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Barudak
May 7, 2007

If you bring your black significant other over and they belt out Moonriver but retitled Mooncricket it doesnt really matter that they didnt say the nword or that they tastefully choreographed the porchmonkey sequence.

An intensely white friend of mine married a black woman, has a half black kid and a hella racist set of parents. Telling them to gently caress off forever if they couldnt clean their racism up worked on 50% of them and made it so he saves a ton of time not having to deal with the other 50%.

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Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

Barudak posted:

An intensely white friend of mine married a black woman, has a half black kid and a hella racist set of parents. Telling them to gently caress off forever if they couldnt clean their racism up worked on 50% of them and made it so he saves a ton of time not having to deal with the other 50%.

Incredibly wise.

Moridin920
Nov 15, 2007

by FactsAreUseless

Pick posted:

I hate to break it to you, hon, but white guys, generally speaking, are extremely big wieners and they will avoid any fight they possibly can. Even if their honor is on the line, or they're egregiously disrespected, they'll find a way to try to wiener out of it. They won't even take it or address it coolly--that's what classy men do--they'll try to capitulate and roll around on the floor and wring their hands and flop around like a big ol wiener.

so much for the tolerant left...

Tolkien minority
Feb 14, 2012


Moridin920 posted:

so much for the tolerant left...

actually i think you will find it is cool and good to stereotype religions, races and gender as long as you do it to the right ones

CannonFodder
Jan 26, 2001

Passion’s Wrench

Moridin920 posted:

so much for the tolerant left...

She implied white men have big floppy wieners which I know is a lie.


Oh, she said that we are wieners. Whoopsie

CharlestheHammer
Jun 26, 2011

YOU SAY MY POSTS ARE THE RAVINGS OF THE DUMBEST PERSON ON GOD'S GREEN EARTH BUT YOU YOURSELF ARE READING THEM. CURIOUS!

CannonFodder posted:

She implied white men have big floppy wieners which I know is a lie.


Oh, she said that we are wieners. Whoopsie

That part is extremely true

Nazzadan
Jun 22, 2016



White guys generally avoid fights just look at soccer hooligans, hocky fans, rednecks, bros, people in lifted trucks. Wait there is definitely some overlap in these groups.


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I'm feeling left behind by him.


quote:

I've been dating my boyfriend for nearly a year, he's 22 and I'm 25. He's finishing up at school, and I've been working a full-time job to save some cash for pursuing my dream (training horses) in the spring. He plans to be a cop.
For the past six months, I've been planning to move back to California to start up my own business training horses. When I first told my BF, he was accepting of my plans, and even began to make plans to follow me out there, when he's done with school. I didn't believe him at first (personal self-esteem issues), but in the last half-year, he's begun to talk marriage and our future together. I've taken this as a good sign, and trusted his word.
A month ago, he told me he applied to be a police officer in town. This would mean a commitment of at least a few years. He assured me it was "just to see what to expect" down the line, but I think he's protecting my feelings. Who applies for their dream job, without really wanting it a bit? I know him, and I know a big part of him wants this job.
When we had planned our future, it had been assumed he'd follow me out to CA a semester later, after he graduates. But now, unless he did full-time classes in summer (9-12 units), he'd end up being here for one more academic year. He's taken on a big study load this semester to try and graduate soon, but I don't think it's beneficial for him.
Also, because of his busy semester, we're no longer hanging out as often as we used to, and I feel forgotten. I know it's because he's working towards our future, but this huge decrease in time together, coupled with my fears over the police trials he's doing this weekend, are really making me doubt our future.
TL;DR : He's studying hard so we can build a life together sooner, but I feel I'm on the back burner. He's applying for a job in town which would probably mean the end of our relationship, and I'm scared.

From the comments

quote:

When you say train horses, you know race tracks are dying out and horse business is crapping out to nothing right?
OP

quote:

I've been riding horses since I was 8, and working with problem horses since I was 17. I'm well aware there's no money in it. I like to help horses, is all. Good thing I like rice and beans.

Oooh now I get it, you are worried your meal ticket might stay in town instead of paying for everything while you pursue a hobby as a career going into it knowing you won't be making money

Moridin920
Nov 15, 2007

by FactsAreUseless

quote:

When you say train horses, you know race tracks are dying out and horse business is crapping out to nothing right?

quote:

I've been riding horses since I was 8, and working with problem horses since I was 17. I'm well aware there's no money in it. I like to help horses, is all. Good thing I like rice and beans.

Idk where these people are but in Del Mar, CA the horse business is alive and well.

You'd vomit to see how much these richers shell out for their horse gear it's disgusting.

