Serephina posted:

There's nothing funny about the dom/sub aspect of it, and for the first bit I was actually convinced this was about a group of friends of mine (ages match, ~1 year ago) before the details diverged.

It's a pretty glorious fuckup on her and her sister's part, good on him for booting her to the curb, that's a pretty nasty betrayal for that lifestyle.

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so i tired to play [exposing his equipment] of as part of the femdom lifestyle a sort of I'm in charge not you and this is what i want

Barudak posted:

Despite all her rage his dick still has escaped the cage

SpiderHyphenMan posted:

Update: Thanks for the advice everyone it really helped me out and helped me put things into perspective, i cut my sister out indefinitely today, no contact it is, luckily she didnt tell anyone and she has since removed all the posts once i told her that my SO was reporting her to the police for cyber bullying and if she doesnt take them down before he takes a picture she cold be charged and sent her some links to articles where this has happened to people so she is pretty scared atm, he doesnt intend to do this i made it up but it seamed to have the desired effect.

datajugend posted:

She told everyone, probably still is.

Barudak posted:

Despite all her rage his dick still has escaped the cage

DragQueenofAngmar posted:

Kinks are all well and good, but I think if the way you live your whole life, all day long, minute to minute, is about satisfying a sexual fetish, you should probably cool it down some. Like, every second of a person's life on earth shouldn't be about sex I don't think

Danaru posted:

Yeah I don't get that part either. "I had to threaten police action to get her to take down the public post about it, but fortunately she didn't tell anyone"

Cyberventurer posted:

I was expecting a chastity cage to be something out of Robin Hood: Men in Tights but when I googled it, it's basically a penis-shaped prison cell. So not only did she reveal the fetish stuff, she must have flashed her husband's penis to her own sister.

Most of them are about as modest as wearing a Slinky.

blackmet posted:

Decided to use the word "algorithm." Found this one.

Me [33F] with my husband [35 M] is deployed with limited communication, we have an "open" relationship, I found some things out (?), am upset, have no way to address it.

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The last time I spoke with my husband, I asked him if he could watch his spending. He got very offended and I got food poisoning which led to him either not or not being able to read my facebook messages (the country he is in does not allow video messaging, or so he says, I can't find anything definite on the internet), and me missing the call he made to me at 11:00 pm my time.

I wasn't able to resolve that issue but have sent emails him asking if he could tell me what he wants to spend in port so I can plan ahead for our budget. We won't be able to save or pay off debt, but what he is spending is doable.

I've been having problems this past week because I found pictures on our computer. I am betting he doesn't realize he has his phone set to sync with our computer when his phone charges, and it wouldn't be an issue because I don't use the desktop often. Its just that all our photos and everything are on the main account, his. I know his login and I have a right to access this stuff because there's been something wrong with my account (mac) and both of us have been lazy about fixing it. I was trying to print out a photo album for our kids, and I noticed pictures he took. I thought, "Awesome! Some more pictures of dad and his work", and also "Sigh, some porn he downloaded".

I got porn. But also pictures. Pictures of girls, women, who I guess are chatting with him online. One of them I know. Two other "regulars" are just there. There aren't that many photos, and they aren't all sexy. These women don't live near us, so I'm not worried he's going to run off as he is seriously busy working all the time.

We have an open relationship, and that was honestly what attracted me to him in the first place, I was attracted to exploring things sexually but being committed emotionally. I know I have not been there as a partner, I birthed two of his babies and my weight has not been the best, but I always allowed him the freedom to seek whatever he wanted when I was "unavailable" due to that. I feel that he has fallen into seeking things out without caring about me. I have tried to remind him of our first rule, you have to take care of your house before you go out.

My problem? I am hurt that he has been shutting me down the six months before he went out when he was chatting with other women online. I am angry that he's still doing it when I feel he isn't communicating with me enough. I haven't gotten an email since he left in July, I know he's on a mission but he told me he read the entire Song of Ice and Fire series in a month. WTF?

I am just so sad, I wish my husband, who can be so charming, just didn't seem to quit on me or our kids, one of whom is my stepdaughter (who is awesome!).

I also can't talk to him about this. He is on a submarine. He has no phone, no internet. Absolutely no internet. I can email him, text only. All emails are sent through an algorithm, if certain words pop, the email is read and edited or deleted. Plus, he's actually doing serious poo poo, so I wouldn't to distract him.

(I'm also on the east coast, so I'm seriously hitting send and then having to put my kids to bed, waaayy past their bedtime)

tl;dr: My husband, has been sexting with other women, its brining me down, I can't talk to him about it.

Ouhei posted:

Well I for one am shocked that an open relationship isn't working out.

Serephina posted:

There's nothing funny about the dom/sub aspect of it, and for the first bit I was actually convinced this was about a group of friends of mine (ages match, ~1 year ago) before the details diverged.

It's a pretty glorious fuckup on her and her sister's part, good on him for booting her to the curb, that's a pretty nasty betrayal for that lifestyle.

MinionOfCthulhu posted:

No it's actually super funny that this woman thought it'd be a good idea to pull off her husband's pants with (I imagine) the grace and flourish of a magician pulling away a tablecloth to leave all the dinnerware standing to show his sister his cock wrapped in a cage made out of jumbo paperclips.

Gumbel2Gumbel posted:

Why does no one point out he was wearing sweatpants with company over

Gumbel2Gumbel posted:

Why does no one point out he was wearing sweatpants with company over

Pick posted:

oh i just CAN'T wear trousers honey, you put my DICK in a SLINKY

Ouhei posted:

Depending on the company and the sweatpants there's nothing wrong with being comfortable in your own home.

Edit: especially if your dick is in a cage...lol

Barudak posted:

Despite all her rage his dick still has escaped the cage

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blackmet posted:

Decided to use the word "algorithm." Found this one.

Me [33F] with my husband [35 M] is deployed with limited communication, we have an "open" relationship, I found some things out (?), am upset, have no way to address it.

Pvt.Scott posted:

They make dress sweats. Sweat pants that look like slacks or whatever.