corn on the cop posted:

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Yup, while I enjoy watching some streamers who are actually entertaining and/or skilled, I really don't get the bizarre facade where every other popular Twitch streamer is running donation drives for a new PC or whatever and pretending to be broke dudes scraping by for their dream and their fans are repeatedly going along with the transparent fleecing.

Gloryhold It! posted:

Twitch streamers make a thing that people enjoy watching and people give them money so they can keep making the thing they enjoy watching. It's not that hard to understand. Especially now that twitch lets you give funbucks, which translates to money, you get by watching ads.

That said, some people go way the gently caress overboard like that guy I saw drop multiple thousands of dollars in a single night... multiple times.

ArbitraryC posted:

I feel like people are gonna say they're boning/gonna bone but honestly if he told her in advance I feel like he might just genuinely wanna hang out. Particularly if he's one of those people who takes coffee way too seriously and makes a hobby out of it, it could have easily come up that he makes better coffee than most chains and she's wanted to try it for a bit now so the offer wasn't spontaneously coffee at his place.

SpiderHyphenMan posted:

Assuming you're talking about Pr0bait, apparently he won big at the casino. Like, big big. Which means it could be a tax thing, I dunno.

WampaLord posted:

You are giving this guy WAY too much credit.

If he truly does just wanna hang with her, she doesn't need to come over while his girlfriend isn't there.

A Wizard of Goatse posted:

i'm glad this thread has finally called attention to the real meat of the dick prison pregnant wife pantsing story, casual dress in the household

My [27F] boyfriend [28M] recently confessed that he likes to dress up as a baby sometimes, and act and talk like one. Has secret room. Now he wants to have weird creepy baby sex with me. Do I end it? I feel very guilty and it's tearing me up

beejay posted:

I can't get over the use of the term "b'day" throughout that post.

Pick posted:

This poo poo is loving gross and you bet I shame the ever loving hell out of this kink.

Pick posted:

This poo poo is loving gross and you bet I shame the ever loving hell out of this kink.

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Yup, while I enjoy watching some streamers who are actually entertaining and/or skilled, I really don't get the bizarre facade where every other popular Twitch streamer is running donation drives for a new PC or whatever and pretending to be broke dudes scraping by for their dream and their fans are repeatedly going along with the transparent fleecing.

flick my Mr. Bean posted:

alpha brand is the sweat pants that people can clearly see the shape of your dick through.

Pick posted:

This poo poo is loving gross and you bet I shame the ever loving hell out of this kink.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

I think if the guy wanted to show he really isn't trying to have an end goal, he'd ask his girlfriend to join them for coffee. Could get her some points at work and looks less sketchy. He totally wants to bang her.

Also, if I had way less dignity and felt like getting threats of rape and murder I'd totally stream for cash money

Khorne posted:

I don't get why people even bring up some kinks. How do you lack the self awareness to know most people would be weirded the gently caress out by something? Nevermind bringing it up, some kinks I don't even get why you'd want to actually participate even if it's something that turns you on as a fantasy or in porn or something.

Khorne posted:

Dicks show through everything.
I don't get why people even bring up some kinks. How do you lack the self awareness to know most people would be weirded the gently caress out by something? Nevermind bringing it up, some kinks I don't even get why you'd want to actually participate even if it's something that turns you on as a fantasy or in porn or something.

ArbitraryC posted:

the gf is the one who doesn't want to make it a work thing that they're a couple tho. She already actively avoided mentioning it on purpose.

54 40 or gently caress posted:

Oops, missed that part. That still kind of crosses a boundary for me I think.

WampaLord posted:

This one could be crossposted to the Bad With Money thread:

I [27 M] just found out that my wife [27 F] has been spending some of our savings on League of Legend


$500 on Twitch tips!

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

If it was just a sex thing that she could give a resounding "uhh no" to that'd be one thing, but it's clearly a "lifestyle" for this guy who's saying stuff like "this is where I can be me" and that's way too far.

Lonely Virgil posted:

Also what gives the girl's brother the right to guilt and shame her for bailing out of her relationship when found out her boyfriend wears diapers presumably pissing and shits himself for sexual pleasure.

Antivehicular posted:

"This is where I can be me, a being with no personality or self-care ability that exists to be cared for by others, like you or your brother, who knows about this or some reason."

Spatial posted:

They probably are poor as poo poo. Unless you're extremely lucky streaming is a second job to waiting in a restaurant part time. They make the most money with corporate sellout stuff that everyone hates, so a lot of them avoid that in favour of being more direct.

I remember reading an article about some streaming lady who was having trouble at work because everyone recognised her from her streams.

If anything the pretense is of being rich. As usual for Americans.

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I joined website for dating to try and get more dates. That was my only intent. I have been working too much for 2 years at my new job. I just wanted to have more fun.

I got an e-mail and set up a date with this girl. It's my 5th date from the site, it's been fun. But this one girl was like one of those love at first sight moments when we met at a restaurant. I saw her and she was perfect. I tried to play it cool but I felt like I could just cut ties with all the girls I've dated and just commit to her. Physically she was everything I could ever ask for and exactly my type. Her personality seemed about a 10/10.

About 30 minutes into sitting down, we didn't even order cause we were just talking. The chemistry was as good as it was with my first love when I was 13. It was perfect, sparks were flying, I thought I was done and ready to commit here.

But then she tells me to forget about ordering food, let's go somewhere else, and she has this idea. She won't say much and I like surprises so I didn't ask much. We jumped in my car and drove to this restaurant about 20 minutes away kind of out of town. It was half way up a mountain near a ski resort. I'm familiar with the area so no big deal.