Hughlander
May 11, 2005

Nazzadan posted:


Content
I'm feeling left behind by him.



From the comments

OP


Oooh now I get it, you are worried your meal ticket might stay in town instead of paying for everything while you pursue a hobby as a career going into it knowing you won't be making money

Cop to be is not really a meal ticket...



Also escort test had a deleted follow up about teaming up with the gf and getting revenge on lying escort. Thread called out the bs of it.

Nazzadan
Jun 22, 2016



Moridin920 posted:

Idk where these people are but in Del Mar, CA the horse business is alive and well.

You'd vomit to see how much these richers shell out for their horse gear it's disgusting.

I was blown away at the size of Del Mar's horse area thingy. Gfs mom lives right next to it, and gf is a horse person. Expect me in a r/relationships post soon

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My girlfriends [20F] mom won't let me visit her until I [20M] fix situation with parents

quote:

Me and my girlfriend of 3 years are 5 hours away, and I plan on visiting her by plane in November, but now I am stuck in a rock and a hard place. At first I was going to visit, but ever since her mom found out me and parents aren't getting along because of personal reasons, she's forbidding me from seeing her until I get this fixed with my parents.
To sum up quickly, ever since I told my parents I am visiting my girlfriend 2 month ago, when they said no, I got really upset for the first time and tried saying my feelings why I need to go without screaming, yelling, I did it in the adult way, then they got super super mad and in the end they lost their temper and did hurtful things physically and emotionally. (This is just the condensed story) Now for months, me and my parents do not get well along anymore , they don't want anything to do with me, and no matter how many times I say sorry to them they don't care. They said to just do my own thing, their tired of me. It seems like I'm just beating a dead horse with my parents.
The reason why my girlfriends mom doesn't want me to go is because she said my parents will be even more angry that I just went, but really my parents even said "go if you want to, you're free to go." My parent's seem to not care anymore.
I don't know how to go about talking to her mom and my girlfriend. I was thinking of lying, but then I feel like karma will hit me, and make things worse, because I'd be lying to my girlfriend and her mom, but yet my parents or my girlfriends mom haven't talked to each other except once for like 2 minutes and they don't keep in any contact. I don't know what I should do, because personally talking to them at this point is no use, their done with me. How should I talk to her mom without making a huge lie? I'm fine with white lies.
tl;dr: Girlfriends mom is forbidding me from visiting her until I fix situation with parents, but no matter how many times I say sorry to them, they don't care anymore. It's like beating a dead horse.

This one just confuses me

Nazzadan fucked around with this message at 01:08 on Feb 17, 2017

Barudak
May 7, 2007

Moridin920 posted:

Idk where these people are but in Del Mar, CA the horse business is alive and well.

You'd vomit to see how much these richers shell out for their horse gear it's disgusting.

They dont live in Del Mar and none of these people have vetrinary degrees. I know a gal who loves horses but knew she could never afford them so she got an equine focused degree. Now she works with horses all day and makea a loving killing on extremely flexible hours.

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Pick posted:

I hate to break it to you, hon, but white guys, generally speaking, are extremely big wieners and they will avoid any fight they possibly can. Even if their honor is on the line, or they're egregiously disrespected, they'll find a way to try to wiener out of it. They won't even take it or address it coolly--that's what classy men do--they'll try to capitulate and roll around on the floor and wring their hands and flop around like a big ol wiener.

*raises hand to object, then decides not worth causing a scene*

Well, we're all entitled to our opinions hahaha!

Moridin920
Nov 15, 2007

by FactsAreUseless
I think Pink is right about like middle-class or higher white men for sure tbh. A lot of them will posture like they are tough but you actually step at them and they quickly fold and start trying to bro it out. Which is fine, I'm not about fighting when it isn't necessary but yeah it doesn't surprise me that the dude isn't standing up for his gf and trying to just go 'it's not that big a deal just let's ignore it and move on!'

Barudak posted:

They dont live in Del Mar and none of these people have vetrinary degrees. I know a gal who loves horses but knew she could never afford them so she got an equine focused degree. Now she works with horses all day and makea a loving killing on extremely flexible hours.

She did say she was planning on moving to CA though? That's the only reason I mentioned it.

Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 01:15 on Feb 17, 2017

Laughing Man
Feb 11, 2008
I thought what I’d do was pretend I was one of those deaf mutes, or something...

Nazzadan posted:

I was blown away at the size of Del Mar's horse area thingy. Gfs mom lives right next to it, and gf is a horse person. Expect me in a r/relationships post soon

Edit content:

My girlfriends [20F] mom won't let me visit her until I [20M] fix situation with parents


This one just confuses me

Saul then said, "Thus you shall say to David, 'The king does not desire any dowry except a hundred foreskins of the Philistines, to take vengeance on the king's enemies.'

