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WampaLord: Jan 14, 2010

quote:

She's a doctor, training to be a surgeon,

Nothing better to hear right before you go under than "Whoops!"

E: VVV Holy poo poo did you not get the hint? Shut the gently caress up about anime.

WampaLord fucked around with this message at 02:21 on Feb 13, 2017

# ? Feb 13, 2017 02:15

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# ? May 14, 2024 20:26

Cough Drop The Beat: Jan 22, 2012; by Lowtax

54 40 or gently caress posted:

The reason people talk about anime being poo poo is because it consistently and obsessively is loving creepy and weird more than it is normal and enjoyable. This is not difficult to grasp.
Whether or not you watched something that is an exception to this rule like cowboy bebop isn't up for debate. I've got a Yotsuba avatar and it's also an exception to that but I don't feel the need to um actually for no reason

Oh, so you're that kind of person assuming all anime is bad just because you haven't watched any in 15 years. Lmao. 😂

# ? Feb 13, 2017 02:17

tactlessbastard: Feb 4, 2001; Godspeed, post; Fun Shoe

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Oh, so you're that kind of person assuming all anime is bad just because you haven't watched any in 15 years. Lmao. 😂

gently caress off with your pedo apologia. It's a tired joke because it's so loving true

# ? Feb 13, 2017 02:30

Antivehicular: Dec 30, 2011; I wanna sing one for the cars
That are right now headed silent down the highway
And it's dark and there is nobody driving And something has got to give

Okay, time to drop the bomb of... whatever this is:

I[15F] am uncomfortable with my online friend [22F] due to her overall negative attitude. However, I feel like "the bad one," for being so uncomfortable. Should I ditch her?Non-Romantic
submitted an hour ago by __throwingitaway

quote:

Okay, this is going to be a long story. This is on Twitter, so I'll be using some terms from there, but I'll try to define them as I go. Sorry if this gets a bit confusing.

I'm [15F] friends with a decent amount of people on Twitter. Of course, some people do get into squabbles at times, but I usually just mind my own business on that, and no one tries to force me to "pick a side." I guess I could be described by some as a doormat, but I really just try to make everyone happy.

However, I am at my wit's end with one friend. She [22F] will be referred to as "June" for the rest of this post. June followed me, I followed back, we become decent friends. She vents to me a lot, and while I have no good advice, I try to listen. We have been friends for about half a year or so.

June can be upset or act "weird" a lot of times. Not being able to get something in a game can make her upset for the whole day, and she tends to make grudges with such things. When she hates something, she hates it A LOT. On the other end, she can spend an hour or two just gushing on her profile about one character she really likes. She says in her about page (basically a page on another site that tells people about you, since twitter bios can only have so much) that she has Asperger's, so I try to understand her as much as possible. However, I feel like she is actively trying to push me against my other friends.

A lot of people have gender or sexuality ideas about characters, due to this fandom I'm in having many people that identify outside the typical "binary." I don't really have many headcanons, due to me being a cisgender girl whose sexuality is just "???" right now. I just let people do what they want, as long as it is not hurting anyone.

However, June is very....very against that. So much so I have concerns that might be a little phobic about something, no matter how much she says she isn't. Frequently she vents to me about how people are "forcing" the headcanons on to her, even though....no one does that. Most people just go "yeah i think x is :insert gender identity/sexuality:" I don't think anyone goes "X is :insert gender identity/sexuality: and if you don't think that you're wrong! " unless it's a joke or something. I mean, I really don't think anyone is going to harass her if she doesn't think a character is trans or whatever. She softblocked (basically blocking and unblocking to make someone unfollow you and you unfollow them) someone for having too many different ships for a character because she thought it was "fetishizing" but....that person was bisexual and polyamorous? I don't think a person can fetishize themselves, but I might be wrong.

In another case, June vented that she thought one of my friends unfollowed her because of one of her anger periods....but I think it's because earlier she was posting about her dead cat, and said friend really doesn't like discussion about that. I can't really blame anyone in this situation though, June had to vent and my other friend didn't like it. Although my friend said she didn't like talk of that right in her about page, so either June forgot about it or June didn't care at that moment. I should say I never told June about this when she was venting to me about it, it's been months though so I don't know if it was because I didn't want to offend her or because I didn't think of it at the time.

Really, I think the moment I was finally drained of her was a few days ago. Most of my friends had either unfollowed her, she softblocked them, or they never even followed her. We only have a few mutual friends now. She went a big rant on her profile about how the fandom is toxic and how she hated it. However, the big thing was when she implied that the fandom apparently told someone on another site to drink bleach and other such things because of a "problematic" drawing.

