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People are allowed to have a change in interests in a marriage, and as long as it is reasonable you should try and accomodate your spouse's requests to change things up. Life is a long time to be together so best try and not make it miserable for you or your partner.
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ArbitraryC posted:I can sorta see not being super keen on traveling tbh, it can be stressful and tiring and sometimes you don't wanna blow your hardly any vacation time (lol USA numba 1) on it, but like not wanting to go out and hike/walk/bike/whatever with your SO on the weekends is pretty weird. Even if you're not a fan of long trips there's probably more than enough poo poo within a couple miles you could drive to on weekends too.
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I Was The Fury posted:TL;DR: S/O refuses to learn about "fair fighting," saying psychology is bullshit. Is there anything I can do? A Wizard of Goatse posted:Me (28f) and my husband (40m) seem to have different desires in life, and he tells me that mine are childish. I've been craving more experiences since I'm nearing 30 (maybe a pre-pre-midlife crises??) and he's content sitting at home every night. dude if I'm like this at 40 i hope someone just kills me and puts me out of my misery Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 21:07 on Mar 1, 2017 |
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Leon Einstein posted:^^^ Guy sounds depressed to be honest, I feel like that one specific thing tho isn't much of a dealbreaker unless your life revolves around constant trips to Europe you can't shut up about. It's the whole never wanting to do anything except passively veg out that's more offputting to me anyways. Different strokes.
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:I'm pretty sure its a fulltime lifestyle, a third of the country didn't get fat cause they got thyroid problems Ha! I actually just discovered a week ago that I do have a thyroid problem.
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I think despite not liking planes/trains/automobiles or not having vacation time to pay for it, you probably still have the general desire to see cool stuff around the world you never have before - like if it was somehow free and you could teleport there you would, right? Even though in reality you maybe never would because not really worth the hassle and cost. This dude is straight like "no that's childish life is here repeat this same routine til death that is being an adult." Which is him being depressed, yeah.
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Eh I'm the same. People make a big deal about traveling but unless it's relatively close I'm not entirely fixated on it. This might be because I have to travel a lot for work and so I find flying, hotels etc and exceptionally tedious. If I was mega rich I'd probs have a different opinion
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Yeah but I'm talking about like taking a gently caress trip to the Greek islands and checking out some Roman ruins not a work conference trip to Omaha.
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ArbitraryC posted:there's so many places within 100-300 miles of where I live that I'd rather do a roadtrip
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:I'm pretty sure its a fulltime lifestyle, a third of the country didn't get fat cause they got thyroid problems I, for one, am a massive hambeast of a man for reasons entirely out of my control. Nominally the deliciousness of butter and irresistibility of processed sugar. Are you ready for some ice cold poo poo? 'Cause I've got some cold rear end poo poo right here! I (27 M) think my wife (27 F) has insulted me beyond repair. What are my options? Relationships quote:submitted 1 year ago by isthatallthereis15 ARE YOU READY FOR SOME MORE DEPRESSING poo poo? BECAUSE THERE'S AN UPDATE! quote:Since some people are PM'ing me and asking what other similar emasculating gestures my wife has made this year: Aaaaaaand a second update for the sake of completion, it's not amazing or anything but it does have some good stuff: quote:I just thought I owed it to this community to give everyone an update to what happened. As you can imagine, I've had a chaotic week so far and it has been intensified by the upcoming holidays.
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Pick posted:my perfect wedding has a hundred attendees. they are all frogs. the centerpieces are more frogs. we're married surrounded by frogs. the frogs drink, moderately found your wedding video
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Moridin920 posted:I think despite not liking planes/trains/automobiles or not having vacation time to pay for it, you probably still have the general desire to see cool stuff around the world you never have before - like if it was somehow free and you could teleport there you would, right? Even though in reality you maybe never would because not really worth the hassle and cost. You bet your goddamn rear end I would. I'd be teleporting all over the loving place. Work M-F and then spend the weekend in Tuscany or Adelaide, or even gently caress off to Cairo or Istanbul for a day? That's my fetish right there.
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welp that's a thing Glad I made a decision to not get married or have kids before 30 no matter what.
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Leon Einstein posted:Do these guys pretend to be fun and interesting until they're married, and then the facade falls? i think a lot of the time people mistake "a great deal of available disposable income" for "being interesting" which is a pretty easy mistake to make when you're young and poor i think that is how a lot of these age gap romances start. i don't think they get into it for money, so please don't take that statement this way, it's just that dating a person with money probably means more extravagant and fun activities early on in the relationship, and sometimes the locales and things you're doing distract from the deficiencies of the people you do those things with. (which may be why it's a surprise to her that she can't get her partner to do anything with her)
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I feel like if you had any interest in, like, hiking going into the relationship, or doing things generally, and your partner was consistently and openly opposed to it, you'd probably notice pretty quickly no matter how rich they were it is just about the cheapest thing you can possibly do
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That wife sounds like she has PPD. Or PPP, as her behavior makes no sense.
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Bubblyblubber posted:I, for one, am a massive hambeast of a man for reasons entirely out of my control. Nominally the deliciousness of butter and irresistibility of processed sugar. There really should be a service that snaps a photo of the recipient when they get served papers, just for cases like this.
