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Subjunctive posted:I'm doing a bunch of work on improving diversity and quality of life for non-bros, and my mantra is "more mediocre women". You shouldn't have to be a loving superhero to have a comfortable career in tech as a woman or PoC. God knows white men don't. i'm a woman on an engineering team, and my boss told me that the women applying to work with us are near-invariably EXTREMELY overqualified i often feel as if the devs are overly harsh on female interviewees, but since i'm not a dev (i'm QA), i can't really say for sure. however, there was a blond thin former model who could barely speak english and did not know what pivotal was who they wanted to hire until she decided to stay at her current job. hmm. Pick posted:I remember meeting a female engineer in a very, very heavily male dominated field (even for engineering), and she told me that on her first day, as the first female in the entire company, her boss took her aside and said, "There's no sexism at this company, so don't go playing the 'woman card'." in a conversation during our first female dev's welcome lunch, one of my coworkers said "as a man, laundry just isn't something i was born to do." fortunately, this is the most blatantly sexist thing i've ever heard any of them say, and the entire rest of the team was appalled.
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YeahTubaMike posted:in a conversation during our first female dev's welcome lunch, one of my coworkers said "as a man, laundry just isn't something i was born to do." fortunately, this is the most blatantly sexist thing i've ever heard any of them say, and the entire rest of the team was appalled. I hope someone shut him up with something like, "As a man the only thing you were born to do is poo poo yourself, luckily you can be trained for the rest." loving hate that casual sexism not being called out.
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Laundry is the best chore ever, too. Take thirty seconds to sort poo poo, toss in a load, go watch TV until you put it in the dryer and start another load, repeat. Then take ten minutes to fold it all. It's like the only chore where the vast majority of it is just straight up free time. Unless you don't own a washing machine, I guess.
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Hughlander posted:I hope someone shut him up with something like, "As a man the only thing you were born to do is poo poo yourself, luckily you can be trained for the rest." none of us had a snappy comeback, but at least one of us said "what the gently caress is wrong with you" and it was probably me food court bailiff posted:Laundry is the best chore ever, too. Take thirty seconds to sort poo poo, toss in a load, go watch TV until you put it in the dryer and start another load, repeat. Then take ten minutes to fold it all. It's like the only chore where the vast majority of it is just straight up free time. laundry is my favorite chore. i love sorting clothes, doing change calculations, measuring out detergent, etc. plus, the laundromat down the street from me has wifi
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Every time I go to the laundromat another dryer is marked as FOR STORE USE ONLY and another one is broken also the lady running the place looks like a melted candle Boyfriend's [32M] parents will show up at our house whenever we have a fight. I'm [28F] slowly losing it. quote:So I live with my boyfriend [32M] of three years and we live approximately 3-4 hours away in the next closest city. The problem, which has slowly been driving me insane, is that every time my boyfriend and I have any sort of argument or get upset in any sort of way, his parents [69F,75M] will always find a way to get involved in one way or another.
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"Thank you for your concern, but this is an issue between the two of us and we will discuss it privately. How is your garden coming along, Eleanor?" And then politely and kindly and continuously repeat that it's not their business while redirecting conversation. When they're gone, dump your boyfriend and get someone who will stand up and tell his parents MYOB, we're adults and we can handle this ourselves.
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:Every time I go to the laundromat another dryer is marked as FOR STORE USE ONLY and another one is broken lol, here's an age gap story that breaks the mold a little if you can't even have a discussion about your dead sister's pet without your boyfriend telling his parents on you you should probably , lady, there is nothing in this relationship worth saving Mirthless fucked around with this message at 17:35 on Feb 20, 2017 |
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Renegret posted:wow rude I already made that joke UGH I sat on my hot joke for too long and now I look like an rear end!
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Mirthless posted:
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Incoherence posted:His parents were 43 and 37 when he was born, so unless they'd been together for ~20 years at that point, no one cares about their age gap. The age gap I was referring to was the age gap between him and his parents In theory there's nothing wrong with waiting until you're in your 40s to have kids, but I think it's pretty clear it was an issue in this case
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Faffel posted:I sat on my hot joke for too long and now I look like an rear end! I acknowledge our differences and respect you, friend
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My girlfriend [23F] made a joke about cheating on me [29M] shortly after we had sex. We've been together five years. I'm incredibly hurt and upset.quote:My girlfriend and I were having sex on Friday night. During a particularly intense blowjob, I began giggling because it felt so good. She came up and starts laughing with me, then goes back to business. We engage in the usual sex, afterward we're laying in bed, I'm smoking a cigarette, and she says...
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:My girlfriend [23F] made a joke about cheating on me [29M] shortly after we had sex. We've been together five years. I'm incredibly hurt and upset. that's an awfully weird thing to joke about in an awfully weird way at an awfully peculiar time
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Mirthless posted:that's an awfully weird thing to joke about in an awfully weird way at an awfully peculiar time Yeah, the weirdest part is she didn't actually make the joke. She thought about it, managed to decide not to say it for some reason, then figured it'd be a funny thing to bring up right after...just weird. The part of me that reads this thread too much thinks this was her way of confessing to cheating, but it could also just easily be a horribly timed/thought through joke that's not worth ending a 5 year relationship over.
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Yeah, I'm guessing she actually did cheat, and that's what she's really so upset about.
