want to be treated like a secret affair for years and years. Can't stay over, can't meet the kids, can't get married, can't have kids of your own... They love each other (as people) and their arrangement existed first. It is utterly absurd to think that a wife has to sit down with her husband's girlfriend and try to make the other woman feel better about the arrangement when the wife isn't dating people herself If she knew about the arrangement when she got into it she doesn't have a right to complain. She is actively trying to destroy a functional family with kids. These people should not have to adjust their lives to assuage the worries of a girl who heard "open relationship" "i have a family and kids" "we will never be more serious than this" and thought "I'm sure I can get this guy to put a ring on it eventually " Mirthless fucked around with this message at 16:18 on Feb 11, 2017 |
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Mirthless posted:She is actively trying to destroy a functional family with kids. Holy projection, Batman. How is she actively trying to destroy anything by sitting them down and calmly laying out her issues with their arrangement? Mirthless posted:If she knew about the arrangement when she got into it she doesn't have a right to complain. Of course she does. She can complain and say "This isn't working, please change something or I'll leave."
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WampaLord posted:Holy projection, Batman. How is she actively trying to destroy anything by sitting them down and calmly laying out her issues with their arrangement? she's pressuring the husband to make changes to his home arrangement with his wife and family. She does not have any input in how this man lives with his family. none. she is the other woman, she knew she would be the other woman from the onset. She's emotionally blackmailing her boyfriend over something she knew would be in the picture when she entered the relationship. WampaLord posted:Of course she does. She can complain and say "This isn't working, please change something or I'll leave." that's an ultimatum over something she knew about from the beginning you really think that's reasonable??? if she's not happy with the relationship she needs to just leave, not try to talk him into changing, because he already has a marriage. he does not need to save the relationship with his girlfriend! "I'm sorry, I like you, but I guess open relationships just aren't for me and never will be" is a perfectly valid thing to say but she's trying to have her cake and eat it too. This girl won't be happy until she's married. gently caress her.
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Mirthless you understand that his wife is a lesbian and they're not "really" married, right? I just want to make sure we're operating on the same basis here, cause you're acting insane.
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go away mirthless unless you're going to tell us about your own sham marriage to a lesbian
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WampaLord posted:Mirthless you understand that his wife is a lesbian and they're not "really" married, right? I just want to make sure we're operating on the same basis here, cause you're acting insane. You also understand his wife isn't dating other people or loving him, right? You understand that it would be weird for Dad to start bringing home girlfriends, right? Because if you think this is going to stop with them sleeping in different bedrooms you're insane. this is important: quote:Overall, I think we've come out on the high end of things in terms of children, family stability, our relationship dynamics etc. Make no mistake, we love each other with all our hearts, but it's just not that kind of love. We are not in a loveless marriage, it's just not romantic love, and we're okay with that. Some people like to cuddle and you don't have to want to gently caress to cuddle somebody. if you live together in the same house and raise your kids together and have that kind of bond, why would you want to sleep apart? Why should he? This is the relationship, these are the boundaries they set, if somebody doesn't like it they need to leave, not try to change the arrangement. There are other people involved than him and his girlfriend. His girlfriend does not come before his family.
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Mirthless posted:You also understand his wife isn't dating other people or loving him, right? You understand that it would be weird for Dad to start bringing home girlfriends, right? Because if you think this is going to stop with them sleeping in different bedrooms you're insane. I assume he's already bringing her home, she just doesn't sleep over.
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WampaLord posted:I assume he's already bringing her home, she just doesn't sleep over. The kids not being aware of his girlfriends is their #1 priority in their relationship. Read the post again. There is no way girlfirend is coming over for anything but cookouts and definitely not in a romantic capacity. If she isn't happy with their relationship ending at dating, having sex, and the occasional "business trip" at her house for the week, I can totally understand that, but it's on her to exit that situation. there are too many other people involved.
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Mirthless posted:Some people like to cuddle and you don't have to want to gently caress to cuddle somebody. if you live together in the same house and raise your kids together and have that kind of bond, why would you want to sleep apart? Why should he? This is the relationship, these are the boundaries they set, if somebody doesn't like it they need to leave, not try to change the arrangement. There are other people involved than him and his girlfriend. His girlfriend does not come before his family. You have extremely hosed up priorities. You realize they could co-parent without even living together and the kids would be fine, right? It's weird to put together this fake sham marriage that prevents this dude from having an actual relationship.
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Mirthless posted:that's an ultimatum over something she knew about from the beginning Yes. "I knew about this arrangement, but it has affected me more than I expected. Something has to change or I'm going to have to move on and find a relationship I'm more comfortable with. What should we do?" Eminently reasonable.
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# ? Feb 11, 2017 16:31 |
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Its gonna be weird for the kids no matter what they do when they get told/discover the family arrangement. Its gonna be hard to keep it a secret for when the kids are mature enough to understand and I hope they are gonna prepare them for it in some way as they get older.
