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I'm [22F] really interested in animal gore and my bf [22M] is concerned. Should I stop looking at it? So, I will explain what I mean by animal gore. Basically, anything on the nature is metal sub is what I like seeing. Ive never had any interest in seeing humans getting hurt/killed, or seeing violence between humans and animals. My big interest is seeing how violent animals are with each other. So lions, killer whales ect. I like seeing bugs/insects fight too because they're such weird animals. So, I sent him a video of a bunch of chimps beating up a raccoon in a zoo. I thought it was funny/interesting because the chimps were punching it and that's such a human thing to do. Bf was super unamused and told me that's terrible and to not show him things like that. I apologized because I didn't mean to upset him, and I thought it was over. Later today I let him amuse himself on my phone since he forgot his at home, while I was on my laptop. So apparently he saw lots of recommended videos that were basically either nature shows or short clips of animals mutilating each other. Like, a crocodile taking a zebras leg off. Things like that. My recommended vids are 50% animal stuff and 50% makeup videos. So Bf is very upset by all of this and he tells me it's abnormal to watch this stuff. I know it's abnormal but he obviously meant it's wrong and I never considered if it was wrong to watch these things or not. I figured nature is nature, it's okay to watch nature. But bf is pretty solid on his position that's it's morally questionable and that I should probably stop. So, should I stop? I've never had any urges to hurt a living person/animal, or to see animals like cats and dogs get hurt. I just like seeing the things that happen in nature. But I get what he's saying, it's weird that I like to see it at all. So, thoughts? Tl;dr: I like seeing animals fight, bf says it's morally questionable and I need to stop. Wondering if he does have a point.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 04:00 |
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 04:01 |
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Eponine posted:If you are at a point where you don't trust that your wife's baby is yours, just leave and pay the child support once you get the paternity test, because your marriage isn't going to last much longer anyways. Nah, imo it would be worth sticking with your wife to raise your child even if you know or suspect she sluts it up occasionally. Not everything in life has to be perfect, and you can still love someone even if they hosed up and slept with someone else. There are more important things than that. Like making sure your kid is raised by his parents. If that's not your kid them get the gently caress out of there though Not that I think this is a rational thing to worry about. Don't put a ring on a girl you suspect would ever go behind your back and you won't have this problem.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 04:03 |
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Psycho Society posted:Not that I think this is a rational thing to worry about. Don't put a ring on a girl you suspect would ever go behind your back and you won't have this problem.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 04:06 |
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If we're going to be fair about this then all men must be compulsorily on a DNA register to allow children to be tracked back to them.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 04:07 |
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gentle pete posted:I'm [22F] really interested in animal gore and my bf [22M] is concerned. Should I stop looking at it? ugh
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 04:11 |
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gentle pete posted:Tl;dr: I like seeing animals fight, bf says it's morally questionable and I need to stop. Wondering if he does have a point.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 04:20 |
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ArbitraryC posted:Absolutely no one empathizes with the literal teenage girl who's brother's wife genuinely hates her but puts on a display of being nice to make it all her problem? That's basically the plot of a lifetime original right there. What's to empathize with? Someone whom she is socially obligated to remain on good terms with is superficially kind to her and she never reciprocated that kindness. This person finds that annoying and writes about it in a diary which her husband reads without permission m. There are two rude parties in the story and neither is the wife.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 04:23 |
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Yeah I give this lady five years before she's chasing teenagers through the woods with an axe and a mask
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 04:27 |
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Mr. Belding posted:What's to empathize with? Someone whom she is socially obligated to remain on good terms with is superficially kind to her and she never reciprocated that kindness. This person finds that annoying and writes about it in a diary which her husband reads without permission m. There are two rude parties in the story and neither is the wife. You're like 30 pages late but if you subtract the 1.5 years from the marriage and add at least 1-2 from dating before that it suggests that when they originally met the sister was like 15 and didn't like the future wife cause she felt like she was taking her brother (which she was particularly close to) away from her, for a literal child this isn't exactly an unreasonable thing for her to have trouble working out her feelings over. Years go by and she's struggling in school/etc and her brother who was previously her biggest rock in the world has started his own life with a wife that secretly hates her, a feeling I'm sure hadn't gone completely unnoticed. Not to say the sister doesn't need help/therapy/etc but it is kinda offputting that the wife is so consistently writing about how much she hate's her hubby's sisters and making fun of her act scores and poo poo. Odds are from the wife's perspective the sister has been consistently causing problems and the resentment is entirely understandable, I'm not saying I don't empathise with her too I was just so surprised everyone else was so one sided in their interpretation.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 04:34 |
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gentle pete posted:I'm [22F] really interested in animal gore and my bf [22M] is concerned. Should I stop looking at it? Someone needs to hook this woman up with the I LUST FOR MONKEY DEATH goon
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 04:35 |
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Danaru posted:Yeah I give this lady five years before she's chasing teenagers through the woods with an axe and a mask she should make it a fun activity they can do together, as a couple! everyone's siblings date and get hitched, very few people react by sulking in their room and being pointlessly crappy to everyone around them into adulthood. Those people are shitbirds. A Wizard of Goatse fucked around with this message at 04:38 on Mar 13, 2017 |
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A Wizard of Goatse posted:everyone's siblings date and get hitched, very few people react by sulking in their room and being pointlessly crappy to everyone around them into adulthood. Those people are shitbirds.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 04:41 |
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it really isn't, no, she's allowed to privately dislike the loathsome hikikomori the real lesson here is never keep a diary; if you write it down of course some jagoff is going to come along and read it, and the kind of jagoff who goes around reading peoples' private papers is the kind of jagoff who'll find a way to use anything they find there against you.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 04:44 |
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ArbitraryC posted:right and most adults don't spend their time writing in their private diary trashtalking a teen's performance in school either, there's a reason the husband found it offputting Yeah he is a jackass
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 04:45 |
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Jesus Christ, the Lamb of God, our Lord and savior, was known to publicly flog people for being big enough assholes but ArbitraryC wants to blame a spoiled brat's entire personality on her sister-in-law having ever felt an unkind thought in the space of her own head, that bitch!
