chitoryu12 posted:

The Japanese loving love Western food. As soon as the Portuguese introduced frying to them, they started deep frying everything they could get their hands on. Same with manufacturing hard candy from sugar, then making carbonated soda, then hamburgers/Salisbury steak. It's gotten some Japanese purists pissed, too.

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I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years.

Last night we had an argument over the fact he broke a promise the night before. We had started by discussing what had happened, and I was trying to explain how much broken promises hurt me. He acted like he didn't care at all and stared blankly at me. I got frustrated and started crying, saying I wanted to leave if he wasn't going to take me seriously.

As I tried to leave, he grabbed my car keys out my hand and threw me down on the bed. He hit my hard on my hip, and punched me in the arm multiple times whilst I tried to cover myself. I tried to get out his grip, so he put his hands round my throat and pressed as if to strangle me. I started sobbing and choking, and then he began apologising profusely. I was scared and hysterical, and attempted to leave again.

He dragged me on his bedroom floor and called me names, telling me he didn't love me. Every so often he would apologise, before becoming cruel and abusive again. Between apologising and hitting me, he kept grabbing at my breasts and vagina through my clothing. Whilst attacking me again he pulled my trousers and pants off, exposing me. I was hysterically crying and he stopped, and the argument ended. I stayed at his last night.

This evening he came to my house, and he didn't make an effort to apologise or even talk about yesterday evening. I began to talk about it, and explained how I was scared that he was going to rape me at one point. He laughed and said he thought about it, but quickly took it back after seeing my horrified face.

We're now sitting in my lounge watching TV, not talking. He's on the opposite sofa. I don't know how to move on from this, he doesn't seem to realise what happened. My arm and side is covered in bruises, and my emotions are just as hurt. I don't know how to convey to him how much he has hurt me.

TL;DR - boyfriend hit me last night, and pulled down my trousers exposing me. He hasn't acted remorseful and I don't know how to move on from it

EDIT 1: I would just like to add, things have been pretty rocky between us recently- but he is not like this towards anyone else, just me. Sometimes my constant badgering may annoy him or I may be over sensitive. Thought I should just add that.

EDIT 2: I can see that there is realistically no other option. I never imagined myself being in this situation at all, I have heard of it happening to others but never considered it happening to me- expecially not from someone I've devoted 4 years on my life to.

He is meant to be staying at my place tonight, and whilst I am afraid what his reaction may be I want to avoid calling the police as best as I can. Whilst I hate what he has done to our relationship, I do love him and I don't want to ruin his life. His dad has just been diagnosed with cancer, his mother was cheating on his father. The mother was the fathers income, so my boyfriend works and provides his dad with money now. The last thing he needs is a conviction that could get him fired.

Elsa posted:

I felt pretty smug about not having a picky eating problem until this made me realize hell the gently caress no it's white tuna or I'm leaving.

I Was The Fury posted:

My [21 M] 'best friend'/roommate [21 M] keeps making threats towards my girlfriend [20 F] and other women. I have reported him to the school and police, but I am going to have to tough it out until the end of the semester.

Sisal Two-Step posted:

e: sad "whilst" content:

My [22, F] boyfriend [23, M] attacked me last night, and is now sitting on my sofa not talking

Pick posted:

Sushi didn't even have salmon until the 70s, where salmon is clearly the Best Sushi.

Clark Nova posted:

It's when your preferences start annoying other people. "We can't go to *that* restaurant," "let me tell you again how much I hate condiments" and on and on and on.

Nearly everyone has some common foodstuff they'd prefer not to eat, but most people don't plan social outings around avoiding it.

Sisal Two-Step posted:

koreans do awful things to sushi. i once ate a piece of maki roll the size of a toddler's fist. it was drizzled with grape jelly.

e: sad "whilst" content:

My [22, F] boyfriend [23, M] attacked me last night, and is now sitting on my sofa not talking

Dienes posted:

What if its just loving embarrassing? I had an ex that was a picky eater and would order off the children's menu pretty much exclusively at every outing.

food court bailiff posted:

Holy poo poo kill this dude and learn new words, nobody deserves to get hit and abused and nobody deserves to have to read "whilst" four times in one post.

MillennialVulcan posted:

I looked up the thread, there was an update. She let the guy stay over that night because she couldn't reach her friend, he tried to have sex with her, she turned him down and he called her a bitch. Next day, her friend came over and kicked him out. Thread also talked her into going to the police and pressing charges.

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An acquaintance [22F] keeps a Tumblr blog about my boyfriend [27M]. We know it is definitely her blog because it is linked to her instagram account and the Tumblr’s profile picture is clearly her. The blog contains two years worth of text posts about him and some photos she took without his consent. She has created a lengthy fictional relationship between my boyfriend and her. I am never mentioned in the blog, I don’t exist in her fictional world, despite dating him for nearly two years.

The early posts are about how they “just started dating” and how she is so in love with him. Then she says she “broke up with him” and begins to post about how awful he is and that she is glad they are over. The most recent posts are about how he is “her best male friend” but she still has feelings for him and can tell he feels the same way about her. None of this is true!

They have never dated or even hung out. She is only an acquaintance. We will say hello to her, if we happen to run into her, but we never make plans with her. We have almost no contact with her. She will send him a casual “hey, how have you been” text maybe once every three months, but other than that she hasn’t tried to contact him. Occasionally, she will like my social media posts but she has not texted me since spring.

I am not sure if he or I should confront her about this? Are there psychiatric services we can refer her? It seems harmless, but it is still really bizarre. She hasn’t displayed any violent behavior towards us, but I am somewhat concerned that if she is crazy enough to make up a secret fantasy life about him she might be crazy enough to try something violent.

