Mirthless posted:

I could easily see this post made from the other side, with "Help, Reddit, my new boyfriend is only interested in missionary and all the hints I'm dropping are getting me nowhere!"

WampaLord posted:

Dude has a hell of a Madonna/whore complex going.

Psycho Society posted:

Idk isn't that story about rape and abusive relationships in general, not surprising a guy wouldn't want to emulate that

Psycho Society posted:

Idk isn't that story about rape and abusive relationships in general, not surprising a guy wouldn't want to emulate that

WampaLord posted:

Dude has a hell of a Madonna/whore complex going.

"I can't gently caress kinky with someone I actually like!!!!"

Psycho Society posted:

Idk isn't that story about rape and abusive relationships in general, not surprising a guy wouldn't want to emulate that

fruit on the bottom posted:

TBF, he does say that he's brought it up and apparently she only wants to do it a certain way and gets insecure if he asks to do it other ways. But I'm also pretty sure that he's explicitly comparing her to his ex in those conversations based on his comments so there's no way that's helping.

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

All you need to know about the 50 shades movies is that the actor playing Grey behaves literally exactly the same in that film as he does when playing a sexually focused serial killer in The Fall

Pick posted:

yeah it's poo poo bodice ripper of the worst tier. let me make a generalized statement about women for ~equality~, our porn is really fuckin hosed up. like there's a lot of eroticizing suffering. flowers in the attic poo poo.

also it tends to be more broadly pathetic than porn for dudes. in 50 shades, the dude forces her to eat yummy pancakes for her tummy tum because he likes a woman with "curves"

yeah the author is fat but that has nothing to do with it

Pick posted:

prime casting imho

Mirthless posted:

also if anybody is wondering why the male lead is a sociopath it's because 50 shades is literally (yes, literally literally) twilight fanfiction with the numbers filed off and he's supposed to be a soulless immortal vampire

54 40 or gently caress posted:

It's about bdsm but in a really sketchy and pretty rapey way. Basically if you know nothing about bdsm is normalizes some really unhealthy stuff

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

don't do this

Smirking_Serpent posted:

As always, the Onion was here first!

http://www.theonion.com/article/description-of-sexual-fantasy-changing-with-girlfr-2282

fruit on the bottom posted:

I've never watched the twilight movies, but I will always appreciate just how blatantly Robert Pattinson hated them. He set out to play Edward as a self-hating manic depressive, which is probably more nuance than it deserved.

Smirking_Serpent posted:

As always, the Onion was here first!

http://www.theonion.com/article/description-of-sexual-fantasy-changing-with-girlfr-2282

Psycho Society posted:

Nah it has been widely condemned by bdsm people more than anyone else, it's a pretty disturbing book by any account.

Psycho Society posted:

Nah it has been widely condemned by bdsm people more than anyone else, it's a pretty disturbing book by any account.


Haha ok bud

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My girlfriend of three years is a nude model. She does solo erotic/fetish shoots and has since before we were together. I have had many relationships before we met. She comes from a somewhat sheltered background and tells me I am the first serious relationship she has had and the only person she has ever had sex with. Because of this, I feel that I can trust her even though she is often out alone at studios and hotels rooms with men photographing her in sexual situations. All I usually ask is that she tells me where she is and what she’s doing. Sometimes I do feel jealous of the amount of time and attention she spends on other men during her work and online but I try to remind myself I’m the one she loves and is with. I never check her phone or computer and give her complete privacy. She shares her work with me so that I feel like I’m included and it’s easier to trust her. We have been living together for a year and a half now but we do have problems with our relationship. Simply, she can't trust me at all even though I've never cheated on her.

She is very distrusting of me, especially because I am a musician and sometimes out performing shows. I welcome her to come to any of my concerts and rehearsals except for those which are too far away for her to practically attend. Despite this, she constantly checks my phone, browsing history, messages and has even demanded my social media passwords. She gets angry if I talk to other women and has even messaged female friends before through my accounts to “clarify” details of our relationship.

Because of this I eventually deleted all my social media accounts. At least once a month we will get in a fight because she found something on my phone she didn’t like. Last night while I was sleeping she found a page in my phone’s browser history for “hot cosplay babes”, woke me up and started yelling at me. I’ll admit that privately I do sometimes look at pictures of other women but it’s only out of curiosity as a man and I never talk to other women with any kind of intent or interest.

I try to assure her that she is the only person I am interested in. I tell her constantly how beautiful she is and that I love her. I buy her gifts, flowers, take her out and try to treat her well but I feel like there’s nothing I can do. To make matters worse, when she is so distrusting, it makes me more and more jealous about her nude modelling. I feel it’s hypocritical she can be naked with strangers on a bed in a hotel room but she can’t trust me at all, what should I do?

tl;dr: My girlfriend does erotic modelling but I trust her and don't spy on her email/phone etc but she can't trust me and is constantly looking at my phone, emails, social media. What do I do?

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I've worried about this and of course it's possible she is cheating on me. Unfortunately there's no way for me to know truthfully.

Honestly I feel like I give more to the relationship than I get back. I pay all the bills and take care of her. She lives with me, takes care of the home and does modelling full time. While I appreciate that, I never wanted to be someone's "dad", just have a good relationship.

I can't live with things staying the same because being completely miserable for a week every month or so isn't worth it.

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She gets angry and plays the victim. She concocts stories about how I'm "using" her and posts passive aggressive comments on social media to her 150,000 followers about it. She's even threatened me to "show everyone what kind of person I really am" even though nothing has ever happened beside petty disagreements. Still I hoped she would grow up and things could get better.

Pick posted:

too loving real

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I do sometimes look at pictures of other women but it’s only out of curiosity

Streak posted:

Girlfriend [23F] is a nude model but can't trust me [32M], isn't that hypocritical?

lazorexplosion posted:

You'd think women of all people would understand that saying an entire gender is fragile is pretty insulting and lovely but irony is a dead concept in 2017.

lazorexplosion posted:

You'd think women of all people would understand that saying an entire gender is fragile is pretty insulting and lovely but irony is a dead concept in 2017.

Tolkien minority posted:

i am stoic and emotionless, like all good men should be

54 40 or gently caress posted:

No no no!!! Ugh have you even been listening?! Typical!

54 40 or gently caress posted:

That's what happens when you give something two heads and only one brain

Pick posted:

Gumbel2Gumbel posted:

All I know is when most women mention 50 shades they really just want their hair pulled and you to flip them around a bit in bed.