- Danaru
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Drove 2 hours to spend weekend with gf, she went to a party instead, hasn't returned calls in 24 hours
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I (M23) have been in a happy semi long-distance relationship with my gf (F20) for four years.
We meet on weekends because that's the only way that we can manage it.
She's shy and doesn't have any friends, which seems to be the reason why she's using her good looks to get attention on various social community sites.
I never liked her doing this because her "friends" are only guys and those that I've met turned out to be major douchebags. She let me read some of her conversations with those guys to assure me she's not cheating.
Yesterday I asked her if she's up for a movie night at her place, she agreed. I picked up some food and drove the two hours, only to arrive alone at her apartment. I call her up to ask her where she is, after the fifth try she picks up and tells me she's going to a party and is already on the train. I ask her what in the hell she's thinking and to take the first train back at the next stop, she agrees.
Half an hour later I get a text:
"Can't come back yet, need to tell my friends at the party that I have to go back home and they don't have a cellphone.  "
Twenty four hours have passed since then, I texted her, tried to call her, no response. Her cellphone isn't off as it is clearly ringing for a few seconds before going to voicemail.
I'm not one to cry wolf but I'm scared. Scared that maybe something happend to her, and if not that then that this relationship is over since I don't even seem to be worth to be texted back. It's Sunday evening now, she has to work tomorrow and I'm still at her apartment, waiting.
How do I confront her when she comes back? Or even worse, what do I do if she doesn't?
UPDATE: She didn't come home Sunday evening, I'm not sure if she got to work but her company badge is still beside her bed. I gave up on calling her and spent Monday at her apartment, left a note and got back home. I'm now looking up her parent's phone number and I'll inform them about the whole situation. I'm also trying to get into her Facebook account to find out more details of where she might be. (thanks for the tip, Whirledpeas1129)
UDATE 2: Still missing, still not a word, no updates or info on Facebook either. I called her Father, he's going over there tonight to check if she's home. Couldn't reach her mother. Going to call her workplace tomorrow to check if she left a message there or came in, if not I'm calling the police...
Final Update: She was at some guys place that she got high with and hosed, she even called in sick at work. Worst of all she broke up with me the very few first seconds that I got her on the phone. This is the woman I wanted to marry. I don't even have friends to talk about this. gently caress my life.
Yowza that escalated quick 
Bonus post title, since the story itself isn't nearly as interesting as you'd think:
My [19M] girlfriend [20F] thinks I'm cheating on her because I saw a girl get coke snorted off her rear end.
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My girlfriend is currently in med school and I learned one of her classmates drives drunk because he 'can handle it' and hasn't gotten in an accident yet.   He also thinks the best way to get away with murder is to run someone over with your car because something about technicalities of the law lets you escape getting sued.
So I used him as inspiration for my search words:
Boyfriend got a DUI, ruined everything
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Me: f, 24. Him: m, 25. Been together three years.
He is a wonderful man, smart, sweet, caring, funny and sexy and I love him very, very, very much. He's my best friend. The one downfall is that he is a functioning alcoholic. He won't admit it, but my father is one, so I've learned the signs. I didn't mind because he was safe, sober during work/important events and cheerful/loving when drunk.
Then after a night of drinking, (in the basement alone about 24 cans or so) he decided to take a drive in a car with no tags and no insurance. He was caught. He is being charged with a DUI obviously.
Now that was my only boundary. He knew how I felt about drunk driving. It's despicable. It's dangerous and low and only losers do so. (I worked with EMS and heard some of the aftermath of a drunk driving accident.) He swore those days were behind and I trusted him. Then he broke my trust.
And worst, we were about to move in together in about three weeks. We both live ridiculously far from each other for work, so we decided to pick a place in the middle so we would both suffer a bit instead of one of us being completely miserable.
Now, he has no licence and I doubt anybody will insure him even if he manages to not get convicted.