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Leon Einstein posted:That wife sounds like she has PPD. Or PPP, as her behavior makes no sense. 9 months after the delivery? Post partum personality disorder maybe.
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Not to like be a douche or validate the wife in that scenario or anything but stop loving bawling nonstop goddamn.
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Moridin920 posted:Not to like be a douche or validate the wife in that scenario or anything but stop loving bawling nonstop goddamn. everybody's taking turns at my tiresome old gimmick lately (j/k, this one's a bridge too far even for me, lol)
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subhuman filth posted:9 months after the delivery? Post partum personality disorder maybe. Looks like postpartum depression can last up to a year.
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Moridin920 posted:Not to like be a douche or validate the wife in that scenario or anything but stop loving bawling nonstop goddamn. agreed, getting emotional at the breakdown of a marriage is for weak females
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Moridin920 posted:Not to like be a douche or validate the wife in that scenario or anything but stop loving bawling nonstop goddamn. Yeah, I agree. I'd go so far as to say there's probably something going on with the dude, like he seems completely incapable of anger even by the end. That's not normal. e: which isn't to say that divorcing his harpy bitch wife isn't the obvious right choice, or that it won't go a long way towards helping
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Bubblyblubber posted:Read till the end for a great surprise-but-not-really reveal that I bolded. Your relationship is dead, dump her. The good news is you're 24 and you have a good job and now you can date someone who isn't in the Peace Corps or whatever.
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food court bailiff posted:Yeah, I agree. I'd go so far as to say there's probably something going on with the dude, like he seems completely incapable of anger even by the end. That's not normal. Yeah I mean don't get me wrong obv men can cry and whatever but geez.
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food court bailiff posted:Yeah, I agree. I'd go so far as to say there's probably something going on with the dude, like he seems completely incapable of anger even by the end. That's not normal. Well I mean, his dick is shrinking.
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food court bailiff posted:Yeah, I agree. I'd go so far as to say there's probably something going on with the dude, like he seems completely incapable of anger even by the end. That's not normal. Emotions are strange. The guy is watching his marriage crumble before his eyes, the emotional toll of that is outweighing the anger he would feel from the things she's saying directly.
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Barudak posted:Well I mean, his dick is shrinking. maybe she's dosing him with hormones
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She hired a witch doctor to steal his penis through black magics.
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his wife clearly just started to despise him all of a sudden that's probably pretty depressing
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of all his reactions how'd you pick out crying at the women he planned to spend his life with openly loathing him and not, say, not realizing it was over and making a beeline for the lawyer right herequote:• Insisted that I walk ten feet behind her at the grocery store so that people wouldn't assume she was married
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I know this is neither here nor there but not having to spend family time doing poo poo like grocery shopping makes having a SAHM as a wife so worth it.
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# ? Mar 1, 2017 21:49 |
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I don't know why you guys assume you can't be angry when you cry. The crying helps me not break my hands punching things I can't afford to break, and I can only punch my dog so much.
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If I'm really raging there might be some tears streaming down my face but for some reason I imagine the wife busting in going "lol your dick is shrinking" and that dude just curling up in the corner of the shower and bawling like a 14 year old Maybe I'm being too harsh quote:• Insisted that I walk ten feet behind her at the grocery store so that people wouldn't assume she was married like yeah this dude obv has some self-esteem issues and stuff because if someone said this to me I'd say "welp we're getting a divorce then bc you obv want one later bitch" not go "... oh okay " like bro quote:- Danced with half a dozen other men on a booze cruise for a friend's birthday party we attended. This was in September and the last remotely date-y thing we have done not one of those things is acceptable on its own let alone letting it go on for months. Just saying stand up for yourself dude, crying is fine but if you cry and do nothing about it repeatedly that's not getting you anywhere. Moridin920 fucked around with this message at 22:11 on Mar 1, 2017 |
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They're in a domme/sub relationship, he just doesn't know it Seriously though that is so sad
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My [18F] sister [17F] hooked up with a guy last night. She has a boyfriendquote:Hi all, hopefully you guys can give me some insight about what to do here!
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# ? Mar 1, 2017 22:11 |
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Nope.quote:and leaving me to do a sink full of dishes from their munchies. Man what's with people tell her to do her own drat dishes wtf.
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He comes off as spineless, but he's probably been ground down by his abusive wife for so long that the idea of getting angry on his own behalf terrifies him. If /r/relationships gave him the motivation to actually leave her, then they did a good thing.
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Moridin920 posted:If I'm really raging there might be some tears streaming down my face but for some reason I imagine the wife busting in going "lol your dick is shrinking" and that dude just curling up in the corner of the shower and bawling like a 14 year old The guy has been feeling neglect, coldness and lack of intimacy from his wife for a bit and then she casually just trashes his privates and acts like she did nothing. I agree he's got some esteem issues and has been a bit of a doormat, but his wife is absolutely the major reason for his esteem issues. Being in a LTR (especially one with kids involved) where you want it to work but the partner isn't there anymore really fucks with your head.
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Yeah I guess to be fair to the guy it sounds like she is purposefully grinding down his self esteem and then making GBS threads on him for not having any but she doesn't want a divorce so she apparently just wants a beaten down wage cuck whipping boy which makes her pretty loving
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