He ain't getting those foreskins.

Nazzadan
Jun 22, 2016



My friend [24 M] refuses to leave his unfaithful wife [24F].

quote:

My friend Mark* [24M] and his wife Clare* [24F] have been dating on and off for 5 years.
They got married last February at Clare's suggestion.
Mark is a shy tinkerer who likes gaming, guns and repairs computers for a living. Clare is outspoken and individualistic with varied interests. Clare alternates between living on a farm with her mum and staying with Mark at his parent's house.
Mark and Clare tend to go through fads together (surfing, archery, motorbikes, bee-keeping, firearms, horses). In that sense they have a lot of common interests. They have a solid friendship. Even I get along well with her - I just hate the choices she makes.
In 5 years Clare has broken up with Mark a total of 5 times (3-6 months each time). In those 5 years she's been with at least 4 or 5 other men. One time in particular she got with another friend's boyfriend whilst still with Mark.
It's always for the same reason: she feels trapped and Mark isn't giving her what she needs (an assertive, adventurous, spontaneous man who satisfies her sexually). Every time Mark shows even the slimmest signs of moving on she runs back to him, promising she'll never leave again. He accepts her with open arms.
Two months ago, Clare asked for a divorce. Mark haggled her down to a 3 month trial separation. Recently Clare went topless in front of everyone at Mark's birthday and she's basically treating the separation like single life in every way.
In spite of all the heartache, Mark still believes Clare is his soul mate and constantly focuses on the happy memories. He is convinced the "good times" are worth her "relapses". He's trying to win her back by waiting patiently. In his defence this worked every other time.
I think Clare is beyond help and it's up to Mark to fix things. Clare wants to have her cake foot massages and cuddles whilst also being able to eat it too screw whoever she wants and not be tied down. She's very self-centred.
All our friends more or less agree that they are no good for each other. Two of them have basically cut Clare out of their lives and despise her. At one stage I was refusing to talk to her.
Clare is the only girl Mark has ever been with. I think this is part of the problem.
Mark wants to have a family, but he always puts Clare first. Clare doesn't want kids because she thinks they'll hold her life back.
It's self destructive, right Reddit? Mark has no self esteem. He's depressed and every time she leaves him he's completely crushed.
I want Mark to be happy. I want him to find someone who treats him with respect and kindness. If Clare really loved him she would leave him alone and not look back. How do I get through to him, /r/relationships?
*Not their real names.
TL;DR: Mark's wife of 9 months (currently separated) Clare has been unfaithful/broken up 5 times in their 5 year relationship. They're no good for each other and Mark is miserable. He is still devoted to her, like some kind of abuse victim. How do I get through to him?

Wew...

Moridin920
Nov 15, 2007

by FactsAreUseless
I've been to some parties where quite a few people ended up topless whether they were single or not but I think that isn't what happened there.

yeesh that sounds like poo poo.

Stunt_enby
Feb 6, 2010

by Jeffrey of YOSPOS

Tolkien minority posted:

actually i think you will find it is cool and good to stereotype religions, races and gender as long as you do it to the right ones
agreed, except unironically

I Was The Fury
Oct 19, 2012

Always stop to smell the flowers, just in case they're weeds

Moridin920 posted:

I've been to some parties where quite a few people ended up topless whether they were single or not but I think that isn't what happened there.

yeesh that sounds like poo poo.

Normal person: wow she flashed everyone while at a party, very rude and disrespectful to partner unless they are into that

Moridin: I have seen people be top less at parties. This does not sound like the same situation

Mirthless: I have been in this exact situation and let me tell you why the garbage woman is actually the protagonist in this story over the course of 30 posts

Psycho Society
Oct 21, 2010
I'm not even wearing a shirt RIGHT NOW guys

Psycho Society
Oct 21, 2010
JK I am that'd be weird. Gotta be modest

Gumbel2Gumbel
Apr 28, 2010

TheScott2K posted:

That is a fact. The number of people out there who think "having things in common" means having the same media consumption preferences is sadly high.

Just wanted to highlight this good post

LethalGeek
Nov 4, 2009

I Was The Fury posted:

Normal person: wow she flashed everyone while at a party, very rude and disrespectful to partner unless they are into that

Moridin: I have seen people be top less at parties. This does not sound like the same situation

Mirthless: I have been in this exact situation and let me tell you why the garbage woman is actually the protagonist in this story over the course of 30 posts

Wait I don't want to go to the parties with the topless women? :confused:

TheScott2K
Oct 26, 2003

I'm just saying, there's a nonzero chance Trump has a really toad penis.
I touched a boob once

A Wizard of Goatse
Dec 14, 2014

Gumbel2Gumbel posted:

Just wanted to highlight this good post

Tbf most of these folks got nothing behind the eyes but a set of media preferences anyway

tactlessbastard
Feb 4, 2001

Godspeed, post
Fun Shoe
An escort told the person that hired them what they wanted to hear? Why I never!