My lease is over in 4 weeks and I cannot renew it (the landlord wants the reclaim the space). So I have to make the decision to either move in with his incredibly annoying roommate and drive one hour and a half to work ever morning or get my own place here, but never see him.
He's getting a lawyer and is going to check out AA on Monday, but I'm not even sure I want to move in with him anymore and part of me is not sure if I should continue with the relationship. A functional happy alcoholic is one thing, a DUI apartment ruining one is another.
What should I do, wise redditors?
My (27m) girlfriend (26f) of 3 years called the cops on my brother for driving drunk. My family is furious.
quote:We’ve been together for 3 wonderful years and I love her. She’s the outspoken, stubborn one. I’m the quieter one. I don’t like confrontation and usually let her take control in situations where there is confrontation because she always handles it respectfully and with grace, but with a firm hand as well.
A few weeks ago, my brother was hanging out with us. He drank a bit too much, and Grace made it a point to tell him that he was not driving home. She took his keys, but once she left the room, he grabbed them and laughed and left. When she came back to see him missing, she was extremely upset.
I offered to go collect him and bring him back, and I tried to, but he was long gone by that point. And when I got home, she was on the phone reporting him as a drunk driver to the police. Well, naturally, they picked him up, arrested him, and tossed him in jail.
Grace’s best friend and high school boyfriend were killed in a car accident when they were just getting out of HS. Drunk driver slammed into their car, killing the boyfriend on impact and the best friend didn’t make it through the night. Grace survived, walking away with a broken leg and concussion and scrapes. She has no tolerance for drunks or drunk drivers. Everyone knows this.
Everyone also knows she’s the one who called the police and had him picked up. The family has now waged war -- telling me that she’s not welcome at family gatherings until she “makes it up” to them by showing that she really cares about our family. To them, it was an act showing that she “didn’t care” about our family, and didn’t want to look out for us. My brother has a very minor criminal record (nothing violent, just a few childish mistakes he made young) and so chances are, there will be no leniency.
He is also likely to lose partial custody of his son, and his job has already suspended him without pay. Chances are, they will fire him by the end of the whole thing.
I have told everyone that I stand behind Grace’s actions, and this is making my family angry at me, too. I don’t know what else I can do about this.
tl;dr: GF called cops on brother and had him picked up for DUI. Family has waged war against us. I don't know what to do about it.
Only one thing you can do - team up with Grace and 
Fiance (29M) accidentally killed my dog everyone thinks I'm being unreasonable by ignoring him, am I?
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A week ago my fiance came home drunk, stumbled in at 5 in the morning, tripped over my dog, Jasmine and killed her.She was 9 and sick and was already a small dog. I haven't really spoken to my fiance much since then. I know it sounds stupid but I've had her for 9 years and really didn't expect to wake up and find her dead and my fiance drunk and passed the gently caress out.
I am trying so hard not to blame him but I do. He doesn't even drink much but I can't help it, I've kind of ignored him the past week and just gone to work and gone about my day. We've messaged each other a few times but every time he starts bringing it up I just shut him down immediately because I really don't want to talk about it.
He's already a big guy, 210 or a little more so I know he feels pretty embarrassed and hurt over it as well, especially as he loved Jasmine too. Some of our friends have been messaging me recently telling me to talk to him about it and to get over it, she was kind of old anyway.
That really loving sucked rear end to hear.
tl;dr fiance got drunk and fell on my dog, killing her, I've kind of been ignoring him since, not wanting to talk about it, friends think I'm overreacting
really late edit as I fell asleep as soon as I got home from work yesterday: My boyfriend and I have spoken several times in the past week, the only reason I've been 'ignoring' him is because every time we talk he brings up Jasmine and I have tried explaining I'd rather not talk about her right now but he continues bringing it up, it's not that I've been giving my boyfriend silent treatment or no contact or anything else some of you think I've been doing, I even stated in the post that we have messaged each other but he keeps bringing it up
edit 2: yes he did drive home as his friend who was the designated driver left with someone
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who the heck still drinks so heavily at 30 that they come home and pass out in the hallway over dead dogs
check out this nerd. I will get drunk and fall on dogs until the day i die.