Now, I don't know everything about my friends. However, I highly doubt any of my friends would do such a horrible thing like telling someone to commit suicide. That's just wrong, and I feel like I would have heard about it way before this if anyone of my friends had done that. Of course, I could look it up and see, but I...don't know if I want to do that.

So ever since then, I have been so uncomfortable with talking to her. Whenever I see her on my timeline, I just have a terrible feeling in my stomach. I want to softblock her; my account is locked so unless I accept her refollow request she can never see my tweets or talk to me again.

However, whenever I think about it, all I think of is things like "How could you? You're one of her only good friends and you throw her away like a piece of trash." "Maybe she's right and all your other friends are toxic?"

The only person I feel like I could talk to about this is a mutual friend of me and June. He [13/14?M] will be referred to as Richard. Richard is a trans boy, he is bisexual, and he has autism. He has a decent amount of those headcanons I referred to above.

While Richard is our friend...June did vent to me that he sort of annoys her and drains her out. Apparently he argued with her and made a vague tweet about her at some point. Despite that, I honestly feel more sympathetic to him. I doubt he would want to hear that his headcanons annoy his friend. I want to tell him how I feel about June. However, I am worried he would be upset at me, since she is our friend after all. I could tell Richard what she said to me about him, but that seems like a violation of trust, since it was in a private message. (Then again, I'm talking about it here...but it's all anonymous) I'm just so confused.

tl;dr: My friend is being very negative and I think she is trying to push me away from my other friends due to them being "toxic." Should I ditch her? Or either way I answer that question, should I tell our mutual friend what she said about him in a private message?

Christ, what a loving ungodly mess. Bets that the game is Overwatch?

# ? Feb 13, 2017 02:45

Subjunctive: Sep 12, 2006; ✨sparkle and shine✨

Antivehicular posted:

Christ, what a loving ungodly mess. Bets that the game is Overwatch?

No bet. I wouldn't bet against LoL either though.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 02:47

Sisal Two-Step: May 29, 2006; mom without jaw
dad without wife

i'm taking all the Ls now, sorry

that fandom is absolutely overwatch

# ? Feb 13, 2017 02:48

ArbitraryC: Jan 28, 2009; Pick a number, any number; Pillbug

WampaLord posted:

Goons trying to prove they're not goony is one of my favorite things.

Ironically that's kind of what people who get overly sensitive about certain activities are doing too.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 02:49

SirSamVimes: Jul 21, 2008; ~* Challenge *~

It could very easily be Undertale.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 03:07

LethalGeek: Nov 4, 2009

Should i be worried how much I catch young people escaping into this shipping/headcannon/whatever the gently caress or most of them grow out of it once they start actually dating?

# ? Feb 13, 2017 03:28

Cough Drop The Beat: Jan 22, 2012; by Lowtax

tactlessbastard posted:

gently caress off with your pedo apologia. It's a tired joke because it's so loving true

Are you still harping on all anime-likers as pedophiles? Lmao. You're so cute. Yup, the massive industry with hundreds of shows released in America by Funimation and other companies grossing millions of dollars per year and selling merchandise to millions of people with ordinary jobs and postgraduate degrees all across the country is releasing illegal pedophile cartoons. You're really so cute. What's your next hilarious meme? :allears:

# ? Feb 13, 2017 03:41

Improbable Lobster: Jan 6, 2012; "From each according to his ability" said Ares. It sounded like a quotation.; Buglord

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Are you still harping on all anime-likers as pedophiles? Lmao. You're so cute. Yup, the massive industry with hundreds of shows released in America by Funimation and other companies grossing millions of dollars per year and selling merchandise to millions of people with ordinary jobs all across the country is releasing illegal pedophile cartoons. You're really so cute. What's your next hilarious meme?

My lovely Poster Can't Possibly Be This Dumb!

# ? Feb 13, 2017 03:42

Cough Drop The Beat: Jan 22, 2012; by Lowtax

Improbable Lobster posted:

My lovely Poster Can't Possibly Be This Dumb!

Maybe your co-worker at the desk next to you might be a p-p-pedophile!! She might be molesting children right in the break room during lunch! She might be a Satan worshipper! Please think of the children and engage in anime responsibly.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 03:45

Beachcomber: May 21, 2007; Another day in paradise.; Slippery Tilde

LethalGeek posted:

Should i be worried how much I catch young people escaping into this shipping/headcannon/whatever the gently caress or most of them grow out of it once they start actually dating?