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WampaLord posted:You have extremely hosed up priorities. They both agreed to the arrangement. They are both happy with the arrangement. It's this new person who just came into the situation that is trying to disrupt it. Some people believe a two-parent household is better for kids and I'm not saying that either way but it's their right to choose how to parent their children and I'm pretty sure mom and dad living at home and having a loving household isn't going to result in a family of broken kids. They could co-parent and live apart. but they don't want to, and they shouldn't have to. BTW, it's not about my priorities, ding-dong, it's about theirs. You can talk clinically about something without having to share the viewpoints of the people you are talking about. datajugend posted:Its gonna be weird for the kids no matter what they do when they get told/discover the family arrangement. Its gonna be hard to keep it a secret for when the kids are mature enough to understand and I hope they are gonna prepare them for it in some way as they get older. there was a goon ITT a number of pages back who found out his parents were swingers for years when he was 18 and apparently shrugged it off kids aren't going to understand it when they're little and they may just tell it to people at school, which happens, and usually results in CPS getting involved (yes, even when nobody is breaking any laws) Mirthless fucked around with this message at 16:35 on Feb 11, 2017 |
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zakharov posted:go away mirthless
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Mirthless posted:They are both happy with the arrangement Well clearly not, cause the dude wants/needs a girlfriend. They might as well just let her come over and tell the kids about it and just treat it like it's normal. They'll have to explain eventually, unless the dude gives up on the idea of having a girlfriend. Here's a quote from the comments that explains it well: quote:I don't understand why stable home = deceiving your children. If children can be raised by stable homosexual parents I don't understand why it would be so bad if they understood their parents didn't have a sexual relationship. It's quite possible they'll feel betrayed when you tell them the truth. What you're modeling for them is NOT a successful romantic relationship, but a successful friendship, so they might be really, deeply confused when they find out nothing was happening in the bedroom-- if they believe you, which they might not.
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I'm sure the girlfriend will be happy when they switch to separate bedrooms and won't have any further expectations of him adjusting his family's life for her I'm not gonna argue about this all day, so we'll have to agree to disagree
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Mirthless posted:I'm not gonna argue about this all day what is even the point of lying like this
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# ? Feb 11, 2017 16:43 |
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Ask the kids' opinion on it.
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Here's one totally full of comments from the OP about how she'll never ever ever break up with this loving amazing dude: My (23F) boyfriend (22M) is reckless to extreme points. He drinks heavily and does drugs, he gets into fights, he robs etc etc. I love him, but he needs to learn self control, how can I help him learn? quote:Ive been with with Eros for 5 years now, we are very deeply in love and I really have no interest in breaking up with him. We've been through everything together. We both ran away to NYC when we were 18 from Massachusetts, we both came from broken homes, he had an alcoholic father and I had 5 siblings and was poor. We've been homeless together, we've worked together, now 5 years later we have our own apartment and we both have relatively good jobs. Comments from OP: quote:Because I love him despite his vices quote:But its not a lovely relationship, he is great to me and we really do love each other.
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Mirthless posted:she's pressuring the husband to make changes to his home arrangement with his wife and family. Oh God, I find myself agreeing with Mirthless. The husband did everything right: he communicated the situation and made boundaries/expectations clear. He said, "This is what I can offer, take it or leave it." Its akin to someone saying, "Hey, FYI, I don't EVER want kids, so if that is something you want, this ain't gonna work." and going "Yeah, me neither!" and then later giving an ultimatum that he knock you up or you leave. Just leave.
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WampaLord posted:Here's one totally full of comments from the OP about how she'll never ever ever break up with this loving amazing dude: Just rob some banks together or whatever it is young couples do nowadays to get gunned down by the cops.
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Barudak posted:Just ftyf
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Danaru posted:From /r/legaladvice:
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Be Aware: External websites, magazines, and TV shows have started citing posts here in their contentquote:In order to give some greater level warning to the community, we do want to let you all know that we have been observing that several websites, magazines, and talk shows have begun using content from the subreddit to support their work without the permission of those cited. Or, in many cases, they are just outright using posts and their comments as case studies to drive their articles or discussion. We have observed this behavior sporadically in the past, but now we are starting to see it happening with greater frequency and consistency, so we need to let you all know. jig is up guys
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Ouhei posted:The guy is pointing out that the real purpose of the software is why it needs the permissions it does and his work has probably set it up so certain apps can only be used on site but not at home and the other way around. If the company is doing sketchy poo poo with the powers they have (oh no they know where the phone is) then that's an HR issue m, not an IT issue. The phone is company property so of course they're going to be able to track it and know everything you do on it, he should maintain a personal phone to avoid any issues. That's the funny thing. He does have a personal phone, he's just being paranoid as gently caress for no reason. "Oh no the company knows that I take my work phone home when I'm not at work." Nissin Cup Nudist posted:Be Aware: External websites, magazines, and TV shows have started citing posts here in their content LOL gently caress them, you can't say "Hey don't discuss this poo poo we post publicly."
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# ? Feb 11, 2017 17:10 |
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Mirthless posted:there was a goon ITT a number of pages back who found out his parents were swingers for years when he was 18 and apparently shrugged it off I get what you are saying but this isnt "my parents have sex with other people for fun." Discovering your parents gave up on finding love, got married just on paper and your mother supressed/hid her sexuality for all these years etc. Wouldnt that be a pretty big thing to just shrug off? Everything they did they could have done just as fine if they didnt live together. If your one big thing is stability for your children, what do you do when they learn that things arent as stable as they seem?
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The rare case of the slam shut case right in the loving title:quote:Me [19 F] with my fiance [27 M] of a year, I don't know what's wrong WELL GEE loving WHIZ SWEETHEART, I CAN TAKE A WILD GUESS quote:u/throwaway652004128h Help me Internet I don't know if I love the older weirdo that I keep lending money to.
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datajugend posted:I get what you are saying but this isnt "my parents have sex with other people for fun." You're assuming the parents would tell the children everything when they're of age. Just get divorced when the last is off to college and go 'hey, me and spouse fell out of love (but we still love our kids very much!) s o we're parting ways and of mom is gay so she's dating a lady now.' That's it. Same way other parental units split once kids are legal age and they don't want to be married for various reasons. There's literally no reason to go into sordid details. It's the same thought process as confessing to your 98 yo republican, Dixie loving, Gay hating grandmother that you and your best guy friend (husband of x yesrs) are Gay. You gain nothing and everyone gets hurt.
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