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Me [20s M] with my girlfriend [20s F] of 18 months, concerns about weird porn habits (NSFW text)
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Sorry in advance, on my phone and don't type long things on here ever.
So I've been with this girl for a year and a half now and we're at that stage where we want to get a place together, but there's been one issue that has come up more and more as we talk about it and I feel like we're getting nowhere on it.
So she likes weird porn, especially furry and dragon porn. And she is really, really into it too.
At first I didn't care even though I wasn't interested in it at all, I even tolerated the bad dragon sex toys, but it's gotten to be an issue.
First of all, and yes, this is embarassing to write out, but she'll make remarks sometimes when playing with toys like "if this was a real dragon I'd cum in seconds" or if looking at some porn she'll say "I'd let that dragon gently caress me even if it kills me afterwards" or "I'd gently caress that anthro wolf if it was real and is be mad if you didn't let me".
Like, am I being ridiculous for being upset by these comments? I've told her to not make such... Direct? Cheaty? Degrading? Comments before but she just laughs it off every time like it's ridiculous for me to be upset by it. She can have her fantasy, that's fine and I have my own, but I'd never loving say something like "if only Lara croft were sucking my cock instead" during a blowjob. Literally feel like I can't compare to something imaginary, yet at the same time if I voice a concern about it I all I get is "it's just imaginary".
Secondly, she talks about this stuff with other people. I don't think she's doing anything cheaty, but at the same time I just don't like her talking about porn with other people so frequently. A joke here and there would be fine, but she has accounts and friends lists and relationships built around this stuff. Not only does it feel like a large part of her life I can't participate in and one more thing I can't fulfill for her, but she has a few relationships that borderline inappropriate. I'm talking hours a week or more with specific people, just talking about their favorite artists and sharing porn pictures and talking about their bad dragon toys. I don't get it, I don't like it, but every time i try to voice a concern about that all I'm told is its no big deal and that she can't talk to me about it so she needs to talk to somebody...
But, lastly, and the one big hurdle before getting our own place. She says she needs to masturbate to furry porn at least once a day. needs.
We've talked this over so many times, and I hit an absolute dead wall every time. I'm told that when we move in together she is going to masturbate to furry or dragon porn when I'm at work, every day, and that during weekends or holidays she might go to another room and do it.
That's the best she says she can do.
I'm still loving shocked by this, honestly, and its a big reason why I'm not jumping at an opportunity to get a place together yet.
Am I wrong about this? I have a huge sex drive, I might jerk off if she's gone all day, but to actually loving plan it out that she will every time I'm gone and to tell me that she might when I am home. gently caress. The thought of us watching TV or something and her leaving to masturbate alone makes me loving angry and feel pathetic and I can't loving deal with that.
But she says that's how it has to be. That this is just too large a part of her life.
Can anyone help me out here? I'm losing sleep over this poo poo. I don't want to lose her but I just don't think I'll be okay with this behavior if we were to move in together.
tl;dr: girlfriend is seriously into furry porn, making me feel inadequate, says that it is a MUST in our relationship that she masturbate to it regularly even if we move in together.
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Get a dragon costume and bang the poo poo out of her.
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This kills the relationship.
Sometimes, dead is better.
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- Enfys
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I know where the thread stands on dogs (punch them, but not with your dick), but what about cats?
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My sister [30F] constantly steals from my mom [56F] and just stole her cat
Non-Romantic
Hi all, I'm posting here because I'm a bit lost on what to do with a very complicated family situation.
My sister and my mother always have had a complicated relationship. My mother was abusive to my sister when she was young (hitting her, calling her names, expecting way too much from her) and my dad isn't much better about it (he ignored / pretended to ignore the situation for years, he mostly was inactive but he also broke my sister's arm when she was 10).
My mom went to therapy, and even thought she sucks at remorse and apologies, she's way less worse now and we have a OK relationship now (26F, I've been abused too).