Gumbel2Gumbel
Apr 28, 2010

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

Tbf most of these folks got nothing behind the eyes but a set of media preferences anyway

Yep. I look for kindness and rationality first and work backwards from there.

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

Tbf most of these folks got nothing behind the eyes but a set of media preferences anyway

Tears In A Vial
Jan 13, 2008

I wanted to search 'Hobbies' on r/relationships to see how many people listed video games, but the first result was the garlic bread one and it made me laugh all over again.

I'm not gonna repost it because we'll get another eight pages of goons sperging out about how people write CV's and resumes differently in different countries and it's fuckin boring, but it is a good post and you should go read it again.

Play
Apr 25, 2006

Strong stroll for a mangy stray

Gumbel2Gumbel posted:

Just wanted to highlight this good post

Yeah and it's honestly really sad. My girlfriend likes to watch films with me if I can convince her it'll be something she likes. I love foreign, action, crime, dramedy, dark humor, anything that actually seems thought out and interesting. She likes horror movies and super trashy television that she knows is bad but loves anyways. It's probably the least important element of our entire relationship. Sometimes I'll invite her to watch a move with me, maybe show her the trailer or give a description, and she'll just say yes I do or no I don't I'll do my own thing. And that is a-okay with me because she doesn't insist or even want me to watch her favorite shows with her. I just can't think of a more facile way to identify with someone than the specific mass media consumed.

I've heard people say that too, "we just LOVE watching stuff together, and when we first met we figured out game of thrones was our favorite tv show! we were meant for each other!" News flash the majority of people enjoy game of thrones, breaking bad, the wire, or whatever other thing you seem to think is unique to yourselves. It was produced from the ground up to be as entertaining to as many people in your demographic as possible.

Then, as Pick said the more important considerations of life goals, libido levels or sexual preferences, the way both people like to spend their time, whether they want kids, how ambitious they are, etc... just aren't always part of the equation for some bizarre reason.

chitoryu12 posted:

This seemed normal until she started accusing her boyfriend of leading her into a racist trap and considering dumping a guy she's dated for more than half the year because of people she doesn't even need to hang around.

Gotta disagree here. The way he minimized her discomfort and refused to appropriately recognize his family's flaws is a huge problem. If he had said "Oh my god I'm so sorry, I had no idea they were going to be that bad, I won't let that happen to you again even if we have to skip holidays with the family because they won't change" then it would probably be a different story. But her telling of that encounter was just painful, and those people are never really going to change most likely. If it had been my family treating a gf that way I would've had words with them right there so they know to either treat her with kindness and humanity or we're not coming by again.

To summarize, he sounds like a weenie and a momma's boy and if he can't understand what was wrong with that, then she's right to question their future together.

Leon Einstein posted:

That was my favorite part too. How is that even possible?

That entire epic would've been better summarized by a haiku:

Kept buying the lube
Even though sensitive skin
Nay; always expired

Nazzadan posted:

Oh simple, you are dating a druggie manchild that still lives with his ex and she pays for everything and they are totally still banging, move on. Oh look an update, surely she just left him and moved on with life
:catstare:

Haha the story begins pretty drat strange with some bad vibes definitely. By the end it's revealed that she's a trainwreck of a stripper saved from overdose by CPR (wonder if friend even called 911) and then gets assaulted by her crazy boyfriend who very obviously was hiding things (everything) from her.

For all that, I really feel for her. It's drat hard to hit the bottom like that and I hope she bounces back and stays clean.

Antivehicular posted:

I feel like the issue there is that, if you own horses, it kind of controls your life in ways that owning cats doesn't. All these horse-person stories inevitably involve the horse person dedicating the majority of their time and money to the horses, and while that's a perfectly fine and respectable life to live if it's what you love, I can see how it can cause issues with relationships.

I had the (probably not original idea) that there's another reason horse girls are crazy. Knowing several in junior high and dating a few in high school, my theory was based on something I heard: that girls who ride horses often experience their first orgasm doing so. This is really not hard to believe at all, and getting your first orgasm from a biddable beast entirely under your control could leave some people with a skewed sense of sexuality.