Pick posted:

Pretty good horror film premise imho

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Hi,

My girlfriend who is a blossoming beauty of Viking decent, has recently been irritating me with issues concerning her going out on nights out with other men.

Last nigh she went out with three "old friends" whom she had not seen in over a year. Get this, though - she had slept with one!

Now I'm not one to freak out, but how dare she do this to me. She doesn't let me tell her what to do and it just boils my blood to no end. She refuses to see my point of view, it's as if she is mentally challenged or did not have the necessary emotional learning which normal healthy humans need.

I am at the point now where I am fearing for my own sanity, this whole episode has really took a toll on me and I'm not sure how much more I can take.

I also kissed another girls whilst on a lads holiday, but she kissed me so its ok. Can't be mad at me though, this is completely irrational by her.

I don't want to break up with her, I just want to tell her who she can and cant' go out with.

Can anybody help me in this sticky situation?

Thanks

tl;dr: She wants to go out with people I don't want her to go out with. how can I get her to let me do this

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I also kissed another girls whilst on a lads holiday, but she kissed me so its ok. Can't be mad at me though, this is completely irrational by her. 

Pick posted:

Pretty good horror film premise imho

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Me [22M] with my GF [20F] of 1 and a half years - How dare she!

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Me [22M] with my GF [20F] of 1 and a half years - How dare she!

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I don't want to break up with her, I just want to tell her who she can and cant' go out with.

I also kissed another girls whilst on a lads holiday, but she kissed me so its ok. Can't be mad at me though, this is completely irrational by her.

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I (22F) realized today that the "Taken" man my best friend (21F) was planning on stealing, is my boyfriend (24M)Relationships
submitted 33 minutes ago by annatropolis1

Courtney has always been selfish. She's always had a habit of wanting what other people want, then throws it away. It's been like that even with toys or sweets when we were young. But, I've known her 17 years, and she's been with me through thick and thin, and we considered each other to be best friends.

Mark and I have been dating for 3 months, met on a dating site, and have kept our relationship on the down low because we've both had our share of bad experiences in the past. We wanted to stay quiet about each other because we were working so well, and wanted to wait till we got serious and built a solid base. This was a mutual decision. We live in a really small town, so word gets around fast.

For the past two weeks, Court has brought up the work colleague of two of her roommates (21M and 23M, she moved in with them 3 weeks ago, I don't know them), who'd come over with them a few times after work for a casual beer and some videogames. She said he seemed to not take her flirting seriously and that he vaguely said he was seeing someone. As always, I tried not to ask questions, as knowing about her pursuits usually just leaves me frustrated.

Today, I was at her place and she was giggly all day. When asked why, she said she had the perfect plan to "steal away" her mystery man, and began to lay it out to me. She'd convinced Jake (roommate) to invite the guy over, and pretend he had an emergency and had to leave, at which point she would "coincidentally, accidentally" walk out of the bathroom naked, pretending she'd forgotten a towel and didn't realize anyone was home, and proceed to try to seduce him from there.

I'm aware it sounds ridiculous, but that's just always been the kind of stunts she'd pulled, so I just rolled my eyes and got up to leave, as I didn't want to be around when any of this went down.

I then call a friend to come get me, and as I get into her car just as we're about to drive away, I see my bf's car pull up into their driveway, with him and who I assume to be Jake inside.

So I'm kinda dumbstruck and have no idea what to do. I don't think it's hit me yet and feels kinda surreal. I just went home, and cried, not even sure why I cried. I'm afraid to ask mark what his day went like. Courtney is absolutely stunning, and the stereotypical image of perfect. I can't imagine ANYONE turning her down.
tl;dr: bff trying to steal away bf. How do I proceed

Pick posted:

Pick posted:

How do I proceed

Cough Drop The Beat posted:

Me [22M] with my GF [20F] of 1 and a half years - How dare she!

Moridin920 posted:

how does anyone stay friends with people like this

there's no way this is the first time courtney has hosed you over


get outta your car and go in there and be like "bitch were you talking about *my* bf??" and if she says "yes" you

Sisal Two-Step posted:

koreans do awful things to sushi. i once ate a piece of maki roll the size of a toddler's fist. it was drizzled with grape jelly.

e: sad "whilst" content:

My [22, F] boyfriend [23, M] attacked me last night, and is now sitting on my sofa not talking

Clark Nova posted:

It's when your preferences start annoying other people. "We can't go to *that* restaurant," "let me tell you again how much I hate condiments" and on and on and on.

Nearly everyone has some common foodstuff they'd prefer not to eat, but most people don't plan social outings around avoiding it.

Mirthless posted:

This is it

My wife would not take No for an answer when she wanted to go to a restaurant, and wouldn't let me embarrass her by being the guy who orders chicken tendies at the sushi bar

I am deeply grateful to her because she made me realize expecting the world to accomodate my weird food fears was unreasonable. Also, how much I was missing out on by only eating garbage "American Food"

I still won't eat a sandwich with loving mayonnaise on it, though.

Lockback posted:

When Hiking Goes Wrong

My life-long best friend [32 M] and I [32 M] Took a six-month backpacking trip together and it ruined our friendship. What do I do?

Moridin920 posted:

I have 2 friends who are now dating, both of whom I have been friends with for years before they started dating. If they one day got married and then the dude was cheating on her for months at a time, I'd be pretty hard pressed not to say anything to her and I probably would say "either you tell her when we get back or I will" and not budge on that.

Mirthless posted:

I still won't eat a sandwich with loving mayonnaise on it, though.

Pvt.Scott posted:

I don't think I've posted this before, so here's the thread's theme song:

Literally Hitler