My sister went to see a therapist too, but it didn't go well. She sure always had depression issues, and problems with deadlines, and problems with dealing with the adult life stuff, and also personal boundaries, but 1) it hasn't got better in 10 years of therapy, actually it's worse and she's back on pills for depression now 2) now she's paranoid and still won't hear a thing about finding a job and she steals a lot.
She hates my parents, but still choose to live 5 minutes away from their house. She goes there regularly, to steal from them : food, clothes, jewelry from my mom... When my mom confronts her about it, she becomes accusatory towards my mother. (recently said : "Are you going to go through my pockets ?!" to my mother as she was going upstairs from the pantry, a backpack full of food)
My dad totally ignores this behavior and my mother's complains, recently asking my mom to "try to be less stupid than her", which is a tad better than before when he was accusing my mom of being paranoid. (same dad who overlooked the abuse when confronted, and said we should "deal with our girls issues ourselves" when my sister sent my head against the wall when I was 18. Dude's not good with conflict.)
She recently crossed the line, as she stole one of my mom's cats. My mom was on holidays and asked my sister to check up on the cat as it was sick, and my sister took it at her house (not upon my mom request).
When my parents returned, they asked her to return the cat and she said that she didn't have the time to do that, and that she gave the cat to a friend so she can take care of it while my sister was going on holidays. My mom then insisted to get the cat back, and my sister stopped answering. I saw on Facebook that my sister prides herself that she freed the cat from the "living hell" that my parents' house is.
It's been quite a long time (1 year ? 2 ?) that my sister has decided to take revenge upon my mother, going to her book club, taking her jewelry, taking her friends, antagonizing my father, and generally refusing to talk to my parents about any personal subjects so she can reduce her visits to being grumpy, talk about the weather and steal a lot.
I'm clearly not taking sides in this. It's my parents' fault if she's so messed up. It's my sister's fault if she's 30 and has a lovely personality and hasn't dealt better with her life. (because yes, I consider some part is my parents' fault, but after you become an adult, you can make your own choices and be better than their lovely education. I've been abused, and despite my battle with anxiety I'm not too bad of a human being)
But I still want to try and make things better. It's hard, because I don't feel love for either parts (I'm doing OK with my parents, I don't talk to my sister to avoid her poo poo) but I can't let stuff like that, can I ? Besides, my parents are so bad with dealing with this anyway they will keep on not doing a thing.
I feel like I have several options but don't know what to choose.
Go to the police to scare my sister and force her to give some stuff back. (but I guess I can't go to the police if I haven't been stolen myself)
Confront my sister about it. Ask the parent's keys back. (my sister being paranoid and acting like all the stuff she steals is due to her... I don't think this is a good solution)
Ask for a familial therapy. I really don't know if I have the strength and the will to go through this, considering how little I feel for them, but if normal therapy doesn't work for my sister, maybe this will. And it will force my father to be confronted about it.
Ask for a sisters therapy. I have another sister, who is also very concerned and quite lost about this whole situation, and would like to help. Maybe it can be a smoother solution than the whole-family therapy.
Ask my sister and my parents to go, just them 3, on a familial therapy. Actually I think it's the best solution, but I have zero idea how to get to this, because that would mean convincing the 3 of them to do that.
Consider it's not my problem and choose not to do anything about it.
So... Here I am. Please send help and cat gifs
tl;dr: My parents were abusive when we were young. My sister takes revenge years later by stealing all the time from them, took my mom's cat and doesn't want to give it back. I'm asking how to untangle this huge knot of a situation.
(I hope I didn't make too much grammar mistakes, obvs English isn't my mother language  )
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I know where the thread stands on dogs (punch them, but not with your dick), but what about cats?
The stories are too long and the dude is a kind of a wiener, but the titles tell such a beautiful story:
[Question] 5 y/o son walked in on me [29M] spanking my wife [29F]. How should I talk to him about this if it comes up in the future?
Wife [30F] says she "needs" me [29M] to "be the dom" 24/7. This doesn't come naturally to me.