People who do this probably have a disproportionate representation on the internet.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 03:45

Improbable Lobster: Jan 6, 2012; "From each according to his ability" said Ares. It sounded like a quotation.; Buglord

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Maybe your co-worker at the desk next to you might be a p-p-pedophile!! She might be molesting children right in the break room during lunch! She might be a Satan worshipper! Please think of the children and engage in anime responsibly.

Please stop melting down

# ? Feb 13, 2017 03:45

Psycho Society: Oct 21, 2010

This seems like a disproportionate amount of angst being directed at a handful of people making casual jokes about your hobby. Do you get a notification on your phone whenever someone besmirches the name of anime, or is it just an unsettled feeling that something must be set right in the universe?

# ? Feb 13, 2017 03:52

Cough Drop The Beat: Jan 22, 2012; by Lowtax

Psycho Society posted:

This seems like a disproportionate amount of angst being directed at a handful of people making casual jokes about your hobby. Do you get a notification on your phone whenever someone besmirches the name of anime, or is it just an unsettled feeling that something must be set right in the universe?

Anime is good and cool.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 03:52

Antivehicular: Dec 30, 2011; I wanna sing one for the cars
That are right now headed silent down the highway
And it's dark and there is nobody driving And something has got to give

LethalGeek posted:

Should i be worried how much I catch young people escaping into this shipping/headcannon/whatever the gently caress or most of them grow out of it once they start actually dating?

In my experience, the teens who do this kind of poo poo are basically just teens, and most of them will grow out of it. The people you have to worry about are the ones like the 22-year-old in the story, who are very sad people and/or stay in that sort of fandom community mostly to have access to teens.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 03:59

christmas boots: Oct 15, 2012; To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

I know I came down on the side of defending a moderate intake of anime (2 units a day per men, 1 for women, less than 4 a week) however based purely on Cough Drop The Beat's posts I am prepared to reverse my decision and unequivocally state that there is no "safe" level of anime consumption and that any amount can lead to increased levels of pedo-- *ahem* ephebophilia, poor hygiene, and erectile dysfunction.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 04:03

lazorexplosion: Mar 19, 2016

Hi is this the thread for weirdos to have meltdowns in that are completely unrelated to /r/relationships?

# ? Feb 13, 2017 04:10

Gumbel2Gumbel: Apr 28, 2010

All I got was that he was bragging about eating dessert, day drinking, his weekly shower, and hanging out with a man with long fingers

# ? Feb 13, 2017 04:12

Batterypowered7: Aug 8, 2009; The mist that chills you keeps me warm.

I wonder what his girlfriend would think if she found out just how invested he is into proving other internet autists wrong.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 04:13

Streak: May 16, 2004; by Nyc_Tattoo

Batterypowered7 posted:

I wonder what his girlfriend would think if she found out just how invested he is into proving other internet autists wrong.

Body pillows don't think, so probably nothing.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 04:14

value-brand cereal: May 2, 2008

Antivehicular posted:

In my experience, the teens who do this kind of poo poo are basically just teens, and most of them will grow out of it. The people you have to worry about are the ones like the 22-year-old in the story, who are very sad people and/or stay in that sort of fandom community mostly to have access to teens.

Aaaand then you have my older sister, room full of sailor moon products and reading dog dick supernatural fics :smith:

Sometimes they escape. Sometimes that have an A3O account that's bookmarked all the spn dog dick fics out there.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 04:18

Cough Drop The Beat: Jan 22, 2012; by Lowtax

value-brand cereal posted:

Aaaand then you have my older sister, room full of sailor moon products and reading dog dick supernatural fics

Call me.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 04:18

CheesyDog: Jul 4, 2007; by FactsAreUseless

value-brand cereal posted:

Aaaand then you have my older sister, room full of sailor moon products and reading dog dick supernatural fics Sometimes they escape. Sometimes that have an A3O account that's bookmarked all the spn dog dick fics out there.

did she have a good time at her brunch date

# ? Feb 13, 2017 04:19

tactlessbastard: Feb 4, 2001; Godspeed, post; Fun Shoe

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

You're so cute.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 04:22

Hughlander: May 11, 2005

Antivehicular posted:

Okay, time to drop the bomb of... whatever this is:

I[15F] am uncomfortable with my online friend [22F] due to her overall negative attitude. However, I feel like "the bad one," for being so uncomfortable. Should I ditch her?Non-Romantic
submitted an hour ago by __throwingitaway

Christ, what a loving ungodly mess. Bets that the game is Overwatch?