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I think the guy's response is understandable given the situation, timing and way this "joke" came out. But couldn't it be that she just said something incredibly dumb with poor timing, such things do happen.
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Eh I kinda think that joke, even if it was a joke, is pretty beyond the pale
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lol it's a joke chill outquote:As soon as she said it, I immediately snapped on her. I told her, practically screamed at her, that I would never in a million years even think about joking with her about infidelity, because without the utmost trust, the relationship means nothing to me. I feel like maybe the dude snapping and screaming at someone because of a joke in poor taste is the bigger issue tbh
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That guys dumbass parents are going to cost him his marriage
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OctaMurk posted:I think the guy's response is understandable given the situation, timing and way this "joke" came out. But couldn't it be that she just said something incredibly dumb with poor timing, such things do happen. Do other couples not make jokes like that? Am I the weird one?
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54 40 or gently caress posted:That guys dumbass parents are going to cost him his marriage Yeah wtf. Lol at them all sticking up for someone they themselves admit habitually drives drunk when the girl has family that was killed by a drunk driver. How loving dumbshit can you get? I guess dumbshit enough to keep hanging out with that person in the first place. WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:Do other couples not make jokes like that? Am I the weird one? yeah I don't get what the big deal is Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 18:35 on Feb 20, 2017 |
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How DARE you joke about CHEATING after putting my DINGALING in your MOUTH during our SEXYTIMES??????????
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At least she didn't actually make the joke when she wanted to originally because he probably would have just killed her on the spot.
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:screaming at your girlfriend of 5 years so that she cries uncontrollably and begs you not to leave her then being pissy at her for 2 more days is an understandable response to a dumb joke? Yeah I skimmed it the first time and you are right that screaming was not acceptable or understandable
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54 40 or gently caress posted:That guys dumbass parents are going to cost him his marriage
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Spatial posted:He sounds like a mommy's boy. They are always terrible people. Seriously can we really blame his parents when he's the one running to tell them every time his girlfriend hurts his feefs? I mean aside from the 30 years of bad parenting it took to get there WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:screaming at your girlfriend of 5 years so that she cries uncontrollably and begs you not to leave her then being pissy at her for 2 more days is an understandable response to a dumb joke? it's a little weird to just start making jokes like this five years into the relationship he is definitely not being reasonable, still weird though Mirthless fucked around with this message at 19:04 on Feb 20, 2017 |
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Spatial posted:He sounds like a mommy's boy. They are always terrible people. Are they ever. Moridin920 posted:Yeah wtf. If my in laws did this instance number two I'd tell them to mind their own loving business, and they can feel free to sit and spin.
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Spatial posted:He sounds like a mommy's boy. They are always terrible people. When I was a teen and my Mum was talking about relationships and poo poo as you do, she mentioned mummy's boys, avoiding them and the signs to look for. It was actually very helpful! The moral. Tell your daughters how to not get stuck with mummy's boys.
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It is a loving joke, get real. And to get yelled at for that? It is even pretty funny, if you think about how jokes work.
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Mirthless posted:it's a little weird to just start making jokes like this five years into the relationship Yeah, I think that's a sense of humor you establish fairly early in the relationship and if it's not then it's understandable to be upset about it. Screaming at her until she breaks down sobbing is way overboard though. I misread the first time and thought she started crying on her own which led to me thinking maybe she did cheat. But if he started berating her first then her reaction makes more sense... Like...my wife and I don't make jokes about cheating on/leaving each other (outside of celebrity crush stuff) and if she made a joke about getting better at anything in bed because she was cheating on me I'd not find it funny and would let her know as much, but I wouldn't start berating her and acting like a dejected child for 3 days either.
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WAY TO GO WAMPA!! posted:[23F]...[29M]...been together five years well well
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Mirthless posted:that's an awfully weird thing to joke about in an awfully weird way at an awfully peculiar time Yes but what do you think about drinking bleach and have you even done it?
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I mean it just sounds like she gave a killer BJ and pulled out all the stops and made a joke about how she's been practicing.quote:Yeah, I think that's a sense of humor you establish fairly early in the relationship and if it's not then it's understandable to be upset about it. Understandable. But yeah I'm pretty sure it was just a joke on her part 100% and he then just started tripped out.
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monkeytennis posted:Yes but what do you think about drinking bleach and have you even done it? that's... a little out of nowhere
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Moridin920 posted:Understandable. But yeah I'm pretty sure it was just a joke on her part 100% and he then just started tripped out. It's the kind of joke you can make if both you and your partner have a history of/are comfortable with making those kinds of jokes with each other. If one person does it out of the blue, however, it's weird as hell. A very contextual issue.
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Naerasa posted:A very contextual issue. Yeah fair enough. Many of these are contextual issues which is why various posters agree/disagree and arguably why the thread is interesting (aside from the point and laugh we do at the obvious 'wtf' stories).
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# ? Feb 20, 2017 20:11 |
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1/10 is not a light concentration for bleach. It takes half a teaspoon per quart of water for a mix that Will decently sterilize a countertop
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Naerasa posted:It's the kind of joke you can make if both you and your partner have a history of/are comfortable with making those kinds of jokes with each other. If one person does it out of the blue, however, it's weird as hell. Weird sure, but not enough to flip out and scream at your partner.
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SirSamVimes posted:Weird sure, but not enough to flip out and scream at your partner. Nobody said it was
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Mirthless posted:that's... a little out of nowhere Look back a page or two.
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