My wife [30F] feels like I [30M] am too passive.
My [30M] group of friends [~30 M+F] intentionally avoids/excludes my wife [30F]. I've had enough of it, but I don't know how to confront the situation.
(Cliffs notes on this one is one of the other wives had some unspecified beef with his wife, made sure all the other nerds never invite her specifically for anything, and then king doofus waits like MONTHS to sort this poo poo out)
Me [31 M] with my wife [31 F] 10 yrs. She says she wants to leave, but she's staying because "it's easier" than hurting me and our kids (7 M, 5 F). I don't know what to do.
That last one just makes everything a little bit clearer re: everybody is brokebrains,  , etc. Good stuff, if a bit wordy/depressing for the thread.
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- Enfys
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I was curious if redditors often struggle with cat theft, and a quick search brought up many strange results and it turns out lots of redditors either know people who steal cats or steal cats themselves.
This one has the best TL;DR ever though:
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Me [36M] with my wife [39F], 6 years married. 1-way communication marriage becoming sexless
TL;DR; Wife refuses to have sex, gave me a pocket pussy to get me to stop asking for it. Cat stole pocket pussy.
So I've been married to her for 6 years. About 2 years ago, after second child, she does not want sex whatsoever. When it happens, it's because I'm on a 3 month dry spell and practically begging for it. But even that has stopped being successful. I try to talk about it but she gets angry about me bringing it up and shuts down the conversation. So I ask her simple yes/no questions trying to get some understanding of the problem. She says she's not menopausal, she's still having regular periods, etc.
The only communication I've got back from her was yesterday. She said she had something for me but couldn't find it. This morning I found something under a chair. It was a silicon pocket pussy (sorry I don't know a better word for it). The cat, which has a love for silicon things and regularly steals shoe insoles and oven mitts, apparently found it first and played with it all evening.
I brought it to my wife, and asked her how she wants me to interpret this gift and suggested jokingly, "Here you go now leave me alone." And she said "sort of" and put it away.
I don't want to be reduced to porn and rubber aides for simulated intimacy. What can I do when she's not willing to communicate? I'm unwilling to leave the relationship because my children are more important to me than anything else and I know how badly it would hurt them.
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My [27F] roommate [28F] stole a cat. Should I move out?
My roommate, whom we'll call Alice, and I have been friends for 10 years. We moved in together in the spring of 2013 to a house her aunt and uncle own. It's had ups and downs, but this is the worst fight we've had.
Alice suffers from depression and anxiety. She went on disability because of it in June and ever since, has been making increasingly poor choices. I've never said anything because they didn't affect me and they were her choices to make. I've also had problems with being judgmental of people and I'm very impatient with people in general, so I wrote it off as my own issues. These choices also didn't affect anyone else.
I thought her poor choices would be secluded to her, but I was wrong.
There has been a 6 month old kitten visiting our yard. We both have cats, we're animal lovers and this kitten was awesome. Super lovey, follows you around like a puppy. Alice has a special affection for the kitten. It came around on Friday night, when Alice's parents were visiting. With her parents encouragement, Alice decided she wanted to take the kitten because it was being "abused."
Our next door neighbors are the owners of the kitten. The house we now live in used to be Alice's grandparents, whom she spent a lot of time with, so she knows the neighbors better than I do. She says these people don't take care of their animals, property or children. I've seen nothing of the sort. Their other animals (two cats and a dog) are all older. In my mind, if they were really being abused, the animals wouldn't have lived as long as they have (all of the animals, besides this kitten, are over 10). They've been nothing but pleasant to Alice and I while we've been living there. (Telling us they like having people over, but if they get too loud, feel free to ask them to quiet down. We've never needed to do this).