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 04:51 |
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Psycho Society posted:Why would you talk to someone for months over a dating service and be "falling in love" with them before meeting up for coffee. Something doesn't add up Have you never watched an episode of Catfish? There was one where a dude was convinced he was dating Katy Perry and that she was leaving him secret messages in her songs. He was going to propose to her with his grandmother's heirloom ring or some poo poo. People will believe just about anything if they're lonely enough. https://youtu.be/ObspgOKgfuQ
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 05:29 |
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Batterypowered7 posted:Have you never watched an episode of Catfish? There was one where a dude was convinced he was dating Katy Perry and that she was leaving him secret messages in her songs. He was going to propose to her with his grandmother's heirloom ring or some poo poo. People will believe just about anything if they're lonely enough. Please don't doxx me Also watching animals fight is cool as heck (when it happens naturally)
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 06:06 |
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ArbitraryC posted:right and most adults don't spend their time writing in their private diary trashtalking a teen's performance in school either, there's a reason the husband found it offputting. It's a chicken or egg question, the gf/now wife obviously hates the sister how early on did the sister realize this and to what extent is her passive aggressive behavior a response to it. come on, dude it's not wrong to have unvoiced negative feelings about people you deal with on a regular basis. at least she's keeping it to a diary. I tell my wife how much I hate her rear end in a top hat brother all the time. most adults don't have diaries and many that do keep them for therapeutic reasons, either as suggested by a therapist or for personal reasons. it's one of the most extreme invasions of privacy you can engage in. it's absolutely unacceptable. Mirthless fucked around with this message at 06:29 on Mar 13, 2017 |
# ? Mar 13, 2017 06:27 |
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lol yeah its totally normal to talk poo poo about someone you are outwardly trying to help in your secret little journal. totally normal.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 06:32 |
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gently caress accidentally read and replied to a mirthless post, gently caress im stupid
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 06:33 |
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Streak posted:lol yeah its totally normal to talk poo poo about someone you are outwardly trying to help in your secret little journal. totally normal. He's right yeah, I am sorry you have never interacted with people before.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 06:36 |
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CharlestheHammer posted:He's right yeah, I am sorry you have never interacted with people before. i'm not.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 06:38 |
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Streak posted:lol yeah its totally normal to talk poo poo about someone you are outwardly trying to help in your secret little journal. totally normal. yeah, it's completely normal. It's a standard therapy technique. I gaurantee you at least one person in your life is bitching about you in their "secret little journal"*, too the whole point of a private journal is it's absolute privacy. what they write in there is nobody's business but their own. They're words that may as well have never been written because they're never intended to be read, except possibly in the context of therapy. * edit: just wanted to take a minute to point out how loving absurd the phrase "secret little journal" is, wow you are some kind of insecure, dude Mirthless fucked around with this message at 06:44 on Mar 13, 2017 |
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Mirthless posted:come on, dude I even explicitly said I empathize with the wife here too, I'm sure from her perspective she's tried to befriend the failure of a human being and yet they keep causing issues in her relationship, she's just venting the fairly common experience of a close friend/family member not approving of her relationship. I'm not trying to invalidate her experience I just feel like it comes across particularly weird when it comes to literal years of writing entries about a teenager. ArbitraryC fucked around with this message at 06:58 on Mar 13, 2017 |
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ArbitraryC posted:Look, I have disliked the siblings/family of people I have dated in the past. It's normal and it happens, I don't start a diary documenting their failures. um, actually, talking poo poo about people you are maintaining the appearance of helping in a book that nobody reads is healthy behaviour!!