That being said, it's unscience and bullshit speculation of the worst kind that sounds like it came from a high schooler (it did)

Pick posted:

I hate to break it to you, hon, but white guys, generally speaking, are extremely big wieners and they will avoid any fight they possibly can. Even if their honor is on the line, or they're egregiously disrespected, they'll find a way to try to wiener out of it. They won't even take it or address it coolly--that's what classy men do--they'll try to capitulate and roll around on the floor and wring their hands and flop around like a big ol wiener.

Obvious troll; true in many situations but not in plenty of others. Most of it has to do with the experience a man has in a fight. They seem really scary if you've never been in one before and they should ALWAYS try to be avoided. I've been in plenty of fights and I run from any I can and sucker punch or otherwise cheat if I can't. But fights are scary and the surge of adrenaline gets people acting weird, literally fight or flight and usually flight

Tears In A Vial
Jan 13, 2008

Here are two people with terrible hobbies

quote:

My boyfriend (28m) keeps telling me (26f) that I don't have any hobbies, but I'm just not into HIS hobbies.

We've been dating for three years, and things have, I guess, hit some kind of a rough patch. We finally moved in together, and he gets frustrated with me a lot because he doesn't think I'm doing anything.

I use my phone a lot. I check social media a lot. It's one of my hobbies. Tumblr, Instagram, Twitter, etc. Pinterest and sometimes things like Buzzfeed or Huffpo, Facebook, etc. I have a lot of friends on social media, some people I've met, and honestly, getting on Twitter after a long day and talking to some of my friends is one of the best ways to relax.

Well, Derek has this idea that social media isn't a hobby, that it's only for vapid attention seekers (because god forbid someone wants attention, right?), and he says that he's sick of coming home to find me on Twitter or something.

Naturally, I asked him what hobbies he thinks I should be doing instead. Of course, as expected, he talks about video games, programming, etc. I've told him a million times that I just don't like video games, I'm not into programming or stuff like that. I have other things I like to do. I read, I go to the gym, I do my makeup and nails, I watch TV.

He gets mad that I won't play video games with him, but I honestly don't like them. They're just boring to me. If he wants to play them, he can knock himself out, but just like I wouldn't expect him to hit up sales with me, I don't think it's fair for him to expect that I'll waste my time doing something mind numbingly boring to me.

It's not even that I spend all my time when he gets home on it. More often than not, though, he goes off to play some video game, and then he comes back and complains that I'm just "sitting around, waiting for him" when I'm not.

I don't know how to handle this. I know a lot of MRA types have sticks up their asses about "omg vapid attention whores" on social media, but that's not who he's shown himself to be to me.

How do I get him to back off?

tl;dr: My BF doesn't think my hobbies are good enough because they aren't some nerdy hobbies like his. I don't know how to get him to back off and just let me do what I want to do!

TheScott2K
Oct 26, 2003

I'm just saying, there's a nonzero chance Trump has a really toad penis.

Tears In A Vial posted:

Here are two people with terrible hobbies

Wow. Those sure are two sets of non-interests.

Captain Yossarian
Feb 24, 2011

All new" Rings of Fire"
I've hosed

Gumbel2Gumbel
Apr 28, 2010


That's cool OP your mom sounds like a really great person

TheScott2K
Oct 26, 2003

I'm just saying, there's a nonzero chance Trump has a really toad penis.
Searching "gaming PC" sure gives a lot of fun results.

Gaunab
Feb 13, 2012
LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL
There have been a ton of post about how much gaming/gamers suck and such. Let's try not to go through that for the umpteenth time.

Tears In A Vial
Jan 13, 2008

Gaunab posted:

There have been a ton of post about how much gaming/gamers suck and such. Let's try not to go through that for the umpteenth time.

if we exclude all the posts that talk about video games or anime we'd be left with just the violent assault ones and I don't wanna read those

Pick
Jul 19, 2009
Nap Ghost

Tears In A Vial posted:

Here are two people with terrible hobbies

tell him to eat poo poo and die

TheScott2K
Oct 26, 2003

I'm just saying, there's a nonzero chance Trump has a really toad penis.

Gaunab posted:

There have been a ton of post about how much gaming/gamers suck and such. Let's try not to go through that for the umpteenth time.

Hitting a little close to home?

Khorne
May 1, 2002

boner confessor posted:

someone who doesn't want to be constantly cleaning piss crust off a toilet aka a grown rear end adult
I am having a real odd moment where I am realizing that most men who aren't me can piss sitting down.

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Gaunab
Feb 13, 2012
LUFTHANSA YOU FUCKING DICKWEASEL

TheScott2K posted:

Hitting a little close to home?


I wish. I haven't played a video game in around 3 years but I'm telling you that how much gamers suck has really been pounded into the ground.

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