Anyway, I'm standing outside our front door with my dog and Alice is walking towards me, kitten in her arms, with her dad beside her. She says that she's decided to take the kitten. I try to dissuade her, saying I don't want the kitten in the house ("But I'll keep it in my room!") and her dad is encouraging it ("Nothing will happen to your cats if it's cooped up in her room."). So I shut down. It's intimidating trying to fight with your roommate and her father. She puts the kitten upstairs and immediately leaves with her parents to go out to dinner.
I know she likes the kitten, but it's not hers to take! It's also not her decision to make whether or not she'd be a better owner. So I decide this isn't right and go to the neighbors house to let them know what's going on. A family lives there, and the mom answers the door. I explain my roommate really adores the cat and was wondering if she could adopt it from them. The mom explains that it's her daughter's cat, but she might be moving to Florida, so she'll talk to her daughter and talk to Alice on Saturday morning. The mom also asks me to let the cat out and return home. I know I have to, but I also know this will cause world war 3. But I do.
I texted Alice saying I knew she would be upset, but I had to do the right thing and put the kitten back outside. I explain that the kitten might become hers anyway and the neighbors would be talking to her sometime on Saturday. She does not take this well. She felt betrayed, said I should have consulted her first, and that it's not my job to make decisions for her. I tried being rational and understanding, even apologizing for her feeling betrayed and apologizing for not consulting her first, but it didn't help. She's justified stealing and is upset at me for sticking to my morals and basically not staying out of it. I haven't spoken to her since Friday night (and I've been staying at my parents house all weekend).
Because of this, is this enough to sever ties with her and move out? I felt like she's been toxic to me for awhile, but I really don't want to be friends with someone who can justify stealing. At the same time, I'm moving in a couple of months anyway. Should I just stick it out until then?
TLDR: My roommate stole a cat and is justifying it to herself. I did the right thing and returned it. Now she's mad at me. IS THIS REAL LIFE?? Is this enough to sever ties with the friendship?
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mate, she's trying to be kind and not have to tell you that you are completely gross and entirely unattractive to her
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"I don't find my husband attractive anymore, should I talk with him about it and see if we can fix it, or get mad whenever he asks what's wrong and then buy him a fleshlight to ensure any security he had in himself is completely destroyed, dooming us both to a cold miserable marriage? Well talking is hard so..."
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just sayin
just sayiiiin
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mate, she's trying to be kind and not have to tell you that you are completely gross and entirely unattractive to her
I feel like you might be projecting a little
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Pocket pussy is a decent option if she operates it. It has to be one of those Japanese Tengas though. They're magic.
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I know where the thread stands on dogs (punch them, but not with your dick), but what about cats?
Parents reaping what they've sown, wat do?
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TL;DR; Wife refuses to have sex, gave me a pocket pussy to get me to stop asking for it. Cat stole pocket pussy.
Here's a family that knows what's up:
I [27M] am raising my sister [17F] and she's a lesbian. A school sports coach said it's because she doesn't have proper parents and my sister reacted. I'm called to school.
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3,958 points 602 comments submitted 1 year ago by Didibimbim to r/relationships
Our mom passed away when 7 years ago when I was 20, and my sisters were 11 and 10 (dad passed away 7 years before that). Since then, it's just me and my little sisters, although I get help from our grandparents and aunt as well. It's not been easy but I think we're fine in general and we're all a happy family. I tend to get advice when I need it and this is when I need advice.
We live in a moderate place (not US), it's not the most liberal area but also not the most conservative area either. My sister came out as a lesbian last year and it's been a very smooth process actually. People close to us are generally very understanding and people who aren't really need no reason to be close to us. She hasn't had any problems at school about this until yesterday.
She's dating a girl (very nice girl, I know her parents) and apparently the sports coach noticed this. She asked if she's the girl who lives with her brother, and when my sister said yes, she basically said that "poor you, things like this can happen when kids don't have proper parents" in front of some other students. She was shocked and said her if she can elaborate. The coach said "it's not your fault honey, when you don't have a mother figure poo poo like this happens. They shouldn't give hothead boys custody of teenage girls. A real family should have adopted you when your mom died."