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 06:45 |
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ArbitraryC posted:Look, I have disliked the siblings/family of people I have dated in the past. It's normal and it happens, I don't start a diary documenting their failures. Cool, I'm glad that you're of sound mind and able body but there are people with mental health conditions that use journaling as a way to deal with their complicated emotional response to events. They need those resources to manage their illnesses, or their personal anxiety, or whatever. It's their right to do it. If you can't respect somebody else's boundaries over such an insignificant matter as them keeping a private journal or diary, you are a terrible person full stop
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 06:45 |
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Mirthless posted:yeah, it's completely normal. It's a standard therapy technique. I gaurantee you at least one person in your life is bitching about you in their "secret little journal"*, too whatever you say, fam
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 06:46 |
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ArbitraryC posted:Look, I have disliked the siblings/family of people I have dated in the past. It's normal and it happens, I don't start a diary documenting their failures. I don't think it was documenting failures just constant poo poo talking. Which most people say but that is only really different on a semantic level.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 06:48 |
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Streak posted:um, actually, talking poo poo about people you are maintaining the appearance of helping in a book that nobody reads is healthy behaviour!! Yeah, it is healthy behavior, it's one of the key methods pushed in modern therapy for dealing with your emotional load. It's supposed to be a thought exercise, you get your words out on paper, that way you can go back and look at them later and look at what you wrote when you're in a more clinical mindset. It's recommended by most therapists doing CBT and DBT now. If your S/O is in therapy, they probably have a diary full of lovely little things about you or your family, too. You're violating their emotional and in many cases medical privacy when you are invading a space like a diary. She is entitled to feel however she wants and she is entitled to maintain a private space for her to voice those feelings to herself. You are not entitled to your partner's emotional infidelity. You are not entitled to your partner's coping mechanisms. You are not entitled to police their thoughts.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 06:48 |
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Mirthless posted:Yeah, it is healthy behavior, it's one of the key methods pushed in modern therapy for dealing with your emotional load. It's supposed to be a thought exercise, you get your words out on paper, that way you can go back and look at them later and look at what you wrote when you're in a more clinical mindset. haha you said load
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 06:50 |
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Streak posted:haha you said load stop posting
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 07:01 |
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If I really hated myself, I'd go compare sides on "wife keeps a secret diary about how she's not comfortable with my clearly mentally ill sister" vs. "wife keeps a secret diary about her fantasies of torturing every woman I have ever been on contact with," but I don't, so have a brief palate-cleanser instead: How do I (21M) tell this girl (15F) that I am too old for her?Personal issues submitted 11 hours ago * by Yodasson quote:So a 15 yr old hit me up on Fb. I spoke to her cause honestly I didn't think she was 15. She looks my age. Someone makes an extremely common-sense correct decision about an age-gap relationship? On Reddit? It's a loving miracle
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 07:29 |
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Antivehicular posted:If I really hated myself, I'd go compare sides on "wife keeps a secret diary about how she's not comfortable with my clearly mentally ill sister" vs. "wife keeps a secret diary about her fantasies of torturing every woman I have ever been on contact with," but I don't, so have a brief palate-cleanser instead: She wasn't mentally ill, don't do that dumb poo poo.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 07:31 |
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Name it Americus and write a book about it.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 07:33 |
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Man, this is a doozy: I [27,F] am having an internal conflict about being my Fiance's [27,M] second wife.Relationships submitted 4 hours ago * by myotherwife quote:Thowaway account. I can kind of understand the fiance not wanting to throw any more money down the wedding hole (even if it comes off a little as "I did everything for my crazy ex, but you, the love of my life, get the dregs"), but he's definitely doing some sort of weird "slide my long-time fallback girl into the 'wife' slot of my failed marriage and pretend nothing ever went wrong" thing. Seriously, not even clarifying to his coworkers that the woman they're about to meet isn't the crazy one he ranted about, so she gets the fallout? EDIT: I missed this bit from a follow-up comment: quote:We didn't do anything for Christmas or Valentine's Day. His reasoning is he "sees me on an equal level." Yeeeah, this dude definitely has some "I way overindulged my previous wife so my new wife should never want anything" going on Antivehicular fucked around with this message at 08:12 on Mar 13, 2017 |
# ? Mar 13, 2017 08:09 |
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Yeah that's super unfair. It's not her fault some other woman was crap.
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 08:19 |
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Pick posted:Yeah that's super unfair. It's not her fault some other woman was crap. I would probably be out the door at the point that it became clear he was happy to let me inherit the "crazy bitch (Fiance) is always complaining about" mantle from his ex in his coworkers' minds
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# ? Mar 13, 2017 08:29 |
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Antivehicular posted:I would probably be out the door at the point that it became clear he was happy to let me inherit the "crazy bitch (Fiance) is always complaining about" mantle from his ex in his coworkers' minds Yeah, that part was what galled me the most. He had no right to sully her reputation over a decision he himself made and doesn't want to own up to.
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