Bets the 22 she is a he and he's grooming?

# ? Feb 13, 2017 04:50

DAD LOST MY IPOD: Feb 3, 2012; Fats Dominar is on the case

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

I haven't watched any anime today, actually, since I don't define my life around a single hobby, but sure.

"theres more to me than just anime, im more than just a kawaii face!" he said, sitting down to post about anime 30 times in a row

Hughlander posted:

Bets the 22 she is a he and he's grooming?

close to 0; being familiar with that community i think she is a she
and she's grooming

# ? Feb 13, 2017 05:20

Antivehicular: Dec 30, 2011; I wanna sing one for the cars
That are right now headed silent down the highway
And it's dark and there is nobody driving And something has got to give

DAD LOST MY IPOD posted:

close to 0; being familiar with that community i think she is a she
and she's grooming

Yeah, grooming in fandom communities like this is extremely open to all genders and sexualities of creep. I'd guess this woman is probably representing herself honestly enough, just... yeah.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 05:27

Mekchu: Apr 10, 2012; by Jeffrey of YOSPOS

lazorexplosion posted:

Hi is this the thread for weirdos to have meltdowns in that are completely unrelated to /r/relationships?

Nice meltdown over the meltdown.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 06:11

ArbitraryC: Jan 28, 2009; Pick a number, any number; Pillbug

Psycho Society posted:

This seems like a disproportionate amount of angst being directed at a handful of people making casual jokes about your hobby. Do you get a notification on your phone whenever someone besmirches the name of anime, or is it just an unsettled feeling that something must be set right in the universe?

To be fair I think there's some things where people get overly aggressive about online then claim anyone who goes "hey i don't think that's fair" is being overly defensive.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 06:36

Streak: May 16, 2004; by Nyc_Tattoo

we've come full circle. anime chat derailed Mirthless posting but now i wish Mirthless would start posting again so everyone would see how lame this topic is.

anime is poo poo, is what i'm saying.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 07:47

Jeffrey of YOSPOS: Dec 22, 2005; GET LOSE, YOU CAN'T COMPARE WITH MY POWERS

Stop posting about anime.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 08:06

christmas boots: Oct 15, 2012; To these sing-alongs 🎤of siren 🧜🏻‍♀️songs
To oohs😮 to ahhs😱 to 👏big👏applause👏
With all of my 😡anger I scream🤬 and shout📢
🇺🇸America🦅, I love you 🥰but you're freaking 💦me 😳out; Biscuit Hider

lazorexplosion posted:

Hi is this the thread for weirdos to have meltdowns in that are completely unrelated to /r/relationships?

Right this way, sir. Will you be needing the wine menu this evening?

# ? Feb 13, 2017 08:37

Mx.: Dec 16, 2006; I'm a great fan! When I watch TV I'm always saying "That's political correctness gone mad!"
Why thankyew!

My [19F] grandma [70sF] posts negative things about me on facebook.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 08:58

Cumslut1895: Feb 18, 2015; by FactsAreUseless

Evangellion and Attack On Titan were pretty good.

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Are you still harping on all anime-likers as pedophiles? Lmao. You're so cute. Yup, the massive industry with hundreds of shows released in America by Funimation and other companies grossing millions of dollars per year and selling merchandise to millions of people with ordinary jobs and postgraduate degrees all across the country is releasing illegal pedophile cartoons. You're really so cute. What's your next hilarious meme?

Cough Drop The Beat claimed this post was a joke.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 09:19

Sapphic Socialism: Jan 7, 2017; All your favourite video game characters are gay and trans.

quote:

My[22M] best friend 20[F] of 8 years has been regularly approached by a strange guy[24] from school who tells her off the wall things and makes us worried he's mentally ill. (very religious, sees things, goes out of his way to see her).