We walk in and her family is celebrating her aunt's birthday. There was only family and a lot of it, about 40 people. She introduces me and everybody was happy to meet me and real nice. Everybody also knew that she was out on a first date. They were asking her stuff like, "is this the guy?" "is this your date?" "is this the one?" All of the sudden I wasn't so cool and relaxed. I felt heavy pressure to be on my best behavior. It was high pressure to the 3rd degree. But everybody was nice so that helped. We sat down and I started being questioned by her older sister, her aunt, and another lady that I forget her relation to my date. The mom started kind of defending me and telling them to back off and let me eat. But the interrogating continued. After I don't know how long they turned to my date and jokingly said "we approve." Then I was able to kind of get my bearings about me for a minute.

I was totally off balance all night, just tense. I was afraid the back of my shirt would get that a big wet spot cause I felt sweat on my back. So the sister brings her cute little girl and let's me hold her and she and my date started taking pictures of me holding her, and somebody else's baby boy as well. I started to feel like the tone of it all was that we were a couple. I kind of felt like I was married to her and these nice people were my in-laws.

After a couple of hours probably closer to 3 hours, everybody was kind of tiring out and everything began to wind down, keep in mind her car is still at the other restaurant down the hill. Then her dad suddenly asks me "jokingly," what my intentions are with his daughter. Though I can't remember how he phrased the question. Everybody looked at the table looked at me which is about half the people there.

I guess I was exhausted from all the questioning (I was questioned by multiple people, multiple times) and the pressure of it all cause I kind of lost it. He asked the question, I looked across the table at her, and she told her dad to stop it. Her dad smiles and jokingly says that he'd really like to hear my response, and her uncle (I think) also said he'd like to know (jokingly). I looked at my date and said, "Can I talk to you alone for a minute." To which her dad laughs loudly and and says "I made him nervous."

So everybody is laughing now and I guess it was a big joke. Then I said to my date, "hey can I talk to you alone for a minute?" I stood up in place, kind of, it was one of those long bench seats and I couldn't push it back cause other people were sitting on it. Then her sister (I think) says, "Oh there are no secrets in this family, speak your mind." People then laugh again and everybody starts making jokes about not having secrets and this man who married into the family somehow tells me that he remembers being in my place and he says, "let me give you some advice, the best thing to do right now is speak your mind and be honest." Then others join in and echo his sentiment, all jokingly I think.

So I looked at my date and she says something like, "you can tell me anything here, we're all family." She also I think was joking. But I had started to lose my ability to tell when people were joking and when they were serious. So the dad says, "wait, I haven't gotten an answer to my question." So finally I speak directly to the dad and say, "I'd like to discuss that with her first." But I REGRETFULLY, laughed as I said it. So her dad says, "I asked you first, I wanna know." I turn to my date and she says something like, "go ahead you can tell me, I'm a big girl I can handle it."

So I said ok, and sat down then took a couple of breaths while her dad kind of quieted everybody down. I started with "I think I made a huge mistake." It all spiraled down from there. I said harsh things like that I felt like I was having a bad dream where I was suddenly married. I questioned her intentions in bringing me there. I said stuff like, "what were you thinking?" "Yes, i liked you, but I just met you, and right now I know your aunt (I pointed at her sitting next to me) better than I know you." I think she was humiliated but I couldn't stop, the more I spoke the more bad stuff came out, total loving tail spin. I said I want to find someone special but I don't want to skip the first 29 dates and skip to date 30 which is what I'd done that night.

Then people started interrupting and chiming in and suggesting that she and I slow down and have a real first date. I wasn't having it, I was out of control. I said, "no, it's too late for that, I feel robbed here, I wanted to meet this girl, get to know her, date her, and maybe fall for her, but now it's like we're engaged and her whole family is here and there are all these expectations. We skipped the getting to know each other, and dating part so I feel robbed." Then I said yet another thing I regret. I said "It's a HUGE RED FLAG (with an emphatic gesture) that I asked for minute alone with you to talk, and this is what I got instead." I added something like "you're all great and a great family, but the lack of certain boundaries is a huge red flag for me. I would never let my relationship become family business."

My date interrupts me at this point and says, "Ok, so let's talk in private, let's go outside and talk, I'm sorry I didn't give you that minute, let's go outside and talk privately, I'll give you all night." She was visibly shaken and I could tell tears were inevitable. I stood up again and realizing that I had insulted all of them I just quietly walked out. I felt really bad cause they were all nice and had nothing but the best intentions for me. They love her, and they were literally telling me that I was good enough which should've been a compliment, but I somehow took it the wrong way and spat in their face. I didn't even drink.

EDIT: Sorry, I proofread and changed some minor stuff, also I added some stuff to the statement below.

We walked out and I let her have it again. She's now sobbing uncontrollably, She apologized and pretty much begged for us to start over and I told her I wasn't into it and then I left her there. I drove home and couldn't help but wonder if I overreacted. I couldn't sleep and I woke up this morning feeling like I probably did overreact and now I feel like poo poo. But it's done, I can't undo it.

EDIT: Let me ask this more clearly. Should I call her and apologize for humiliating her, and insulting her family. Or should I just move on. Or should I wait and see if she calls and apologize then?

tl;dr: Went on first date, met her family, insulted all of them cause I felt pressured.

Pick posted:

applicable to many stories but idc enough to find the perfect one:

Dunning Krugerrand posted:

I (M27) lost control on a date in front of her (F21) whole family. What can I do now?

Jeffrey of YOSPOS posted:

If it was just a sex thing that she could give a resounding "uhh no" to that'd be one thing, but it's clearly a "lifestyle" for this guy who's saying stuff like "this is where I can be me" and that's way too far.

Pick posted:

I can't believe she thought that was a good idea. wtf.

Dunning Krugerrand posted:

I (M27) lost control on a date in front of her (F21) whole family. What can I do now?