My sister was angry and said in front of everyone that she should try to be a better mom herself before making comments about other people's parents, that they all know her daughter is a junkie and give guys blowjobs for a joint. She kicked my sister out of the sports class. I have confirmed that this is happened from a couple of her friends parents (that's exactly what my sister told me as well).
I was planning to call the school today but they called me earliest thing in the morning themselves, asking me to come in person to discuss my sister's "behavior". I'm genuinely pissed off that a school staff made such a comment to my sister, let alone making comments about the quality of parenting that my sisters are receiving. I don't know how I should approach this issue. Any help is much appreciated.
tl;dr: Homophobic sport coach said my sister's homosexuality is because of "lack of proper parents". My sister said that her own daughter is a junkie and now the school wants to see me to talk about her behavior.
The meeting is probably about how the sister is going to be offered the coach's job after displaying such crazy dunking skillz.
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He should call the NAACP. Or was it NCAA. Who's that group they're like PETA for minorities
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Elsa, not to be rude, but do you have meds you should be taking?
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hey
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don't be bootyblasted from a joke off of family guy.
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Ok who are you though
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Is this gurf finally trying to assimilate into SA society? If so you're doing pretty good but might still need some work
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What in tarnation is a gurf
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"From each according to his ability" said Ares. It sounded like a quotation.
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quoting family guy in 2017 is possibly the lowest form of humor, down below the words pee-pee and doo-doo
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What in tarnation is a gurf
A borderline schizophrenic poster who can't keep away from that sweet SA fix for long
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Me [36 F] having hots for my brother-in-law [36 M] not able to distract myself from him?Relationships
submitted an hour ago by indisusy
I had always been attracted to my brother-in-law a few years since he got married to my sister younger to me by 3 years. This could be because of myself and sister sharing our personal lives between us.
However I and my hubby have been able to maintain a healthy relationship between my sister and her husband (brother-in-law). Being on the friendlier side, I get along very well with my brother-in-law and sometimes end up flirting with him, which could sometimes be in presence of my hubby and sister. I havent got any negative responses/complaints from them yet on this.
My brother-in-law on the other hand sometimes downplays this or plays along depending on the warrants of the situation and environment we are in. However I noticed that when we both are together alone, he too plays along with my flirtatious behavior, a good example of which would be his behavior when we both are at the disc or bar without our partners. We both haven't crossed our lines of control yet but have involved ourselves in a few naughty stuff occasionally which he consciously withdraws himself from if he finds its going out of control. Sometimes he gets too protective of me when we both are in public places as well. This behavior of his keeps me wondering if he has some kind of spark for me in him cause the spark for him is building in me.
A year has a half back by husband elder to my by 7 years had to under a major cardiac operation. Post the medical procedure he has been conscious not to exert himself too much in physical activities like sports etc (the sports person he used to be - marathon runner). As a result of this medical procedure the intimacy between has come down to a trickle and sometimes nonexistent for weeks. I do play an active role in trying to build his libido up but I am not sure if he is losing or has lost his interest in me. We did look at medical options but haven't been very successful. Being very upset on what had happened (medical procedure), I also happened to share this with my sister. She tried comforting me that things would work out.
My brother-in-law and sister had been a very good support to us during our difficult times and I was moved by the kind of care he was showing on me during this difficult period. He is again visiting our city on work beinging Monday and this time my husband too won't be in town as he is traveling for two weeks. I am not sure, how I would be able to can my inner feelings for him and control myself so as to not let loose the build up in me.
tl;dr: how should I distract myself from my brother-in-law with me being in a kind of deprived state?
Just going back to this one since I'm catching up on this thread and it's so amazingly bad. How hard is it for this girl to put her vibrator on overdrive while her husband's out of commission? Maybe purchase some new toys? Get really creative with her fantasies? That's literally all she needs to do. I like how she downplays him recovering from goddamn major heart surgery and making it all about how she can't bang anymore. Only her sexual satisfaction matters and she's willing to destroy two marriages over it. Lmao. 😂
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Tater Love 