Okay so my best friend and I just started school together. There are a few people I'll mention in this. My[22m] best friend who we'll call Jesse[20f], her boyfriend[20m], and finally the weird guy who we'll call Steve[24m]. Jesse's told me all of these things over the past few weeks.
This has been going on for about a month now. I do not personally know Steve, but Jesse's boyfriend had a class with him last semester, and said he was very off. Steve took a liking to him and asked him after class if he'd like to hold hands with him and pray to which the boyfriend no. Since then Steve has not said a word to him.
So the first week of this semester Jesse found that she shared an entire free class period with Steve. Steve sat down with her since she was by herself and didn't have any friends to sit by, and quickly told her his story of how much of a die hard vegan, and Christian he was. He went on to say that he had seen visions of different religious figures and even talked to them. At one point Jesse stopped showing interest and Steve showed annoyance. Jesse didn't know how to respond. She said he gave off a really creepy vibe and made her uncomfortable.
Steve has approached a couple of Jesse's friends and other girls but most quickly show no interest in his stories. For some reason, even Jesse's attempt at not being interested isn't enough. At one time Steve told Jesse she was different from other girls, greatly adding to the creepiness.
Steve will go out of his way to get Jesse to see him. Once when she was sitting with a friend studying. She could see Steve getting up and sitting down in various spots around her peripheral vision in hopes she would say hello. Jesse ended up ignoring him and Steve finally just sat down between Jesse and her friend. Her friend, who does not like Steve told him Jesse was busy studying. Steve was quick to say how important her education was and left.
We noticed a pattern with Steve's interactions with Jesse. He seems to only approach her if she's alone or with another girl. For instance, after class one day, I walked to the library with Jesse. We both saw Steve, and he saw us, but he said nothing. He stood up, I guess waiting for her to acknowledge him and say hello, but she didn't so he just watched us awkwardly as we walked. He also does not approach Jesse if she is with her boyfriend. They even hugged in front of him in hopes that due to the rejection Steve received from him, would make Jesse less of an interest and he would stop approaching her.
Well unfortunately, last week we learned that was not the case. Jesse's been leaving right after class and going home between classes to avoid Steve. Unfortunately she got back to school too early and there he was. This time Steve said some really off putting things. He told her that he was no longer interested in God because God was a man and he liked women better and wanted to worship a woman. Then he said something that made us wonder if he was actually screwing with her. He said he wanted to start worshiping Santa Claus, "but not the kid kind, that'd be silly, the other kind". He also talked about seeing demonic visions and just weirder stuff than normal.
I don't know what to think of this. He sounds like a total schitzo. Almost every conversation consists of seeing something that's not real. I know some of what he's said might seem like a prank, but I seriously think he's delusional and I am worried for Jesse's safety. I don't see why he would put up with overly religious act for over a semester, and then now, say what he said. The santa thing sounds like trolling, but the demonic visions and stuff. I don't know. I've decided to rework my work schedule and I'm going to school an hour early to stay with Jesse before class so that Steve can back off.
The thing is, Steve hasn't done anything, he's just said off the wall poo poo to Jesse which makes us worried about what his intentions are. The whole worshiping women thing and this and that is creepy. It's just that in this day and age, you never know what's going on in people's heads or their intentions so it's scary.
Am I, and Jesse worried over nothing or does this guy actually seem like he could be a threat? Jesse is planning on telling her boyfriend to tell Steve to stop talking to her. I've been tempted to tell the school about him. But like I said, he's never threatened her.
Opinions greatly appreciated here, sorry if this was pointless but it's on my mind and I'm worried about my friend.
tl;dr: Best friend is regularly being approached by an apparent mental case who really likes her, and we're not sure what to do or if we should be worried.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 10:06

Pick: Jul 19, 2009; Nap Ghost

Antivehicular posted:

My[30M] SO [26F] is clumsy to the point its becoming embarrassing to go out with her.[new]
submitted 49 minutes ago by embaresed

I always wonder whether these people are exaggerating "my wife has dropped a fork a couple times when we eat out" in posts like this or whether this many people are really in relationships with Mr. Bean

She's doing it to be cute because pop culture has told women that men think that being clumsy is adorable and a great way to seem unthreatening.

# ? Feb 13, 2017 10:40

Pick: Jul 19, 2009; Nap Ghost

I know this because I did that for a short while, and instead of coming across as "Oh, I make mistakes like you, tee hee!" instead it came across as low-grade seizures and eventually I realized I was just playing this really uncomfortable game of pretending to be kinda... you know... in the head, and suddenly you're like, if this is turning a guy on, then he's probably not The One

# ? Feb 13, 2017 10:42

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# ? May 14, 2024 20:26

Antivehicular: Dec 30, 2011; I wanna sing one for the cars
That are right now headed silent down the highway
And it's dark and there is nobody driving And something has got to give

Pick posted:

She's doing it to be cute because pop culture has told women that men think that being clumsy is adorable and a great way to seem unthreatening.

Oh, right, the 75% Of Female Protagonists in YA Fiction Effect

# ? Feb 13, 2017 10:45

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